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deScifa: lol he has a way of writing that makes people confused and therefore discredit him?....that he mentioned himself as an Apostle and was only supported by only his friend/secretary Luke.? So Paul who got no teachings from the Apostles closest to Jesus knew more than Peter to say he was contradicting the gospel lol...pls wake up

What you wrote here shows you don't understand spiritual things.You are thinking logically.The 'most experienced has to be the first' line of thinking.
You are far from the knowledge of the truth.

I quoted 2 Peter 3:15-16 where Peter called Paul a beloved brother,yet you are still saying only Luke recognised Paul.Are you deliberately avoiding the truth?

deScifa: Macarius Magnes (early church theologian) found Paul to be contradictory

[Paul] says, ‘As many as are under the Law are under a curse’ (Gal 3:10). The man who writes to the Romans, ‘The Law is spiritual’ (7:14), and again, ‘The Law is holy and the commandment holy and just’ (7:12), places under a curse those who obey that which is holy!... In his Epistles … he praises virginity (I-Tim 4:1, I-Cor 7:25), and then turns round and writes, ‘In the latter times some shall depart from the faith,... forbidding to marry’ (I-Tim 4:1-3).... And in the Epistle to the Corinthians he says, ‘But concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord’
— (I-Cor 7:25). ca. 300

Augustine (early church theologian) accused Paul of being a liar.

If it be possible for men to say and believe that, after introducing his narrative with these words, ‘The things which I write unto you, behold, before God, I lie not’, the apostle (Paul) lied when he said of Peter and Barnabas, ‘I saw that they walked not uprightly, according to the truth of the gospel’,... [then] if they did walk uprightly, Paul wrote what was false; and if he wrote what was false here, when did he say what was true?
— 397 AD

Macarius Magnus was one of the disciples to discredit Paul?Anybody can write anything.Who made Magnus God's standard?Mcteeew.
The scripture I quoted in 2 Peter 3:15-16 aptly describes what you are doing with scriptures.Paul did not contradict himself.He had a way of writing that those who don't understand scriptures get confused and therefore discredit him.He usually wrote in a form of dialogue and debates.
The part where he criticised Peter was where Peter was doing things that contradicted the gospel and rightly so because he had not yet fully understood the divine message of Christ which he did in the latter part of his life.

Jesus said,'ye err not knowing the scriptures'.
People who are ignorant of scriptures always try to discredit what they don't understand.
In 2 Peter 3:15-16,Peter said,'And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation;even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you;As also in all his epistles,speaking in them of these things;in which are some things hard to be understood,which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest,as they do also the other scriptures,unto their own destruction'.Peter was a disciple and not just a disciple but a close one to Jesus.He spoke of Paul and called him a BELOVED BROTHER and AGREED with his doctrines.Why in your ignorance did you conclude no-one recognised Jesus as an apostle?
Vs 16,also indicts you.Peter said many who are UNLEARNED wrestle with Paul's doctrines even as they do with other scriptures.
This is exactly what you are doing with this thread.

The man's responsibility.
However,it also depends on the man's budget and choice.If you as the woman decides to choose a destination that will require greater expenditure,then you have to contribute.

^^Hope you are not looking for where to relocate to.

Godmystrength: doing it at her discretion might mean that it is going to be occasional but that doesn't mean she won't be doing some other things in the house.

e.g she might provide the money for the soup things today and the next time she might ask the hubby money for soup things maybe because she had stock the kitchen with all the foodstuff needed for the month. So which one is better?

If i am the woman i won't even argue at all abi how much will it cost to make a pot of soup?? Since he feels he is capable to do everything and lets see how long that will last.....What is soup matter in all of the family matters? Then the day there is no foodstuff, i will just cook the soup and then serve him like that if he thinks that is the only think i can be useful for.

That's why they need to settle it.It seems the wife wants him to provide everything and she choose what she wants to do.

Godmystrength: I don't really thing she will have a problem buying soup things. i think her problem is that she will want to be able to do it at her discretion and not as a delegated responsibility by her husband to her.

Yes, that seems to be the issue between them.The fact that he wants to delegate.However,doing it at her discretion means it's going to be occasional.I guess the guy wants it to be regular.
They both need to reach an agreement on it.

EfemenaXY: Sorry, you've lost me. Who "feels special"?

You?

Or the patient? Because I certainly don't feel that way when I go in to see my GP. Their professionalism makes me relaxed enough to tell them what my ailment is.

Not me.I speak of patients.Like I said I don't know if 'feel special' is the right term to use.It's more like expect more professionalism cos you are a man.It's just an opposite sex thing.

Godmystrength: to the man in question, i don't think so... see


so if he is buying the foodstuffs and provisions, what else is left in ''soup things'' if not ingredients for making the soup?

Oh ok,i agree with you.So buying soup things is what the lady refuses vehemently to do?Na wa o

crackhaus: This is another part that got me confused. How does buying soup ingredients qualify as 'bills'?

I think 'soup things' just means basic house needs like foodstuffs,soap,detergent,etc

honeric01: Hehehe but you wouldn't say you haven't been tempted to give more/go against ethics due to "pressure" from those who visit your office on petty "medical" excuses

Like those who can't even explain why they are in your office in the first place because they have no medical reason to be there

It happens.There is that temptation from some who want more especially if you are good looking.You don't want to get into trouble anyway.

5minsmadness: I dont know where you people are getting the idea that two people who want to get married cannot argue over issues before their wedding. So if they are disagreeing over a matter now it means they are not meant for each other? They should be oh so lovey-dovey and sweetie-bun and that will show they are made for each other? I'm sure couples in love have violins playing in the background and roses sprouting wherever they walk.
SMH.

Too much Walt Disney. Too much Mills and Boon.

'His fiancee is refusing vehemently'(quote).
There is nothing wrong with intending couples disagreeing over issues but the quote above speaks volumes.

honeric01: Hehe, alright bro, but what happens if the woman in particular wants "more"? you know what i mean huh?

It's against the ethics of medical practice to give more to patients.

honeric01: Expect more? sorry bro, can you elaborate?

I didn't say expect more o.......i said much.
What i mean is they are going to bare their bodies to you,a man,a stranger and they just expect you to be very professional.

EfemenaXY: How so?

Well,when I have to see female patients,there is just a subconscious feeling that they expect much from you when they are baring their bodies.
I don't know if 'feel special' is the term to use.

Delegate house bills?Well I don't think it right the way you put it.
In marriage,you have to understand that you are both in it to work for each other.The man should provide for the house and the wife contribute especially if she works.You could both come to an agreement on who provides what.

I'm concerned however about your friend and his fiancee.It seems they are both not right for each other.Seems there will be financial squabbles when they both marry.

tpia1: All women like to feel special when seeing a doctor.

I guess men also feel the same way with female doctors?

That's true.I'm conscious of that when I have female patients.

tijjanioyan: ur twaddle shows d level of ur ignorance abt what u hold as scripture,u asked 4proof &u said we shouldnt quote 4rm d bible is it 4rm quran which u too dont believ we gona quote 4rm?bible itself testifies dat it is corrupted by false pen of d scribes Jer 8v8,ur new testament says also dat due 2dis corruption hence d need 4anoda testament.funny enough d new testament starts on an erroneous foundation.everybody knows dat d paternity of jesus is zero but d bible forges genealogy 4him &dis contradicts each other in d books of matt &LUKE.for dis fact abt fallacy in d bible,one can easily notice dat d prophecies abt Muhammad in d bible hav fallen victims of these absurdities,but stil contains a sprinkle of it.can u tell me d actual prophet whose name is missing in John 1vs 19-22?
Secondly how come d gospel according 2saint jesus disappeared?what happened 2d gospel according 2saint banarbas?

hahaha.It's funny when the ignorant makes an assessment of scriptures and makes a conclusion in his own blindness.See who's talking about ignorance?You are quoting scriptures you don't even understand.
Do you know what it means to study before writing?You quoted Jer.8:8.Let me teach you:go back to chapter 7 and see who was being spoken to.It was the land of Judah.That passage was about Judah.They were the ones who had scribes who had false pen.It did not address the bible or Christians.
John 1:19-22,you quoted,did you bother reading the whole chapter?When John(Zachareya as you call him)was asked who he was,he said he was sent as a forerunner of another who is to come.From Vs 26,he speaks of who that One is.
'The next day John seeth Jesus coming unto him,and saith,Behold the Lamb of God,which taketh away the sin of the world.This is he of whom I said..'(Vs29-30).John said this is the one,Jesus is the Christ,the Prophet spoken of(get a dictionary to know the meaning of prophet if you don't understand how he is a prophet too).
You speak about Christ's genealogy,we know His life was from God(which you accept as a muslim and yet ignorantly can't understand why He is God if His life was from God),but he manifested Himself on earth and had an earthly life and had a father,Joseph and that is why he had a genealogy.Simple.
Do you know what testament means?Do you know why Jesus came?There was an order before Jesus came and God's plan was to bring a better order with the coming of Christ.That better order makes it a new testament which replaces the old.Jesus came to give eternal life which no prophet before Him could give.I ask you,did Muhammed have eternal life to give?Could he give(even though he didn't have)?That is the New Testament!We didn't make it,God Himself did!
I don't know what books of st Jesus or st Barnabas you speak of.Were they the ones you wrote?

lepasharon: I don't like it. I think it should be the same sex

There are not enough female gynaes available for the female population.
It's no big deal as long as the doctor acts professional.

mayapop: It feels weird!. I remember when i had stomach pains that won't just stop, even after taking drugs. so i went to the hospital and my doctor was a man . when we were alone, and he asked me to pull my tee top, so he could feel where the pains are coming from, i was like ok! let's get over with this, and then i laid on the bed and pulled it up right above my bust and i felt a warm hand rubbing my tummy, it felt so weird , i didn't say anything, but to not look stupid, i had to close my eyes

You were imagining things.He wasn't rubbing your tummy,he was palpating your tummy.It's called examination.

Corpse?With the rigor mortis?
This one na curse.

Medically,some things go out of place.

onatisi: thanks bro. If I am dating a lady and suddenly she change to hare krishna worshipping by bringing incense and other indian things into my house I won't think twice to leave her. It is obvious that man still sees her as she was when they met.

Na so.She doesn't have to struggle with him.
Just change the hair to braids alone,no attachment.Wear drab clothes and when he calls or needs her,she should tell him to come and pick her up in church.Make him look for her around the church and surely he will get tired and pissed off eventually.

Onatisi's suggestion.The only practical way.
If she gets so illuminated by Light,darkness will turn away.

You are a precious child irrespective of how you were born.

Dreal1247: This is the testimony of the millenium. Congratulations. Will she still practice her profession after this experience?

Of course she will continue to practice.This is not the time to give up.The experience will only make her stronger.

lexajen: What is this one saying now?

Do you think I'm a pushover or what. That I made really big typographical and grammatical errors in my last post doesn't mean I don't know what I am saying.
Mind You, I am not the lady in question. No, I am not. I wouldn't be that silly to comment on the thread if I were.
So shove your advice up your ass_ if you couldn't take time to get the message I was trying to pass across.
Sambarry or Sambarrel or whatever they call you. I can see you are a MrKnowItAll.

I only appealed to people to be more sensitive and kinder with words when they advise people on real life issues. This week, a post was created because of me, I saw a lot of varying opinions, demeaning words and more. Normally those words should not get to me, because the poster wasn't so straightforward with the story. But they did.
With the kind of personality you portray on this website, I'm sure you DO NOT have the faintest idea of what they call Empathy.

I really do feel empathy for you lady.
Real empathy cause i see you're troubled.

holyboss: Ladies n gentlemen.........how do you feel being naked before doctor of opposite sex?

Na today....e don tey!

lexajen: I'm not a poster on Nairaland.com but I observe posts and threads a lot.

Why is it that in this world, people are so insensitive and reckles with their word?

Do you know if the Op is the one with the issue, do you know weda his gf is reading all this post.

Maybe why am reacting like this is because of a post I was just informed of.

Is because of me, chai see insult flying everywhere. No one knows my part of the story. I cannot say anything on the post because it will be like washing of linen in public.

Please people should be kinder and more objective with their words.

Thankyou.

Young lady,I know you are a nice person and you like to cook.However,there is time for everything.Wisdom is profitable to direct.When your boyfriend comes to your place,cook for him and let him eat it there.There are other ways to show you are that wife material to your boyfriend's mother.
For now,drop the carrying of cooked food to their house.

Ujujoan: I don't know why people are attacking OP and asking her to go ask her relatives and friends. How proper will it be for her to do thhat? And even if she did, how many of the culprits will actually admit such a thing to someone they know? I think the anonymity of Nld is the reason for this thread.

But of course, just like Lofty keeps insisting, even the anonomity here will not permit any man to admit to such insanity.

Bottom line, better safe than sorry. I'd rather err on the side of caution.

I'm sorry to say this but to me, EVERY man (except her Father) is a potential risk to my daugher. At 2yrs +, she ceases to every appear before ANY MAN naked. No more running around without under wear, no more wearing short dresses without leggings, no more running about naked in the house whenever we have male guests.

I'll also advise all mothers to do the same. It's a terrible world we live in now, and whether they admit to it or not, we don't lose anything by being extra cautious.

Her father should not be spared.He is male and some fathers have been known to do it too.

She says she is not dead.

www.vibeghana.com/2014/7/24/ghana-girl

^^No one knows how much contact she had with her family members.People just want to be safe than sorry.
You can't blame them though many will show ignorance.