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Do you have a spiritual foundation?Are you prayerful?

Indeed there are people who could come into one's life and cause setbacks.You said his dad is diabolical,so you can't rule that out.
Get into a period of praying and fasting and ask God to reveal things to you.
You don't need to tell him everything too.You can see it through before letting it out.

nnekaogo: He's not fat in any way. He's athletic and plays football on weekends. I don't think someone as fit as him could be diabetic if that's what you imply. By the way, he's my friend's husband. I am a single mother.

People who look fit in outward appearance can have diabetes.A test should be done.

Don't know why some posters think it's funny.It's someone's problem(and dat of his wife).

What medical help did he seek that did not work?

Bedwetting in an adult could be the result of an underlying problem so he has to be investigated further.It could be diabetes or prostate enlargement.It could be caused by urinary tract infection too.

The first step is behavioural therapy.He should ensure he does not drink fluids about 2hrs to his bedtime and he should ensure he empties his bladder before sleeping.He should also avoid alcohol and caffeine because they increase frequency of voiding.
He could also get an alarm clock to wake him at periodic times to urinate.

If it persists,he should go to the hospital to see a specialist(urologist).

Babymama1: This is true
I can attest to their good cooking ability when they take it easy on the pepper
Except soup sha
That is the clear exception for people not from the area


I can still remember an excursion to FGC Ijanikin
My tongue was on fire from the rice and stew

The pepper is to make you strong na.You don't want to be 'pepperless'.

People who have just one child most times have medical issues and can't have another child. I think you should give another child a shot.
The fact that you lost a child won't make this go away and your wife is not in agreement too.She's the goalkeeper so the buck stops at her table.

The guy eye go see.E never jam.

pheyikemi: oh yeah? Did u read where she said they are doing fine now and he has fleet of cars. Finances caused d constraint in d family, and acquiring cars aint d best, u spend more to maintain cars and eventually they depreciate. At least if d man builds a shelter for his family, it's something. It is d legacy(debt/a good future) d man leaves the children will meet. The Op shd learn to stand on her feet for d sake of her children, and sorry for all u went thru.

You probably didn't read her whole story.This thread is actually half of it.The other part is in another thread.

Like i said,cars or properties are the least of the situation now.She's dealing with a man who doesn't love her and does not respect her or her family.He also assaults her and he's seeing an ex.

ATSOMEH: Women don suffer sha, see qwestion. Op, you yrself what makes you happier, u people shd stop making everything about women jor, its getting too much, if only all women and girls can go on strike, make we see whether una go survive for one week and mind u I aint talking about no sex. Even u men prefer money to attention, make una still dey talk true sometimes.

How many men seek attention?Attention is a woman thing.

People fabricating malicious stories for blogs or making unguarded statements.
Many of you are not yet married.Keep sowing with your words.The time to reap will come.

Sinach just got married,why bring her into this?

Why ya'll hating?

The couple can't sit down and expect a change.They have to go out and keep searching for a job.They shouldn't wait for a white collar job but with some initiative put their hands to the plough.

Godmystrength: hmmm snazzylove, is there any justification of been attracted to your ex while still married to spouse?? and please i need more explanation on the highlighted...

Justification?There's nothing to justify here.He is a man walking the wrong path,abandoning his family for some outside pleasure.He's not thinking if it's right or wrong,he's just doing it.

Adufemi: Thank u so much! I know its unhealthy for d children at the same time I now know why people say dnt let other people determine ur happiness. Cos they know this and sometimes they manipulate. I hate it too; I want to be self sufficient and happy by myself, I want to be that woman who ignores her hubby, live her life, take care of herself and her kids etc I make a new resolution everyday sumtimes ill tell maself I will ignore hubby and just be happy! Am succesful at this until I see him or he gets bak from wok and say sumfin nasty to me or ignores me.my heart breaks all over. At a point I travelled to Ghana by road to source for goods, d trip was unecessaer but I needed a break, I promised myself that ill have fun and not think about hubby or home. I dint last 24 hrs, I started calling him , he piked and told me he is busy and shld atop bothering him, he even set his phone to rejectamy calls permanently. I left Ghana the following day, I was supposed to spend 1 week.

Thanks for the advices and suggestions

Lady,you will do well and move out NOW.Your need to be away from your hubby to sort himself out and you help him with prayers.
I've seen women in your kind of situation slip into depression and usually don't come out of it.You need to your health and your sanity for your sake and the sake of your kids.
Sometimes love is not enough.

pheyikemi: apart from the fleet of cars he's got now, u both shd try and acquire landed properties, it doesn't depreciate like cars. So dat uc won't be back to square zero.

There's more going on in this marriage than just acquisition of properties.

You got married to a boy.Indomie generation.
There are steps to a marriage.Did you go through marriage counselling?

This generation is just........I love him and.........gbam.Get married.

What I think you should do now is separate from him.It will be good for your sanity and health.Move in with your parents if you can't get a place of your own now.

Do not neglect to keep praying for him and your marriage. There is still room for reconciliation.

Look for ways to build your income and be self sufficient.

He could have suffered a heart attack or embolism from the flight.

Your friend didn't plan her life well and now she's whining.I'm a strong advocate of a woman sorting herself out before jumping into marriage.Finish school and start service and then get married.Marriage certificate is not the ultimate.She never get the certificate sef.

Your friend should take the bull by the horn and start the process of getting her marriage registered.

Musculoskeletal disorders,pelvic inflammatory disease etc.
She should see a doctor and check out the source.

Your wife should be fit for lovemaking at 3mths even if she had a tear.I guess she has some fears which is why she is rejecting.
Get someone to convince her(a doctor preferably)that all is well.
Get a lubricant to use and take it slow with the act.Also use a family planning method.

laivwire: What of that laser light they shine on us at the arrival lounge of Nnamdi Azikwe. What's that one?

That is a thermometer.Just to check if your temperature is high and pick you as a suspect if high.

agabusta: Both seems sinful to me. And also very dirty and irritating.

Please I want to ask, do women enjoy behind based sex? I have been wondering where that act came from, and I've not had the chance to actually ask anybody this question.

Homosexuals started the act.With the proliferation of pornographic films,some men started experimenting with women.

It's a shame really.
I do not think Pastor Anita really sought avenues for forgiveness and reconciliation.It makes me wonder what years of listening to the word has done for them.

ndidibabe: Typical of black yoruba girls. Don't call me a tribalist. Just my observation. I was born and bred in Lagos. I like yoruba people but sincerely most Yoruba girls are dark, short, fat/thick, ugly and at most average. The guys also usually have big noses and go bald in their twenties. However, I was fortunate to marry a very handsome Yoruba Man. So hard to come by.....

This statement of yours is shallow.

lepasharon: What y'all need to understand is that the Jsus in the bible and Jesus of Christianity are totally different personalities. Jesus in the Bible was a Jew,Christianity adopted him and deified him for Christianity and made into a man for all,whereas that wasn't the case at all.

Jesus became Christian !

^^confused much

A guy with potential is a guy who has earned a certificate or a skill and has started putting it to work.

However,potential is not really what ladies want but 'kinetic'.
They want you to have 'that' job and be earning from it or that skill and the returns are coming in.

macof: Only because you don't know what Spirituality is.

The Bible is not a spiritual guide but a religious book, there's nothing like a spiritual guide other than your own Ori/Chi which manifests as your intelligence and ability to make rational thoughts among others. Spirituality isn't built on faith, religion is.
Get the difference

How can you explain and understand faith when you don't have it?You have only chosen to come up with your own theory.

macof: This is the biggest lie Christian peddle.

Intelligence and logical thinking is infact the bedrock of "spiritual things"
You don't know spiritual until it fits with your reality and not some imaginary tale you were told or you read.

What you do is RELIGIOUS THINGS not spiritual

Back to the main topic...
The Jews are the only people who witnessed Jesus, how come they reject the tales of the Romans who knew little about Jesus mainly from hear say and town rumors??

This is something that demands thought and rationality not assumptions and blind faith...blind faith is nothing but delusion.

Spiritual things have never been established by logical things.Faith demands that what is believed is not seen to the physical eyes.The bible questions the rationality in a man having faith for what he can see.

So you are wrong saying intelligence and logical thinking is the bedrock of spiritual things.

plaetton: First, so you , an African, understand spiritual things much more than the Jews about their own past, religion and god?
By virtue of what ability sir?
Is it IQ or basic intelligence, or spiritual purity?
I want to know how you have spiritual understanding, and Jews,for 2000yrs have not found or developed such an uncanny ability.

You may not believe but at least you must have heard this statement before:

'The first shall be the last and the last the first'.Do you 'understand' what it means?
Even if you don't believe,do you understand this statement:'For God has chosen the foolish things of this world to confound the wise....'.

The answer to your question is in these scriptures.......if you can 'understand' it.

musKeeto: The beautiful thing about the spiritual is it need not make sense. In the spiritual world, a plane can fall and crash in the skies. A dog can bark with its tail.Trees can bear mangoes and chicken burgers.
Children can be witches, mad men can be possessed, God can give birth to son.
The spiritual is strongly anchored and sustained by illogic. It offers no explanations and requires none. - amanfrommars


Now this here is quite interesting. This is a smart way of saying that for one to accept this, one has to 'switch off' their brain.
And you wonder why we call y'all zombies.

what you call us doesn't matter half as much as what we call ourselves..........

I'm walking in power,I'm working miracles,I live a life of favour,cos I know who I am....

I can tell you that even in science,there are some things that are yet to be proven.

plaetton: What was the point of all this babble?

Can you answer my simple question.

Are Africans more intelligent than Jews for accepting what they rejected 2000yrs ago, and still reject today?
In simpler words, why do you believe and they don't?

I have already answered your question.It's you that can't 'see' it just like the Jews.

plaetton: That does not answer the question, buddy.
Afte rall, they have access to the same scriptures that you read and consume.

Try honestly answering the question without COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.

So do you believe that the Jews are not intelligent for rejecting Rome's version of events that they themselves witnessed 2000yrs ago?

Are you smarter than them?... and by virtue of what?
That is my simple question.

You don't understand spiritual things.You can't follow logical reasoning with spiritual things.It doesn't work that way.I understand you want the logical but it doesn't mix with the spiritual.It's like saying liquid flows and solid must flow too.

The jews do not believe because they turned in disobedience to God and that makes wisdom foolishness to them.It's not about being smart.Earthly smartness does not work with God.

musKeeto: Matthew 15:24
Then Jesus said to the woman, "I was sent only to help God's lost sheep--the people of Israel."

Revelations 3:9
I will make those who are of the synagogue of Satan, who claim to be Jews though they are not, but are liars--I will make them come and fall down at your feet and acknowledge that I have loved you.

It's one thing to quote scriptures,it's another thing to have an understanding of it.Remember the devil also quoted scripture when he tempted Jesus.
Jesus was sent primarily to Israel but how come He ministered to non-jews?Why did He heal non-jews?Why did He heal the daughter of the very woman he spoke those words you quoted to?I'll want you to answer.

The Rev.3:9 you quoted has no relevance.Christians are not jews.