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GuyInTheMirror:
Hi everyone, I wanted to share our update and seek for advise as I have been feeling down and wondering if I failed my wife in decision making.

We finally discovered my wife was having an ectopic pregnancy which was diagnosed as ovarian. The gynae we saw said they were going to do an oophorectomy( remove my wifes right ovary) .

This was terrible news and at the same time, they were hurrying us as they didn't want the ectopic pregnancy to rupture.

I managed to seek for another opinion at a very expensive fertility clinic. The man said he will be able to remove the ectopic and also preserve my wifes ovary but during his diagnosis he said he saw a submucosal fibroid which he thinks has to be removed and which may have been responsible for delay in pregnancy (we had tried without luck for 5 cycles prior to the ectopic).
My wife also had 2 other fibroids making 3 fibroids in total.

In short we paid a lot of money for the ectopic removal and fibroid removal (3 small ones including submucosal) .

Everything was done in a rush and I feel was overwhelmed and vulnerable while making the decision, after the surgery I started questioning my decision to agree for the procedure.

Yes he was able to remove the ectopic pregnancy, we later discovered it was tubal (my wife now has lost her right fallopian tube although he said the left fallopian tube is okay).

Bu my pain is that he did an abdominal myomectomy to remove 3 small fibroids, I am worried that the myomectomy was not necessary, the only concerning thing wa submucosal which could have been removed via hysteroscopic myomectomy rather that the open myomectomy.

I am really worried that having to do open myomectomy would have caused my wife adhesions after healing, I am really sad and blaming myself for not doing enough research on this but we were too worried about saving my wifes life at the time so my judgement was impaired.

Now my wife has only the left fallopian tube, 2 ovaries and an uterus that has gone through open myomectomy. I am really worried that the open myomectomy would lead to adhesions.

When I discussed this with him he has asked that we come and do operative hysteroscopy in 4 months time after my wife is healed, and I have read that hysteroscopy ca also cause adhesions .

So I feel lost, right now we have to wait for 4 months before trying but I keep blaming myself for wrong choice made that made me agree for an open myomectomy...

Any advise is welcome and if anyone knows about open myomectomy how bad is adhesions after this procedure?

First of all, calm down . It's going to be all right . I know someone with knowledge will be along to give you the right advice .

Chandraluv:
I also got their good reviews from here
I don't know about them before
They are exactly the way you described but worse
Customer service zero with one rude lady handling their phone
Like you mentioned it's all about money for them no human empathy
We spent more than 4m
Now my husband doesn't want to hear anything from online
When I suggested Abuja he just shut me up
I couldn't argue with him he's the one paying
The psychological and emotional trauma, even mentally, it wasn't easy still not, you know when somebody told you there's no hope, your only option is surrogacy after collecting huge amount of money from you. Recovery from that is not going to be easy. I told the doctor that attended to me because Dr Omishakin refused to see us saying he is very busy, I know he must have seen us through the CCTV camera
It is well mama. Thanks

This is disheartened, I pray your husband changes his mind soon .

sebagonline:
Please be strong Mama! These guys are becoming something else, probably because of the volume of work they're trying to cope with but it's definitely not an excuse. We had almost similar experience from them earlier this year. After going forth and back with multiple hysteroscopy and co. for almost a year and finally they said we should proceed and lo and behold it went negative! Their costumer service is almost zero then, the worst is that they seem to be more interested in the money because there was no sign of empathy from them, [in fact the cost doubled within our cycle:- dollar palava(when we came and when we were cleared to proceed fully)]. ... it's Negative! ...you need to re-cycle... This is the amount....bla bla bla... And we were like, do you guys know the stress and strain, one had undergone, at least a place like that should understand the psychological and emotional trauma that happens during a failed cycle, it was lacking then, although I don't know of now, we actually got their good reviews from this thread before we went then. But what can one do, more so this is Nigeria and everyone is OYO. Please focus on recovery yourself at this time, be there for each other (DH and DW), don't do blame game. You need God guidance on your next step to take. I pray God will strengthen you both and grant your heart desires for you and all the TTC family in Jesus name Amen 🙏

Had similar experience from the one I cycled with in Lagos also . They won't even call to find out the outcome and if you inform them , there won't be any follow up . The one that I did with in Abuja has excellent customer service, the Dr had to tell me his personal experience of 3 attempts before achieving success coupled with a huge discount all in bid to encourage me to try more . You won't believe that the next attempt is this 17months old stressing me 😂

Adejuliet:
Good afternoon Mummies in the house. Well done for all you do.

I'm so excited to share that after two years of trying, I'm finally pregnant! I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and could use some advice.

What are some essential things I should be doing during this time? Any tips or recommendations would be greatly appreciated.

Congratulations 👏🎉

Chandraluv:
PF in Surulere

So sorry for the failed procedure. Do a change of hospital when you want to try again, look towards Abuja ; they have the best success stories so far. Also , calm down and prepare your body for the next one .

My bundle of joy is beside me after 5 cycles @age 45. It's not too late .

MumDuke:
Hello Mamas. We have been discharged finally. Safe delivery to the rest of waddling mothers,

Welcome home Mama and baby (-:

Kinado:
Good morning mamas i went for ultrasound today and i measured 8 w and 4 days but no cardiac activity. My former pregnancy i didnt do a scan until im 11weeks. Im regretting doing this early cos ive been devastated ever since. I have called on God to remember he started this journey with me cos i dont get pregnant naturally, im usually treated with drugs and this time injections b4 i can ovulate. Pls remember me in prayers cos i must hear my baby's heart beat in 2 weeks time i repeat the scan.

It will end in praise... Keep calm and keep praying.

MumDuke:
Good Afternoon Everyone. I was delivered of my November baby on Wednesday night through Referred Emergency CS because of severe PProm. Mother and Baby doing very well, although baby is in NNU and i am recuperating. Kudos to Isolo General Hospital. They did a great job and erased my fears about General hospital. I'm grateful to God. Can't wait to go home with my baby soon.

Congratulations 👏🎉, wishing baby a huge welcome yo our world

MumDuke:
Thanks everyone. I am about to be admitted. They said they will place me on antibiotics but if it continues they will deliver my baby.

It's well with you and the baby,hoping to hearing from you soon .

Vikkystar:
Axa Mansard Health Insurance but only covers maternity care after one year.

Chai .

Thanks

Good morning beautiful people.

Someone pls recommend a good HMO for me.

Thanks you

Good morning beautiful people.

Someone pls recommend a good HMO for me.

Thanks you

Good morning beautiful people.

Someone pls recommend a good HMO for me.

Thanks you

Rhayne:
Hello mommas, first time mom here. EDD 12/09/2024, baby came via CS on the 7th of September 2024, weighing 4 kg. I'm grateful to God, and ready as ever to fight those making demeaning comments because I had my baby through CS. The important thing is that I and my baby are not just alive, but healthy and fit as a fiddle

Congratulations 👏🎉 the latest mum in town , may your baby be all that you wished and prayed for .

Having a child via CS is not a crime , had mine via CS also , she started school today @16 months ( how time flies lol)

princeabdul:
Good day house, please what could be the reason why a woman can have a watery discharge in her breast??

Nb: not a lactating mother and never given birth

Read up about galactorrhoea

Ekabobo:
They gave my edd as 5th December... Sex xx... But I still dey pray make e turn to xy

Waooo congratulations 👏🎉, am so happy for you

rike96:
Good evening mother's. I just started feeding my baby Gerber rice cereal and it says discard after 30days. She has more and I don't want to waste it since she's yet to finish it

Pls discard as instructed, you won't want to risk food poisoning from expired product for a baby that can't express himself/herself in case of emergency. As an adult, I still eat food 2 weeks past their expiration date .

AmakaRuby:
Amen to ur positive prayers, thank u all, I appreciate

Take heart dear, you will laugh very soon .

Linda2019:
Mothers please help me o, I'm tired of my daughter always struggling to take drugs, she is just 2yrs but her sense ehn! She hates drugs even the vitamin C that's sweet, I even had to start using syring a pharmacist recommended, but once I put it in her mouth she spits out the drugs and blocks her mouth. I even close her nose and tilt her head backwards to force her, still she holds it in her mouth then spits it out when I release her. Please mothers what other way can I use I'm tired of always wasting drugs and money.

Have you tried giving her the drug to take by herself? That is you give her the tiny cap/cup with the drug to take . Same issue with my niece until I discovered she wanted to take it herself due to her independent nature .

dave06:
BA! BA!! BA!!!

The Lord has done it again, blessing us with a beautiful princess at 4:21pm yesterday.

EDD - 8th June, 2024
DOB - 7th June, 2024 via V.D with little tear.

Baby weighs 3.07kg.
BS coming soon.

Congratulations mama.

miracle1997:
Diff, primecare,nisa premier.

For me it's Prime and Joje

DelectableCoco:
where your thinking of going?
May it end in praise.

Prime

Osoderi:
Thank u very much Titi. u have been helpful on this forum. Even after getting your testimony u still make out time to respond to our post. God bless u

My sister, am still very much with you . Want to go for another trial @46yrs+

Osoderi:
Hello house what medication works for you to assist thicken your lining? I have tried all medications but having 3mm. use progynova and L'Arginine.

Secondly have any body experience fluid in the uterus during the IVF process. was this drained? Kindly assist share experience. Thank u

It's good the fluid is drained before IVF . Someone I know had a failed IVF without draining but achieved twins success after it was drained.

ffafolayan:
Iyana Ipaja in Yoruba

Thank you very much

Good day Mamas,

Pls what's the local name for Hospital-too+far leaf?

Beautifulsenora:
could you give like a list of foods you ate and abstained from? Could food also cause a missed miscarriage?

1)Curry/ thyme ( use the known seasoning only like Maggi and Knorr)
2) Suya spices
3) Noodles because of the spices
4) Alkawun ( potash ) so avoid ewedu/okro soup from outside in short don't eat out during the 2 weeks wait .
5)zobo drink
6) Pepper soup because of the spices
7) Fruits like dates, pineapple , oranges , lime , lemon some that I can't remember for now . Stick to watermelon, carrots

I will add more if I remember

miracle1997:
Was it successful

3rd attempt was , I discovered I was eating foods I should have abstained from like kilishi ( bought 22k worth on my first trial to take home , am sure I ate over #10k worth) plus other stuff.

Abimbola2018:
Hello Mamas
Please i will be starting my IVF with primecare Abuja next month. Please anyone with another contact i can reach out to as Dr Ese is not replying my messages on WhatsApp

Also, Is there anything i can do to prepare my self? I am 29 with unexplained infertility for 4years now.HSG clear, hormonal profile showed high prolactin and low progesterone which were treated but still no pregnancy

Anyone who cycled there recently should assist with step by step procedures if possible. I stay in lagos so lodging will be a bit difficult and expensive. Cheap accommodation should please be recommended

Thank you

I cycled with them in 2022 so stayed in hotel on Lagos street.l, I paid 7k daily .

Drop to the hotel was #400 while along was #100.

Food and fruits are in abundance on the street from the sophisticated eatery to the local bukas .

Mma4ma:
Team April I don born o

Congratulations 🎉

bimkas:
Hello Mummies, please. I need your advice or any suggestions you can help me with.
Have been trying ivf for the past 7 years now,have had 5 ivf, and can't count FET after and 3 IUI. It was only 2nd attempt results pregnant and no heartbeat .
Ever since then, I have tried no positive results.
Have done all recommended tests, hysteroscopy, hsg, and honomal profile they all came back fine.
I don't know why it keep failing ,pls house I don't have any platform to share with rather than here.please if there is any idea or suggestions of what to do I will appreciate cos am tried and I don't want to give up
Thanks

You won't give up.
-Keep on reading people's success stories and what they did .
-Pray for success .
-Keep an open mind and positive mind.
-Stay out of the way of negative people and their comments.
- Lastly , don't give up!

Wish you success on your next trial .

Halcyon123:
I put to birth a baby girl via CS,first experience. We thank God for safe delivery

Congratulations 🎉