What the op has said is very true and correct. God hates divorce. It is sickening that many people turn the word of God to suit them and claim that we are in the modern times.im not judging but God has said that He is the same yesterday today and forever. He changeth not, modern or old times. For those asking if separation is biblical, it is people. You can separate from each other with consent pending when either party cones to believe God. If he does not, the Bible says you should report him to the church to see if the leaders can solve the problem. If after that he or she does not come to believe God, it says leave him or her to him or her self but do NOT remarry. Instead after separation, you can begin to care more for the things of God as Paul said in the Bible.
Remarrying means continuous living in sin. How can we say God forgive us for our sons yet we are in it, there's no grace for that. God will not answer the prayers because the prayers of sinners is an abomination to Him. People may say if domestic violence had existed during the times of Jesus, he might have added that as one of the reasons for divorce after adultery but people, God sees the end from the beginning, He must have known about domestic violence yet He chose to talk about only adultery.
Divorce isn't good. Do not remarry because of adultery and do not commit fornication while seeking God's face. After all Paul was single, cared for God and after everything he was able to say that he has fought the good fight and there was a crown waiting for him. He knew where he was going, how many of us can say that after our life on Earth.
I know it's easier to talk than to do. I'm not judging anyone because I know it's not easy but that's why God's grace is sufficient for us. Sex ain't food. Two minutes pleasure or for some who take enhancement two hours pleasure after that what else? Satisfaction? There are other things Paramount in life than that.
For the person that said can you forgive if your wife is slept with 70*7, well the scripture is clear about forgiveness. Forgive always. We do cruel things yet God forgives us then why is it hard to forgive. If he can forgive the woman who committed adultery ( we don't know how many men she slept with) why can't we forgive.
It has been said in Philippians 4 v 8
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.
I'm not a judge,neither a pastor. I'm not righteous than anyone, yet the truth must be told. The Bible is clear. No means No. Divorce isn't good do as well as those using artificial insemination of other people's sperm yo get children while still married.
Romans 1 v 21
Because, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish hearts were darkened.
donpata: I was moved to write this epistle cos of the fp topic of marrying someone who earns 35k yesterday. I have seen such questions on NL but I normally ignore them. Someone even asked if a lady can marry someone who earns 100k . I normally laugh at the comments and move on. I laughed at the sheer ignorance of many commenters, and the foolish statements many made. I decided to assume that 70% of the people who commented are either undergraduates still studying who have a big Disney picture of the sweet employment awaiting them or some who have not really known what is out there in the world. The remaining 20% earn well probably and so feel life should be like that for everyone. The remaining 10% commenters are those who really see life as it is in reality – DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS. Now am gonna be objective and subjective at the same time. And let me warn you – IT’S LONG
Me? 30yrs, had my BSc in the north but did my MSc at UI. Hoping to register for Phd by next year. My fiancée? 24ys old and currently awaiting 300 lv registration. Will be done by 2019.
Fact: without any serious research, I think I am save to say that at least 50% of families (basically father and mother) in Nigeria earn a combined income of less than 40k in a month. Fact: The federal govt claims it has about 100k civil servants. Add paramilitary and military with about 500k personnel and public office holders, I think 800k people in active service on FG’s payroll is a fair judgment. For the sake of argument, let’s assume fg has another 800k retired personnel on pension. That’s like 1.6 million people. Nigeria has a population of 180million people. The WB estimate Nigeria has a workforce of about 60 million in 2016. If we delete the 1.6million on FGs payroll, we still have about 58.4million people left. Obviously, the remaining are left for the State and Local govt as well as private sector to employ. How many are employed? Lagos state claims it has about 100,000 workers in its payroll. Let me be liberal enough to use it as a benchmark for all Nigerian states and fct. 100k by 37 = 3.7million employees. Obviously, we still have over 50million people to employ. How many will the Real private sector pick? Yeah those that will pay a graduate from 60k above – how many can they pick? Now many will have to be entrepreneurs, “self-employed” people, petty traders, artisans etc. How much can they really earn monthly?
Fact: 80% of state and LGA workers between level 1 and 10 earn less than 50k in a month. Apart from states like Lagos, Rivers, Akwa Ibom and a few others, most states, especially in the North, pay quite low. On level 8, with Kad Govt, I earn 35-37k. It fluctuates monthly. Note that there are married people with at least 3 children that are on lev 1 - 6. Do the maths.
Wedding: Many asked how one will pay bride price. Well, I have crossed that bridge. I know my status so before I even got a lady, I started buying some stuff like wrappers to keep. More so, my savings, family and friends rally round me and that was solved. Only a foolish lady will think of bride price as an issue here. Except if her family is poor, why should they demand too much?. 2 of my sisters that married had their bride price pegged at 5k each. The total money paid on the first was 25k and 50k for the 2nd. Mind you, they are currently running their masters programme so they ain’t illiterates. Let me stop here.
So the Wedding? How will I handle it? SIMPLE: I AM CUTTING MY COAT ACCORDING TO MY POCKET
Box: I went to the market and saw boxes of 100-200k. I was showed a set of 5 for 30k as well. I opted for a set of 5 at 60k. That’s my own level too. Mind you there were people picking that of 30k too. Different strokes for Different folks.
RECEPTION VENUE: Church Premises. My church got a lot of space so why should I spend 200-500k (that I don’t even have) renting a hall for a 2hr event? A guy who got married last month in my Church did not do reception at all. Again, Different strokes for Different folks.
Wedding Cards: Saw a nice foreign one. They said it will cost me 30k per 100. I needed 500. I was showed another that will cost 5k per 100. I Finally opted for the one of 10k per 100. Even got a 5k discount.
My suit? I opted for a 16k suit and my best man decided to pay for it.
My shoes? I got really nice shoes but coz it’s my day, I opted for new ones. I picked up a very nice one for 2k. It aint top notch quality but it should take me through the day. It can actually pass for a ck or d&g when viewed from a distance.
My Chairs and Canopies? My organizers are 20. Lol . They have paid 80% of the money.
Cake? My aunt who has a HND in catering bla bla and has been in it for almost 15yrs running has taken that as her contribution.
DJ and Camera man? My men in suit, (5 in number) have paid for that service.
MC? A friend is good at it. That is his contribution.
Wedding Gown: My cake designer linked me to a lady who rents out. She thus charged us 10k for a nice wedding gown. I deposited 5k. Will pay 5k after the event. Need I continue? I don’t think so.
The main thing – The marriage life Yeah I know you are saying all I have said na wash. You are waiting for how reality will hit me after the marriage cos that’s the main deal. You gonna say you await my regret thread after some few months. Sorry, your expectation will be cut short.
Fees: Now, my to-be wife will be registering for a new session by December. Her fees is just arnd 30k so I kept that amount and I have promised myself not to touch it until its time. I don’t even need to touch it. Everything appears almost set and done.
Clothing: I filled my wife’s box to the “brim” with both native and English wears. So for now, cloths aint really an issue.
Accommodation: Here in KD, a 1 bedroom mini flat cost between 80-150k depending on the location. Am not talking of a 2 room flat cos, truly, I don’t need it now. But I am not even thinking of taking the mini flat either. A room and parlor (real face me I face u) cost between 18k-45k depending on the location. There are better ones; mostly new houses that cost 40-60k. I’ve gotten a very nice one for 55k. Just 2 tenants in the house and the other guy is single so we just gonna be sharing the toilet with him. It’s not that I can’t afford it but wisdom must direct me. I got 2plots of land already so I don’t even intend staying in that house beyond a year or 2.
My building: I already have 2 plots of land. I’ve struck an agreement with some guys who will supply me mud blocks at N20 each. At my estimate of 3000 blocks, that’s 60k . Havent paid but after my wedding, I will do it jejely. My plan is to rush the building and roof it b4 the rains come next year. I paid some guys in my area 7k so by next week, they are gonna go there and dig the foundation of a 2bedroom flat for me. Not that I am building now but I have to dig during the rainy season cos the land gets hard during the dry season. My intention is to use just ¼ of the land for that so that when I am blessed wella, I will use the remaining ¾ of the land to build my pent house. Need I tell you that by estimates, I need 6 bundles of those “aluminum” sheets to roof it? I bought 3 last year when it was 16k. I could not add cos it went up to 30k. I heard it’s 20k now but I can’t buy the remaining 3 now cos of my wedding preps. Will do that after my wedding when I have relaxed a bit.
Feeding? A 50kg bag of rice takes me over 5 months now that I am alone. I believe in varieties so I got different things stocked in my room. Adding one or two extra plate should not make life difficult. I planted maize on my 2 plots. Once harvested, I won’t need to buy semovita all the time. If you have been to the north, you will know that with my harvest, Tuwo is served. Need I continue? I don’t think so. Let me not bore you further.
My support to extended Families Someone asked in that thread that how do one take care of his families and inlaws. Well, my family aint rich but they can cater for themselves. My dad and mum earn and have only one child left in the university. Moreover, they are sensible enough to know that they should not expect from me. Rather, what is sensible is for them to support me if need be . My fiancées’ parents aint rich either. But I know they aint so poor to demand me to take care of their own responsibility when they know I have their daughter to cater for. Of coz, once in a while, I will do what I can for our families.
Children Just a child and I will pause until she is done with school. I know it’s gonna come with challenges but I don’t think you expect me to plan out every day of my life and budget for same here. I know that I will cross the bridge when I get there.
Other wants I am a gadget freak. Before my wedding preps, I buy things impulsively. Now I know I have to control that. I know what lies ahead of me. That’s why I didn’t go for an iphone but went for a hot note. When the hot note packed up, I didn’t kill myself for a Samsung s7 even though I love it. I went for my sweet Ulefone Tiger @ 31k. When I went for a tab, I didn’t go for an ipad; not even a tecno pad. I went for imose xii . Instead of ps3 console, I download games to my laptop and play them. That serves me.
I CAN TRULY GO ON AND ON BUT CALLING SOMEONE A FOOL AS MANY DID ON THAT THREAD YESTERDAY IS QUITE ILLOGICAL. My dad married at 24. My mum was 19 then. Both are now degree holders. Things have changed and that’s why I am marrying at 30. I don’t want to clock 50 and yet taking my first child to write Common Entrance. If you like say I am rushing. Firstly, I love my fiancée die. 2ndly, I am a Christian and my bodily desires are building up strongly. Marriage is the way out. 3rdly, I love kids. Since they are an inheritance, I can’t wait to have one as God wills. Lastly, I wanna retire in peace. Not old man using my pension to train undergraduates and Jambites. Finally, I am not complacent with where I am. I have handled a few millions before but this is where I am now. I wanna go for my phd and I hope to reestablish myself in business. But I can’t again let my social life suffer cos of where I am today. I have a job now; low paying as it is, I know if well managed, I will make it out. Even if I remain in the employ of the State Govt, I cant earn 35k forever. I am young and will keep moving on.
DISCLAIMER: This is not meant to force anyone to get married when he is not ready - Not at all. I just want some people to know that there are different strokes for different folks. There are too many factors that determine happiness and success in life and marriage. Your salary is just one. YOU CANT CALL ME A FOOL FOR MY DECISION. I HAVE CAREFULLY WEIGHED MY CIRCUMSTANCE AND PROSPECTS AND I FEEL I AM READY TO TAKE THE LEAP. I KNOW IT WONT BE A WALK IN THE PARK; BUT IT WONT BE TOO DIFFICULT EITHER. FOR THE “FOOLS AT 40” WAITING FOR THEIR MILLIONS TO BUILD UP BEFORE SETTLING DOWN, TILL UNA COME. FORGIVE ME FOR THE LONG EPISTLE. HAD TO TAKE MY TIME SO THAT SOME PEOPLE WILL APPRECIATE THAT NO TWO PEOPLE HAVE SAME CIRCUMSTANCES AND SITUATIONS.
I PROMISE TO RAISE ANOTHER THREAD ANNUALLY TO TELL YOU HOW FAR WE HAVE GONE.
Men, bro you are the man. I have never read anything as sweet as this. I'm also a KD boy through and through. I was bred there. I stay at Romi new extension but now reside in Lagos. I married at 26 and it has been fun. God bless your union. God will favor you also. I'm thrilled by this post.
To Al those who are still waiting to be like DANGOTE before getting married, continue.
That kind of skirt is called "under the canopy of God"
She is as ugly as one of the Bini masquerades called 'ekpo'. My grandmother won't even wear that sort of skirt.
Some people think looking like an associate of apes makes them more spiritual than others.
Hypocrite!
This kind of gals bleep die!
Op, you can voice your opinion without insults. It's her choice. She bleep o, she no bleep, it's her choice. She didn't beg to be photographed. Someone might have done this without her notice.
Toe your trusted your path and let others toe theirs but if insulting her looks makes you feel justified, toe it then.
This is also for those insulting her. Deeper life or no deeper life, it's her choice to wear it. Get over it. Someone even liked your comment, SMH
Cheers.
If you feel justified to insult me, it's your path. Toe it if you feel happy and justified. It removes no hair from my chest. Insults are welcomed
And a man's foes shall be they of his own household (Matt 10: 36)
As a believer in Christ I was tempted to ignore Marchman but I had to write this reply to encourage Christ Embassy members especially the 'children' in particular and true Christians of different denominations in general.
Now concerning Marchman, going through his previous threads on Nairaland and the titled thread on why he left Christ Embassy i concluded he was never a true member of Christ Embassy or a christian but a Wolf among the Sheep. No true Christian goes to the media to write lies against his biological family, local church or other churches no matter how offended he is. This is why Muslims are more United than Christians.
Now to counter some points he made which I quoted in bold. For example he typed "They tend to believe literally that everything answers to money
It is written in Ecclesiastes 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things. Yes money answers everything. You need to read publications and messages on seed faith. Am not ignorant of the fact that some of our leaders might be over zealous in trying to hit a target by tasking someone to give but never have i been forced by my leaders against my will to give. Christ Embassy projects are of high quality and numerous in reaching the unsaved and inspiring right living and they aren't cheap. I believe Donnie and Joagbaje can assist with images of our numerous programmes and projects.
"You are also charged to give for Pastor Chris birthday
The trash you wrote up there could only be written by a selfish man because according to the following verse of scriptures: Gal 6: 6-10 Let him that is taught in the word communicate unto him that teacheth in all good things. Be not deceived; God is not mocked : for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith.
The only time we are opportune to sow into Pastor Chris anointing is during his birthday which is just once in a year. Marchman pls tell me how else we can honour or communicate to our pastor?
"The church is obsessed with money. They do not mind how or where you get it"
Yea we are obsessed with money because of numerous projects that must be done before Jesus returns to rapture us. Why shouldn't we use money to serve God well now when it will be useless when we leave this earth? CE is interested in the job you do and ur financial abilities so your belief that we don't mind how we raise the money exist in your own imagination. I can't remember Jesus asking those Jews who were giving in the Temple where they got their money from. He didn't ask the widow too who gave her mites. Marchman u need to be cured of ur poverty mentality.
"Sin means nothing at Christ Embassy"
I don't know where you got this belief from because CE always frowns at any member that sins including an open rebuke. Some of our members that were caught in the act of fornication were excommuincated from the rest of the brethren and were told to sit at the back of the the church for each service till restitution. I ve witnessed this more then once. Scriptural readings from 1cor 5: 9-13 are read to the erring members.
Pastor Chris talks about sin, righteousness, heaven and hell but you don't know because you thought it's only Sunday services Pastor preaches to us. Pastor preaches to us everyday through Rhapsody of realities, tapes, cds, vcds, dvds, mp3 and software platforms. When you lay much emphasis telling people not to sin that's when they will sin the more because it's the nature of man to sin when you tell him not to. Rom 7:15-20.
Saying Pastor Chris was accussed of fornication without any proof or evidence I won't bother to reply you on that.
"Pastor Chris is the orthodoxy"
According to 1st Cor 11:1 it says Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ. So what's wrong if we always make reference to him and follow him?
You said "No one can challenge Pastor Chris." How can you challenge him? Where you the one that called him? He answers to the one that called him and only God shall reward or judge him not you.
You also said "He tries to change verse of scriptures by rewriting them?
You are filled with hatred because Pastor only lays emphasis on the original bible manuscripts which was written in Hebrew and Greek. How many study bibles have you read in your life? How many times have you even read your king James from back to back? Let your heart judge you.
As for your other rambling that I haven't countered I leave them for other Christ Embassy members to take care of.
Cc Joagbaje, Donnie, Gombs, Zionmade pls ur input is needed to encourage those children in Christ that might have gotten discouraged in serving God because of Marchman.
Bro/Sis
I have gone through your rejoinder and it is just full of hurt. You were even abusive by saying the previous op had a poverty mentality. The previous op wrote his opinion which he is entitled to and he did that without abusing anybody. You have written your own opinion which you are entitled to but you did yours with HATE. Any non convert reading both views would have no choice but to see the HATE in your write-up. You might be pained about what the previous op has written but remember on the last day, everyone even the Pastor Chris PhD you are writing about would stand on his own to be judged. Why not you guys focus on being upright with God instead of being entangled with what is and what is not. Jesus came to save us, He wasn't deeper life, He wasn't Anglican, He wasn't cele, He wasn't Christ embassy, He wasn't Catholic, He wasn't living faith, He wasn't redeemed, He wasn't Synagogue neither was He Omega. He was Himself. Let us forgo all these things and be like Paul who was able to say BOLDLY when he had finished the good fight that there is a crown laid for him in heaven. How many of us can boldly say that after we leave the world. Think on these things.
And as it is appointed to men once to die, but after this the judgment Hebrews 9:27
In clear terms, we as humans are expected to die once after which we will be judged. Our works and life on Earth finally ends with death just as how they thought us MR NIGER D in integrated science in primary school where D stands for Death. The results of our life and works would be tested, weighed and determined by God's judgment. We do NOT RETURN to die a second death except permitted by God which is rare
Nice write-up sis. Madam op, love ain't blind anymore. Raising SS kids is no joy at all. Count it all joy that he's left you.
dominique: It was for the best. If you're in Lagos, go to a General hospital close to you. Ask for the days when they hold clinic for SS patients and go and see for yourself what these warriors and their parents are going through. Trust me, it is not something you will wish for your worst enemy.
I doubt if you can use IVF to determine the genotype of your baby. At best, they will check the genotype of the embryo before implanting it into you. If by chance they are all sicklers, they will be discarded. How many of your unborn children to you want to waste before getting your desired result? Believe me, I don't think its worth all the stress and expenses. My only grouse with you and your ex was allowing the relationship to go further. You should have both called it off before investing so much energy and emotions into it.
TheLogicalMind: Ordinarily in other English speaking countries, polite language takes the form of expressions like: "I beg your pardon" (which actually means the same thing as sorry) or "excuse me". Nigerians aren't far off the mark
Are you saying it is also right to say I beg your pardon, is this the line. Pls don't laugh
dyduds: Yeah for those who have not played the game. I forgot to mention that before I took the test. I downloaded pymetric from Google play store and entered with a dif mail then played all the 12 games as practice. I also took note of my result and feed back for each game. Then I uninstalled, reinstalled and then took the real thing which surprisingly was the same game.
Also if after playing a game your feed back isn't good enough. Before that feedback leaves the screen press the home key wait a min then go back to the app. It would not register the game and you'll have to play it again. Lots of loop holes in this thier thingy.
Bro, how can I contact you. I sent you a PM. Do I drop my number for u or kindly reply to the PM
Stage 1-3 will take you about 2 minutes each with 30second to prepare your answer after.
For each stage there is a prerecorded video that gives the question . I advise you to read the question at the same time and pace as the voice speaks, and with complete concentration, if the video will distract ur focus don't look at it just listen and read along .
This were my questions
1) how would I address wastage that occurs during the implementation of a new packaging of the liquid soap. If you were in the "Make" team or something like that...
2) profer solution to a situation where many dark skinned customers in south east Asia or so (not too sure) do not use light and lovely despite its content of sunscreen and there liability to skin cancer if not using sunscreen.
3) describe your most innovative Unilever product and what the limitations are or suggested improvements.
For the last question you will watch a video linked to YouTube and will asked speak on the risks if any, how would you mitigate it, who would you direct your suggestion to and what are your points for the audience.
Here is the youtube link as i saved it during my interview.
Good luck to everyone. I have not gotten any feedback from my interview and I don't know why peeps are hoarding questions, let's try to be of help to people even if we couldn't get the help.
Also. If you feel you're goofing at the first or second stage, remove your battery and leave your phone off. Get another phone and redownload the app. Open your mail and restart on that new phone. This time give it your best and once you're done and have uploaded your interview . pick the previous phone making sure the internet is not on, then uninstall hirevue.
I know it was a coincidence ( God's miracle) it worked for me, but It might just work for you too. Please say a word of prayer for me (I need it not just for unilever) after reading this, if you find it helpful .
God bless you real good for what you have done. Thank you for the questions and the the other aspect of using another phone if u messed up the first time. I read the questions you wrote here, prepared my answers but as I was answering it, I knew I was saying nonsense so I used the method you suggested and it worked.
Now here are the questions again.
1. If you were in a make research team where a new change process is being implemented, the old staffs are not receptive to the change this they are risking their health and also wastage. The question is - how would you communicate the new change process of how to reduce waste to them - what suggestions would you proffer - what will thee solutions achieve
2. You are in the social interaction team and you have been posted to Thailand. There's a a situation where many dark skinned customers in south east Asia do not use light and lovely despite its content of sunscreen and there liability to skin cancer if not using sunscreen. You are to profer a solution to the business team to let them know if the fair and lovely would be a viable brand in Thailand
- how would you interact with the customers - What will you use to gather your data
3) describe your most innovative Unilever product and what the limitations are or suggested improvements.
- what makes it innovative - what are the limitations to this product if any - ways to embed this product to the market
4. The video has been posted. Watch the video. The video is a TVC. Here are the questions.
- come up with a business problem regarding the TVC - what are the risks if any identified in the business problem and how did you come about it - mitigation to the risks - who would you communicate your points to abd what would be the most important points for each audience
Now these questions are for those that applied for research and development. If you have done supply chain, please take the pain in typing what you can remember for others to learn and prepare well. Don't think they will do better than you. Remove that mentality. It's not a competition. My name is timojerry and I just want to make common sense lol. I know I've done my best as to the questions. Prepare well before you start. I was sweating lol but I know God has taken control. I wish you all the best.
God bless @dyduds again if not I for no know wetin to expect
Raffie20: Hmmm, they should just call us before I pay my PhD fees o abeg... I no wan waste money
Brother, no wait for NB o, if PhD interest you, do it, u never can tell where it would take u. No because of NB halt your plans. You can still be doing it part time whilst working too. Good luck
Acidosis: Bro, you deserve to be worried, pained and confused. Don't allow any hypocrite make you feel like you're imhumane.
Whether it happened 1000 years ago, it doesn't matter. If these folks found out that their ex slept with a dog some 50 years ago, they would still find a way to show their dissatisfaction to the said ex.
If I were in your shoes, I would be devastated as well.. It doesn't matter whether she confessed or I discovered myself.. the knowledge of what happened is all it takes to get one pained, so don't feel stu p!d or heartless.
Now to the real issue, I think you're worried that the said relationship with her cousin might continue even after a proper wedding with you. Whether you like it or not, you would henceforth feel insecure to have that cousin close and alone with your woman. Nobody welcomes such, except of course, the online "e-doesn't matter" e-pocrites.
The big question is: do you love your woman? Yes, right? Love is one aspect, do you trust your woman? Note, anybody can love, but trust is expensive. You have to be sure you trust her 100%.
Having said that, it's time to get your mind off the relationship with her cousin. It would be difficult but you have to try.
If you discover however at any point that moving on would be difficult, gently back out! This is marriage, not a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. You will continue to meet her cousin, he will attend your wedding and probably offer you a handshake... Can you bear it?
Other days, he will stop by at your house when you're not around to say hi. Yes, it is true you now trust your wife, but do you trust the guy enough to share the same remorse with your wife? Has he repented and moved on?
My respect goes to your woman though. That's one hell of a secret 99.9% of her fellow will take to the grave. She has done her part... Now can you do yours? If your answer is yes, go ahead and marry her.
Bro you killed it. Nice advice. Ogbeni Op, marry your wife
I'm an advocate of not getting divorce as God hates it. He created marriage and expects us as couples to grow in it through thick and thin that is why we take an oath before God and people during weddings.
Seeing as divorce is now the order of the day as people even celebrities just dump the union at the slightest provocation from any party., I just want to ask a question. Although I do know that domestic violence is what mostly necessitate these divorces. The question goes thus:
If there had been serious domestic violence during Jesus' days on earth both in the old and new testament, would He have also added domestic violence as one of the reasons why either party might consider their exit from the marriage union?
Christianity Etc › Re: The Dangers Of Divorce As A Christian by timojerry: 10:25am On Oct 29, 2017
. I normally laugh at the comments and move on. I laughed at the sheer ignorance of many commenters, and the foolish statements many made. I decided to assume that 70% of the people who commented are either undergraduates still studying who have a big Disney picture of the sweet employment awaiting them or some who have not really known what is out there in the world. The remaining 20% earn well probably and so feel life should be like that for everyone. The remaining 10% commenters are those who really see life as it is in reality – 
. They have paid 80% of the money.
So for now, cloths aint really an issue. 
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