Pearl05:



Please don't abort the baby. Your husband is just angry for now but he will come to terms with the situation with time. With a monthly income of 230k you can live a comfortable life if you manage your resources well. You can start a side hustle online that can be bringing in money in bits from time to time. Some people are not earning up to 50k monthly but they are surviving.

Every child is a blessing, please protect this child and let the angel live.

Thanks dear, may God help me make him have a change of heart.

bimberry1307:

Children that some people are crying for day and night is what you want to remove?? Sis, we should be grateful in whatever situation we find ourselves because God knows best. 230k monthly is more than enough to take care of four kids if you're not living an extravagant lifestyle. Sorry for being blunt but pls be reasonable.

When I was pregnant with my second baby, my husband and my mom was not happy because our monthly income combined as at then was less than 30k. When I found out I was pregnant, I was depressed and sad. There was no means of taking care of the pregnancy together with my first child (so I thought). I couldn't go through with the abortion, told my DH that I'll rather die than abort. I no abort when I was single na when I marry I go con start. I kept the pregnancy, no antenatal, no routine drugs. I gave birth to her at home with the help of my sis in law who's a nurse. In short, I had the beautiful princess and she became my jackpot. 40days after her birth, I got a well paid job and by God's Grace, we'll be moving to our own house by July ending Insha Allah. My third baby is on the way and I pray for more blessings.

What I'm trying to say in essence is that, every child comes with its own blessings. Pls don't abort.

Thank u dear, ur story was a very inspiring one. I don't really have problem with keeping the baby but the issue is my husband like I stated above. There is no insult I didn't get from him when I told him because he was very angry and he feels very ashamed. When I gave birth to d 3rd child, he did not tell anybody out of shame. Now he's saying people will laugh at him. He don't just want to hear anything so how am I going to convince him? That is why I just wanted to have my peace. Thank u for ur advice and congrats on your house. I tap into ur blessing and pray God will give us our own home too sometime soon.

Pls I need some form of information, I'm two months pregnant with my 4th child, I always wanted 4 children and though I didnt want d fourth one too soon as d last is just two and wasn't sure about my husband's preference but to him the number of children we should have depends on our financial power. I'm in my late 30's my husband 40. When I broke d news to him, he got very angry telling me we can hardly pay fees of d 3 we have that he doesn't need any more children at all that people will just be laughing at him that I should pls go and do what I have to do Since then he has not talked to me (And I know him, he will continue being angry till I remove this child). Our total monthly pay is around 230k. We contribute equally. He's not making effort to increase finance but just talks of business ideas but never seems to actualize d dreams just always talking n talking of plans since I know him all he do is talk no move. Well apart from goin to open leg for evacuation which I'm not comfortable with, pls my question is, is there any drug I can just swallow to quietly do d job without any complications? Meanwhile I was on birth control pills when this happened and I only saw oga like two times that particular month so I don't know how it happened. Pls what can i take without complications im like 2 months now

Thieves. U guys pls run o. What they do is that they give different games to different people then whichever one clicks, that person will now pay him he's own cut thinking d whole thing is real while they will block d other people that lost. They keep doing it with new people. He tried sounding very very convincing even swearing with he's life *smh* I was very suspicious so I just tested d game he sent me with 5h and lost d so called guy now blocked me. Thank God I didn't use much to bet, he wanted me to use all my hard earned money, wicked soul

Try Lagos

Baking cakes for birthdays small chops for occasion s

Ishilove:

Na you sabi.

Sabi na you

Chai! I'm done arguing with ishilove and efemenaXY I can see that I will just waste my time convincing any of u two that my stories are true because u already concluded on me and don't even care if am telling d truth or not. Una husbands go tire for una because una must sha dey try win every argument for house. No argue forget say na dem be d head of d house sha

Ishilove:
This aunty and her plenty tori wey no dey end. The same you came online to beg for money to celebrate Christmas for your kids, now you're here claiming you lent the last 13k with you to 'someone'.

You're supposedly a pregnant woman who ate akara, bread and water with her children less than 2months ago because hubby is going through a rough patch caused by bad debt, and you expect someone with that kind of never ending financial challenges to just give out 13k just like that?

Methinks when idleness seizes you, you seize your phone and concoct stories for our reading pleasure. SMH

Im not going to deny that I asked for money here and it didn't mean I Will remain in that begging state. I wasnt happy doing it if u must know! That u didn't lend me a helping hand didn't mean that someone else (not here though) didn't or I couldn't get it myself (genuinely). I was in a rily tight corner when I did that. Why are u surprised I'm loaning out 13k? I can give d LAST KOBO in my hand to help a begger or a motherless child depending on d persons situation because I'm not you. I don't need to have thousands or millions to help someone in genuine need that's where ppl get it wrong. I don't owe u any explanation of how I got money and Im sure u are aware that i didn't make this post to beg for money. And if u read my post well, I clearly stated that I give to ppl in need because I KNOW HOW IT FEELS TO BE BROKE AND HAVE NOTHING as I usually find myself in such state at times. U have not seen grass to grace stories. things may be bad for someone for a while but when its time for situations to turn around for good for that person or family, nothing can stop it. I don't waste time cooking up stories what will I gain? So keep digging about me madam inspector general of police

EfemenaXY:


What is this??

~ You were on an N80k salary

~ You borrowed (probably with interest to pay back) 12.5 times your salary (i.e. N1m) to loan to someone else

I’m sorry but I’ve got to ask you this in the nicest way I can.... WERE YOU DRUNK? Or BEWITCHED perhaps??!



No surprises there



No, you obviously haven’t learnt you lesson as you seem to have bottomless pockets.

Look, if you really want to help others, then direct your funds to a more worthwhile cause. A cause where the beneficiaries will forever appreciate your help.

Donate to an orphanage. Sponsor a child’s education. Help purchase medical equipment for your local health centre, find ways to help the less physically abled eg the blind, mute, etc

Anything rather than throw away money at lost causes.

I'm not even in a position to help anyone at d moment but I know I will get there soon. Yea those were foolish mistakes of d past. They happened long ago and I have not made such big mistake again. All ur advice is my dream but like I said. I don't have d means to accomplish them @ d moment. It will happen @ d right time

Hmm u mean u have been bearing all this since? Ah! Oti o. Im not an advocate of divorce but when a r/lship becomes violent, i do not support such rlship to continue. Anyway this is 2019, bear no more so she will not kill u before ur time. Simply tell her u want a divorce, tell her d reasons which she should already know but may be living in denial. But plan urself ahead of time. If u are not in ur personal house, rent a smaller place far from where u stay presently and she shouldn't know d location. just start planning before u now break d news. And make sure u are extra careful after breaking d news because ur life may be in danger. A woman that goes back to exes, stabs her husband can do anything out of anger.

U Neva see anything yet...lol, let her give birth to 3 or 4 children like us in that category u go see complete set of total flat tyres. Jokes apart, just love her d way she is, its not her making. That's partly d reason some women don't want kids cos they still want to maintain d good looks but that's a foolish decision. I won't advice breast implants, lift n all d gbogbo eh gbogbo eh's

I help ppl yet when I need d help, all I hear is I don't have. I still have someone out there owing me 500k because I helped d person out with 1million when things were rough for their family. Funny thing was I borrowed that money from a cooperative where I used to work back then and it was a very big risk i took because I was not even earning up to 100k just 80k. It was severe tears I used in getting back 500k to pay back to d cooperative while till today, d balance 500k was never paid, I struggled to pay it with deductions from my salary for 2yrs. Funny thing is I still see this person and family once a while but we aren't relating and things seems to be going fine for them yet am here roasting and I have 500k out there. It is well. Another one is owing me 200k and I still see her but no mention of my money. I learnt my lesson from those big monies and was really tight fisted for a while but not for long . I really love giving to people in serious need but I just don't have d means to give right now rather I'm even d one in need. It may just be my weakness

I REGRET NOT MAKING MONEY!! TO STAY WITHOUT MONEY IS WRONG! I MUST HUSTLE HARD TO MAKE MONEY THIS YEAR

Happy new year my people! A friend of mine came to me begging that they were in dire need in their house and dey were finding it difficult to feed their children. (I know them well and they have been going thru some bad debt issue the husband found himself for over a year now) So she needed urgent loan that she was expecting some money d following day (which was yesterday). I hate seeing ppl suffer and in need cos I'm usually in such situation at times so i cant help but give. So I loaned 13k out of d ONLY 15k hoping to get it yesterday. I'm left without a dime And now she no come fit see d money give me back again, d place she was expecting money from yesterday failed her. I can't even go out because I have nothing on me right now. Pls how do I ask for my money politely so it won't spoil d good I've done??

yettymuse:
I'm weak! During my own time, I remembered my mom once cooked beans for us on Christmas day. Na garri we spread ontop. We were full, came outta the house and merried with other kids like we ate the best.

This one na misplaced priority IMO!

Even d beans no dey. Thanks sha

Very inspiring message. U are a good person to have stuck to ur brother and helped him thru it all, i almost shed tears when i read how u took care of him, bathing him n all. God will bless u and u will definitely rise up again even better off than u were before, God will put a smile on ur face soon and all d months u stayed doing nothing will not matter anymore. May God bless and prosper u may u always meet ppl that will impact ur life positively. And I pray for your brother that even as Almighty God has healed him, he will also grant him he's hearts desire nothing will ever put him in that situation ever again. He should pursue he's dreams. He will get there. God bless u both. Amen.

remi4ever:
May the lord provide for you, i wish i had....

Amen.....Thanks

Lloydthesaint:
Send nudes

Merry Xmas. From d dept of my heart, may u live to see 2019. Cheers

Hello good people I got a call that my dad was rushed to a & e because he was having frequent collapses. My mum called me that they had no much money on them. We had to clear d little we had in our account to help them add to what they had. And am glad we did but Now no money to buy Christmas chicken i promised the children someone nice should come to my rescue and help me to put a smile on my kids faces. I made up my mind long ago never to use sickness to tell lies on any of my loved ones head to get favours and so help me GOD. Anything will mean a lot. Merry Christmas celebration to u all.

Hello good people I got a call that my dad was rushed to a & e because he was having frequent collapses. My mum called me that they had no much money on them. We had to clear d little we had in our account to help them add to what they had. And am glad we did but Now no money to buy Christmas chicken i promised the children someone nice should come to my rescue and help me to put a smile on my kids faces. I made up my mind long ago never to use sickness to tell lies on any of my loved ones head to get favours and so help me GOD. Anything will mean a lot. Merry Christmas celebration to u all.

Richy4:


God has not given us the spirit of fear... but of sound mind.... U are just a baby Christian...if an ordinary harmless mirror is scaring u...

if u are truly a Christian as u claimed and are wrestling not against flesh and blood as u said.. Then grow up.. and put on the whole armour of God and fight... not by mouth and being paranoid....

Lol I am a Christian, I am not ashamed to be called a babe in Christ, because i know with my zeal for d things of God, i will not remain a babe for ever Babes in Christ do grow that's why d bible said we should desire d sincere milk of d word and we may grow therein. It doesn't mean God doesn't reveal things to me.I do get revelations from God and I tackle it spiritually. becoming a matured Christian is not something u jump into, u need to build urself spiritually to get there and unfortunately, many of us remain babes in Christ for long. Even u are a babe aswell judging from your responses to me so look at urself before u throw stones at me

Richy4:


I agree with you 100% she is the type that breaks happy home if married into a united one....

First landlord blinded her eyes...But she managed to see it through her pastors I guess...
Now common mirror is now an issue... I can just imagine her family background...

I didn't need a pastor for that I saw d shrine after having several dreams with koro koro eyes. Everything is not all about pastors u know. D man even use hes own mouth to say he was .not using d shrine against us yet spills of blood do appear at our frontage. but unfortunately for him, my dreams showed me otherwise. I'm sure ur one of those atheist so u won't understand when d bible says we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities and power. #if u know u know#

yvelchstores:
hahahaha. I talk am. Lol

yvelchstores:
U are too paranoid. I stay away from Ur kind cos if I carry Ur child and the baby cries, u will say I be winch. U suspect everything and everyone and that is the real bondage cos u live in perpetual fear. Only the word of God can free u from such affliction.

I don already dey suspect u self lol

clive2u:
break it by mistake and your worries are over.
you are welcome

As if u read my mind, I totally made up my mind to do so two weeks plus ago. As in REALLY REALLY made up my mind to break it. But since then, I don't understand why i still havent done so and I all of a sudden feel I can't

Hello all, my family (husband, wife and 4 kids) moved out of our former house to another apartment early this year. We stay in benin. In the process of house search we met a young couple like us who was moving out of their rented apartment to their own personal house so we were considering moving into d flat as soon as they moved out. They were very nice and accommodating they even let us take a sneak peek into d house to know if we like it or not. But d reason we couldn't take d place was because of ventilation even though they really tried to talk us into taking it. (Its not their personal house). Then when they left, they left behind a big fine mirror and told my husband that we can have it. But I've not been comfortable having d mirror in my house I hardly ever look into it but my husband no send at all. He looks into it anytime he likes. Maybe its just my mind playing games with me but I just find it awkward. Also d house we moved out of, we had a fetish landlord who was surprised when we told him we were moving out. He had dealt with us for years and blinded our eyes if not for God who opened them and released us from he's bondage. He even enters our house spiritually. Could it be that he put winch for d mirror and he's now monitoring us thru it since we parked out of he's house? (Cos we took that mirror to he's house and it stayed there hung up before we now moved out) I just can't seem to get myself together anytime I get close to that mirror, sometimes I get shivers n goose pimples while passing by it. Should i just do away with it or Am I being just being paranoia

JoannaSedley:
Take your kids to your mum's and then suffer for better for worse with your husband.

And keep losing weight in pregnancy instead of gaining weight abi? If there are doctors here am sure they will know d implications. I was not even d one who ended up suggesting going to my parents last last it was my husband and d only reason why he did so was because he was very concerned about d health of me n d baby due to poor feeding

vilight:
just 4 a moment, lets imagine that option (to go live with ur mum) wasnt available and there wasnt any oda means of support, what would u do then? marriage is NOT a bed of roses, there are bound to be challenges which is supposed to help us grow...u shud be grateful dat u av a salary that stil comes thru even if its late, give ur husband support in this trying time and try 2 have anoda stream of income aside from u and hubby salary goodluck and dont go back 2 ur mum pls dont

My dear if not that am pregnant, our present situation is not a death sentence as we passed thru such before but pregnancy is not an easyy journey for me imagine poor feeding during such time to join. I would not av thot of my parents place as an option if not for my current state.

milemimi93:


A woman will stand by you when the going is smooth. The moment things get tight, she will disapear. No woman in this generation wants to suffer. They want ready-made husbands..

Look at u, ur husband has been takin up responsibilities since dating u to marrin u. He never complain. Just this few months u are takin up responsibility (only feeding o) u are yellin.

My prayer is, the moment u leave ur husband for a greener pasture let God bless ur husband and let him bring in another woman and marry.

It's quite clear that u don't deserve him.

Good bye gold digger.

And whoever said 'BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL MAN IS A WOMAN' was probably refering to the man's mother.

U must have been blind while reading and judging me. Where in my write up did I say I just took up feeding for few months I have been doing that since I got married OK? What I said is that I took up all responsibilities in d house including feeding which I have been doing. Also, my last visit to d hospital stated that I lost 3kg in 2 weeks due to poor feeding. U think I like going to sit at my parents? For ur information, I have no choice so I don't endanger my life and that of my unborn child. Funny enough my husband even ended up suggesting it to me before I could even say anything and am there now and feeding very very well (trust mothers) so mind ur words please. I'm not d one making u frustrated of women abeg!

Hello all I'm having a challenge here, things used to be better for us before but got bad sometime ago. I usually cater for d family's feeding provisions and some other stuff. We are a family of 5. Including a relative staying with us who is like a child to us. D thing is we are in serious challenge for some months now we started paying a bad debt. And which is draining us financially. But because my husband is d one paying it, ( he was actually d cause of d debt anyway) all house responsibilities has fallen on me this period. Before it used to just be feeding d house and provisions. I earn less than 80k I cannot cope with all responsibilities as my salary finishes before d end of d month and I have to start going to my parents to collect foodstuff and also cash for us to feed. I collected about 25k from them last month and some foodstuff. To make matters worse federal Govt has refused paying us salary for June. My mum said she will no longer give me money but she will feed us if I can come with my kids to her place for d mean time till they pay or things get better that there's room for us and then my husband can fend for himself as a man. And am just about to put to bed yet I go to sleep hungry at times. I had to walk down from my house to antenatal clinic which wasn't funny because our car is bad and no cash to fix it yet and transportation from my house to d hospital is somehow unless one takes a drop which I don't have d money for. My question is should I tell my husband politely to let us go to my mummy's place for d meantime as there's no more food in d house and I've exhausted all means of feeding d house and my hands are now tied? Last night i tried telling him that theres no more food in d house and av exhausted all means of providing food he responded saying God will provide. We manage to eat bread and akara with water in d morning and now NOTHING left in d house. I want to watch how he expects God to come down and provide d food we will eat for d rest of d day. I'm d one suffering it because as a pregnant woman, u can't live without food cos that one na die.