How a great partnership can switch to a Master-servant relationship within the twinkle of an eye is my major fear.

CaveAdullam:
Wonder what kind of discussion both of you had before marriage.

1. You must understand that it's difficult for adults to change their mindsets, especially when these mindsets or ideology comes with incentives and comfortability or a medium that serves as an escape route.
True for women when they get married. They don't see the need for constant improvement because all they've wanted was to secure a man that will cater for their expenses through thick and thin despite their poor nature, bad attitude, amoebic body shape, damaged mentality, complacency, entitlement mentality etc.

2. Your wife's laziness is rooted in the comfortability you've placed her and to make her become productive you must upset that foundation. (She may however vacillates between changing for the better or seek another greener pasture for laziness).

How do you do these:

A. For the main time, pretend that your remote work is failing or has failed. Move from home early and daily to do your work outside and come back late like a normal job seeker. When you come back tell her the experiences you had when searching for a good job.

B. Reduce the amount of comfortability through the extra things you provide for the family. This will rhyme with your recent "joblessness".

C. Be the one that should start telling her to keep master's degree program aside because things are not as rosy before. (By the way, she doesn't need it, except otherwise). Because it's high time expenses must be managed.

D. Act broke with her and others and let it rhyme with the aforementioned.

On the extreme, if her unproductive nature hinges your prospect and progress tell her it's high time to cut off the relationship. She can't be enjoying life while doing nothing.

Enjoy your liability!

Na wa o

IfeMiLove:
More shower caps?? Does it mean everyone he cheats with forgets their caps or he just loves shower caps?

He probably has a fetish for shower caps...lol

Administration1:
Oga, let me tell you the bitter truth, Its a long read and full of typos.
The marriage will not last if you continue exchanging words with her, but from my own standpoint, let me give you candid advice.
1. Don't you ever think of resigning!!! Never it cross your mind
2. Get a second phone or better still change the contact of the number of the lady you love, but make sure you tell her that you are married oh, so don't start sending useless love messages back and front.
I got married too to someone I was pressured to get married to, but believe you me, she can never think of touching my phone or suspectign her, I give her all the money or attention she needs, in fact, my salary immediately I am paid, I send it to her including the last kobo, na she dey pay tithe(I still have a relationship with God), but she is in control of it, even when I lack money, I try never to ask her.
3. Get a smallie, probably one of those little decent girls from a well-to-do home as a side chick, go through my profile, you will see one of my posts and learn how to get such a girl. When you do, make it clear from the onset that you are married but you don't love the lady. Right now sef we have broken up because Our Accounts Officer and I have found a way to make ourselves happy irrespective of our marriages.
4. Don't you ever lay your hands on your wife, biko, just avoid her, I even look for ways to make my wife go on trips, in her mind this man loves me, whereas it's just to make me have peace of mind either with the smallie or our Accounts Officer who is also wishing same thing for her husband. The funny thing is that both my smallie and our Accounts Officer visits our home(But I never ever take them to our room to do the thing).
5. Make peace with yourself that your ex can never come back,

Wow!

I agree, especially with the third point.

Having a successful marriage comes with lots of maturity.

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Crunchyg3:
Are you a corp member in Lagos looking for a house to stay for your service year. You can contact me as I am ready to share my room self with the person for a little amount.
Benefits: 1. constant running water 2. You won't need to pay for light. 3 you won't need to buy cooking utensils or gas. 4 you don't need to spend money on bed 5. Watch Tv with DStv subscription. All you need to do is to come with only your clothes as everything you need is already available. Just chat me up on the number below on my signature

Are you male or female ?

Iyaebe:
Matured men will pamper you to stupor and help you grow out of your shortcomings and not these youngies that will match you silliness for silliness and before you say jack,marriage have scatter.

You know right!

Kobojunkie:
1. In marriage, two become one and so what is yours becomes her's as well. If you are not ready for that, you are not mature for marriage.

2. If you cannot die to your ego and accept that the woman's voice and opinion is of equal importance as yours in the marriage, you are not mature for marriage...not ready.

3. Being an introvert is not a problem but are you ready to be in doors 24/7 with someone probably always there with you?

4. Women are not blow up dolls. They are human beings just like you and so you think of every... consider how finicky you are, a woman can also be that way too. So if you choose to remain selfish and self-centered, then you are not mature for marriage ...not ready.

There's plenty sense in your post.

RightToReject:
Prosperity doesn't automatically follow the rule of all these too clever by half permutations. His life, and that of the lady's siblings, might equally change for good if he had married her - assuming that she possessed all of the other realistic things he needed in a companion. It's only people who haven't been at the forefront in the pursuit of real advancement or haven't seen people's economic fortunes turn from good to bad, and vice versa, that would always fail to see money and status beyond what they're.

God bless your maturity!

I'm still trying to understand the rationale for adding the last picture

doubleE70:
yes let's separate the normal people from the hoodlums.

me I can finish 1 loaf sef

Me sef

binarymachine:
I thought you loved me… you used to be so charming and nice to me, texting me almost every second of the day…..oh babe, you’re so nice, you’re beautiful, we are so compatible. Come meet my mom. Two months into the Relationship, Boom. The real narcissistic personality comes out. They are not able to regulate their emotions any longer. They become very angry quickly especially when they’re not getting their way, they become very hypersensitive to criticism. They literally doubts you on almost everything leaving you feeling like you’ve gone crazy.

Narcissistic partners are very captivating at the initial stage of a relationship and with time, the relationship becomes very challenging, how well do you know your partner? How well can you tell if they have these traits? Accordingly, There are certain things to look out for in your partner to conclusively tell he or she is narcissistic.

The term “Narcissism” is most times used in recent years without understanding it’s indept meaning. Let’s look at the meaning of narcissism.

What is Narcissism?

Narcissism as otherwise seen as Narcissistic personality disorders (NPD) by psychologist is defined as a trait that solely relates to insecurity, a pattern which is characterized by lack of empathy, controlling, arrogant, inability for one to manage any kind of disappointment, chronic validation seeking, feeling entitled, grandiosity, extremely self centered with some degree of selfishness. Study shows that there are 4 types of Narcissism and not all Narcissist are the same. For the purpose of this topic I may not want to go into that. Alot of people have either found themselves in relationships with such partners or encountered people who exhibit these tendencies.

Who Is A Narcissistic Partner?

Narcissistic Partner is an insecure person in a relationship who seem very charming and nice at the start of a relationship but later becomes that person who lacks empathy, feels entitled, always expecting special treatment to be given to them but nobody else, they’re very concerned about their appearance, very prone to throwing tantrums, with too much sense of self importance, they get angry very quickly especially if they don’t get their way.

How Well can you tell if your partner is a narcissist?

Ever noticed your partner liking and showing so much care at the beginning of the relationship and later declines as the likability decreases, they only tend to appreciate you when in need? They become highly self centered, Your value comes when you’re able to meet their needs, they get hurt and lash out easily, their only concerns are their goals and reputation, lacks empathy whereby your significant other should be loving. They are all about knowing how you feel about them. all about themselves. Desperately needing validation and adoration, Very controlling, watch their reaction toward criticism, do they over react? Are they very manipulative and defensive? Do they make you feel bad for ever speaking up? Are they the type that’s always on the “ I know more than you” side? Feeling too important, acting like they know more than their partner while their partner is always wrong? Projecting everything they can back at you leaving you feeling You’re not enough, Are they ready to sacrifice anything on the platter of their ego? With too much sense of entitlement? These are signs you should look out for in your partner, if you find these traits in them, it’s safe to say they may be narcissist.

Ultimately, Being in a relationship with a narcissistic partner takes alot of work and patience because they make you feel very special until these feelings start to shift , as soon as there are some stress in their system, maybe things not going as planned, work day didn’t go the way they want, kids behaving badly, they become manipulative, Gaslights you, egocentric, extremely self centered and you begin to blame yourself for their actions, you devalue yourself, you loose focus and self esteem.

Narcissistic partners projects issues or fault back unto their partners, they say things like, “you made me do what I did, you didn’t allow me to finish what I had to say, you interrupted me” . Once this happens, you may not want to confront them any longer, they dismiss you with that, they make you understand their point is more important than what you had to say. The point you’re trying to make at that point doesn’t make any sense. They make you look like you’re the controlling one while they are ,trying to make you feel you’re the one with the issue here, and you’ll just pull back and begin to apologize. This is exactly what they want ,they want you to feel you’re the one with the problem and not them. If you try to point their mistakes or remind them, maybe they forgot to pay some bills they promised, they will be like” because you’ve done it before, please face your problems.

People in this relationship always feel they’re not enough“ If I was enough, he wouldn’t cheat on me, if I was enough, he wouldn’t insult me, if I was enough, he would be present when I needed him, if I was enough he wouldn’t do this and that” These aching feeling of not being enough is one of those Signs you’re currently in a relationship with a narcissist, you keep making excuses for them , hoping they’ll change, but no matter how you try, they just make you feel you’re never enough. Oh please, just stop this, the truth is that it has nothing to do with you, they just can’t regulate their self esteem, they’re are now insecure, they now feel entitled, broken inside, they tend to protect it by all means, they feel no one is better than them.

Unfortunately, people with narcissistic personality often see nothing wrong with what they do, as such there’s no point for change in them, in as much as a narcissist cannot completely change, there are certain things they could do in hope to recovering such Relationship. Narcissistic partners should break out of the norm and focus on showing more empathy for others, they should care about how others feel, they should drop their ego, Stop thinking they are better than others, they should welcome critics as a step to their growth and reviving a narcissistic Relationship.
Source:
https://flipmemes.com/2021/06/25/narcissistic-relationship-how-well-can-you-tell-if-you-are-dating-a-narcissist/

Wow, you're so on point

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Nemere2020:

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2413059885504855&id=672482079562653

Even if you're behind it, you no fit smell aso rock.

MrMcJay:


What's your risk appetite like?
Are you a short term or long term investor?

Low risk investment. It could either be short term or long term

MrMcJay:


Counsel, be very careful. Read their contract before putting your money.

Thank you Counsel.
I'm open to investment suggestions, sir.

ImperialCovfefe:


Yields are currently low like you rightly referenced. What minimum yield are you seeking? What is your time-frame, since most dollar-based mutual funds expect 6-months at the minimum?

1. Stanbic IBTC has a dollar-based fund (see snapshot below). However, they usually display their returns in terms of Net Asset Value (NAV), rather than yield, since the price of the underlying fluctuates measurably and is marked-to-market daily. You can expect a total return of ~3.5 to 4%, based on the current yields and prices of the underlying FGN Eurobonds.

2. There are other alternative investment products as the Kudy Financial Eurobond fund and Cowrywise dollar mutual fund. You can send them an enquiry email for additional queries.

Goodluck.

Thanks a lot...I'd check out the Kudy Financial Eurobond and cowrywise dollar mutual fund

negga4al:
You can drop your email here to discover this open secret. Now this require your time, hard work and focus. All you will need is your mobile phone.

I would have dropped the info here, but there's a ban placed on promoting Forex and Binary Options.

titubaby4real@gmail.com

ernie4life:


Interest rate is generally low at the moment, not sure i can recommend anything beyond that, for starter i recommend you go online to read about Treasury Bills, Fixed deposit, Bonds(savings bond and co) euro-bonds, after reading i could some of your questions.

I have general knowledge about Treasury Bills, fixed deposit, bonds. Pls I'd like to know more about the euro-bonds. Thank you

ernie4life:

Sure i can, what assets are you interested in?

Thank you. I have little or no idea about investments, that's the major reason I want you to guide me. I was thinking about investing in mutual funds but when I went some days ago to make enquiries in stanbic ibtc, their interest rate is really discouraging. So I'd rather you give recommendations.

ernie4life:


Speak to your broker tomorrow morning, they will put you through

Good morning Sir/Ma. Pls can you give me suggestions and guidance on investments. Thank you

emmasoft:

@chimex38 kindly get in touch with me so that I can get your details and follow up to know what the issue is. You can chat/call; my contact is on my signature. Ordinarily if no kyc issues stockbroking account takes 72hrs max one day longer compare to VGIF because cscs is involved. I also sent a PM if you don't mind.

Good morning, please can you tell me more about vgif?

vexing:
This year has been a profitable year for me. I invested in the underlisted companies.
(1) mbatrades (forex)
(2) barafinance (forex)
(3) kenfarms (agric)
(4) farmfunded (agric)
(5) greeneagle (agric)
(6) foxy green (agric)
(7) farm4me (agric)
( Oxford group (real estate)

So far only greeneagle has defaulted in payment, while my my farmfunded and farm4me are yet to mature.

Pls can you give details on oxford group.
Like how much is their minimum investment

Life in a year

Power: Ghost II

Winny25:
As of now, year 2020 they re super phone with 4g and high amount of ram of that bugdet (50k)
1. Tecno camon 11 pro: support 4g, fingerprint, 32mp back cam, and 6gb ram. Price: 45k
2. Infinix. X606: battery 4000 mah 3gb ram, 20mp back cam
3. Samsun a71: this phone have 4 cameras, 1 is 64mp, another is 32 then 5 mp and 2, with octa- core and 4g network, battery 5000 mah. Price :48k
4. Itel p36 pro: good phone with 16mp and 8mp back cam, with fingerprint sensor, supports 4g lte, battery 4000 mah. Price 35,000

Pls where can I get the Samsung a71 for that price

BiggyB242:


He is rich not wealthy.

Exactly... A fraudster should not even be categorized as rich coz the money was gotten through dubious means

BiggyB242:
wealthy-yes, fresh - Not really.

What's your definition of wealthy?