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Politics › Re: Meet GEJ Trekker Oladele John Nihi's Beautiful Wife by Toks2008(m): 8:49am On May 23, 2015

When you have a decent nature as a man and you also marry a lady whose physical appearance is pleasing to your eyes i guess you will find it hard to be sexually unfaithful to her.

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Romance › Re: How Many Men Can Say AMEN! To This? by Toks2008(op): 8:47am On May 23, 2015

Jayjay0:
*spit on thread*

Eyaah..sorry for your bitterness. Unfortunately i can't help you out on this.

Romance › Re: How Many Men Can Say AMEN! To This? by Toks2008(op): 7:55am On May 23, 2015

I will say a resounding and unequivocal AMEN to this.

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Romance › How Many Men Can Say AMEN! To This? by Toks2008(op): 7:55am On May 23, 2015

Let me see how many guys will say An amen to this..

Romance › Re: Miss Nairaland 2015 Winner Is TohPahz by Toks2008(m): 7:24am On May 23, 2015

NLjega:
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Ladies and Gentlemen,
The Winner, Miss Nairaland 2015 Edition is none other than...
The Intelligent, Pretty, Sound, and Amiable

Pretty i agree but intelligent,sound can not be substantiated except we hear the audio recordings of her been interviewed.

I have seen many sexy looking ladies who can't answer simple questions and many lack good command of English language.

TOHPAHZ!!!!!!!!
Nurse Tohpahz!!!!!!!

With 285 votes

*a standing ovation for her please*
*rounds and rounds of applause for the new queen*

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Celebrities › Re: Sophie Momodu: Photos Of Davido’s Babymama by Toks2008(m): 8:58pm On May 22, 2015

And what is she posing for? her shameful position as a baby mama outta wedlock? Iranu,abacha

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Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:53pm On May 22, 2015

Have you heard of these words "Once a divorcee is always a divorcee"

This assertion have been heard by me many times and until recently i had to sit down to decipher the deep rooted message in that sentence.

If you check very well, in every breakup whether in a courtship or marriage, there is usually that party that would say im done while there will be one that would be like "well we can still work it out"

If you meticulously follow the breakup and subsequent relationships these individuals go into after they part ways,you will often realize an interesting trend that the partner who says no room for reconciliation usually end up breaking up the new affair and YES by my research this happens 80% of the time. The reason why this happens is because there will always be a reason to break up no matter how perfect any affair may seem to be and if you were rigid enough to walk out of a previous affair over issues that is reconcilable then there is a great tendency to do it again and again in subsequent affairs hence justifying the assertion that once a divorcee will always be one.

This has made me realize that it is always better to scrutinize the past of any new person we want to start an affair with because when it comes to character, more often than not, humans are like leopards who never change their spots

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Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:51pm On May 22, 2015

Something to think about

The exciting anticipation that makes breaking up with a partner an interesting act.

Usually when we start a new love affair, we are overwhelmed with passion and lots of expectation especially in the area of exploring the erotic sides of the new person.

As a man,you are excited with the taught of 100% freedom of having a fresh female body in bed with you,the scintillating feeling of handling a new body different from the one you have been so used to and for the lady she starts having a funny taught of how different the touch of the new guy will be,how romantic and different his erotic prowess will be.

Then as times goes on,we tend to get used to each other and then begin to anticipate how it will be with another person and this taught subliminally kick start a possible disintegration.

In my opinion,asides from the lustful aspiration of having sex with a new partner,in most cases.it is a total waste of time and it is out-rightly monotonous to jump from one partner to another because most times after you get down with the new person,you will come to realize that all the excitement you had before sleeping with this new person is only a facade,a flimsy evasive temporary feeling of lust and the reality will bounce back to you that having a fulfilling affair is not just about sex and that it is far better to mend a broken affair that you are already used to rather than painstakingly starting a new one.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:43pm On May 22, 2015

emeify:
I am not divorced. I had to leave the house just last month because of several issues - abuse inclusive.
We really cant live together again - we have done several counselling but the hate and bitterness has not been resolved

am just seeking an amicable way to share custody of the kids

GUARD YOUR MARRIAGE

When i look at the way marriages crash and the sad stories of bizarre happenings in marriages i tend to think deep and wonder.

There are some marital conflicts that look so ordinary and usually explainable yet could be as a result of spell from people within or outside the family especially marriages of African descend.

Trust me, i have heard of strange things leading to marital break-up.

-Marriages destroyed because of argument over N20 toothpaste.

-Man beats his wife to death over very flimsy issue

-A lady after 5years of marriage suddenly starts saying she will walk away at a certain age to start all over without any logical reason after spending 11years with a man and eventually left.

-A man suddenly leaves a wife and children and starts a life with a new lady without any logical reason.

-A man or woman who have been so decent and GODly suddenly starts misbehaving.

I can continue to highlight very absurd happenings in marriages and this has made me conclude that we need to guard our marriages with diligence.

When some crazy things start happening,its not the time to start nagging because that will even make matters worse but it is the time to go on your kneels and call on the creator of that institution to make amends.

We need to pray relentlessly against the devil's hand in our marriage because marriage is not physical but very spiritual and we must treat it as such making sure we always allow the spirit of GOD to take control.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:41pm On May 22, 2015

emeify:
Thank you.
We have had serious issues for years and seen counsellors and pastors. The issues are just too deep and reach to the foundation of the marriage.
No, i dont earn more than him and have no problem paying fees etc. My relationship with God has been affected by the resentment in the home. I was been asked to leave and threatened even with death.
I do love my kids. My marriage is legitimate and family on both sides are aware of the issues

Marriage as a spiritual union

Many couples fail to understand that the only institution created by GOD himself is marriage and nothing gladdens the heart of Satan than to see that same institution destroyed on earth and this is why he will go all the way to see as many breakups as possible in marriages.

What many couples do not realize is that marriage itself is not a physical union but 100% spiritual but manifesting in the physical and when trouble occurs, it will always seem to be the fault of either the man or the woman when the truth of the matter is that it is purely a spiritual attack that needs spiritual defense.

While i agree that some people in marriages can be very careless and indiscipline, we must understand how to figure out in our inner self if a spouse is acting normally or totally out of the ordinary.

When we start noticing strange changes in a partner who have before that time maintained a proper status quo,it is not the time to start cursing,blaming or fulfill the wish of Satan by heading for divorce but that is the time to fight the battle on your kneels,to pray and fast and depend on the creator of that institution to make repairs rather than please the devil and end up complicating our lives because in most cases,divorce breeds Adultery and fornication,hatred,disorientation for the children as well as carry over resentment which could be a ground for a recurring divorce.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:18pm On May 22, 2015

emeify:
Thank you.
We have had serious issues for years and seen counsellors and pastors. The issues are just too deep and reach to the foundation of the marriage.
No, i dont earn more than him and have no problem paying fees etc. My relationship with God has been affected by the resentment in the home. I was been asked to leave and threatened even with death.

I do love my kids. My marriage is legitimate and family on both sides are aware of the issues

Here is an article i wrote sometime ago.

You can be together and grow old together if both of you are willing to work it out.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there, doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they call at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens) and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment just to start that same circle all again and later realize the former partner was way better than the present one and then some people opt out once more to start that same circle all over with another new person and at this point the world starts looking at you as a clueless no good person who can never be happy with anyone.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found.

Did you read that last paragraph?please get this once more;

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person, it’s learning to love the person you found.

Loving someone is not by accident,its not a feeling,its a conscious decision by the people involved to be together and weather the storms together and not looking for an easy way out. The storms of lack,incompatibility childlessness, family scuffle,infidelity,bitterness,and many more.

Until both of you are willing to make it work,only then will GOD come in to make it happen. Because two people can never work together except they agree.

Hope this helps.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:11pm On May 22, 2015

emeify:
I am not divorced. I had to leave the house just last month because of several issues - abuse inclusive.
We really cant live together again - we have done several counselling but the hate and bitterness has not been resolved

am just seeking an amicable way to share custody of the kids

You can live together again.Jut be positive.

Education › Re: 100-Level UNIJOS Course Rep Proposes To Course Mate(pics) by Toks2008(m): 10:44am On May 22, 2015

sengozie:
The 100 level Rep of mass Comm dept Unijos Nafatali Adala has finally proposed to one of his Course mate Blessing Ochob. The rep who said that he could not imagine life without Blessing, proposed in front of the class and his proposal was accepted as the shy Blessing said she also wanted to spend the rest of her life with Nafatali.
We wish them the best in their lives.

In five years time, i will comment.For now let me observe.

Family › Re: Baby Born With Traditional Beads In Lagos by Toks2008(m): 10:42am On May 22, 2015

End time baby

Celebrities › Re: Some Nigerian Celebrities Doing The Duck Lips (Photos) by Toks2008(m): 10:38am On May 22, 2015

Pouting is an immature way of posing for camera.. No matured lady should be seen doing such.

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Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:59pm On May 21, 2015

proudlyhandsome:
Adetokunbo is mine. Nice to have my name sake here

Reason why u r given that Name?

lol! Thats actually my surname and i adopted it.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 8:02pm On May 21, 2015

Blackbeauty:
errrm,pls I can authoritatively say that not all marriages can be mended.In cases of abuse,especially where its physical I advice the party affected to get out FAST!!!I had a case of domestic violence in january..During the mediation session,my boss had to go out (being a man) to enable the woman show me her body.I was close to tears.The belt marks I saw were still fresh.On another occasion,he smashed a bottle of wine on her head.That resulted in a very deep cut on her forehead.I was shocked when my boss informed me last month that the lady passed out while the man was raining blows on her.She was confirmed dead on arrival at d teaching hospital.The husband is is presently in prison custody awaiting trial.The poor woman has died leaving her 3 kids.Till date,I stil remember her face,every conversation we had...I remember I told her to leave,give him space for sometime,she said their mama in church (pastor's wife) told her to keep praying and not to separate from her husband.That divorce is a sin..Well,instead of divorce,death actually dissolved the marriage!That's why I don't advice reconciliation when physical violence is involved.The stress and trauma of divorce has life altering unpleasant aftermaths,but sometimes,its better to let go.

Do you know that 90% of wife battering is caused by the women?

'ot all men hve the calm dsposition for shits and if women can learn to briddle their tongue we will hve reduced cse of physcal assault.

For the remaining 10% of mad men who beats their wives i wll still say the women should be proactive.

If a man strikes u once FOR NO VIABLE REASON like verbal confroontation from the lady we can call it a mistake but if it happens again just report him to human right orgnisation and even the police nd let him wrte an undertaken nd the lady also promising to maintain proper decorum.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 7:54pm On May 21, 2015

proudlyhandsome:
Are you Tokunbo by name?
If you are, you are my name sake

Olatokunbo precisely

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 6:14pm On May 21, 2015

emeify:
What do I do?

Separated from my husband. He is insisting I pay for the children's upkeep or I cannot see them in his house.
He has insisted on collecting part of their school fees from me. Despite that, he wants me to pay for their upkeep in his house or I cant see the kids

Is this normal?

Does anyone know a lawyer that can help?

I just went through your profile and dscovered a thread you created in 2013 stating that you lost interest in sex with your hubby nd 2yrs after this is coming up.

Im impressed with your open nature and you are just like me in that aspect but neveertheless i will not want to pass judgement in anyway but i would like us to chat on watsup..08023146046!

i believe that your marriage will be restored AS LONG AS IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AN ADULTEROUS ACT BY YOU,no other reason should be strong enough to break your marriage.

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Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 6:00pm On May 21, 2015

proudlyhandsome:
You will hardly see a lady coming up with solution to their friends' marital problems. All they do is to add more problems.

Spot on.

I remember stumbling over a conversation where teh girlfriend of my ex was practically encouraging her to break up with me yet she was not married herself at 30 as at then.

Today after 2yrs she still refused to do the needful saying she has no money for divorce. height of stupidity and this goes to show how dumb many ladies who think they are hot can be..if you are so hot i guess you ought to see a man fast enough after you leave your marriage who will help you finance your divorce..

I just advice this lady to reconcile if it is still possible before she realizes the hard truth.

Most men will want to have the freedom to test other waters and leaving him will give him that opportunity while you may end up been taken advantaged of by men who just don't care about you but will take advantage of your vulnerability.

Most men dating divorced ladies always make it look as if they are doing these women a favor which is appalling in itself.

Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 5:53pm On May 21, 2015

emeify:
The kids are not in danger. It was just me being abused and he has sworn tobfightbme tooth and nail if I try to take d kids.

I don't have a house now so cant even taken them. I don't mind paying their fees and have asked for the right to have them with me at certain days.

He is brandishing a cane and using tr kids as bargain. I also asked that he contribute to their upkeep when I have them over since I Wil be doing same for him. That passed him and I wonder y

Yes I Wil get legal advice since my attempts are hitting a wall. I am a responsible mother and have contributed all their life not only to their education but to everything in d house including rent. I don't tjink my husband is willing to let go those contributions. I don't blame him but he too needs to budge

Must you go through this stress?

Look here lady,im in good position to advice you and i have mended many broken marriages even if im still battling a divorce issue at the moment. Trust me,itss not worth it and you may realize too late.

There is too much headache in divorce than reconciling especially when children are involved.

Trust me,there is no perfect man out there and the earlier you get this the better.RECONCILE NOW IF YOU CAN.

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Family › Re: Separated From My Husband And He Is Keeping My Children From Me by Toks2008(m): 5:48pm On May 21, 2015

emeify:
What do I do?

Separated from my husband. He is insisting I pay for the children's upkeep or I cannot see them in his house.
He has insisted on collecting part of their school fees from me. Despite that, he wants me to pay for their upkeep in his house or I cant see the kids

Is this normal?

Does anyone know a lawyer that can help?

Better try and settle with your hubby IF POSSIBLE

You don't want to experience what women go through after divorce especially those who have had children from previous marriage.

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Celebrities › Re: Omotola Jalade Ekeinde Reveals Secrets Behind Her Glowing Skin by Toks2008(m): 5:27pm On May 21, 2015

Ordinary honey will do the magic.

Phones › Re: Hilarious Replys Of Nigerians On MTN FB Page For Their PROMO. by Toks2008(m): 4:39pm On May 21, 2015

All these telecom companies are criminals..

Yesterday air-tel removed N50 from my account for a service i never subscribed for and after i called them they said unfortunately they can't refund the money but got the service terminated.

Imagine them doing this for 2million subscribers,this means they would be stealing N100MILLION just like that.THEY ARE ALL CRIMINALS.

Crime › Re: 20-year-old Girl Stabs Lover Boy To Death by Toks2008(m): 11:22am On May 21, 2015

Bonapart:
you almost make sense but ur ego won't allow you... what makes you think your opinion is better...
That's your own point of view champ and it doesn't suit everyone....

you need to grow up more

All these nairaland toddlers don come again.

Cant you articulate your view without been insultive?

Was there any part of my post that warrants your manerless response?

Honestly if this was a physical gathering i believe some boys will never be allowed to come in and Its high time Seun creates an age group section.

I dont know ur age but if you minus your age from 40 then that is the gap between us and even if you are older it still does not give you the impetus to insult me for maling my opinions known.

This is a public forum where everyone is free to state his or her opinion.

Lets learn to interact amicably without been insultive.

Crime › Re: 20-year-old Girl Stabs Lover Boy To Death by Toks2008(m): 11:15am On May 21, 2015

FcMilan:
Bro make una leave all dis secondary school girls una no go hear

RIP

So at 20 you still dey secondary school?

I was in 400level at 20.

Crime › Re: 20-year-old Girl Stabs Lover Boy To Death by Toks2008(m): 11:07am On May 21, 2015

[quote author=Bonapart post=33952485][/quote]I dont know ur age but i guess if u are in your late teens it will make more sense to b wth a lady wth minimum of 7yrs gap.

Ok look at it this way...

A19yr old lady dating a 21yr old guy nd by the time the lady is 26,in most cases the guy is still finding his level or still not sure of what he wants but if she was dating a guy with a fairly wide age gap i guess at 26 the guy wll be around 33 and most guys of ths age are ready to start a family hence the lady wont wait in frustration.

this applies in most cases and until you grow in maturity this may bot make sense to you.

Crime › Re: 20-year-old Girl Stabs Lover Boy To Death by Toks2008(m): 10:45am On May 21, 2015

Bonapart:
Operation stab ur boyfriend to death...
1: wat will a 28 years old man be doing with a 20yrs sec school teen
2: why didn't he informed her of his coming...
3: why did she go direct to the chest.... why not any other part of the body....
You have 3 minutes to answer the three questions and ur time start now!!!!

Last bullet: leave little teenies alone ogbaje is real

1. there is nothing bad in the age gap and infact i suggest that ladies in their late teens nd very early twenties shoould date guys older thn them with minimum of 7yrs for rsns too long to expln now.

2. You dont hve to nform ur lady u r comin to visit all the time.

3.You can ask her when you see her.

I guess d story is probably abt the lady catching the guy cheatn on her nd then the guy probably going to apologize and we know ladies with jealous rage and their uncordinated response.

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Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Group For Single Working Class Guys & Matured Ladies by Toks2008(m): 12:13am On May 21, 2015

Borngreater1:
Christy 4rm Anambra state, 28yrs, single, N.c.e holder, working(teaching), intelligent, humble n loving, a christian, jus wanna get married anytime soon. Anyone here as ready as i am? Lets get started. 08032291134

Hope your bride price wont be killing? just joking with an element of seriousness.

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Group For Single Working Class Guys & Matured Ladies by Toks2008(m): 12:06am On May 21, 2015

In need of serious minded working class lady not below 25years and ready for serious affair.

08023146046

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Drop Your Phone Number And You Just Might Get A Date by Toks2008(m): 11:59pm On May 20, 2015

Would like to hook up with a serious minded working class lady not less than 25years and ready for serious affair.

08023146046

Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Drop Your Phone Number And You Just Might Get A Date by Toks2008(m): 11:56pm On May 20, 2015

Anuoiuwapo:
I'm 24yrs of age, in need of a matured and responsible man for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage.
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nice pics

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