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SAMBARRY:





are you too into comedy




ok so she was a man before you turned her into a woman. She was never a woman all along




and by the way the last time I checked respect is earned. The presence or absence of hymen doesn't determine respect. doesn't

Lol, you are the comedian here because everyone knows that when a girl makes love for the first time, she becomes a woman and of-course hymen or no hymen, a man that will love you will love you and that was reiterated in my last paragraph.

But the truth must be told, Virginity is very much still in vogue just that men no longer look for such not because they don't want it but because they have no hope of finding such.

centjamie:
Women of nowadays have totally lost it.anything for the money goes.my advice for my fellow guys is to be very careful when choosing a wife.

Sorry about your marriage bro,some women are wicked.

Thanks bro but the saddest side to it is that no matter how hard you try, when it comes to a woman who i strongly consider as the first wonder of the world, you can never ever be too careful in choosing them because every woman is like a black market that has the tendency to give you unpleasant surprise(s) no matter how careful you are in choosing them or how excellently you treat them.

This has made me draw up this conclusion that in order to be happy with a lady, all you need do is Love your lady with so much passion,lavish her with gifts,treat her like a queen,don't ever raise your hand to beat her or insult her in anyway

Listen to her when she wants to be heard and shower her with lots of accolades,give her undivided attention and be very romantic towards her.
Respect her above others and dont cheat on her in anyway. Provide her needs and don't ever break her heart or make her cry.
Be extremely caring and pamper her in anyway imaginable.

But despite all these,expect the worst from her.

This in my candid opinion is the only way you can be happy with a woman.

SAMBARRY:
Here we go again sanctimonious hypocrite. I don taya for una matter o
aren't you the people that will say you don't want virgins virgins are frigid. You want women with experience. When the student con get experience finish won't she be more versatile than her teacher so please let me hear word and back to the how many days she has had sex. So u thought it's only men that know how to be verbally expressive when analysing sex with their friends over a bottle of gulder.

ptsheww

So you are so gullible to believe guys that said they don't want virgins? in as much as we know virgins are rare to find but trust me, no sane guy will give up a virgin for a thoroughly battered p*nny.

Why do ladies have so much attachment to the guy that first broke them? Show me one man that will divorce a wife he disvirgined except for an extremely serious case.

I was the man who made my wife a woman and trust me, this is a big plus because despite her shortcomings and immaturity,i still have this respect for her and while many ladies may not believe this, no matter how sweet your hubby may present you, there is this maximum respect a lady gets if she marries the man that made her a woman and this is why the Bible recommends bride price on only virgins.

If i will ever have to remarry, i am not looking for a virgin not because i don't want it but because its like trying to pick a diamond from the floor.

If you are a lady and a virgin reading this, just try and preserve it fore your hubby and watch if he will not respect you to the highest limits.

Ladies should get this straight, men will tell you plenty rubbish just to have a taste of your goody bag and even me as a mare mortal despite my spiritual inclination might take advantage of a virgin girl even if i have no vivid plans for her so it boils down to you as a lady to wise up.

If you are not a virgin,no wahala, a man will still love you and respect you but there is a big plus in you marrying the man who made you a woman and this is an unequivocal fact.

brownlord:
Kai so many reasons.

Parents was the one making choices for their kids.

It was an era when the most important thing was family background, unlike today, it is pocket background,

Even when family background is considered, it's about how wealthy the family is, honesty, good morals etc no longer count, just have money, the would-be inlaw's don't care about the illicit activities in the family.

I noticed then, A woman never get to know her partner until the day of marriage, which in most times she will refuse, they had little or no choice, even though there was no courtship like we having today, they still get to love themselves... the love was not there from the beginning.

Their priority was raising a good family.

They were not looking for 6 packs in men and men not all about light skin, yellow-label skin etc, it was about decency, honesty, modesty, integrity...etc

It was a time, the man was the head of the family.

It was a time, women were shy of losing their virginity before getting married....Unlike today girls boast of how many yahoo boys they have slept with.

What went wrong?

Honestly i really don't know what went wrong. The world has gone crazy and just some few weeks back i read of a yeyebrity writing on social media about 100days without sex and i wonder how shameless some ladies can be.

Many marriages crumble today because of the ex factor where many ladies compare your dick and your sexual prowess to their ex(es), where a man feels so unsure whether he is satisfying you as you want considering the number of d*cks that have swam in your wife in the past and strangely enough ladies even crave to have that satanic experience of tasting more than one d*ck just to have that feeling of evil experience..

Sometimes i also think this breakup is because we tend to overlook due diligence when going into a new relationship.

Have you wondered why some people have this way of not dioscussing their failed marriages or courtship? its because most of them have nothing worthwhile to say.

When we meet a new person who have been in a previous affair,many of us just start a new affair with such without asking deep questions and most times we realize too late after a recurrence of what led to the former breakup.

If we meet a new person and we are really interested in making such part of our lives,is it not just normal to really know the past no matter how unpleasant it may be at least you will have an idea of how to make the affair better.

Why do you think employers want to know your history of jobs? why do they ask for references? and why do they ask for years of experience?

You can never have a good plan of where you are going with someone when you have no clue of where the person is coming from.

As a lady you meet a man you see as WOW yet this guy killed his ex yet you have no idea of his past.

Many men have lost their lives by going into relationships with married ladies without even having a clue that these ladies are married.

Many ladies have ended up getting pregnant for a married man because they foolishly believed every poo the guy told them and how many men have fallen into the hands of evil women thinking they are angels of light

In my opinion,its not out of place to investigate the past of whoever you want to spend your life with and this is why marriages of our mothers lasts because the parents of those days do a thorough investigation not just on the bride or groom to be but deep into their genealogy.

Many will still say this writeup is trash but this is my frank opinion. INVESTIGATE BEFORE YOU COMMIT YOURSELF TO THAT PERSON.

Have you heard of these words "Once a divorcee is always a divorcee"

This assertion have been heard by me many times and until recently i had to sit down to decipher the deep rooted message in that sentence.

If you check very well, in every breakup whether in a courtship or marriage, there is usually that party that would say im done while there will be one that would be like "well we can still work it out"

If you meticulously follow the breakup and subsequent relationships these individuals go into after they part ways,you will often realize an interesting trend that the partner who says no room for reconciliation usually end up breaking up the new affair and YES by my research this happens 80% of the time. The reason why this happens is because there will always be a reason to break up no matter how perfect any affair may seem to be and if you were rigid enough to walk out of a previous affair over issues that is reconcilable then there is a great tendency to do it again and again in subsequent affairs hence justifying the assertion that once a divorcee will always be one.

This has made me realize that it is always better to scrutinize the past of any new person we want to start an affair with because when it comes to character, more often than not, humans are like leopards who never change their spots

centjamie:
Because in the olden days,morals were much more important than money.

A billion likes.

You just nailed it.

people marry for the right reasons and a woman will be with who she wants to be with without any affiliation to the man's financial status and when i hear stories of how our mothers drank garri with their husbands before hitting it big, i really respect them but today if you are not made, forget it.

A typical lady will not mind leaving a man she loves deeply and who also loves her because he is not ready for the expenses of A MARRIAGE CEREMONY just to wind up in the hands of a man she has no love for simply because he is a money bag who is willing to close the whole street because of one day marriage ceremony.

In short, misplaced priorities is the sole reason why marriages break up these days.

My marriage broke up the day i saw single as marital status on the cv of my ex even when i taught she was happily legally married to me and please tell me what will make a married lady write single on her CV? I guess because she is looking for a job that will give her MONEY and anytime i imagine that episode,i tend to wonder how much can she possibly make in that job she is looking for that will make her deny her matrimony.

Too bad money has turned most of our precious ladies into slaves and object to be bought,used and dumped in the hands of men.

timunstopable:
No pun intended

Bt in Naija when they cant explain their source of wealth ..They say am into oil and gas, real estate

Anyhow none of my biz

This was exactly the point i made before the dumb guy i quoted above responded with a rethorical mumbo jombo.

We tend to celebrate the rich in Nigeria not caring about the source of their wealth and just as i wrote YES we have clean people who are extremely rich but you can always pin their wealth on a legitimate source while most people spring out from no where.

Empero1:
An example of moment of insanity is exactly what you have just displayed here . Men with parochial mindset like you are always caught bragging and whining without making any progress in life . Who told you that you are smart ? I mean , who quantified your smartness . May riches locate you so long as you desire it , plan and work for it . Instead of criticizing , learn from the doers .

You must be either dumb,foolish or have a terribly low IQ.

i will advice you learn how to assimilate the contents of a post before responding.

For petes sake where in my post did i criticize anyone? i only stated the obvious based on an intelligent question a lady asked.

I guess you must be high on white substance to write such unwarranted trasjh. Rather pray for yourself to have the desterity to decipher when to stfu rather than display your arrogance.

vheMa:
What's the source of his wealth

I doff my hat for you.

Only a reasonable lady will ask this question.

If smartness is what we need to be rich i guess i will be a billionaire by now.

Yes people can make great wealth in a pure manner but its important to ask some questions in a world where people celebrate the rich without knowing the source of their wealth.

If God opens the eyes of many to see wat pple do to make money,many will prefer to remain poor until GOD truly opens door for them.

im happy for him but im not fretting.

Sommyangel:
Omg!!!!!.. Future husband, where art thou

Why this question? ok here i am.

shachris03:
make me your sex machines. no emotions, I swear.

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adexsimply:
*sighs*
Okay, go ahead with your posts. It's very insightful and people may learn a lot from it.

Yeah i will.

nerodenero:
When money no dey, you go steal? If money come dey and you come marry and she sef marry because kudi dey, when kudi finish nko? She go dump your sorry yansh

Guy, wise up ko.

Walahi i wise pass you for this matter, make we no go into details abeg.

holicalpha:
...and as long as I'm a decent cute not so hot guy with money, I will surely get a hot chic.

That bold part is the koko

folabayo1:
Stella the husband snatcher

Lost all my respects for her eversince

There is nothing like husband snatcher but Husband sharer but it is when the incumbent wife refuses to share that the new one decides to snatch and men been a weak sex will just go with new chic.Thats just how it goes 96% of the time.

Men are polygamous by nature and this is a hard fact ladies must live with.I am not an advocate of polygamy though but the truth must be told.

holicalpha:
Seconded!

Anytime reiterate the fact that i want a hot chic for a wife the nest thing people say is "Haaa,it is behavior that matters" and then i begin to wonder..is it that hot chic is a synonym for bad chic? are there no decent and God fearing hot chics? walahi i tire.

I know that as long as i am a decent hot guy,i will surely get a decent hot chic as a wife.*winks*

As far as im concerned, i must marry a hot chic by fire by force even if na money go do am i no send.

BlissB:
My brother...i don't understand o...maybe he wanted to say he can't percieve or something and he said its disturbin his perseverance or is dere anything like percieverance in d English dictionary pls tell me maybe am not aware of it

Lol i guess its a hindi language..

But honestly i have come to realize that its not the inability to speak English fluently that is the problem but it is in the arrogance of the people who can't.

Look at patience Jonathan,we are not concerned about her inability to speak but the arrogance displayed because she could easily hire a translator or speak in pidgin and we will understand.

Ok look at this guy or instance, would you have known how awkward he is if he said something like"omo this catar won kill me o, the thing no allow me focus"

The problem of people with bad command of English is not really the inability to speak but it is in vomiting what they are not even sure of. At least do some self improvements and when in a gathering that warrants you contributing, simply apologize before hand that you are not too sound and then continue speaking the simple ones you know and avoid big grammar.

Summer1:
Now I realize that NL has very few matureminded people..see all of you consenting to date people who cannot speak well..unbelievable.

Try me with these options.

A Harvard trained super eloquent sexy lady who is proud,lacks cooking skills and a sexy pepper seller with bad command of English but filled with humility and a magician in the kitchen.

Even if i stubbornly want the former,all my soul,body and spirit will always yearn for the latter because men are driven by good virtues and trust me..good command of English is never one of them.

In like manner i guess a lady should also look for good virtues in a man rather than get carried away by the grammarians of this world that lack empathy for a lady.

naijaboiy:
[color=#1980BC]Are you kidding me?

You want to ditch who? [/color]

If i ditch a sexy lady because she can't speak good English then i can as well use sugar to cook stew because there is no salt..Arrant nonsense.

Na grammar i go dey kiss and handle?

Lets face it.. No one is perfect and there is nada wrong in dating or marrying someone with bad command of English as long as the person is willing to improve.

Despite my excellent prowess in oratory as well as written mode of communicating in English, i still make crazy blunders that baffles even me.

Lets understand that English is and will remain a borrowed language hence never to be made a criterion for loving someone.

My 50cents

AreaFada2:
What if my Igbo, Izon, Yoruba, Bini or Fufulde is fluent & eloquent? That's not enough?

Must we be crazy about another man's native tongue? When you're not a lawyer, journalist or a professional along those lines.
By the way, I have good command of several European languages. It learnt because I needed to.

But I'm not crazy about them, including English.

Please i need a good advice.

I just met this lady in the pics last month but she just can't speak one correct sentence in English. Should i ditch her?

ELGREF:
I hv the same problem with my fience now, she's complain about my English, I don't know what to do, because I love her, nd it will be a big tragedy if I could losse her because of foreign language.

As long as you are rich, you are likely never going to lose her. But i have realized that ladies who are good in English really get turned on by guys who speak very well.

BlissB:
To be sincere....i can't.....i associate with people who have good command of English....this thread just made me remembered a guy who wanted to tell me that he has catarrh and can't breathe properly rather he said "i has catarrh and its affecting my perseverance"....i jst quietly end d call,i nor fit shout

For real? I believeyou made that last word up..."perseverance" onto wettin

Summer1:
I dont know how you guys see it..but I admire guys who speak pure,polished and neat English.. It's a turn on for me,when I see someone with an impeccable eloquence,that minute i don't even care if you are broke or ugly..I just respect them.
But for guys with bad eloquence, I'm not trying to insult or intimidate you, [b]you could always brush up your English[/b]I want guys to know that good eloquence,fluent usage of English is a huge turn on for girls especially the brilliant ones, or so I think...
So,what's ur take on it?

The bold texts nailed it.

But honestly my eloquence is really scaring ladies away from me and i just lost a young lady who is extremely cute but can't just seem to get a sentence right and despite my effort to make her feel comfortable she just was not comfortable with me and i practically asked her to speak anyhow she wants but all to no avail.

Honestly im not a fan of "Must be eloquent" and maybe its because i am. If a lady is appealing to me abeg forget grammar, i will try to help her brush up and if she is not just improving, i will just accept her that way.

The thread continues here https://www.nairaland.com/2313526/personaility-holds-key-ideal-career

adexsimply:

Relax bro, this has nothing to do with "dogma" I just want you to attribute it to the right source and origin...It's simply horoscope.
I'm not against it BTW, as I am a student of astrology. Nice job.

Unfortunately when you use words astrology, it creates a diversion and people tend to have a bias feeling towards it but the fact remains that ASTROLOGY goes far beyond the peripheral knowledge of people's natural traits because any intelligent person can study another fellow.

This is why i try to distant myself from astrology and that is why i refrained from using those zodiac terminologies. The concept of this article is really about juxtaposing our personality with our ideal profession.

adexsimply:
So, you're trying to tell me this "generalization" is not based on Astrology? come on

You seem not be getting my drift, you call it zodiac and astrology,but i dont see it that way.

I dont go into astronomical dictates of what is and what is not but being an objective person with a very open mindset, i have come to believe that the research these group of people make is sound and accurate to a very great extent.

I think it will do us all a great deal of good if we can be objective and drop the dogma of this being of astrological precept.

If you are born within the period of July 23 to August 23,

Best careers

You have a majestic disposition, proud, confident and love to be the center of attraction. You are naturally endowed with a larger-than-life persona and are highly ambitious. You love to rule, dominate.

You will do extremely well in careers where your leadership qualities can be utilized. You will make wonderful performer, speaker, actor, interior decorator, tour guides, lawyer, doctor and executives. You are a born leader and have plenty of personal charisma that makes you stand apart in any crowd. You have a deep-seated need to feel important and seek a lot of personal interaction.

You are also blessed with a natural flair for being dramatic and you will make wonderful salesperson as you have oodles of charm and can win over even the gruffest customers with your fast-talking capabilities. You are great at motivating and inspiring others which makes you ideally suited to becoming motivational speaker.

You have an eye for beauty, luxury and have a fine taste which makes you much sought-after interior decorator.

Worst careers

Because of your tendency to be proud and arrogant, careers in the lower rung like those of booking clerks, bill counter clerks, housekeepers, plumbers and so on are not your cup of tea as you do not have a single ounce of humility.

Gmajor:
I don't believe in stereotypes. You can be whatever you want to be irrespective of your birth date

This is no stereotyping,its just a conclusion based on who you are.

adexsimply:
LOL. Zodiac Signs ehn ? Nice try.

This goes far beyond zodiac as people call it.

To me i see this as an intelligent conclusion made by researchers based on a meticulous study of individual's personal character and carefully homogenizing these personal traits to determine the best profession for them.

For instance i was born on June 5th and trust me, that description above is 500% about me. I love communicating and im also a very fluent orator, i am a writer and a very sound young politician as well as a marketer, these are my passions.

People have asked me to state the source of this writeup but unfortunately there is no definite source as i was the one who put the bits and pieces together from personal research from various materials online.