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Some of you men shud be ashamed of urselves
SMH in pity

VGA:
Have always said this going to church to tost a girl is a waste of time. hay ya sorry am busy now, have got assignment etc.
all this girls u see in church I"ll tell you now they have boyfriend. believe me you. That's y i dont give a poo about a girl
in shirt i just go and walk out aint got time to socialise nonsesen e.g. r u coming to youth fellowship, this and that. i just lied and
walk out. have tend to realise all this girls r just there to waste your time and talk poo about no kissing in your relation etc
enough said i need to fly to bed

What are u on abt bro?

ravenzord:
Erm, I'm actually not saying U don't appreciate him, I'm just corroborating your statement, dig?

Lol . . my bad

daylae:
@tope2000
if everyday should be val,many guys will go bankrupt!

OMG . . . .do ppl have to spend money on each other b4 they both realise they love n appreciate one another
I would rather snggle up in bed with my partner and watch movies n munch on popcorns on val's day than anything else.

Lord help us ALL

ravenzord:
True talk, what if your lack of appreciation kills the relationship before Val came around? People never get the flowers while they can smell'em.
Do you get now?

Ofcos i appreciate whateva he does and he knws how i feel abt the whole Val thing
The problem is why cant everyday be val . . . .do we have to wait till val b4 we appreciate each other? thats my question

ayettymama:
all this negativity surrounding women

at this young age
i know what ive been thru

because of the nuisances called men!

i mean hw many of u deserve good women? thru the work u do, thru the way u behave?? by your simple reasoning??

now the next thing is to start calculating and strategizing relationships??

*shakes head in disgust*

when i tell people i see men as toys to **ck and drop

they calll me crazy

ill just direct them here!!

men that have nothing- do nothing and are worth nothing

think they can talk anywho!!

kmt

Im off|!

I am sorry but u've just happened to be with assholes.
the ones that take the whole submission thing to a another level

platinumnk:
Samson submitted to Deliah and cut his hair hahahhahaha

Lol . .excatly why God said women shud be submissive not men
And some reasons why some men dont love girls too much or show them how much they love them.

ravenzord:
True talk, what if your lack of appreciation kills the relationship before Val came around? People never get the flowers while they can smell'em.

I dont get

platinumnk:
But what exactly are we submitting to?
Like what?

Well, there is no book that lists what we have to be submissive to. every relationship is different so . . . .  
when u get married, u'd figure it out

platinumnk:
no way, as long as there are men like elrazour there is still hope

Men like elrazur will prolly ask you to pay 50% of the bills too

Submission is a word which can be described and defined as "willing conciliation." That means that the wife should be "willing," not coerced. Wives are to respect their husbands. Husbands are to be considerate of and respect their wives. Both partners should be willing to "put the other's interests above his/her own" as Philippians 2 describes. The woman should be willing to submit to her husband not be unwilling or forced. The man should be a loving, servant leader – accountable and responsible to God and his family. A loving leader leads –doesn't manipulate or pressure. A submitter doesn't "take over."

It didnt say anything abt slavery, did it?

davidylan:
the funny thing is that the idea isnt even western!  The women's lib movement is what brought about the 50-50 ideas and we see where that has landed them. 50% of US marriages end up in divorce within 2 yrs (now that is a 50 50 right there).

You'd be surprised that white girls are way more submissive than black girls, i've had white girls who wont even let you lift a finger or go near the kitchen . . . and they have degrees and dont consider themselves your slaves.

Acutally i have noticed that too.
The fact is no matter how bitter, most relationship i have seen ended up in divorce cuz of this 50-50 thing. it became like a competition btn a husband and wife . . ,  like who can do better
Truth is 2 ppl cant rule . . one has to rule while the there take the seat but always behind him to keep him check.
they say behind every successful man there is a woman, it didnt say beside
And behind every successful woman is there a MAN? guess having it all is a MYTH

[quote author=Tink_sh link=topic=396243.msg5491297#msg5491297 date=1265843043]Just a tip, us women have a way to make you think you are in control but we are the ones pulling the strings, lol!!!! The joke is on you!!![/quote]THank you . . finally another woman who understand. Most men knws without us they cant even find their boxers. we are the one controlling the house God created us because he knws how useless they wud be without us

David leave Plat alone jor, she is still young and she has this western ideas abt marriage, very soon they will all change.

PLAT, see what u dont knw is that men may be the head of the household but its the women that control the house very soon u will begin to learn hun

submission is not slavery, yes some guys think it means they can rule you. those are the types u shud run away from.

To be honest i dont see the fuss either
My bf was telling what i wanted today, i just told him to choose anything and not go outta his way to please me.

My problem with val is why shud some one or ppl choose a day for us to love and appreciate our partners.

platinumnk:


** throws degrees in trash**

Sigh, I guess its to sit here and wait for a rich man because Im nothing more than a baby-maker

I guess if everybody was "homemakers" then we wouldnt have Refrigerators, computers, (Grace Hopper)

Tell me you darl . . . . nobody will demand submission from you more than a RICH guy Infact they will rule you.

Will u stop look at dictionary for the word submission plat
Yeash some guys are ASSHOLE and they take the submission thing to a whole new level but the fact still remains that women are to be sumissive to their husband and MEN are the head of their household. .  .its in the BIBLE.

platinumnk:
So the woman would have to do all the compromising and the guy just sit there?

Man! Im the wrong se*  then  

In most cases YES, It sucks yeah
i mean who gives up their careers usually to take care of the children?
When the woman forsake the home for 50-50 (why cant do the same as my partner), she is really putting her family in danger. Having it all is a myth. God made us with a purpose and assigned us our roles.

Paul said the woman to build home and the man provide for the home through the participation of the marketplace . . . . even in the bibile there is nothing like 50-50

Women were made of to be MEN'S HELPER. it says so in genesis hun

alafin:
Hello house,

This for real and i'm really up for it, i'm getting married next year and as the situation is right now my future wife wants us to get it done at Greece this coming summer yet she doesn't know i'm a virgin cos she ain't not. Now i need a lady who is interested in doing it with me to contact me on

eb.dada2070@yahoo.co.uk i'm now in UK for just a month so she has to be living here right now. The reward is 2000 pounds sterling. Send your profile including your pics, email plus phone number thanks.

D.em don shepe for you tey tey

As painful or annoying it may sound
There is nothing like 50-50 in a relationship. I dont knw abt anybody else ooo
cuz there cant be two bosses in a house, as long as my opinions n idea are respected and i am respected. i am fine.

Relationship invloves alot of compromise n scarifies so therefore there is nothing like 50-50.

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=395396.msg5482335#msg5482335 date=1265740838]@ jaybee

The keyword I used was "EMOTIONAL" not "PHYSICAL".

Wow, he easily gets angry quickly, his anger knows no bound, his Mum's aware of this, her Mum's aware of this, he's been counselled by the Pastor several times and he is quick to apologise yet goes and does it again, and again and again, luxoire's already walking on eggshells, having to watch her choice of words in order not to set him off, she's not allowed to have a general random conversation with her own Mother about people who have relocated, he does not value her opinion and wants his input on every matter pertaining to both of them to be final, leaving her with no say on anything AND YOU DEEM THIS "SILENT TREATMENT".

I love the way Naija men likes closing ranks and rallying round themselves, lol.



@ OP


Marriage is supposed to be about partnership, with both parties able to zing off each other, rub minds together, be full of laughter and taking the mickie outta one another, having in-jokes between you two, looking out for each other, not having to feel like you are giving up your dreams or making do, with each party respecting each other's decision even if they are different, etc, not about one party having to pander all the time to the whim of the other nor having a Sherpherd and a sheep relationship.

Your situation is not ideal for now, so why not try advise him to attend anger management classes, at least it is not different from him visiting the Pastor for counselling.[/quote]I agree with everything u have said

@post
Anger may be his only weak point but it is also a very strong emotion . anger can spoil alot of things n also the guy is childish and arrogant.

michelin89:
Guys are whores.

excatly my point to chiogo

chiogo:
LOL you people are crazy!! 12 pages on this virginity matter? Nairaland never disappoints!! 

@topic, all I know is that I won't marry a man-ho. 

So are u sayin u want a virgin?
cuz all these guys have been a ho at one point in their lives

ayettymama:
theres pklenty of us but we dont go for big bellied men!!!!!

tee hee hee

I dey suspect jaquan oo, he only appears when some1 mentions his name

Kunbee:
To what

U know what and prolly money

A woman can be short, its a SIN for a man to be short