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Oliviaarims:
Yes, I have.

Good..then hold on to it tight, good luck

Oliviaarims:
So,I've come to the realization that finding that one person that really suits u isn't so easy...Everybody's got standards and wish very much amongst other things that they find someone who levels up to those set standards,but how easy is that? How many people really do find people that are "perfectly" compatible with them? Let's not begin to delude ourselves that when a person chooses a partner to settle down with,it means he's finally found the bone of his bones .So many go through the herculean journey and still never find exactly what they are looking for,so they settle 4 the next best thing..or the very worst thing.

And please,enough of "there are so many fishes in the water." Yeah,right there are so many fishes out there,but not all of them are available to u. You may never get to see 80/90% of them,and from the available 10/20%, you wouldn't find quite a good number desirable by you..the ones you find desirable may not find you desirable....and from the very minute percentage that might find u worth taking a chance with,there comes the compatibility issues. Finding who amongst these lot is the "perfect" one for you.

Talking about that one person with whom you can be your true self and he/she would love you just like that.

# He knows your flaws and accepts them as a part of you.

# He knows your weaknesses and does not take advantage of them.
# Spurs you to become a better person and achieve your best in whatever you choose to do.
# He sees your shortcomings and knows that with time you'll conquer them.

# He respects you and you respect him.
# There's a good level of understanding between you both and when you fight,you always find a way of resolving it.
# Compromise isn't a problem... You make sacrifices and he makes sacrifices.

# He's no control freak. He allows you live your life the way you want it and corrects you when you start going wrong,without spite.
# There are things he expects of you and he tells you...waiting patiently to see the change happen. He doesn't just give up on you.

# When he loves you and knows you love him back,he doesn't toy with your heart.
# There are no shady deals. You are both transparent with each other.
# He's erred before,apologised and promised to change and he did change......
# He's loyal..he makes you feel special,he doesn't hide his true feeling from you...

The list is endless...We all have those things we are looking out for in a man or woman,and when we find those things, does it make any sense to sacrifice such a relationship because we want to explore other possibilities? Because we think there are so many fishes out there? Perhaps for one or two inconsequential shortcomings that can naturally be dealt with or which will fade away with time....

In summary, take ur time to look carefully and make only the right choice of a partner,there's no need lowering ur standards for anybody because you'll simply end up "putting up with" or "managing " ur partner/relationship rather than enjoying it... And when eventually you find all or most of what you're looking for,concentrate on developing and sustaining ur relationship rather than looking for the next exit when you encounter a little storm,simply because "there are many fishes out there."

No matter how beautiful or talented or rich u are,not everybody out there is meant for you.

Have you found yours yet?most times that which we seek is right in front of us but we don't see it..

Well nobody wants to put all their eggs in one basket if they are not certain where the relationship is headed..First of all if you think you can wife her then seat her down and tell her there is a possibility of a future with her if all goes well and she does her part..and tell her you won't tolerate a cheating gf and after that watch her closely for a while if she still keeps d side nigger then u better move ahead and find another girl to wife..

dante300:
wherever u are or what u do may God visit u with blessings...u are a reasonable human beign. Thank u to a fault

Amen..thanks

Keep yourself busy and discard anything and everything that reminds you of him,and meet new people or hangout with friends,especially male folks that would flirt with u and remind u that u are beautiful and still very much desirable, but don't av sex with them,good luck sha ul be fine

My brother Ss is not a death sentence, a lot of people die everyday who are AA and are supposedly 'healthy"..besides in case u don't know,there is a cure for the disease now,its different from the previous bone marrow thing, even tho its kinda similar..as long as u guys love each other genuinely then I'll advice u to go ahead and wife her asap before someone beats u to it,this life is just crazy,u could end up with a wife who is not Ss and she will make ur life hell,happiness is all that matters in life,I'll rather be very happy with someone even if its just for a few secs than to be miserable with another for a lifetime.. choose wisely

enellcy:
was tempted to comment,please don't be deceived, she is not d one @dp...I wonder wen guys will stop creating different profiles on NL using female municker, is dis a transgender act? it is so wrong.. (pls am not referring to the OP)

Hmm wow..I guess its all about fraud, its easier scamming people if you pose as a female so that's probably why a lot of guys are here using females pics and moniker.. na wa o,thanks for the heads up tho,am glad u got tempted to comment

enellcy:
I just received this text now ooo
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"Hi.Nelly hw are u, hop fine. my name is chukwu Paul O. Ur Kope mate@Rvs State I was working befor service wit shell (SPDC) R/S P/H. There is an employment going on now. would u like 2 apply? If yes Cal Dr charles tell him i send u 08160227355 Is very urgent. Goodluck."

I don't even know this individual.. Yeah i am fresh out of service... Served in rivers state, this is just a scam.. My sister received such message after her service... And they wanted her to pay a certain amount of money to purchase a form.
Let us be careful,, it is just to extort money..from us. SHELL ko SHELL ni

Lol..yours was just a text?mine were several calls o..I played along with the idiots sha and helped burn their airtime..we can never be too careful o

adasexie:
it's normal guys are scared of pretty girls.....if I told you when I had my first official b.f you won't believe..tell her not to get all worked up....they'll eventually come around ...Desperation would only earn her a heartbreak.

Well I looked up ur profile cos I was curious to know if u are truly in any position to give advice based on experience.. anyway u look petit..tiny and carry able are u?abi na just d picture?

You really need to get your head checked..hmm I wonder what could have gone through your head to prompt you to do this?smh..some things are meant to be kept to oneself.. The human mind is truly Amazing.. I hope your sniffing doesn't land you in trouble some day,anyway good luck with that tho..

magneto:
COMPLIMENTS OF THE SEASON my lovely people!!! Sorry for the break in transmission ooo ....I've missed dis place like crazy, feels so good to be back from d land of no internet service. Wow, so many posts to read....so many new peeps to meet! Lemme just start by wishing everyone a wonderful and exciting xmas celebration!! Joy to the world y'all!

Shout out to all my ppl dat make dis thread a pleasure to come back to everytime... Siamia, toks2008, udysweet, missbronze, ddshow, nouvelle, halexito, gratefulme40, torqque7, melsan, blessedbeads, myminder, sparkle003, fourfunmi, klassic, bisjosh, sonofananimal, bluepearls, milychocs, zubinike, venusbetty, neoapocalypse, vivaciousvivi, u guys are the best!!

Abeg no vex if I no remember ur name to mention, my brain don full ryt now but I'll sure remember to hail u Ltd ...oya let me go back and read comments.

You are sighted bro..welcome back,compliments of the season hope you the tackle the harmattan well lol,oya try find wife o,av fun..

osedvgirl:
if it is human now, them for don kiss since

Your signature is hilarious to me..and interesting too,your sense of humour must be Amazing lol..thumbs up!!

mizquote:
A guy can't break my heart..

its not possible.

#it-takes-two to play d game.

Wow really?I tot I was the only feeling it was scientifically, spiritually and physically impossible for a girl to break my heart o..so there's a female feeling same way..nice to know

1. Award a contract to complete the staircase of the Tower of Babel to Heaven.

2. Uproot and tow the kaaba all the way from Mecca to Abuja.

3. Recall every existing copy of the Bible, Quran, The Book of The Dead and the Bhagavad Gita and edit them to include the immortal phrase: 'Stealing is not Corruption'.

4. Buy fertility drugs and distribute to Almajiris for free as soon as they reach puberty. Prayers will increase exponentially, and the faithful will outnumber the kaffirs at the polls.

5. Pay tithes on behalf of your unborn children to the 300th generation to the slickest pastorpreneur in your state, in order to ensure their perpetual prosperity

Five count charge under Senator Na'Allah's new Idiot Bill is quite enough. Add your own

6. Undertake and pay d Children school fees of d chief imam from Nursery to post graduate level on d condition dt d imam does a weekly fast on his behalf

7. sets up modern Sango shrine complete with WIFI

8. Build a new tarmac for easy take off and landing of awon ma'ami.

9.relocate all onile orita in Nigeria to banana Island with one duplex each.

10. Build an exotic animal farm for all those elusive and bizarre creatures babalawos demand for rituals.

11. Relocate the chief Imam in Saudi and the Pope both to Abuja or where ever the prayers are to be held in Nija

12. Finally purchase a return ticket to heaven via arik airline

spellingcheck:
but even in a sane society like the 'US' dogs especially pig bull are shot to death by officers, go on youtube you will see different videos. Even bears are killed too...it happen everywhere

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yes but pit bulls are not special..they can be got easily even if u want 200 of them u can get them so they are not valuable like the lion in Nigeria and jos for that matter..and bears too can easily be found in your backyard in some states in america so they are not as special too..jos a the town that desperately needs to attract people with tourism then they are killing the little one they have left?smh its a shame...if u watch national geographic or animal planet ul see that even snakes are rescued rather than killed becos they are exotic animals let alone a lion..common India self that a tiger entered a village and still attacked people was tranquilized not killed and they have a lot of tigers in the jungles of India but they are exotic and endangered animals so they knew tranquilizer was the best option.. we really need to get our priorities right,they shouldn't have a lion when they have no tranquilizers for emergency situations..

onatisi:
if there was no darts what about large hunting nets .so you think if a reward of 100k was placed on catching the lion alive ,the same ppl that killed it today wouldn't have captured it alive ?

Bro chop knuckle.. u make plenty brain joor..

spellingcheck:
but the lion could easily attack farmers, school children etc....

The jos wild life park is not really in a place where there are schools or farmers around and the park is big so the lion probably was killed around there..the issue is that a game reserve this big with wild animals of such should have tranquilizers for situations like this..this just goes to prove how incompetent the Nigerian system is

Idrismusty97:
Majestic creature? Until it eat you or your little ones. Just like that majestic dog somewhere in Lagos that chew a little boy skull for lunch. The OP didn't post the entire details, we don't know if the lion was hostile to the community. You don't show love to animals that want to eat you. And before you start with the "Africa are local" stuff, This is Russia shooting dead a bear that wandered into a shopping mall. http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-34535577
And yea it wasn't with tranquilizer, They should have used the tranquilizer and wait for the bear to have a nice sleep while chewing on a policeman head like lollipop.

The are two different scenarios pls..do you know how difficult it would be to get another lion here?besides it was not in the mall like the bear so its not like there were people all around for it to attack..a bear is not a big deal in a place like Russia,but where will we easily get a replacement for the lion in Nigeria?

buygala:
Bad behaviour isn't tribe-dependent


Anyway, going by op's pishure, I think it's the guy who needs our counselling and advice, not the op ....She looks like a professional destiny-killer

Rotfl..this really got me laughing hard..professional destiny killer.. ..can't get over that part lol

QueenDaisyy:
Thanks for your contribution.

I aggree that I was reckless, But This could have happened to anybody.

Keep telling yourself that..it would console you with time from the actual truth that you is a hoe..even the drug story you just threw that in to make it convenient for you to open your legs,you were always a horney bitch on the loose and the guy helped your life..if it was a guy that f#cked ur friend now we won't hear the last of it o and they will the shouting guys can't control themselves.. [

Hideme:
10.

I was totally confused, this her new behaviour was strange. We have had more serious issue than this but she has never even threatened to block me or it has never been this serious. My concern mostly is I don't know how what I said can me so annoying to this point.

I spoke to my friends about it, and they all advised to to move on (as usual). One told me to send her a text and I wrote

"Hi there! Well I just text to say, I'm sorry, I know its not what you want to hear cos actually, you don't want to hear anything from me, well I consider this new attitude of yours very very strange too, but I guess the least I can do now is not to convince you, but to pray for you. Be sure I would. But also try to keep away from Abel, so as you've kept me away, cos I am very convinced he is the reason for all these. And even tho I'm no longer important to you now. I just want you to live the best life you can. Wale"

My friends help me reduce the shock and pressure. So I was quite okay. I prayed for her in the night and this morning also. I'm not sad she broke up with me, I'm sad about the manner she did, and time(considering all that is happening), I'm okay to move on and forget her but my fear is, I might be right, she might had been charmed, and if this is true, I am the only one that knows which leaves me in the position of the only person that can save her.

I'm really confused. Should I leave her? Is it normal? Do you think she is 100% okay? Do you think I was the one at fault and I deserve everything? I'm I just being too scared?

And (to her only)
If you're reading this now, and you figure out its you, please, pretend like you did not see it. You have placed me in fear already, and I'm just here to reduce that. Sorry if I had to let out a lot of private stuffs.

Thatz it!

Hmm dude sorry about ur issue but u caused ur problem ur self,first of all u made her believe the other guy was more of a man than u cos u were scared of him and insecure,females are attracted to confidence,and u obviously r lacking in that department, I know it happens when u love someone but these days u love also with brain to survive and win,I also learnt the hard way like u b4,and u tolerated too much crap,i cant imagine my girl friend having the guts to tell me she likes another dude let alone kissed him,that day na she by herself go go hang herself when i finish with her,what rubbish ?sorry to tell u but that guy has fu*cked ur girl so move on,she has bin lookin for a way to discharge u since,u just refused to read the signs she gave u..BTW shez not worth u so kick her to the curb girls plenty now stop acting like a weakling and grow some balls..Goodluck

udysweet:
Hmm so much for love,dis my sweetheart. U disapiad frm d group,and of cos der was a limit to howmuch I cld ask of u in der,safety precautions,lol! And again I ran away o,dis time reasons were genuine o,no further comment. And if I ddnt mention u here now,u for no find me,chai am sad#heartbroken# I miss u plenty o,get intouch pls. And now na u wan punish me? Chai see as d tables hav turned,loool!

lol hmm my dear sorry I didn't just disappear from the group anyway like I mentioned b4 I was just a bit occupied and u sef know that ur our sweet merry sunshine so I it was only a matter of time before i would come looking for you sweetheart, how is ur weekend going babe?

udysweet:
fourfunmi glad to know that.
nouvelle i jus saw ur mention on the diaries section,lool. so u learnt MBOK from me? chai no go use am for oyinbo o,lol! If it were naija,u can just go in to any good nail place and come out wit nice looking nails. talking abt nails been a longtime i did one,maybe i'll try one soon.
bleble seems you re my colleague in beadmaking o but i am thinkin you into wireworks more right? nice one dear. halexito hows it goin?
pls oo i havent heard from Torqque7, pls reply lets know you are fine mbok
aight take care all,kisses

Hello sweetheart, how u dey na?hmm don't mind me I have bin a bit busy lately.. u ehnn u ran away again Abi?if I catch u ehnn its me that will give the punishment this time lol..miss you plenty o

mdbissalla:
^^^ @ Ops. These are words of young & small boys that are still wondering about.

By the time u get married, you will know better.

Don't feel insulted pls, I am just trying to say the truth. Chikena!

I beg to differ..he is just been honest and its the truth,everyone just bashing him here and there especially the females because its the bitter truth that's not in their interest,I agree with the O.P but then maturity has to come in play here because if you keep that at the back of your mind you will never be satisfied in life,self control matters,you can't av everything you want in life because things change daily,you will buy a big car today,by tomorrow there would be a better one made so does that mean you will keep buying them everyday?the answer is capital NO..in as much as I agree with the Ops honesty I believe we need to learn to be contented with what we have,simple as that,and surely as you are tired of her everyday she also is tired of you but we all have to compromise simple as that..

Charlesamino:
What are d requirements to meet to b added to d group?

Be 30years and above and serious minded about what you want(serious relationship)

Tobmar:
Happy new month to u all. I'm interested in joining d whatsapp group

If you ate interested go through the previous chats the number is there send a text requesting for add up,pls note you have to fit the requirements or qualified before you can be added

udysweet:
@Ronke001 happiest bday dearie,wish you all of life's best. We officially welcome you to d 30s club. Abg I don dey crave cake since like who preggy,lol. So do well to send a nice chunk of cake to me mbok. Enjoy ur day dearie.
@Halexito,aight sweets,do hav a great day
@Torqque7 where art thou?

Hi dear..how u dey?I hope the trad wedding didn't overstress you?happy new month

shay101:
If you feel it will pass, have you been in such or do you know anyone that has been and how did he get over it?

My brother I have been in the same situation ohh and eventually I realised I was in the relationship for the wrong reasons and wasn't really attracted to her,I had to end it and ever since my sex life has been on point,don't lie to yourself and stop attaching sentiments to the situation cos deep down inside you,you know what turns u off about her so the earlier you move ahead the better for you two..Godspeed..

pet4ril:
hahaha abeg I join you for the Amen oooooo

Na wa o..but what if the babe is now so far away and you've lost communication? shey person no fit pray for himself to break any curse??haba its not fair now not every relationship will end in marriage so cursing an ex for leaving is not fair on us at all..hmm I fear woman sha o,she can have an evil spirit and not know it? na wa o beats me that its just the females that are always possessed or have evil spirits,you hardly hear that about a guy,God help us

pet4ril:
Use your tongue to count your teeth... hope you didn't offend any lady in the past that were seriously heart broken and possibly she made some silly statements which you overlooked and thought it was nothing? my dear, if you did, please look for her/them and tender apologies because some girls are carrying spirits that deals with someone if you make them cry and it may be unknown to the ladies that they possess such spirit

Jesus..for real?hmm but women hurt guys too now and we hardly swear for them so why should they?hmm I am covered with the BLOOD OF JESUS O..amen

udysweet:
@halexito,my broda I jus live my life o. I do hav issues(trust me,a lot of down moments too) but will I come and pile it on someone's head here?No! I try to spread my happiness here too,u knw sprinkle d joy round. I cnt pick holes or fight someone or create trouble for no reason. Na matured minds we all be here jare. If my happiness radiates arnd and is able to affect pple here,by all means,I'll keep up the good work.
@Toks2008,o da o,e sha ma ko agidi b'ori bi fan emeka,lol(tribute to d late Gbenga adeboye in one of his funny recordings) eyin na e ma ni suuru ni igba mi jo,se gbo gbo oro oun ni e ma ma dahun ni?
@ddshow,how u dear,pls I like to knw hear dat story#suspense mode#lol
@klassik,dis my sweetheart,you hav gone quiet o,come and mak a post wen u see dis,amd waiting.
@torqque7,na ur hand e dey o. I don say mak u com see my "baba" na. Delay is dangerful o,lol! If person snatch me,u beta be ready to buy aso ebi for d wedding and you must attend,lol!
And then for those of us in Lag,esp working on d island,I specifically pray for you all,may God seal come upon you,exempting you from all evils. Spate of traffic robberis is increasing. Just got an info abt robberies arnd iyana oworo,3rd mainland bridge. I cover us with the blood of Jesus,we shall not lose our lives neither our valuables to dis dis daredevil men of the underworld,can I get an Amen!
Hav a splendid and fantabulous day(phew dat was an epistel sha,lol)

Haba sweetheart.. you are already breaking my heart when I have not come to steal u yet..hmm maybe I should pally with your younger brother so that he will protect my interest and chase all those suspicious snatchers.. hhmm a beg no waka anyhow go where them the rob o..u be like better Aje way go begin cry before them even shout or slap u..plss we don't want damaged goods so take care o,away from too much sun too..howz your day miss happy sunshine?

darkskingoddess:
Thanks love.
My secret is coconut oil! And I drink lots of water lol.

Ohh coconut oil..nice.. you should consider a carrier in modeling, you could be the next Naomi Campbell you know.. and then you could hire me as your manager ..but for real tho modeling will suit you