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johhnnie:
You may be right.

However, sometimes, once kids are involved, there are sacrifices to be made.

The case is no more about the couple at loggerheads. But more about the kids that are products of the union.

My philosophy has always been that, whatever social strata your ex spouse belongs to will always affect the upbringing of your children.

Even though, we don't live together, I still want the best for them.

Whatever the story that is told to them, once they are of age, I believe they will be matured enough to put things in the right perspectives.

The story is better told and understood by people with first hand experiences.

Personally, I think the court wedding is over rated.

I will sincerely advise young folks never to sign that document.

You can do traditional wedding. And, if there is true love, I see no reason for court wedding ( I.M.O).

See, I went through Hell.

I will not like to make public the details.

Anyone who needs counseling can send me an e.mail.

It's high time men were there for men.

Let there be a movement whereby men ( real/responsible men) will stand up for men and not against men ( I mean men who were/are truly abused and violated).

I suspect my 3rd child is not mine. But for peace of the mind, I have decided out of my own free will to be responsible for all of them.

I still have my life before me. We might have gone our separate ways. However, the kids were not asked to be borne. As such, as much as possible we must take up those responsibilities as real men as much as we can and as long as we have the means.

I do not condone domestic violence and abuse against women but the stories must always be set straight.

I have seen the following happen:

1. A woman took her wedding invitation to her ex boyfriend. They ended up having s3x.

2. A woman on her wedding night had s3x with her bestie colleague at work in thesame hotel she booked for the wedding.

3. A housewife paid for a hotel where she had romps with her lover.

4. A married woman while in a hotel for s3x romps with her lover picked her husband's call and spoke calmly as if nothing was amiss

5. Etc and etc, etc, etc

6. Don't get me wrong, there are good marriages out there. And, God bless those couples.

7. If it's not working, it is not working......

Wow some humans can be very wicked sha..same hotel with husband and ex..my God,I fit vex kill person o cos I'd be so so mad..hmm Godforbid sha..but most times when things like these happen I blame the husband because there is no way he wouldn't have seen signs no matter how little,but he felt he could overlook it and she may change after marriage or because he is so desperate to have her he would do all he can to wife her.

There was a story that one guy used money to snatch another guys girl and wanted to marry her and got approval from her parents because he was richer than her bf,she told him she wasn't ready for marriage but oga forced her into it,only for him and her to be seated during their wedding reception and she said she wanted to pee and left and was taking too long to return so husband went looking and caught her and her ex fvcking in the toilet,na so reception scatter o and during a family meeting she said she told him she never loved him but he kept pushing and forcing her so that was the result..so sometimes some of these men deserve this things.

Adebowalay:
it happened in front of me...i was there live!!!!!

When e happen?and how the matter take end abeg?una no beat the bestman for there?

Romanoff:
No now. That's why I said Co parenting. Of course he'd have access to his kids. They belong to both of them. In the case I mentioned, the man chose to walk away and got married to someone else after having four kids with his baby mama.

Sad thing is it's the baby mama's father that even helped him get the job.

Wow after 4kids?thats sad..but maybe if u hear his side of the story u would understand y he left..I feel the wife must have been very disrespectful to him couple with the fact that her dad got him a job so she probably looked down on him and he couldn't take it anymore thats y he left after 4kids..

johhnnie:
My dear, we are in thesame boat.

I experienced something similar but in a different dimension.

Men, depending on the kind of women you got married to.... do not be overly expressive about your children. Do not always provide upfront. Let there be demand sometimes before you provide.

I used to stock the house for 6 months at a stretch. Daily needs etc . Apart from weekly upkeeps. These apart from other comforts such 24/7 light ( heavy solar installations with 2 stand by gen sets just in case

Next school fees already paid upfront before the end of the current term.

Madam showed me pepper.

Her boyfriend colluded with her to draw up a domestic violence case against me ( The legal fee came from the weekly upkeeps I was giving to her) . They got a FIDA lawyer. The lawyer helped them to write a statement against me ( I cried so uncontrollably when I read that statement at the police station). They wrote about how we struggled to build houses together, who I was in the community and I use my position to oppress and maltreat her ( all made up). I was to walk into a trap ( she would frustrate me into beating her). But thank I did not. I got wind of the plan ahead. So I made sure I didn't go home alone that day.

Thesame guy ;madam had approached me about to lend both of them money for an import and export business. I knew something was fishy. But my security was more important .


Writing my statement was easy. Cos, everything poured down naturally. A woman I saw through a private University from the scratch.

We were called in for interview. The rest was history.

I believe the lawyer that represented her was so ashamed when the truth came out. I was even the one that transfered the legal fees balance to the lawyer when madam and her collaborators could not come up with ( of my own volition though)

She took my children away for 2 moths plus with her father's consent ( the usual practice anytime she wanted to deal with me.. she knew I would be a nervous wreak if I didn't have access to my kids for an extended period).

Lots of manipulations. Like, trying to recondition my kids against me. They would intentionally not pick my calls nor allow my kids to call anytime my kids made such requests. See, I nearly committed suicide on at least two occasions. The fact that I made sure I was not home alone prevented that from happening.

The school fees for that term was wasted. I had paid ahead as usual. And, the issue happened right at the beginning of the term.

Well, I made sure that they didn't return to the house. I rented a newly built apartment and equipped it for them to a standard that I knew my kids will appreciate. I made sure that she has no knowledge of where my properties etc are located.

I gave her investment fund to start a business.

One day, I asked her why the other guy disturbing her or even her father didn't give her money for business or the legal fees to prosecute the case.

She was dumbfounded. Her father only gave 3k in all.

At the end of the day, my fears were laid to rest.

They played on her stupidity to obtain me. Most especially the guy that she thought was showing her care and affection ( supposedly).

Her pastor was also involved. I have some recordings to that effect. Her pastor telling her to record our conversations and forward same to him. Her pastor offering her strategies. I asked her why didn't the call us together for truce if at all something was wrong

The conclusion here, is that lot of the time, it is actually the men ( most especially the responsible ones) that are going through serious domestic violence and abuse)

However, because the society has been conditioned to think otherwise

Sorry to say sir,but ur kindness has been taken for weakness,if u want things to change then u also need to be hard sometimes..u are too nice(weak)that is why the lady in question will continue to frustrate u using ur kids..u even had to pay her lawyer for fighting u,who does that?to impress who or prove what?that is not called been a good man but a mumu in the eyes of everyone,then u went ahead to open a biz for her again?hmm na wa o..God will help u

Romanoff:
I have lived with people in similar situations.

One of them let her husband take the kids away. Today, she's alone, miserable and can't even tell where her kids are. For the kids to not reach out to her in these days of social media, I wonder what awful things they must have been told about their mother.

Another took her baby daddy to court and got him to pay fees while she handled the rest. Now that the man is even out of job, she's the one hustling to care for them.

I run advocacy on issues like these as well as child literacy, legislative processes and SDGs, trust me, I know what I am talking about.

No man in his right mind will agree to send money to his baby mama when he is not allowed access to them. That been said I bet u she doesn't let him see his kids otherwise he would gladly support and take care of them and won't give such conditions..Most baby mamas are very wicked and vindictive because the guy refused to marry them so the use his kids to make life miserable for him..sha men don de wise,u can't eat ur cake and have it..if she like make she continue to hide the kids,a time will come when the kids will look for their father by themselves,its just natural and will definitely happen.

DirtyGold:
This thread is annoying me sef

Well done captain save a hoe... if she was so great, she won't be divorced now! Fresh girls are turning 18 every single day but, your sense failed you so badly that you had to marry a single mother of two.

No sensible man throws away a good woman that gives him peace especially if they have children together. Don't worry, what her former husband saw and divorced her, you'll see it too in due time.
How you people manage your situation is your headache.

What's tha business?

Baba,funny thing is she wasn't even married to the man,she was just his babys mama,he didn't state it anywhere that she is a divorcee o,the niga married a single ho.e who got fvcked a million times and birthed 2kids and got dumped..simping on a whole new level..make him carry him wahala..him never see anything yet,a lady with 2KIDS..like wtf

This shithole isn't safe anymore even for the rich..imagine Governors been attacked always as well as monarchs and billionaires..watin normal citizens wan come do kwanu?they even executed this act in a crowded environment chai it is finished.

Candidlady:
Lmao

Men will always be men... Nothing else comes to mind but puna

Anyways my ink is around my thigh area

Before what do u want men to be again na?puna is the reason we have di.ks na,God knew puna is very very important and needed by men thats y he shapely made eve after he saw how oga Adam wanted to die of morning wood..only problem is oga Adams morning wood,come turn 24/7 wood. Ur thigh area,hmm oya Come show me

Candidlady:
Thank God my ink is where they can't see it

I'd love to confirm if what u say is true,meet me in ze other room ASAP,nairalanders are waiting for my report on this ur claims,dnt be late.

Theunbothered:
Does that give soldiers the right to kill them?

Bros people respond to things differently,you don't know what his wife did to him at home or what kind of issues he has that can make him act irrationally so AVOID UNNECESSARY wahalas,person wey don die don die and can't fight for any right in the ground..Every body is angry in this country but that of soldiers dey on steriods cos of how they are suffering and getting wasted anyhow and NOT allowed to resign,bro just try not to get on anyones bad side this period o,common sense is nolonger applied in nija.

That may not be the real story,I have alot of igbo friends but mean igbo guys are not straight forward when it comes to biz,once ur money enter their hand,even if u both agree that u can return the goods and ul be refunded,walahi them go job u turn turn u after u return the goods and it will take the grace of God to get ur refund.

Thats how I bought a 3hp big standing a.c and some other gadgets of about 500k from one idiot like that and he forced me to take a hanger for the split unit to hang outside for 5k and I told him I won't need it,he convinced me to try and if I dnt find a good place to hang it I should return it back and he would refund me the 5k,my people 5k only o,as I return am cos the walls where not strong to fix that big split,baba begin give me story after he say I should drop my account number for transfer o..stories for over 1 week until I told him him no get sense,cos I bought goods over 500k and I told him il be buying deep freezers and a gen too but him wan spoil all that just cos of small 5k refund wey hard am..na so he begin beg come send me my money sharp sharp after almost 2weeks..same experience with double POS transactions for igbo man shop,to refund be them like say them wan sacrifice their generation..Godforbid.

Modafucker with hairy balls trying to defraud horney ass guys .. spits

Very shameful...

Dirty wizard..

Rahkman:
I wish i have pussy this life hard

;DLwtmb..when a man starts wishing he has a pus.sy then u know say matter don serious o..pu.ssy biz is good biz,just open wide and boom i don get alert Godwin.. infact some simps won't even wait for u to open wide b4 them credit u with 10m..oshey mr macorini lol

Shame..so with all her oloshoism and worldwide infamous reputation,she no even get money for funeral..watin she come dey sell p.u.ssy for the world for then?All these oloshos with all their olosho biz if them no fit build 3room and parlour for better city and get like 2decent cars from selling c.unt then them fvckup

Blackfire:
I think the useless rable rouser should be jailed, how dare he try to rubbish the name of a working govnor, thereby distracting him...

Ganduje(president)/ hope uzodima (V.P)2023


Quote me and watch DSS slap you

U yourself know what u just said is irritatingly senseless that is why u already expect people to quote u with insults hence the DSS talk..Anyway carry on with it.

Triton1996:
Prophet Joshua Iginla Exposes Plans By Pastors To Frame Him Up For Murder, Kidnap (VIDEO)

Plots by a powerful cartel to implicate and set up popular Abuja-based prophet, Joshua Iginla has been exposed.

The information available to us revealed that the syndicate being sponsored by high ranking Pastors have colluded with some ex-staff of the ministry who were sacked over gross misconduct to rope him with kidnapping and murder of two kids and two women.

We reliably gathered that the cartel hatched the plan to kidnap two kids from the children's department, kill them and bury them behind the bush in his church, Champions Royal Assembly at Kubwa, Abuja. After the parents of the missing children have reported the missing kids, a lady will be killed too and her friend who allegedly had been paid too would report to the police claiming her late friend's last port of call was Iginla’s church.

Two days after the report, another lady on their payroll would post her encounter on social media claiming Iginla threatened to kill her if she didn't keep the secret to herself. Sadly, unknown to her too, another person had been paid by the cartel to kill her so as to make it look like
Iginla did that as claimed by her. This would draw the attention of the police to Champions Royal Assembly where a witness in their payroll would attest to it that he had seen the missing kids in the church before and would lead them to where the kids were buried behind the church.

The plot by the carted is aimed at implicating Prophet Iginla with kidnap and multiple murders. These plots according to them would lead Iginla to jail and the closure of the ministry.
These wicked ploys were exposed by one of the newly employed staff of the ministry ( name withheld for security reasons) who was approached by the cartel to witness against Iginla when their plots are fully hatched.

In a series of chats made available to us, one of the arrowheads of the cartel with a pseudo name called Ebuka Kent, approached the young staff who was just employed a month ago to work for them for N7 million with the promise of flying him to the country of his choice once the dead was done and also pledged to place his parents on a monthly salary of N200,000.
Ebuka initially lured the lad with a mouth-watering offer of N3m as initial payment and a stay in any country of bis choice by their sponsor. The young boy thinking it was a drug business kindly turned down the offer. After much Cajoling, Ebuka opened up to him about the plot by the cartel to frame up Iginla.
The frightened boy who is just 19 years old, sent prophet Iginla an SMS requesting help. Iginla through his PA beckoned on him to see him at his office and that was when he confessed the whole saga to him with the evidence of their chats.

After consultations with a certain senior police officer in Abuja, the lad was advised to play along with them and he called to agreed that he was ready to be part of the cartel but insisted on nothing less than Seven million to carry out their wicked ploy. Ebuka agreed immediately but blocked the lad immediately he requested an initial deposit in cash and not transfer.
Confirming the incident, Iginla openly informed the members about the ungodly moves by so called clergy men and how the plot was exposed.

In his words, Iginla expressed sadness over the evils being perpetrated on the altar.
Furthermore, the young lad too in the video made available confirmed the tale as nothing but the truth .


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PV1HbiCGIWg

Poorly scripted man..this man is a joker lol,baba think say him de deal with kids or gulliblepeople like his followers..So people who want to keep the setup as top secret will foolishly chat leaving evidence of chat with the imaginary boy on what they want him to do to setup the fraudster and still tell him to keep it to himself even though they know he may reject their so called offer ..

There is a huge chance that this man has done something bad and some people are aware of it and he is scared it may be exposed by them soon and as a result he is quickly trying to do future damage control even b4 the scandal is out..I pity some so called prophets sha,worse still I pity his followers as I was one of his followers before discovering he is a fraud. People get mind sha de use God name run scam..All of his type will be exposed.Police should investigate this guy and search his church premises ASAP..

lawrenzooo:
Distance is a bit difficult as sometimes we would have to hold work related conversation...

Then u are NOT SERIOUS yet and be getting ready to be the next Ataga and chidinma news in town..U think after 6years with a son and only God know how many abortions then u will just up and leave her like that for who to marry an after one?telling us shit happened along the line?tell us what it was that happened 'ALONG THE LINE' Ogbeni if she didn't cheat on u then u have no right to ditch her now,IF na ur sister or daughter person do this one u go like am?and u want to ruin ur kids life abi let him be a product of a broken home

EMAXIM:
You guys should stop posting fake news, it's not a cult clash. It's a show of supremacy between 2 department. Those fine art boys too dey claim kiliwi nwachukwu

Bros u wey get the real story u for talk am full an instead of this half info wey u drop..I never say departments get beef sotay e reach blood matter based on supremacy..na wa o

redcliff:
why cant he not fly down to kenya. is he a fugitive there?

What are u saying?shey now them don catch am for there as e no be fugitive there? U think u are dealing with America or a developed nation that follow protocols abi?u are not serious neither is MNK. Knowing fully well the so called zoo don't have regards for law,protocol or human rights,then y in God's name will u even want to come close to their gate when u know its not safe FOR U at all in the whole African region let alone Kenya wey be backyard of nija?

This MNK no do well for himself at all. Which kind pu.s.sy or deal go make am looseguard this bad?kai it doesn't make sense to me except he just wanted to be caught sha and there is a bigger plan in play.

Exponential101:
While Kanu n your father already de jail O
Many of your Igbos are despicable to say the least. A tribe filled with cowards is waiting to see the only tribe put up any resistance are cowards. Like Ojukwu n Kanu ran off dressed in woman wrapper. IGBOHO is still here facing the Nigeria army n DSS alone n you are asking what tribe is filled with cowards n lunatics.

This here is exactly the reason why the fulanis are taking over,instead of the yorubas and igbos to join forces to fight a common enemy together then latter settle their scores,rather they fight each other foolishly. You can't singlehandedly achieve liberation from these wicked people,u MUST WORK TOGETHER IF U REALLY WANT LIBERATION.

Sense hard us for this nija. My former boss a Muslim told me to my face that we are foolish,especially the Christians in Nigeria,as much as I was not happy with that statement I knew he was right. He went on to explain to me why he said so. He said we are not united and hate each other while they Muslims and northerners have one voice. In my department we have 3bosses,2 are Muslims and one is a Christian woman.

My boss told me that do I know I was like the only Christian amongst 5muslims considered for the position?and instead of my so called Christian boss to fight for me,she was busy asking them if there are no more qualified candidates amongst the other 5(muslims)knowing fully well i was the only Christian name on the list. He then asked me what we spend hours learning in church if we can't fight for our own?he said in the mosque they are told how to help each other so they can dominate and rule us. Its a shame that they are smarter all round than we are,and that's why they will keep oppressing us until we get sense. I was so ashamed that day after the long talk with my boss.

Dpharisee:
The idiot used VPN which the useless attorney general said he will arrest VPN users

I was wondering how he had access to an app that his people banned and "criminalised" abi them don settle with twitter and we no hear ni?bunch of useless people as leaders who can't even lead by example..pathetic see as e be like lizard �

DrFunmisticGlow:
so a woman is supposed to change into another human being in the name of marriage and a man is not?

You sir are a hypocrite.

Whats doing this one?abi u no go school ni?where in my write up did u see me say a man shouldn't change for the better when married?u no sabi comprehend..if u like be a club head and junky as a single lady and continue same lifestyle when married,then u go learn by force lol. Where u sleep walking when u wrote about self improvement on ur profile signature?cos ur baseless argument here contradicts ur signature..choi some females and confusion na 5&6 ..come here joor let's go for lunch and argue some more .

Well u both were wrong,ur wife should have simply listened to u as her husband and as for those asking silly questions about if she wore skimpy dresses before he married her,so what if she was?the key word is before he married her,Now she is married so she can't still do that,its like saying since a man met a lady who was a club freak before marrying her then she should still continue that lifestyle as a married women..My only problem with the O.P is that he let his wife sleep outside exposing her to unspeakable danger,if something tragic would have happened to her,trust me u won't even care if she wore short gown or boxers again o..u are a married man so please think well before u act in ur marriage,2months is too early to start having such issues..and u shouldn't have posted ur pics with ur wife in a negative story like this. Goodluck

Rozcol:
She's the evil person here,why did she secretly do that behind me,this is someone she never said anything good about,that's betrayal of the highest order,there's more to what she's capable of doing

U say she never said anything good about the guy,but u didn't say she said bad things about him either did she?Well if u were condemning him in ur gist with her do u expect her to go contrary to ur stand as ur friend and say he is an angel? Anyway live ur life and let them live theirs,I dnt see y u should be making a fuss about this except u have some feelings for the guy.

Rozcol:
Yes I had to end my friendship with my once very good friend because she saw nothing wrong in dating someone who used to be so interested in me,that I turned him down isn't enough reason for her to date him,there are so many other guys she can date and it shows the guy does not genuinely love her else he wouldn't have come for me in the first place. I don't think it's cool for a close friend to go ahead and date someone who was once interested in her friend, its betrayal and also a sign that she doesn't know and respect boundaries and that's dangerous to me,such friends are not to be trusted she can stab you at the back when you least expect. Now she's telling people that I'm selfish and petty for having issues with her decision to date the so called guy. What do you think?

Whats doing this one?as far as u didn't date him then there is NOTHING like betrayal here,whats ur biz if he genuinely loves her or not?mind ur biz and let her worry about that herself. U no gree chop food and ur friend is hungry so make she chop too abi?u r not serious..So that means if ur friend dates any of ur EXes u go poison her be that..get a life girl

Useless olosho,how much were u paid to facilitate his murder,u drugged him and stabbed him after u called ur accomplise to tie him up and break his neck in the drugged state..u deserve to be burnt alive.

Ogbenia:
Was speaking on behalf of us.
At least 90% of guys which includes you.
Only few exceptions if any......

Oga speak for urself not every guy is a simp pls

AbujaCitiBlog:
What's the purpose of her having a fake drivers licence? What was she doing with the dead man's passport? What was she still doing with the ATM card of the dead man?

Why did she generate a foreign number to use and contact the owner of the serviced apartment?
This is nothing but premeditated murder pure and simple. She planned it and executed it flawlessly. Unfortunately, the dead Hegoat is not alive to defend himself.

Even before she was caught, I knew that she will claim defence against attempted rape immediately, she was caught and I also know that a lot of cursed maie hegoats will support her!
That's exactly how useless most young men of nowadays have become. Completely useless!

Anyways, as far as I am concerned, death should be her verdict. Even though I know she may walk free like her evil counterpart Maryam Sanda by just claiming innocence and as usual male hegoats, Judges and lawyers will work for free to set her free not knowing in their stupidity they are encouraging more women and young ladies to murder more men with hopes of being set free by the same gender they kill!

Wait Mariam Sanda is free?After she was sentenced to dead? ..I don't understand,like for real?

How does it feel having sex?do enjoy it too?are attracted to guys or females