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Suigeneris93:
I hope after all this epistle that you're married

Cc:
Tosyne2much, come and see an example of what u were talking about

emmijes3:
Lol ok lemme read it now

Hmmm tosyne told u dis peeps use 12g mehn

I told you to switch to 3g nah

Though I'm not an expert when it comes to relationships. I'm only putting this up so as to open the eyes of our young ladies to reality

The truth of the matter is that virtually every lady wishes to marry before her mid twenties but behavioural patterns and attitude problems have deprived many of their wishes and desires.

However, we are in a country where people always fail to admit that they are responsible for their misdeed and misplaced priorities; rather, they see it as devil's attack, thereby, running from pastors to alfas, from herbalists to Guru Maraji, for marital breakthrough

Without wasting time, below are the myopic statements that land many of our ladies into late marriages

1. I can't Woo a Guy

Personally speaking and generally summarizing, ladies who utter this statements are somewhat childish and are bereft of what relationship entails. They are full of over-bloated ego and pompous not knowing that a lady is expected to always smile; be friendly and polite to guys that approach her and also respect their courage to have made an approach. Being friendly does not mean that you are a flirt and cheap to get. Though, we all know that it sounds absurd for a lady to walk up to a random guy on the street and start wooing him. But it is not a crime for a lady to tell a dude that she likes his clothings and the smell of his perfume. This is the first element of starting a convo. I know that some will even say that "God forbid I do that". Don't let pride and over-bloated ego land you in OLX


2. I can't Marry a Man with Small Joystick

The Bible says that everything God has made is marvelously and wonderfully made , so why condemn God's creature?. Even here on nairaland, you will discriminating against guys whose joysticks are very small. Whether it is 1.5 or 2.5 inches, it doesn't matter at all. The search of big joystick normally land our ladies in late marriage.

3. I can't Date a Jobless Guy

In Nigeria, ladies are naturally favoured and most times find it easier to secure jobs, unlike their male counterparts who face a lot in the labour market. Being jobless is not a stigma and does not make a man worthless or useless, so why should a lady make an outright discrimination against dudes who passed through the four walls of tertiary institutions and can't find jobs afterwards?. Ladies who utter this myopic/discriminatory statement against jobless dudes, lack rational thinking, which normally land many of them in late marriage

4. I can't Manage with any Man

Barely would you find a lady that's ready to stick to a man through thick and thin. Though life is all about standard and our standard is based on our discretion. Some will say "I can't mary a guy staying in a self contain apartment"; "I can't marry a guy who earns less than 200,000" per month; "he has just one car,,its even a Camry sef..if it were to be Range Rover, I would have managed it "Personally, my interest in a lady dwindles the moment she says she can't manage with a man but an already made man. Evidence has it that ladies who often utter this statement, at the end of the day, settle down for less

5. My Husband must be Tall, Handsome, Chubby, etc

For God's sake, stopping being misled by Nollywood movies. Stop searching for a tall, handsome and men with six packs. This will not put food on the table. Of course, those qualities are okay but these unrealistic pictures of dark, tall, chubby and handsome dudes may keep you waiting unnecessarily; these men may not even come and ask for your hand in marriage and before you know it, you are already 37 years old.. So be wise; if you find a kind hearted man that truly loves you and that gives you peace and happiness, don't hesitate to marry him. It doesn't matter if your husband is as short as Wristbangle, Ronald4lif or Lalasticlala abeg na joke ooooo

6. I can't wash my Husband's clothes

I was astonished when I heard a lady saying she's not a maid and definitely can't wash her husband's clothes. On a very serious note, no guy in his right sense of reasoning will walk down the aisle with a lady of this absurd mentality. She's certainly not ready for marriage

7. I don't take Nonsense

Some ladies have bad character and are known as miss no-nonsense in their ocality; they cannot relate well with men; they disrespect their toasters anyhow, they shout at their boyfriends, mothers and hostel mates anyhow; they are quick to embarrass people whether they are right or wrong. They are not married yet they will be saying how they will thrash out their mother-in-laws who tries any poo with them. Such ladies can only have boyfriends but it will be quite difficult for them to have husbands. If you display the aforementioned acts, men will only date you because of sex, but will not marry you. Men will only date you because you are beautiful and sexy and they will only use you to calm their konji. But when it is time for him to get married, they will dump you and choose another girl that has a good character and well-cultured

8. I won't Respect my Husband if I'm Richer than Him

Another myopic and irrational statement made by many ladies. If we should go by this statement, does it mean that a man should try to as much as possible to deprive his wife from attaining greatness in life just because he doesn't want her to be richer than he is ? Ladies who utter this statement are delusional in thinking, hence, putting them in a position where they find it hard to find a man that would settle down with them. These categories of ladies will never bow for their husbands whether they are richer or their husbands are richer

9. I can't marry a man who doesn't work in Shell or Chevron

Yesterday, I felt so embarrassed when I was having a gist with a lady and she said she can't marry a man who doesn't earn up to 500k per month and I was like, you will end up living the rest of your life in your parents' house.

10. My Wedding must be an Elaborate one

Perhaps you have attended wedding ceremonies of friends who lavished money like there's no tomorrow. Mind you, life is not a bed of roses. An elaborate wedding will not guarantee a fulfilling life after marriage. Our parents didn't spend extravagantly on their wedding yet they are living to reap the fruit of their endurance. This reminds me of a lady who nearly stabbed my uncle to death just because he said he wanted a low key and less extravagant wedding.

Feel free to add yours


Let those who have ears hear


I drop my pen at this point


Original Writer: Tosyne2much

Folystory2:
Lolz
That got me cracked up!

No mind me jawe

Fourwinds:
kai.!!! d way God give u wisdom eeehmm.. I'm force to say u are a decendant of King Solomon...

u preach it rite

denssing:
hard to get ladies take note of tosyne.2much election result hard to get ladies take note of tosyne.2much election result

How my election result go be?

zeongeon:
Playing hard to get doesn't classify you as been cheap or not..its the attitude you put up in the relationship that tells if your cheap or not.

Imagine after all the playing hard to get and when you finally agree he sleeps with you a day after, you devour his finances cause your to materialistic and demanding, you only give him sex after he has paid his regular taxes and tithes...so what's the point playing hard if you finally end up exhibiting all that characteristics.

digitite:
Wait wait...

So, I will leave these huge projects at my disposal, that could make me a billionaire tomorrow, and go and be wasting my time with some chick 'by playing hard to get' who doesn't add value to me than give you a fun of not more than 15 minutes. God forbid it.

Unless she is a potential wife, and she must not see herself as a Goddess. Humility is Genius.

Roflwkmd lmao

avicky:
Hmmmmmm. You are talking from experience ba?

If a lady falls for you easily, you will call her cheap, if she does otherwise, then she's playing hard to get. Haba!

Hahaha Funny

kaziblake:
tosyne ,my money?

You failed to email me your bank account details when I needed it. I'm sowi you lost that incredible opportunity

kaziblake:
If you don't play hard to get,guys are gonna tag you cheap.
What do guys really want?

MissGdope:
By the time you notice, i go don chop you finish

I'm joking oo. i'm soft-to-get

I guess we should get to talk behind these walls then, or what do you think?

MissGdope:
i did, it makes sense to me.

Drefan:
The normal obligation of Nigerian ladies. An erroneously backward orientation lacking value. Wait, is there any difference between ladies who play hard to get and those who depend on their boyfriends for everything? When the moral girl who has been playing hard to get finally settles for begging, conveniently for cash & material things, then her 'hard-to-get' facade would sure be blown up & uncovered as a lame attempt at trying to protect her non-existent dignity so she wouldn't look cheap at first. Delusion of its highest order.

Gold and silver, I do not have


Bro may God bless you abundantly for this comment

wristbangle:
Excellent research doctor ronald4lif.

This hard to get mechanism is what some ladies actually use to beef their deflated esteem, feeling as if their market value is 2nd to none. There is no point proving this attitude when she knows the guy possess what she is looking for.

Most time ladies always say "ooo if I don't do it, he will consider me as their cheap hoe". Like I told a female friend of mine today, a guy will not respect u becos of your proving to hard attitude.

Honestly this attitude is becoming stale and blatantly silly. The sharp ladies nutmeg husband material dudes but the shakara ones end up as side chic to a player



@ oliviaarims, nice comment from you.

MissGdope:
all these yeye guys sef. A girl will be sincerely rejecting your advances but you won't hear. you will say she is playing hard-to-get. so when she decides to use you as atm and dump you after use, you will come and be ranting on NL
Continue....
make una no geh sense

ronald4lif:
The hard to get concept is an antediluvian praxis that has no place in 21st century. It's only people with primeval mindset and those who have a false sense of ego that still revels in it. In this age where women initiates romance and open up to a guy they want who still plays hard to get.

A lady who likes you likes you and playing hard changes nothing about one's self-worth. Don't mind these toddlers saying they are playing hard to get, they are just juveniles who assumes a false sense of self importance and hasn't meet a guy who crosses all their spec of a man.

Carowline:
I might... Depends on who is getting

Oliviaarims:
...I've missed u..

I have been searching for you everywhere but u seem not to have noticed

Carowline:
All of the above are also hard to leave....

Do you also play hard to get ?

lomprico:
Wait! You tripped over, fell and landed on his lips?
I dnt get, pls explain.

Hahaha

Fraih:
Thank you oo My brother, E no easy ooo
When 40E still counts, I had a lotta oriyomi grades sha, dem 40E. But now, no one prays for 40E again.

Mehnnn, it's not going to be easy niyen oooooo


At least you should be glad you graduated when "E" was still a nearly failure victory, unlike now

Fraih:
If you are a FUTA aspirant, get prepared to read and read till you will become Read yourself cos FUTA dont have anything like 40E again, the least Grade you are permitted to have is 45D. 44 sef na carry over.
My testimony : Never had C.O throughout my 5years in that school na baba God o

I'm happy 4u oooo

sampsondeen:
That is not true o


The credit unit of the course will be multiplied by two before dividing it by ur grade...So at d end..unless you have an A before your actual grade for that course can be on average,C

Codyt:
That's very true. Because your GP will increase more than those who scored D. Since u had B.
Highly stressing. My eye don see shege!

melvinjames:
Waiting for tosyne2much's
10 categories of Nigerians that get money from abroad

Hahaha

Chaaaaiii !!! See as u rush gimme inspiration

melvinjames:
When they send you money from Yankee refuse it because they got the money doing menial job. SMH!!

Hahaha roflwkmd


Bros take it easy