₦airaland Forum

rahjan: I wont be surprised if obasanjo himself orchestrated this letter from iyabo and its denial.

The man is a strategist, dont put it past him.

Katsina lawmaker buys shoes for students

https://www.nairaland.com/1519138/katsina-lawmaker-sent-children-public

Ekiti Indigenes Abroad Donate 15,000 Sandals Worth N48M To Pupils

https://www.nairaland.com/756208/ekiti-indigenes-abroad-donate-15000

4reigningqueen: I understand that you have a lot of enemies here. I am not ready to make you one so its either you post a meaningful comment or keep walking.

the details in the letter are too deep for an impostor to capture in that manner.

4reigningqueen: If exposing the ills in the society means disgracing yourself in the public the you really have a lot to learn son. Go and read yourbook.

kachiz: we no wan hear ur apology jare, tek am dey go joor!!

deols: Op is right. Add good looks to it and you find your perfect man.

Male Doctors rock

drnoel: Its not just a subtle kind of disrespect for the wife´s people which the wife brought it on herself and her people its also a vielled threat. Now ladies listen well and listen good. This is done in igbo tradition and am sure the husband must be igbo. I know cos my uncle who is igbo did it to his wife. Now, I don´t know if its done in the yoruba custom cos none of my yoruba relatives have done such yet. Maybe cos yoruba ladies know how to respect their husbands and elders unlike our igbo sisters since its not really taught at home.
It depends on what the wife did. In my uncles case his wife served his uncles and brothers the wrong part of cow that was killed during a celebration. The brothers and uncles felt insulted and insisted he sends her home to punish her so she had to take suspension for 4 weeks. She went home and came back fatter than when she was at my uncles home.

This by no means implies that women should be docile and passive-having their husbands and committed partners dictate, control, and walk all over them.

Independence and individuality are admirable qualities that many women obviously possess, however, women also can make such qualities negative, specifically when in heterosexual relationships.

Imagine this expression, perhaps even accompanied with obnoxious neck and eye rolling that represents the feelings of countless women, “Aint no man gon’ tell me what to do in no relationship. If he think he gon’ wear the pants, he got another thing coming. I’m way too strong and independent to have any guy thinking he gon’ be in charge.”

andromida: Teach your children to stand up for themselves.Teach them to know they can be whoever they want to be,never to compromise sound values.To be kind and respectful to others and more importantly themselves this way they can hardly be rude to others. But then there is always you the parent,you must remember children watch your actions and that is what they are most likely to emulate.

Its only in home movies that I see Nigerian girls whether home based or otherwise slapping a man just because he said hi.

Shinatu: @ Post,

I hope we all can still remember what this post is all about.
I have read the things said about bringing up the girl child and I sincerely hope that things will
be different at the time of our children, maybe the boys too would have been taught how not to be threatened by
a confident and intelligent lady as we have now in Nigeria (you guys in the diaspora may have it different)

Naturally many people feel comfortable with people that they know cannot see their faults or weakness

I agree with the poster that mentioned that much focus should be given to training the boys too, a confident and intelligent lady can only respect and submitt to an equally or more intelligent man and if these men are few, what will the lady do in a society where being married is everything for a girl? ..go ahead and marry the available.......then all these stories that we hear on NL.

Kobojunkie: @Poster,

a) Treat your kids (males and females) as equals

b) Stress the importance of intelligence, even if it is not bookoro kind . . . enough of the stupid black blonde kids we have around today

c) Teach them that love is not all about babies and sex . . . . way too many black girls world over seem to associate the two in some way

d) Teach your kids that if something is wrong, it is wrong. None of the grey lines that we now realize hurts womanhood more than it helps the struggle

e) Help them understand the difference between being loved and being used . . . it is key to helping them avoid the evil men and women out there

f) Listen to them when they speak and NO READING IN BETWEEN THE LINES . . . enough of that Nigerianess . . . When a person, even a gal, says A, let it mean A

g) Show them love as their mother. If their father rejects them, and everyone else rejects them, at least be the one person who they are sure will never forsake them. I know some like to say it is God but reality is so many people go through live never really SEEING or KNOWING God as others claim. So at least be as close a representation as you can, when it comes to showing love

h) A rude female is NOT a self-confident female. If your children lack manners, do not confuse that with self-confidence. It is in fact the opposite.

elampiro: What is the essence of this topic? Does it mean you girls lack confidence? You people can go ahead and breed young girls that will grow up not willing to stay in their husbands' houses (not being able to stay in marriages). Perhaps, the very reason marriages are not working in the western world. Women are programmed and stereotyped from girlhood.

2mch: This is where father's come in. The mum can teach her how to carry herself, cook and manners but cannot accurately build her self esteem. The father reinforcing and uplifting her self esteem works magic on girl children. You run less of a risk of having an emotional, clingy, needy, low self esteemed tragedy of a child.

you may end up bringing up a hell of a woman, who is unbreakable by any guy, and fiercely independent though.

J12: If I ever have a daughter(which I wouldn't want to), I'll try my best to ensure that she
1. She learns to be extremely hardworking, respectable and caring.
2. Is Well educated
3. Doesn't phock around
4. Is well loved by me.


I hope I don't have a daughter anyway

swizz01: To me I tink low esteem is a personal stuff......cz d moment u start feelin inferior,u'll start degradin urslf......