₦airaland Forum

Well, I don't see how ladies won't come after him, since you say he's attractive and possibly enjoys the attention.

shizzle11: Jealousy isn't an exclusive preserve of any of the sexes. Anyone can be jealous

True.

Innate, ie its a character trait people are born with.

Manage them like that.

They succumb because they want to have sex?

She needs to stop talking to you.

Hmmm

Hmmm

Hmmm

Boyfriend= small boy who types any rubbish that enters his head for whatever reason, maybe some chicken chamge.

Husband= man.

You want your kids to be real ajebutters or to mimic ajebutters?

For real ajebutters, it simply means the parents are very rich, and the term isn't necessarily a good one btw. It can be insultive depending on context.


If you want your kids to appear ajebutter even though you're maybe middle class or struggling to make middle class, then reduce the physical flogging, etc of your kids and make sure they have good food as well as enough to eat.

Etc etc.

Anyway, I don't know sha.

The op is thinking of julius ceasar and the rubicon.

Some nairaland posters remind me of the ladies in old time dramas- anytime they hear something that shocks them, eg maybe a man toasted them naughtily- they start fanning themselves anxiously for emphasis.

Did he ask them to kneel though?

Is that a bad thing?

Ewuro707: No it's not too much to ask . Boundaries are set for personal space to prevent unsolicited familiarity.But from your description (husband's relationship with his family), I'm afraid you can't win this battle against them, unless you wouldn't mind to be alienated , and that still wouldn't make him listen to you.

I tried putting myself in his shoes , my brothers tell me everything, we talk everyday, so I'll be extremely shocked toward a lady with your mindset / plan to drift us apart. I believe you but find it very hard to believe that you don't share stuff with your own family.

And if you still think & feel they're diabolic or deceitful kinda people then pray for him, I'm not gonna sugarcoat it to you, he's not gonna listen soon with your description. But if you like ,start fighting over it then and see if that'll resolve your concern.

Good luck

There is no universal approach to such issues, they should be evaluated on a case by case basis.

If the family is close and also aware of dangers posed by enemies of the family both within and without, it may be ok to discuss everything with them.

If however, your random talks are being minutely examined in order to hurt you or your relatives, not to mention if you are being used against your family by those you associate with (the person being used might be a willing or unknowing participant), then its better you be more proactive about your own safety.

Yes they did.

Why are you asking btw.

[quote author=DAY11.]Why does our politicians always treat us like little kindergarten? Trying to divert our attention again as usual.

I don't think Nigerians are all fools.[/quote]Its because of the large number of half bakeds.

Ekaka1: I was sure Iyabo. did not write that long sickening trash and I am almost certain this response is not from her too.
Looks like a new dimension in the political mud slinging war in nigeria.......after all anything on social media has the capacity to do some immediate damage weather true, false or distorted before you find time to react to it

True.

By swimming or do you know of any other way?

Anyway, I don't see anything in the so called letter or letters, that was previously unknown before.

I'm sure whoever has been following the family for long, has enough information to fill a 50 foot warehouse with dossiers and folders.

" the letter that was no letter".

That might be the best option, the situation is risky.

Adedayo layo: Where in the world is Nigeria heading to?

Oloun l'omo.

shizzle11: have you been living in Kenya?

More like have I been living in washington dc.

I need to be following all these things , however, the nigerian political landscape is very discouraging, hence I don't really have the interest.

Brokenbars: Tpia, dats wat i dont want 2 hapen. somtyms, u dont get a second chance.

True, I was going to mention that also, but decided against it, don't want to scare people unnecessarily.

Just trust in God if you are religious, and commit everything to prayer.

Op

If your story is true, then while its not advisable for you to come between a man and his family ( let him make that decision by himself), what is necessary is for both of you to monitor the feedback after his relatives are aware of his plan.

Do the plans still materialize or not? Do you see clogs from unknown and various sources being thrown in the works? Do you get bullied or shaken down by strangers or associates on the basis of information you never told them and which they should not have been privy to?

If personal information is reaching outsiders via family members, and these outsiders are using your relatives to try to destroy you, then be alert.

bluuu: u only know who you love,u dont knw who loves u.
my dad was lik dat till they showed him pepper n he learnt his lesson

Sometimes people have to learn that way, because no amount of warnings will suffice.

coogar: tpia@, can you cook?

No i cant, why do you ask?

Kairoseki77: There are professional liars on Nigerian social media.

Hello?


You just discovered this?

yetunsbay: .

Efo o' nse t'atan.

didnt know iyabo was no longer a senator sha.