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He waited for it for two years and d single chance he got, my guy logged out. He is my cousin and came to live with me 4 some time now. He admired her and confessed his love 4 ds virgin dt lives nxt street to ours. D gurl also lovd him. At least she has visited him in many occasions wen am around. Bt u know virgins and their wahala. She insisted on NO sexx. My guy agreed and then gradually workd his way thru her heart. For 2 yrs, my guy was roasting and havin a gurl friend at d same time. One day (few days b4 d last val day), he decided 2 put d gurl 2 a test by insisting it's either she submits 2 him or kiss d r/ship gud bye. At first d gurl maintaind her position, bt yielded not quite long after. Then came the d-day. Babe visited and b4 u could say jack robbinson, pulled off her cloth 4 d bleeping 2 begin. My guy came close and discovered her 'abunna' was yet 2 b unveiled. And 'he suddenly lost his erection'. He jst wouldn't do it! He carelessed, fingered and kissed just 2 buy time to activate, bt none saved d situatn. He was gasping 4 strength 2 acquire another erection, to no avail. His joystick would reluctantly rise up, yet quickly dies down. D gurl was lookin at him confusd of wot was going on. Then at a point, he excusd himself 2 use d bathroom (hoping to get restored wen he gets out of her sight) and by d time he made it back 2 d room, d gurl had already got dressd waiting to go. Wen he was explaining d whole thing to me, i was kind of askd him if he was ok cos i know he is not impotent. He wept bittery wondering why he missd d golden oportunity and wot d gurl might think he is. I calmed him dwn, but d truth is d gurl neva visited again since then. They re stil in gud terms shaa. Please guys hav u encountered this b4? Pls share hw it happened, wot u think is d cause and hw u handled it. I need to convince my guy he's normal b4 he does something silly.

My appreciation to ALL of u. Bennyraz it's ok, u made a lot of sense. For me, d past is 4gotten. Whatever i did 4 her does not pain me as much as d fear of facing this same thing in d future if by luck i get married to her. I can easily put all behind me. But i won't 4give myself if in d future, this attitude continues, knowing fully well i had a chance to nip it in d bud before. Once again, 4 d sake of love, it won't hurt me that much. U neva know except u experience how difficult life can be with a difficult wife. I hav learnt wisdom from u all. Best regards!

She newly parked into my neighborhood and soon after, made my acquintance. She's heavily pregnant and confided im me with this story. A lover had asked her to visit him in d north where he's based. When she got there, he puts her in family way and advised her to abort it. When she refused, he accused her of infidelity and pushed out, claiming she got d pregnancy somewhere else b4 she paid him visit. He forgot he earlier pleaded with her to take in, as a measure for her parents to allow her marry him against their wish. Now that she is about to deliver here in Lagos, another is proposing to marry her on d request that he adopts d baby as his. Age is not on her side, so she actually wants to get married. But she wished to keep d baby as a prove against d erstwhile lover's wrong accusation. Also, she would like to keep d baby aside to remember d travails of her past. What do u advise she should do under this circumstance? Note that despite what happened, she still loves d father of her child, but wants to settle down. One luv.

As undergraduates studying the same course in the same school, we were once into each other. We both know each others strengths and weaknesses. We have had it rough in virtually every hidden corners of the campus and in all styles possible. Today we are graduates and i am working while she's still searching for job. Upon my graduation, i discovered i was loving someone else more than her. We talked and then decided to end the relationship, promising to keep the friendship unaffected. Presently, her search for job without success has given me cause for concern. At least for old time sake. Her people who once knew us as inseparable love birds now thought i have gone invisible leaving her to suffer without help. Out of concern, i took the bold step to work her through to recruitment in the company where i work. Fortunately after the interview, the management considered her good for the job. However, as fate may have it, she was to be employed to work in the same unit with me. This unit are for guys and i don't know why the decision was taken to bring her in there. Was it because she's an engineer since the unit is more of technical operations? I know my colleagues and what they are capable of. How to co-exist with this gal without reopening the buried emotions of the past has become a serious source of worry to me. Of course i can't work against the same employment i was happy we finally landed. That is why i consider it thoughtful to bring this situation to the family, hoping i 'd get favorable counsels as usual. One luv

As a born Catholic, i have noticed one funny attitude among Catholic faithfuls. When members exchange peace of the Lord among themselves during the Eucharist, the girls either shun this or withdraw their hands up to the tip especially when guys are involved. And my question is why? Is it that they think guys will start rubbing their soft palms in the church or something? Someone please put things straight in my head because many girls have done this to me.
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My two cousin brothers are at war with each other. They are both of the same parents and have lived happily as blood brothers until recently. The elder one had dated one girl, but the girl later got married to another guy since he was not ready at the time she wanted to settle down. Few years later, the younger one (my younger cousin) entered into a date with the younger sister of the girl (who once dated his elder brother, but married another guy). The later did not lead to marriage as well. But as fate may have it, the elder cousin now wants to marry the younger sister of his previous girl friend who happened to have dated his own younger brother. Now, the later is refusing to accept the marriage, stating that it is  not wise for his elder brother to get married to a girl he had slept with countless number of times. He is also accusing the elder sister of the girl in question, of master minding the whole arrangement. So that, her younger sister will occupy the same position which otherwise would have been hers if she had waited for the guy. This situation of exchange dates has generated serious issues between the two brothers who now sees each other as enemies instead of blood brothers that they are. Please Nairalanders, who do you think should concede to the other and why. Constructive advice pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Five years ago while i was an undergraduate, i slept with my girl friend's younger sister. Today, i am tormented with this great feelings of guilt and bitterness. My girl friend believed in me so much that behind me, she had created a wonderful image of mine before her people. Though i didn't know about that, i supposed i lived up to it by her own judgment. Then came the younger sister with a master plan. She had registered for a G.C.E and persuaded her elder sister to invite me to sit for her in the major papers. The elder sister who knew i was her (younger sister's) only chance of getting through, she having sat for the same exams several times and screwed up, talked me into it. I had to shuttle between my place of Industrial attachment and the exam center so much so that sometimes it would be too late for me to return to my place after the day's exams. Because the younger sister had rented an accommodation (which i believe was part of the big plan) and knowing that the elder sister was not observant and perhaps blindfolded by her trust on me, started scheming to make me sleep over instead of returning home late. Guys, i fell for it. Or, no, wait, i should say i wanted it too, having seen it in her eyes, the strong desire to taste what the elder sister had  campaigned about. Ooo!, Campus life. After we had it once, she started blackmailing me, that unless we continued, she would tell the elder sister. It was fun to me too. So, i enjoyed it while it lasted. It took a lot of force and pleading to make her give up after the exam for the elder sister. The elder sister and i continued up to our graduation, of course without her knowledge of the whole thing. Today and even after we separated (elder sister and i), i still feel i betrayed her. But i am scared of the consequences of telling her. Theirs is a happy home, and throwing such bomb is capable of putting a perpetual enmity between the two sisters. I also quit my relationship with the elder sister with the believe that i don't see myself getting to end up with her. I mean not with the memories of my short lived romance with the younger sister that would hunt me as an in-law. Please, i am considering throwing courtesy aside and doing what i think is right. Or what do you guys advise?

Dude has a fiancee in a relationship over eight years now. His fiancee had just confessed to him that the baby they had in the early part of the relationship was not his, even though she had made him believed he was responsible. Dude after due consideration and deliberations has forgiven her and still planning their marriage which will take place in no time. But the issue now is that, the girl in question has refused to tell him who the true father of the baby is. According to him, the fiancee is confused of who's responsible, the pregnancy issue having came up at the time she was still teenager (18) . Now, when asked to name those she was moving out with as at the time she took in, she adamantly refused to give names, saying dude should go for a DNA test to even help her clarify her own fears. Good judges and counselors of NL, please help to suggest what you think would be your own reaction if you are in his shoes. He loves the girl so much and have gone far with her in every aspect of his life.

Hello people, i just got from a friend that the Institute of Petroleum Studies (IPS) UNIPORT has started inviting for test. Has anybody got such e-mial? Please, share the date of the test. I am yet to get mine. Thanks

The Enugu State Governor elect, Barr. Sullivan Chime has been reputed as one of the best among his dudes. In the outgoing dispensation, his administration recorded numerous meaningful achievements that cut across the boundaries of the State. No wonder, he was massively voted into victory in his re-election bid. However, it has been widely wondered why ESUT (Enugu State University of Science & Technology) is yet to be part of this achievements. ESUT previously known to be non-partakers of ASUU strike, last year embarked on a six months strike that was as a result of combined action of both the internal crises and ASUU. Just recently after the school was re-opened, students were greeted with a slap of mischievous hike in their school fees (over N100,000 for returning students and above N140,000 for freshmen). It was gathered that the Governor insisted that the striking lecturers should increase the school fees as a means of raising their salaries since the state government does not have the stipend to meet their demands. This thus, puts the question: Does the governor really hates the institution? Please, lets crack it!

The Enugu State Governor elect, Barr. Sullivan Chime has been reputed as one of the best among his dudes. In the outgoing dispensation, his administration recorded numerous meaningful achievements that cut across the boundaries of the State. No wonder, he was massively voted into victory in his re-election bid. However, it has been widely wondered why ESUT (Enugu State University of Science & Technology) is yet to be part of this achievements. ESUT previously known to be non-partakers of ASUU strike, last year embarked on a six months strike that was as a result of combined action of both the internal crises and ASUU. Just recently after the school was re-opened, students were greeted with a slap of mischievous hike in their school fees (over N100,000 for returning students and above N140,000 for freshmen). It was gathered that the Governor insisted that the striking lecturers should increase the school fees as a means of raising their salaries since the state government does not have the stipend to meet their demands. This thus, puts the question: Does the governor really hates the institution? Please, lets crack it!

The Enugu State Governor elect, Barr. Sullivan Chime has been reputed as one of the best among his dudes. In the outgoing dispensation, his administration recorded numerous meaningful achievements that cut across the boundaries of the State. No wonder, he was massively voted into victory in his re-election bid. However, it has been widely wondered why ESUT (Enugu State University of Science & Technology) is yet to be part of this achievements. ESUT previously known to be non-partakers of ASUU strike, last year embarked on a six months strike that was as a result of combined action of both the internal crises and ASUU. Just recently after the school was re-opened, students were greeted with a slap of mischievous hike in their school fees (over N100,000 for returning students and above N140,000 for freshmen). It was gathered that the Governor insisted that the striking lecturers should increase the school fees as a means of raising their salaries since the state government does not have the stipend to meet their demands. This thus, puts the question: Does the governor really hates the institution? Please, lets crack it!

Poster, your guy should stop worrying his head. He has not committed any offense by making 2.2. The reality of work in this country today gives no consideration of paper certificate not to talk of what ever inscription printed on it. Yes, in the past it may have been a point to ponder. But for now, the tune has shifted. I made a 2.1 from a reputable university, but this has never given me an edge over others than qualify for applications to apply for few vacancies which never yielded any positive result. I know of someone with 3rd class, and he works in one of the countries renowned oil companies. Even now that i am working, subsequent interviews pays no attention to certificates. Can you believe where  i work today, i have not been asked to bring my credentials after 8 months into the appointment. Just with my performance in the interview and details in my CV i guess, have said it all. Let him sit his dad down and talk to him.

It's simple. The lady should make the sacrifice. That way, the husband will love and care for her better, work harder knowing what was given up for him. Besides, you never can tell what the husband is scared of. Distance apart could cripple the marriage not only from the side of the husband, but also possible from the side of the wife. Money is not every thing, but happy home is. The wife should be contended and aim for happy home than mere wealth. What will she gain if after she got all the wealth and losses the happiness of a united home? Above all, the couple should seek the face of the almighty for guidance.

Period, otherwise known as 'fullstop' (kpom) is never good when they are missing in lengthy passages. U could do well to return to your punctuation class. Good luck

My fiancee had told me her school fees as a 200 level undergraduate was 102k. I just got a small job that has not paid much yet. I told her i could only afford 50k, but she showed no appreciation. Since then, she has been behaving weired each time we talked on phone. I understand the family might find it difficult to make up the balance, but i wish i had more. Even at that, do you think my inability to pay all the fees justifies this nonchalant attitude towards me? Please advise, because i thought when one receives appreciation for the little good deed, one might be tempted to do more.

The Institute of Petroleum Studies (IPS) Uniport, will in less than 2 weeks from now, start inviting for test, all applicants for the (Msc) Petroleum Engineering and Project Development, 2011/2012 session. Let all partakers share their views, experiences and expectations here. Gudluck guys and let's remember to share our invitations too.

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Folks, this question of whether Jesus Christ is actually the Lord caused a lot of arguments that almost culminated into a fight yesterday in my neighborhood. In all sincerity, let's share our views on this, because even as the drama unfolded, i had not stopped puzzling over the actual answer to this question.

Folks, this question of whether Jesus Christ is actually the Lord caused a lot of arguments that almost culminated into a fight yesterday in my neighborhood. In all sincerity, let's share our views on this, because even as the drama unfolded, i had not stopped puzzling over the actual answer to this question.

Thanks so far NLs. It's not all about spending the money cos that has been my game pattern far back as undergraduate. It's the consequences of basing ones marital life in falsehood. I love her no doubt. But i think i deserve to be told the truth by the girl who has dated me for over five years and was going to marry me not long from now. I have sat her down many times to tell me the truth. That whatsoever, i will find it in my heart to forgive her. All i needed to know was to make sure she is protected from any form of illegal business involving such amount. She was hell bent i accept what she has told me if i claim to love her. Till now, she has refused to do either of my suggested moves to unravel the issue, taking offense  instead, each time i tried to bring up the issue.

My fiancee' has been staying with me for close to two months now since her institution down east had gone on strike. Recently, i saw an Sms in her phone from a bank stating that the sum of N250,000 (two hundred and fifty thousand naira) has been transferred into her account. While i was trying to make a sense of the message, she jokingly rushed in and grabbed the phone from me, zoomed off a little distance and deleted the message. There, i suspected something was going on because i know she was broke to the core. I insisted she tells me about it or we go to the bank to find out details about the fund transfer. She refused to talk at first, but having noticed i was serious, she told me first it was one guy that works with the bank who has been disturbing her for friendship. she said the guy usually send such errant Sms to her. But i was smarter than she thought. I believed she was telling lies. I intensified my pressure on her and she again said, it was her elder brother who kept the money in her account. Still doubting these lies, i asked her to call the brother and confirm the payment right there in my presence. But she stubbornly refused, saying the brother had sent her that money for a long time and she had since confirmed it and that calling him again, he would think something had happened to the money. I forced her to follow me to the bank and when we got there, bank asked if we are married and she quickly replied not yet. The bank asked me to excuse them so they could talk to the owner of the account. Thereafter, they called me to say there was no recent transaction with the account. But i cannot still take it.  Though she has never done such before and had apologized for deleting the text, i  still suspect fowl play because recently i have been noticing some funny hostile and unusual behaviors from her towards me that suggests she is either seeing someone else or planning to do so. I am considering quitting the  relationship if she fails to accept that the bank prints us her statement of account or the brother affirms her claims (the brother is a born again christian and will not accept lies). What do you guys think?

Hi Nairalanders, glo has invited me for NOC Engineer interview. Has anybody been invited too? Lets share expectations. If anyone had gone for such before, your wonderful ideas as usual, will be most relevant. God bless us all.

Gud questions Kokoye. One, i still trust her very well not to cheat on me easily or kill me as you put it. The baby is a girl and doesn't bother me that much. It is either the bilogical father claims and takes her or she will someday, gets married. I can also deal with the fact that i forced the truth out of her and can equally ignore the accusations and humiliations i went through. However, i must be frank with you, i will feel terribly bad on the sight of the baby and even the mother. I don't know whether it's because it's still fresh in my mind. I would not say how i will feel about it in the future.

Thanks all of you. I appreciate the diversified views. Still waiting for more

Nairalanders, i am heart-broken. I and my fiancee have been dating for close to ten years now (many would ask, why this long?) It started far old as when i first became a senior secondary student. Today, i am a graduate and working and she is an undergraduate. Two years into this relationship, a serious pregnacy issue came up. I was mocked by my friends, accused and abused by her family. Even my own family rejected me for dragging their image to the mud. I took all these, but obviously not the responsibility to father a child at that age. One year after the baby arrived, we came back and rekindled the relationship. It became stronger and stronger that has lasted for another 8 years. While these years lasted, my fiancee had made me believed the 8-yr old baby was mine. Coupled with the love i have for her, the existence of the baby strenthened my bond and hope for fruitful relationship with her and also influenced  my marriage plans. Now that we are about to get married, she confessed the baby was actually not mine. She made this confession not willingly, but under a pressure i mounted on her for always having change of coutenance whenever i want to open the blueprint of my plan for my supposed first born. She is pleading for forgiveness, saying she loves me so much and does not want to loose me. She also said that only one member of her family knew about it (not even the parents are aware) and that i can decide to father the baby since the biological father was no where to be found. How do i father a baby that is not mine when i am still able and capable of producing mine? I love this girl so much and so, does she loves me (you can imagine 10 yrs).  I have also spent much training her in school and taking care of the supposed baby of mine. But, what do i do now that all my friends and family believed the baby is mine?
Please i need your immediate candid advice because she has planned to join me in one week time and i do not see that happening while i am still very hurt. I am thinking of telling my family and calling it quit or what would you do if you were to be in my shoes. See below the notes to shape your judgement:
She doesnt want me to expose it; many have been coming and asking her hand in marriage; she has been very faithful to me ever since i knew her. God bless u all.

I have heard of several cases of babes sent to higher education, denied their benefactors of their initial intention to do so (marriage when they graduate). Now i am faced with that horrible dilemma. My fiancee and i have been dating for close to ten years now. We actually started when i was a fresh undergraduate. I am intentionally delaying our marriage because i want her to get hold of a University certificate, so we could be on the same page in terms of reasoning and decision making. At first, she never believed she could further her education beyond the level of high school due to the nature of her family background. But as a matter of love and my foreseen need for her to acquire this basic, but necessary education  for good understanding and peace in our future marriage, i took up that challenge even though it's obviously tasking to me. Now she is concluding her first year and i have in my plan to wed her at final year. Though she is humane, kind and from the same village with me, i still have not come to terms as to whether i am doing the right thing. Considering these number of years we have been on the ladder in good and bad times and the fact that i am equally educated much more than her, do you guys think i may be the next victim of this ugly phenomenon?
Please, NL advise conscientiously.

The National Employment Training Scheme (NETS) has scheduled tests for applicants on Dec, 5th, 2009, yet mails or SMSs are yet to be received on the venue, time and other relevant details. What's your views about this? Cos Dec 5th is just here. Am worried.