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KevinDein:
I couldn't believe that comment and funnily it got over a 100 likes. Preparing breakfast for one's kids and getting them ready for school genuinely sounds like some of the few pecks of marriage where one gets to bond with their kids in the process.
Apparently for this utterly selfish generation that's such a mightily stressful thing to do.

My brother I am tired for the ladies of this generation...

It's a really damn shame....

Annabelle12344:
I just created this account to post this.
I'm really Disturbed.

My wedding is approaching and I'm so excited about it.
Before I met my husband to be, there's this married man I know. Right from day one he told me who was married but his family based in a different state. I told him I'm single and I can't marry a married man nor date a married man. We both laughed about it.

Years passed, he became so close to my family and everybody around me. He comes to my house, gist with my mum, siblings and my family members are very accommodating.
I had my boyfriend whom everyone knows, that I have nothing with this man.
he support me financially some times. I have been helpful as well in my own ways. most times, I helped him out with cooking, even followed him to supper market to pick beautiful clothes (wears) for his wife and children. I have known this man for about 4 yrs now, but never have I had intimat.e relationship with him. He's like a big brother to me although he deeply loved me and have asked me out severally, but i have never involved myself with him s.exuallly.

This man have been so good to me, but now, I want to get married and he's so angry with me, he appears so hurt and heartbroken. He's behaving as if I betray his love. He's acting as if nothing mean anything to him any more. He almost lost his job last week due to lack of concentration. He takes his job carelessly now,

How can I help him heal emotionally, without distracting my own marriage?

Is ignoring him at this point the best option?


How should I handle this? Pls advice

Story story!!! Story

Abeg make we hear word... Nu be only bestie na beastly..

Some ladies can be Soo disillusioned that it's unbelievable.

Catfishing:
Ban Sir

Welcome back

So where is your last 2 days test results?
Because am sure you placed a bet.

Mercychen:
Eeh.. leave am.
*Mark am for am like that" lol.. chai! Nairalanders!

Don't be too negative in your approach, that's all we want.

Balanced and fair views is what we want..

Mercychen:
Helloooo??

What's your problem?

I simply responded to the caption and not in anyways trying to exibit any toxicity here.
I've not even read the full story. Only reacted to the caption and moved on.

Please, stay off my mentions, I beg you. I won't stop aring my views or stating the obvious facts just because certain bitter truths dont sit well with people like you.

It's too early, I beg you. Take bad energy far away from me.

Making comments without reading the full story says a lot....

Catfishing:
I bless your day with this picks.

May God put fish in our mouth this weekend, Amen.

You don come out from hiding

Where have you been all this while

Mercychen:
Marriage sometimes can be a bondage and limiting factor to improving ones self because the moment you get in, you lose YOURSELF to family demands and stress from duties at the home front by trying to be there for your husband and the entire family on all levels This, i call slavery and it's what is obtainable in most marriages these days.

Now when youre being selfless for others to be their best, how and when will you have the time to take care of yourself and look good. That is why, the moment they get out of that "cage" they are able to see clearly, realize the extent of neglect on themselves and with enough time in their hands they are able to tend to themselves hence the transformation.

Take your feminist crap from this forum... Not every woman goes through what this lady have gone through.

It's unfortunate the man she married didn't read the overburden signs written all over her....

Just because hers failed doesn't mean many others that have gone before her failed neither will those coming after her.

You just been a toxic character always trying to push toxicity at an slight opportunity. Many other good will take care and understand her in the same marriage, it's just unfortunate hers turned out to be this way.

Useless piece of crap

Go abroad and start a barbing saloon business.

You will make it there my friend....

Got a friend he cuts hair in northern part of england.... Charges 10-15 pounds depending on the type of cut.

Mostly all black students and resident patronize him.

That baber skill you got is a serious one...

Mercychen:
To me, nothing really special about marriage because I've moved closely with married people and all i see is stress, stress and more stress!

Imagine the daily routine of a woman. Especially those who are not working.

Wake up early ( when youre not ready)
Prep the children for school.
Prepare their food breakfast.
If hubby is nice, he'll help drop them off otherwise, you do the school runs.

You get home and start putting the house in order. And attend to other chores staring you in the face. Time is ticking

Get ready to prepare lunch.
Then before you know it, it's time to go pick the kids.
Come back, freshen them up.
Serve them
Attend to their home work.

The you get set for dinner so hubby can have something to eat when he gets home. Before you know it, the day is gone and you're fagged out. Same thing continues tomorrow and on and on until....

Imagine if you're a working Mom and now have to combine all these with work...

Now tell me what will make a single viewing all these want to get married?

Truth be told, that's another thing I calculate and i relax and continue enjoying my single life.

Many married women are not happy. They are silently crying!!!
Forget all that fake smile they wear when they come out. They are not happy

Even the men are not 100% fulfilled. Responsibility wan break their neck.

Let's tell ourselves the truth. Even if you're rich, it's still not that easy.

I've seen a rich couple who both drove madly to school at the same time to pick their ward and were reigning heavy curses at each other at the gate because they both argued earlier on who's going to pick the son. So it's like non of them wanted to come and it was already evening and the boy was still in school.

I guess they called the house and the nanny who was babysitting their twin babies then, told them the boy was not home.

Omor.. see the speed they drove into the school compound with. Wify packed one side, hubby parked the other way and they both jumped out of their cars rushing Into the school and abusing each other.

Wife : " You shouldn't have come" useless man" As she stormed into the classroom

Man: ori e ko pe. why did you come? You should have remained at work"

Hmmm... So much hype about marriage. Abegi!

Jeez it's called responsibility....

With this your mindset it will difficult to attain certain heights in your career or life...

All you mentioned as stress are responsibility... Would you expect another woman or your mum to do your duties on your behalf??

Lots of you need some growing up to do

Davash222:
You don't feel any sad. You feel fulfilled.

Are you minding the ratchet wrench....

God destroy women like these from lives of men who are honestly seeking a woman of their dreams.

Rubbish

PotatoSalad:
I want to beat this woman.

Why can't the president hire renowned economists and experts to handle the helm of affairs of this country?

Chinekenna napu ekwensu ike

Like serious mending

System202:
Good. It's better to marry them earlier than becoming prostitute. All the prostitutes in the north are from south. society with no morals or whatever people living like dogs from baby factories to father's nacking their own daughters

You need serious decap for this nonsense you wrote, bloody pedophile..

Pray God I don't get to lay my hands on you for this rubbish you wrote..

PECON1:
One would be scrolling to see better game to play only to be be seeing kids fighting over nothing.

I swear it's really fked up...

This is getting very fking boring and annoying

Nwa

Vick4v:
bro abeg try drop booking too make we follow you chop too

Na waaw for people sha.... Nobody dy ask this one for money.

Code e nu share, so what's the point?

Awwwooll

Hmmmm

Bedtec:
Na thunder go fire this APC men , it's vulturebbgrills and his co Bast ard BMCS that received the money .....Motor go kill them all for this useless APshit

Men una nu go kee me for this nairaland...

Those idats better be thanking God they don't know them for real life... Because what guys go do them ehhhn

Lies from the pit of hell...

May hell be the abode of these liars

Conwarden:
All I see is paternity fraud loading.





Life sentence for all scammers . . . including paternity fraudsters!

Guy na true talk you talk, life sentence

Baawaa:
The woman should sue them,simple. Malami is a rogue

A useless one for that matter

Ok oooo

Lovenorth:
The useless untrained terrorists will soon troop here with their insult as usual

Just like you and many others ransacking the entire north..

Ironic a bloody terrorist calling others terrorist

Fahdiga:
I wonder why this pot bellied thief is still a free man after what he did in Edo state. This man alongside Ibori, Tinubu and Odili are super thieves who stole their states dry and should all be in prison

This fulani slave you think you sound reasonable now...

BombAttack:
So all the useless fake one Nigerian Army, Police, Navy and Air force could not rescue this young man.

He died like a common rat.

While BMC miscreants are busy roaming about shouting one Nigeria and licking Buhari's Ass

IgweOfNnewi
Exc2000
Farid24224
blinking001
airminem
helinues

simplyleo
seunmsg
Monogamy
NGpatriot
Tinubuadvocate
SangoOlukosoOba
Sebastine1994
Buckeyemedia
Piggyyeaster1

Thanks for this list

Now we fully know

Mean crap

Baddest

Hehe

Haha

Lovenorth:
Buhari directed all the federal apparatus to be fair to all in Anambra but Some useless ipob terrorists hijacked the election and conducted kangaroo voting. I advised him to challenge the result up to the supreme court

You are shameless.... I pity you and everything abode of you

Oooo ok