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hardbody: Which calendar do you use?

lunar calendar

Originakalokalo: When you look around you and things are very very bad.you are left alone,no one to turn to.and after all this,you lift up your eyes into the future and you are confused cos you didnt see anything there and you dont know what next to do.trust me,you will weep like a baby.

hmmm u touched me on that one and the funny thing is we are already in that direction but for those who have been give hope then there's life

some boys or rather some wuss/pussi cats over here are crying over a girlfriend,shame on u

toygod2: Hmmm,wot a question! Anyway,dia is one part of me,i dont really like much? I am too emotional! I can cry,whenever i miss loved ones, either dead or alive,but im sure cant get em back. I also cry when i remiscese over good times i had in d past,but i can never have again. Oooh,i guess im too emotional

u sound really emotional too

PAGAN 9JA:
the only think that can make me cry is the complete christianization/islamization of Nigeria. which obvously i wont let happen. so i wont cry. .

and when it happens after world war 3 what would u do?

lol

SELFWORTH: I don't think anyone is claiming He was born in December. We choose December as a month to celebrate Him.

for real? u celebrate the birth of the sun or winter solstice.

tomakint: Nothing special about December, it's like any other months except it is the 12th month

December is the 10th month not 12... deci=10, u've been indoctrinated by Gregorian calendar

Table Leg :
Dont be silly, Jesus was not born in December!
I repeat, Jesus was not born in December!!!!
Pssssst

white jesus was born in december but Yahshua a man of color was born in the summer time just calculate 6 months from John the Baptist birth according to the Hebrew and Lunar calendar.

U CRY FOR PEOPLE WHO YOU KNOW WONT HAVE ANY HOPE IN THE AFTERLIFE

i hate it,its the dead of the winter, figs are dying and falling off, this is when i experience S.A.D

Sirach said mourn for the spiritually dead, it aint no surprise Yahshua cried for the people when he awoke Lazarus.

Cliffmatrix: If i see death coming when am not prepared for it.

u dont always see death coming it comes unexpectedly

i mourn for my sins

Sisi_Kill: My post is probably gonna rub people the wrong way but I am compelled to ask.....OP what kind of job did you hope to get with a degree in Environmental Biology in a place like Nigeria? Sure the job market in Nigeria is slim pickings but some of us make it slimmer with degrees like oceonography, spaceiology etc.

Fortunately we now live in an information age where with the right tools, you can learn just about anything. While you are still looking for a job, I'd advise you to assess yourself, discover what you are very good at and find a way to turn it into a monwy making venture. And if you don't have one. ..Dude learn one. Website design, website management, website editor. ...those are just a few things you could look into without leaving the comfort of your home.

About your parents....I'm sorry but they need to back off. They had 9 children...not you. I am not against helping family, as a matter of fact I think it is a worthy act but not to the point where it becomes to that person. Would they rather you ended up on death row in some Asian country? I doubt it. So it is better they relent on the pressure and take whatever you are capable of giving and step up on the prayers.

Best of Luck.

@sisi eko, u've spoken wisely

slimyem: An 18 year-old is a child to her parents but also is not a child.
An 18 year old is an adult...and something as private as her virginity shouldn't be her father's business.
What would/does he want with it?
He had 0 to 18 years to train,nurture, and educate her about sex and well, the virginity thing....and should trust whatever choice she decides to make of it after that!!
He can be concerned about the kind of men/friends she hangs around and all of that and constantly advice/speak to her about making right choices....!
Expressly wanting to know her virginity status is just out of line..!!

sounds like a liberal

yes na, no be born am

its not that serious,if she's caught in the act,give her a bill of divorce, taking a blood oath is to extreme for humans because we are subject to change in this times moreso if you guys know the connotation of blood in a covenant you wouldnt make vows in blood but there comes a time when a blood covenant would be made,if you break it you die

greatgod2012: Amen to that, lets be optimistic for once.


With God, All things are possible!

abeg u no dey use logic abi u no see the trajectory wey naija dey go

make una no dey deceive una selves

brownlord: Am batch c serving in one of the state I won't want to mentioned, so many things r wrong with NYSC after our passong out of orientation I asked myself of what use is NYSC to this generation, take it or leave it, is of no benefit to us at the moment, its only an avenue for the highly placed govt officials to siphone our treasury, billions of naira is invested in this nonsense called nysc yet the graduates come out roaming this street, Nysc is a waiste, Nigeria is cursed, and Nigerians r foolish

...thats deep

what goes around comes around

Yomieluv: Thief dey rob thief.

u can say that again

fellis: @all4naija, great job man.

This is the dictionary meaning of the word 'submit'; I don't understand the strange definitions the people on this thread are giving to the word:
sub·mit [səb mít]
(past and past participle sub·mit·ted, present participle sub·mit·ting, 3rd person present singular sub·mits)
verb
v. sub·mit·ted, sub·mit·ting, sub·mits
v.tr.
1. To yield or surrender (oneself) to the will or authority of another.
2. To subject to a condition or process.
OR
1. To give in to the authority, power, or desires of another.
2. To allow oneself to be subjected to something.

All the descriptive verbs in those definitions ( to give in, to yield, to surrender, to be subjected) imply something that is forced, something that is not gotten via any type of diplomacy.

I see people on this thread advocating submission because the Bible says so. The Bible also says that women should not speak in church and should always cover their hair therein (Corinthians) yet we don't see any women advocating things like this in this day and age and there are countless women preaching in churches and having their own ministries.
The truth is that times have changed.
We are no longer in the era where men were the sole bread winners and so had the most say on how the money they earned for the family should be spent. Another thing is that women are more exposed these days, there is hardly any sphere in society where you don't see women doing the exact same thing men do, their lives are no longer strictly restricted to taking care of the house and children, they get the same education men get and get practically the same exposure as men. Yet they are supposed to just shove all that knowledge and experience under the carpet and submit to another person when it comes to making decisions. Submission made more sense back then in those days when women did little outside the home and didn't have the exposure/knowledge men had.

Any marriage will last and be a happy one when BOTH parties are happy. Not when one party is 'surrendering' or 'subjected' constantly to the will of the other.

One unfortunate thing about this submission issue is that a lot of men look at laws in the Bible about submission of women in marriages and conclude, based on these laws that they must be superior to women and women exist only to be subjected to men. This is what has led to many sexist attitudes that pervade our society today. Also, a lot of callous men are taking advantage of the submission thing to trample on the rights of women and to treat them badly in marriages. And in spite of this bad treatment a lot of women will stay put in their housed and not complain/resist simply because they see the husband as the one who knows best.

I understand that men will resist any thing will cause them to cease being the head of the family. It is not easy to give up a privileged role, one that puts you in charge of others, gives you the final say, makes you superior etc. It is not easy to give up such a role and so the men will advocate submission.

....who is this person, wise sayings from u...u r recognized

dinachi: Please marriage is not for any lady who cant submit. If you know you cant submit, please remain single and save us this high rate of divorce. There is no progressive institution that does not have a leader, marriage is not different. It is just that many women because of feminism and lesbianism finds it difficult to accept their husbands authority. They will accept thier bosses authority, they will accept thier parents authority but when it comes to their husband feminism sets in.The foolishness and reprobacy of these end times is responsible for all these! People will intentionally question the scripture because they dont want to obey it. Any chritian woman who does not submit to her husband is living in egotism and arrogance and is puffed up by her achievements or knowledge. Feminism or women liberation are for lost souls and reprobate minds.Submission for a woman is a sign of strenghts not weakness and carries unusual blessings. Abrahams wife in the Bible called him Lord. How many of our self acclaimed so called morden liberated women can do that? Remember that rebelion is as the sin of withccraft, that why we have so many witches this days! My wifes submission to me brings out my best for her. Truly, theres is nothing I cant do for that woman, including laying down my life for her.

...well said

all4naija: What has that got to do with submission? There are always those who just want to be abused! Accept it or not life is not fair. Think outside of Africa and religion. There are also instances of men begging women. It is vice versa,dude.

its a punk of a man that would beg a woman, anyways keep your liberal mindset up...what i stated has got a lot to do with submission read isaiah 4;1 then let me see what your western mind has to say

all4naija: Lol... It beats my imagination when submission as a tool by men to do what they like is now seen as being a measure of responsibility on the side of the women by some posters here. Jeez! To be submissive means to give up and accept to be belittled in this present generation. There are working women who earn more than men.

The present society is beyond mere village characters our forefather were used to.For example a man can wish to marry many wives as he wishes(mostly in our African society) and have affairs outside of marriage sometimes without it being pronounced as a bad thing. These we have seen in many societies forced many women to be unfaithful to their male spouses. I am not a married person, yet have seen time without numbers that these same men who want women to be submissive usually fall short of their responsibilities expecting the women to bear the consequences. Hahaha... African traditionalist has spoken well and must be the best way for everybody to go. Another thing, when it comes from the over- eulogized HOLY book it always right. We all forget that time changes, society, people and nothing remains constant in life!

Hahaha...What you've said is a masterpiece for the aged though. Not for the wise and modern!

where is Tiger Wood to shed more light on that?.

u can give all that feminist sentiments but there comes a time regardless of how much you make,7 humble women will be asking and begging a man to be their husband and i can back it up in the scriptures..now u can rant and rave all u want to

[quote author=coogar]•providing for her
•securing her
•be accountable for every dime spent and the time spent
•loving her unconditionally
•attending to her at all times
•respecting her

and so on and so forth...
...look up your dictionary and find out the meaning of service and tell me what u find but all u mentioned is the husband's responsibilities or duties if she obeys him not service

coogar: very good question.....
my headship is actually a matter of responsibility and accountability - this is where african men generally screw things up. in sane climes, the head serves his subjects, in africa, the head wants to be served. accepting my authority means she cannot resist my will. this does not mean she cannot express her fears or disagree with some of my decisions...she's my helper not a doormat!

......and how would the head of the house serve his wife...explain

50calibre: Nobody is trying to enslave the other, a woman should know her place and make an effective use of her position in the family and not by trying to lock horns with her husband, that is the way it has been and that's the way it will continue to be.

Different societies have their own culture, norms and values that works for them. In Germany, a woman Is superior to the man, she calls the shots and makes decisions. In Japan the man works and hands over his income to his wife who then allocates the money for different purposes.

The earlier people (especially women) realize that African culture places a man higher and stop trying to bring in western ideology of equality, the better else the number of unmarried singles will continue to swell.

....nice one

50calibre: A real woman who wishes to live under a man, commit her self to him and forge a future for her and her kids, shouldn't expect justice but leadership from her husband

...it should be expect justice AND leadership

50calibre: There is something called HIERARCHY, are everyone in the military or a country or an organization equal? Equality doesnt apply to marriage and family life, the moment equality and justice is brought into the family, the family goes into chaos and ruin.

educate dem jare