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timibare:
Omo see money

Empty barel makes the most noise. People who have genuine money will not be showing off like that. It is all fake lives

shiwex:
My bill for my average family of 5. excludes personal Investments

Mortgage - £720
House Insurance - £32
council tax - £148
water Bill - £36
electricity - £80
Gas - £80
Mobile phone - £30
Car A Insurance - £42
Car B Insurance - £45
Car A Road Tax - £30
Car B Road tax - £30
Petrol - £80
Travel - Trains/buses - £250
Groceries supermarket - £300
Groceries African Shop - £180
Internet - £52
satellite TV /Sky - £54
Kids Clothing - £60
Kid A lesson/Tuition - £100
kId A Swimming lesson - £30
Kid A Piano lessons - £220
Nigeria Remittances/ Gifts - £150

These are not real figures. They are all inflated.

Whats the essence of this post other than showing off and childishness. Peoples circumstances in life are different. We have people at home doing better than those abroad and we have some residing in Western World who are stucked there for years and cannot even feed themselve. We all know those abroad send money home regardless of the country. Even those at home spend more money on their loved ones. We can't be comparing and competing with ourself. This post is highly unnecessary. God can bless anyone regardless of the country you are and your situation can change quickly.

RisenPhoenix1:
His mistake was not seeing the signs early enough. If you insist on keeping your wife and family with you in the UK, you need to take financial precautions; like keeping the bulk of your savings in offshore accounts that she is not aware of, including her name on the mortgage papers and getting your kids acclimatized to staying with your parents in Nigeria. So as soon as you see signs of her misbehaviour, you pack up and leave her hanging. The court cannot award her what they can't find. Well, too late now.

Tell him to suspend the search for a job until the court case is all wrapped up. There's very little she can gain from him now; the court cannot order a jobless man to either pay alimony or child support. After that, he can relocate to another town, pick up the pieces and try to get visitation rights. Over time, it will resolve itself.

You may not see any signs at all. Marriage is a risk and the risk can materialise anytime. You may not be able to forsee the behaviour of your partner in different situations. Last year I slapped my wife of 28 years for the first time. Her mum came to visit and as soon as she came, we started quarelling everyday. Only God and our church members helped me, I would have been in a similar situation as the OP although I had almost finish paying my mortgage. Marriage is a great risk and if the risk materialises then destruction follows. There is no straight forward solution except to get closer to God and exercise a lot of patience. Whether you return to NIgeria or remain in UK, you need God guidance.

Cocao:
The truth is that this guy is not looking to leave Nigeria or his business. He is in a contest of some sort between who earns more. Him or someone in the US and he's trying so hard to justify that he makes more. Remember he constantly asked for someone to tell him their exact savings.

He has no issue cutting off his family so he can save more, or being with a partner. It is obvious this kind of person will literally do anything for money and is threatened when his money is threatened.

He does not want to hear that anyone he knows is doing better. This fear kicked in when he saw first a lady that spent 12m, then he constantly refers to himself as poor. He is trying to compensate for what attributes he does not have using money.

Brother, money is a lot, but it is not everything. You are not in a competition with anyone. Saving 22 million a year cannot make up for some things that family and friends will bring to you. Stay on your lane and do what is best for you. But most importantly, enjoy your life with the people you love that loves you.

Thank you for your intelligent contribution. An average Nigerian is always in competition with others about money. Money is not everything. Probably the OP missed the opportunity of going to US some time ago and he want to justify himself that he is still doing well despite the miss. You can't compare people doing well in US or Western World to yourself at all. Your N22m savings to day will loose its value with the depreciation of Naira. Also some abroad may not be earning much but they are living in Properties which could be more than $500k and could be sold if they have to return home

AmazingELixir:



If this had happened in the western world...it is the man that will be vacating their apartment for the lady.

But down here the law is dangerously skewed against the female folks...with such mentality it is common place for african men to harm or outrightly kill their spouses when they think of losing their life savings to the women they married with their sweat and hardwork.

Yes things are not alright in the Western world. How can someone labour all his life to buy a house and only for someone to give out that house to a woman. It is just not fair

Myself2:
So in your book, once a girl grows up to become a lady in a man’s house, therefore the man MUST marry her
What kind of twisted logic is that.

Apostle Suleiman did NOT IN ANYWAY destroy the family of the couple as you have declared. Even if she was posted to Abuja, the onus rested on the woman to discuss and agree with the husband and get back to the Apostle whether it was good for their family or not. Don’t you wonder WHY they didn’t do that? Go watch the woman’s video again ,you will see how many times she alleged that the husband put her through hell for the years they were married, do you know whether the woman just needed to be away from the husband, maybe she wasn’t ready for a divorce but didn’t want to keep exposing her life to whatever threat she alleged the husband was putting her through.
You may ask, if the man was a threat to the wife, why didn’t the wife call on respectable people to wade in and talk to the husband for him to change his ways, it’s possible she did and when they spoke to the man, he refused to change, so the information out there is still too sketchy for anyone to make any definitive conclusion, so let’s tread with caution

It is not a twisted logic. if you follow my thread, someone said the lady knew the Apostle before meeting her husband and that is why she couldn't detach from the Apostle. I said, she for kuku marry the apostle instead of marrying another man and causing heartaches. This is why the Bible said a woman should not be heading a church. A good man of God will not take a married woman living under the roof of a man in Auchi to go and be heading a church in Abuja. The so called Apostle destroyed that home. People should be careful the kind of church they go

[quote author=Myself2 post=98443295][/quote]If she had known the Apostle before meeting her husband, then she should have married the Apostle instead. Even if Apostle is her father, he doesn't have the right to destroy her home in the way he did. You make a married woman head of Abuja branch and throw out her husband. Anything could have happened in the process

Odingo1:
You are talking side and passing judgment, what if the woman is lying.

Why did two couples start having issues in the first place that degenerate to separation. I am sure it was husband that introduced the wife to the church as happy couple. Over the years problems came, the woman rose to head the church branch while the husband was kicked aside.

What happen along the line, questions begging for an answer. Thanks.

Good point you have there. I am sure it is the way the woman was getting too close to the Apostle that provoke the husband and make him walk out of the marriage. How can the Apostle be sending a married woman to different places leaving her husband behind

Miracle1991:
I pray that your sister will encounter "just a petty criminal". Amen

It is you that will become a victim of the fulani kidnapper and criminal where you pay a ransom of N10m not N140k demanded by this guy. We don't use to have this in Yoruba land. It is when the fulani came that they influence some of the bad eggs in Yoruba land. When we get rid of the fulani, this new trade will disapear.

dangwarmai:
Is that man a herdsman? Where is Sunday Igboho?

It is part of the negative influence of the Fulanis. If it is fulani that did this, they will demand N10m as ransom. This is an exception in Yoruba land. He is just a petty criminal

Why are people saying the MD did no wrong. But he used his position to press the lady into a relationship which is the cause of this whole problem. He has his own wife why destroying someone else home because you cannot control yourself. His action caused the death of that young man may be indirectly

englishmart:
Such courses in Nigeria are a total waste of finance, energy and resourcefulness. My criminologist cousin has been searching for job for 7years, he's now a spare parts businessman

I thought it is a good course and Police employs them going by the name of the course