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Imalwayshorny:
I think say the guy don make ham ooo

You watch too much Nollywood movies. 😂

Coder2Client:
I’m someone who isn’t ashamed of being single.

I’m 36, and I’ll be 37 in December.

The honest truth is that I’m single. I’m not currently dating anyone. It’s not because I don’t ask women out—I do. But I’m not someone who enjoys talking too much, and sometimes the thought of having to constantly communicate, explain myself, and maintain a relationship feels stressful to me. Maybe that is one of the reasons I have remained single for this long.

My lifestyle is also very regimented. I have a routine that is so predictable that someone can almost tell when I’m at home and when I’m not.

Money is another major issue.

I currently earn ₦200,000 a month before tax, and I don’t have a side hustle at the moment. Sometimes I look at my income and wonder how I’m supposed to build the kind of life people expect from someone approaching 40.

I have even lied about being in a relationship when I know I’m not.

I’ve told people I have two children, even though I have never had children. I did it because I wanted people to stop asking questions and putting pressure on me. But ironically, while trying to escape other people’s expectations, I think I have ended up putting even more pressure on myself.

For a long time, I genuinely enjoyed being single.

The peace was beautiful.

No relationship drama. No constant explanations. No arguments. No pressure.

But lately, that peace is beginning to feel like loneliness.

I miss having someone.

And that is difficult for me to admit.

Another thing about me is that I give up easily on relationships. I can enter a relationship today and, a month later, lose interest and walk away without even properly explaining to the woman why I’m leaving.

I know that isn't a good quality.

My life has also been somewhat of a slow journey.

I started school at 11. I finished secondary school at 22. I completed tertiary education at 32. I started my teaching job earning ₦20,000 a month, and today, at 36, I earn ₦200,000.

You would think that increasing my income would make life easier.

But every time my income increases, inflation seems to move the goalpost.

What used to feel like enough no longer feels like enough.

And then there is friendship.

I have always struggled with keeping friends. Even as a child, I realised I didn't really have a flair for friendship. Today, I honestly don't have anyone I can confidently call my close friend.

I even remember a time when I would give people money just so they would play with me.

Looking back, that hurts.

I don't drink. I don't smoke. I don't party. I don't womanise.

At work, I joke around, interact with people and eat good food. From the outside, I probably look like someone who is doing just fine.

But deep down, there is a part of me that genuinely misses being in a relationship.

I can go an entire month without making or receiving a personal phone call. Most of the calls I receive or make are work-related because I’m one of the leaders at my workplace.

Sometimes I wonder how I got here.

I don't think I’m a bad person.

I don't think I’m unattractive.

I don't think I’m incapable of loving someone.

Maybe I just became too comfortable being alone.

Maybe I have built such a structured and independent life that making room for another person now feels difficult.

Or maybe I simply haven't figured out how to balance my personality, finances, career, friendships and relationships.

I don't know.

But lately, being single doesn't feel as peaceful as it used to.

It is starting to feel a little boring.

So I’m genuinely asking:

Are there other men who are like this?

Men in their 30s who don't drink, smoke, party or womanise.

Men who have very few or no close friends.

Men who have become so comfortable being alone that they don't know how to let someone into their lives.

Men who are not necessarily unhappy, but deep down, still miss having someone to come home to.

I’d really like to hear from you.

This must have been very difficult to admit,life has honestly been very difficult for you. I don't know what to say, just try your best to change what you can to what you want it to be, and what you can't change, you accept.

TheStoriesOfMan:
Instead of you to pay one popular agberoto follow you to your destination, so that if other agberos sight your own, them go calm down


Must I tell you everything, eh fine girl?

Nonsensical talk

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Dpsychologist:
I have come to realise that one of the most painful experiences in relationships is not necessarily breaking up with someone you genuinely dated and shared good memories with.

A breakup can be devastating, but at least you know there was something mutual. You spent time together, went on dates, laughed together, made memories, shared affection and, at some point, both of you wanted the relationship to exist. When it eventually ends, you can look back and say that, regardless of how painful the ending was, it was real.

Unrequited love is different.

There is something particularly painful about spending months investing your time, money, attention and emotions in someone who never actually felt the same way about you.

You are the one initiating the conversations. You are the one planning the dates. You are the one buying gifts, checking up on them, remembering the little details about their lives and constantly looking for opportunities to spend time together.

You start imagining what the two of you could become, while the other person may simply be enjoying your company without seeing you as a potential partner.

The painful part is that they may not even be a bad person.

Sometimes they genuinely like you as a person. They enjoy talking to you. They appreciate your kindness. They may respond warmly when you reach out and agree to spend time with you. They may even tell you that you are a wonderful person.

The problem is that being appreciated is not the same thing as being loved romantically.

Some people also know that you have feelings for them but continue accepting your attention because they enjoy the benefits that come with it. They may not make any clear commitment, but they also avoid giving you a definite rejection because they do not want to lose the attention, companionship, gifts or emotional support.

Then you remain hopeful.

You interpret every phone call as a sign. You analyse every message. You convince yourself that their behaviour is changing. You tell yourself that they are probably just taking their time and that, eventually, they will realise how much you care about them.

Before you know it, months have passed. Then one day you realise something that hurts more than the rejection itself.

You were emotionally participating in a relationship that the other person never agreed to.

You remember the money you spent, the dates you planned, the sacrifices you made and the opportunities you ignored because you were emotionally committed to someone who was never committed to you.

This is where the regret comes from. You begin asking yourself, "Why did I keep doing all of this when the signs were already there?"

This is why reciprocity matters so much in relationships.

You should not have to constantly chase someone's attention to maintain their interest in you. You should not be the only person initiating conversations, making plans, creating opportunities to meet and trying to keep the connection alive. You should not have to repeatedly prove that you are worthy of being chosen.

There is a difference between someone being shy, busy or naturally less expressive and someone who consistently gives you very little while accepting everything you are willing to give.

Learn to observe patterns rather than isolated moments.

Do they make time for you?
Do they initiate conversations?
Do they genuinely want to know what is happening in your life?
Do they make sacrifices for you too?
Do they show curiosity about where the relationship is going?

Most importantly, do their actions suggest that they actually want the same thing you want?

Nobody owes you romantic feelings simply because you have been good to them. This is an uncomfortable truth that many people struggle to accept. You can be kind, generous, attractive, successful and emotionally available and someone can still look at you and simply not feel that connection.

It does not necessarily mean there is something wrong with you. It means attraction and affection cannot be forced.

You cannot buy someone's love with gifts. You cannot earn romantic feelings through endless favours. You cannot convince someone to choose you by becoming increasingly available.

Sometimes you have to accept the answer you are receiving from their behaviour, even when they have never said the words you desperately want to hear.

There is nothing shameful about loving someone who does not love you back. It happens to almost everyone at some point.

The mistake is continuing to invest heavily after you already know that the feelings are not mutual.

At some point, you have to stop asking, "How can I make this person love me?"

The better question becomes, "Why am I continuing to invest in someone who has shown me that they don't want what I want?"

Walking away does not mean your feelings were fake. It means you finally decided that your feelings deserve to be placed somewhere they can be reciprocated.

Sometimes the most painful relationship is not the one that ended.

It is the one you spent so much time building in your head while the other person was never building it with you.

Seun nlfpmod dominique, Rocktation, farano

Gbam!

This is so true. If only we can just be honest with ourselves and learn to accept rejection and not get attached to a life that only happened in our heads, life will become a lot better.

brain54:
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I dated one like that in the past when I used to care about such things. I would do everything to make the relationship spicy and not boring... because I cared. I'm also an introvert so you can imagine how I went out of my way to make things lively with very little support. I just realized one day that I had become a forced entertainer. It just wasn't my thing.

Being too quiet and boring is the short cut for me to run away because I'm also boring... two bores should not come and kill themselves with boredom. I run away without looking back.


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This is a funny comment.

He wasted 8 years of his life learning nothing, if that's how he spent the money.

LUAN1:
if you Read my last post, you fit dump her. It happens to me too, at the end, it ended in tears for me. She finally admitted that she was deceiving me that she is in relationship, she open up to tell me that she is always on call with the guy that's why she can't take my calls, she said that even if they are not talking, but the phone calls must always be connected with the guy. After 11 good months of thinking i was in relationship with her, i plan getting married to her. She finally blocked me every.

Damn!

That's cold. 🤦‍♂

vr0xen:
I don’t know why Ukrainian generals don’t want to overthrow zelensky and make peace with the Bear. Vlad wants to drag this war to positive infinity in preparation for a bigger conflict with Europe he is just training his military in a long term conflict with Ukrain cuz I wonder why he don’t want to annihilate Ukrain with the ORESHNIK

Why haven't Nigerian military generals taken over from our current government? We don't know. The most important thing is that we don't die in their stupid wars.

dominique:
He shook hands with you and responded to your greeting, that's fair enough. What else do you want? I'm not even sure if Jim knows him sef. The MC is a Calabar based comedian, is he expecting the Lagos based actor to jump for joy for meeting him? No let Jim Iyke come for you o, his mouth no good o

Na content jarey. Does he go about his life with camera in his face always?

AndroBlaze:
Jesus has answered this already...."do unto others as you want others to do onto you".... there is no need to advise this "friend", if you are also happy that if you are about to marry a hookup girl, all your "friends" should stay quiet and shine their 32

Brother, go and collect a bottle of chilled anything that you want. Na the comment wet I dey find be this.

Host78:
Una wey want marry single mum una dey try o.

As a man nothing suppose concern you with single mothers. But you no go hear.

The reality of how women make decisions

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“I have the right to my privacy” — Man says as he refuses girlfriend entry for showing up unannounced pic.twitter.com/eWmUwRisjO

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) June 11, 2026

hope he's not among those guys that requires free access to his his girlfriend's phone too?

starpower:
he repeatedly said, he had caution her multiple times, part of relationship is understanding boundaries. I actually think she owes him the dignity of calling him as requested.

I don't believe this. There's no need for you to be jumpy if your ways are right and you truly love her.

Diamond098454:
This is disrespectful .

Even with all this red flag she will still remain in that relationship.

That's women for you, them go talk say them like man wey go give them peace of mind, but there action says another thing.

(C) for sure!

nlfpmod:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DYPt8KcjHDJ/?igsh=d255MnlmbHdzdXZ5

Rest in peace, Sir. I always imagined you living longer than this.

iwaeda:
https://punchng.com/next-president-has-been-decided-by-god-says-adeboye/

@Seun, Naira land needs to have a dislike button. I wanted to dislike his statement now but I can't.

esnbrutality:
So Israel even Senior NIGERIA for age and they have advanced in so many ways like science and tech and every other good thing in Life. Nigeria on the other hand is plagued by

Corruption
Infrastructure decay
Sophisticated Poverty and wretchedness
High Mortality rate
Religious extremisim
Shallow and myopic leadership
Bigoted followers
etc etc etc

Nigeria is truly a ahiiiiit-hole, celebrated by losers.


Congratulations to the covenant Children of the most high. Happy Independence Israel.


PS: Benjamin Netanyahu has six fingers..

Domperigon fsboperator madridguy FreeStuffsNG god1000 MagicBishop etc etc etc...why does he have Six Fingers?

Nigeria is not a shit-hole, Nigerians are the shit people.

Freetech:
Why wasting money on these criminals.

Line them up and shoot them at close range.

Let's save Nigeria and make her great again

I love your mindset

EdiskyHarry:
Good job, humanity first before any other thing

LOL

If it was about humanity, they send aid to USA too

HacheNoire:
With due respect!

Never bring the name of His Excellency, President Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu (GCFR) in same lines with industry dogs.

What’s da fwck!

Don’t you have anybody else to compare with?

How is a drug baron any different from an industry dog?

nairavsdollars:
Nigeria's ambassador to Germany Femi Fani-Kayode's post saying Tinubu is almost 100 years old

I feel like this men may have been held hostages somehow, maybe their families are being threatened or past secrets they don't want shared with the public. I have never seen such 360° change in opinions.

Jfix:
Please nairalanders
I'm 23, turning 24 next Month October and I have never asked a girl out. The truth is that I have been scared, literally afraid of talking to them, I do have female friends But Occasionally when it comes to asking any girl I liked out, I just go off not being able even communicate my feeling to them.

I do see teenagers of 16 and 17 years claiming to be in a relationship and I wonder how is that possible.

This is irritating because I hang of with guys and we all try to boost of being smart and sharp guys but deep down I know that I'm just blabbing cause when the opportunity comes I just find a way to avoid it.

I'm i a simp or do everyone goes through the same thing and I might overcome it later please let me know cause it really embarrassing to know a problem and still act like everything is okay.

So, bros you're 30 now, how far na?
Shey u don sabi follow woman talk?
How u take do am?

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone.

So recently I've been thinking about marriage. Tho I'm in a relationship but the woman I've been dating doesn't really seem to have the same serious interest and intentions like me. I've talked to her severally but it seems she isn't ready to settle down yet. Imagine this is someone whom I've gone to see her people and they know me well. My own people know her too. I've equally talked to her mom since she's the one parent she has . And had also talked to her best friend about it too.

But one thing I've noticed about her is that she's over religious and seems to be too close to her pastor. The last time I talked to her about the marriage stuff,she directed me to go and talk to her pastor. Tho I was initially furious about it but I just had to man up,kill my pride and decided to pay her pastor a visit.

From the conversation I had with her pastor,it seems he's one of the major stumbling blocks. Because he was only curious about my financial status he was even asking me what was my source of livelihood,and of which I told him. Afterwards,he then asked me what was my monthly salary. Saying if I'm sure I can take care of my fiancee with that amount,or if I'm planning to have a side hustle. That he doesn't want a case where any of her spiritual daughter will go into a marriage where she'll be suffering. I told her categorically clear that I'm not a lazy man and I don't intend to put anyone's daughter into suffering in the name of marriage.

It's been over a week since I left the pastor's office, and since then,my fiancee has been behaving so cold towards me.

So I don't know whether to continue with my proposal or I should just kindly look for another lady to marry.

You see death, and you still wan chook head. Anyways, plenty ppl don advice you, but na still u get final say.

Bluntguy:
Don't you think that her pastor's attitude and hers are red flags? Must it be her? Bro you cannot cry over what cannot cry over you o.

Some people just never learn.

T0BY:
This ones wan bring disgrace to naija arm forces.. instead of focusing on why you're putting the uniform, nah love dey Chak dem. Abi fake love..


Maybe the fiance get money...

Did you watch the video at all?

Samsunny99:
The truth is, as a single mother , her value drops it takes a mature man to accept her and that is why ladies must try to take caution before opening their legs

What do you mean by "mature men"?