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DNA test and men should be like 5&6 just like women and paternity fraud.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

Daddy, you're a foolish man o! after all this, you didn't realize that some times the fight is not worth fighting. You sat down comfortably in such a toxic marriage, sha go and do DNA test for your so-called pikin to know which is yours and which isn't, or if you no even get pikin self.

Ki lo kan mi pelu abia re?

HellVictorinho:
Why should I tell you Will you pay for my service?

Service first, we'll discuss the pay larra

SteveOfu:
"Respect the relationship you have with your spouse. The outsider has no such commitment ". Words on marble. That 20% that one’s partner lacks is the bane of any relationship, once you go find that 20% in someone else that’s the day your relationship starts to fail

hmmmm.......sounds logical

EXLOVER:
I like Trump a lot, He is a man of his word, if you have a man like Trump as a friend you gonna enjoy the friendship, he tells you black is black and red is red, he doesn't sugarcoat anything.


Not someone that will cheer you up when you're wrong in front of you and condemn you behind your back.

Trump my man.

That is also what I like about the man's character unlike Obama or Biden who can't stay true to what is right and what's ring.

gaius01:
Arrrrrrrh

To answer your questions sequentially, Yes NDA combatant are more expose, more valued and more respected in the military because the have gone through that 4-5 under the military training consecutively. Both Academically and Military training.

No, it's not a certificate but a qualifications. A valued one.

Like i have said NDA graduate have upper hand and more opportunities than a normal DSSC graduate.

DSSC are civilians or military personnel who would go through a 1 year training. They are often professionals and thier aage range should not be less than 35. While SSC are civilians or military personnels who can go through a one year training and being posted to place like artillery or infantry because they have strength. Thier age range should not be less than 27.


While recruit on the other hand are normal soldiers with Secondary school certificate who after 6 months are commission non officers soldiers. The apex of their range range is an MWO. It's very hard to scale through to Second lieutenant.

You sure know this stuff.

But I hear a DSSC/recruit can also join the NDA, is that true?

Been all over the world.

Are NDA candidates more well trained?
or is it just the certificates? what is their difference and what makes the NDA trainee more suitable than the DSSC/Recruit trainee?

1000years in my 20years old form.

No trust to spare again baba.

LikeAking:
Secret

Just relay on ur first impule.

When ever u see a girl do the first thing that comes into ur mind without hesitation.

One mind.

No think anything again.

Are u a cancer man?

Zodiac sign?
Yes, cancer all the way.

Sammy07:
Maybe you should be talking of arsenal and her failures

Or maybe I should talk about Donald Trump's orange skin

Whenever I see a girl that catches my attention, and I want to talk to her, I suddenly freeze, I don't know what to say to her, I simply have no idea. I need help from people with experience please, any idea or tricks will do.

Whenever I see a girl that catches my attention, and I want to talk to her, I suddenly freeze, I don't know what to say to her, I simply have no idea. I need help from people with experience please, any idea or tricks will do.

Klass99:
I like;
1. Well thought out comments which provide value I learn from, even when they are not directed at me.
2. Funny or hilarious comments that make me laugh.
3. Sensible/mature people who engage with others in a courteous and good natured manner.
4. People who write well without using shorthand that induces a migraine and people who write in a simple yet intelligent way.

I don't like;
1. The phrases simp, vagina people, wailing penis people.
2. The never ending gender wars and constant female bashing.
3. The trolls/bullies who are quick to insults others, but the moment the heat is turned on them they run to the MODs forgetting they started it.
4. The monikers who are all over the forum always posting, chasing clout and public acclaim.
5. The tribalism and toxicity NL has become in recent years.

You got a boo?

Mokason288:
There are so many haters in the entertainment industry

Indomie Generation won’t know this brilliant entertainer ...

RIP BOSS

But why is this news coming from this mumu woman? What we heard was that he was involved in an auto crash and later died of internal injuries .

This ashawooooo woman please shut up, who goes to the movie set with loaded guns ?


I HOPE I MADE SENSE

Am sure Brandon Lee has a different opinion.

last year it was 6ft and am 20years.

agwom:
https://dailytrust.com/again-aisha-buhari-absent-in-aso-rock-for-two-months

I think baba is sick and she's taking care of him.

This man is just for show and deception.
He's nothing real. I feel even Trump is much real than he is.

sapphiere:
And the man too sued for breaching a contract.

Was a lawyer there when they were having the agreement.

bliz123:
I have heard stuffs like poverty kills. The bible also says the love of money is the root of all evil, so it struck me to ask the intelligent and exposed NL's which is worst?
My friend once asked me he is tired of looking for money that is not forthcoming after 6 years of graduation, he has learnt more than 4 trades and so on but yet, he is a far off where he wants to be, now he is sad,angry and desperate as I can see. Now is it that his love for money is the problem or the lack of it.
Or do u have valid things he can do to liberate him from poverty and save him?

Both is disturbing your friend.

Walahi dis one mad gan

The girl looks indian

RPirez:
R.I.P to her...

But how do pple survive in SE 9ja? Everything down there na just disaster, bad news, kidnappings etc... You wonder why they all run away to SW.

I was honestly hoping that there was no one from my tribe who is racist.

Very True
If people understood what true leadership was, the world would have been a better place.

This post is just.....