squad03: I have been pondering on this for several years and I'll appreciate the inputs of good people on this forum.
Way before I got married,I had considered that should I encounter any delay in childbearing,I would be open to 'unconventional' means like IVF, Surrogacy or adoption. Thankfully,I didn't encounter any delay and my husband and I have had 2 kids.I am not keen to have any more kids but my husband is ope more so we are keeping our fingers for a few more years.
Despite having completed my family (maybe temporarily), I have always kept on my mind the urge to volunteer to be a surrogate for another family.Why not since pregnancy treats me really well,my body snaps right back and I hardly experience that postpartum drag, it's a superpower I feel bad about going to waste since I probably won't be having anymore kids for myself. Over the years,I have encountered couples I would gladly have engaged in this conversation but every time I run it past my husband (before I get their hopes up) he shoots the idea down.
I found it quite odd at first until I read about a woman who after 2 kids died during childbirth as a surrogate for another couple. That was scary for me but it didn't quite dampen the desire.
The first couple I spoke to him about are friends of ours who have been making efforts and he said he appreciates my kindness but that this is Nigeria where nothing is black and white and he wouldn't want any troubles as a result of it. I paused for a bit. We have all been friends for a while since we were all single and there's an adage in Yoruba that translates to 'Communual eating isn't sweet if one person doesn't contribute' and there has been that silent wedge even though it's often ignored.
For me, I can hardly see the downside to this,granted I will have to pause my career for just a few months during the advanced stage or early postpartum phase but that pales in comparison to going on the journey with a friend who can be a part of it every step of the way,can come to Antenatal and ultrasound scans..it's exciting to me.They will be rest assured that I will be taking all the right steps to ensure perfectly healthy babies.Please bear in mind that the baby(ies) will be 100% theirs (husband's sperm and his wife's eggs),I will just be a happy incubator.
There are legal aspects I am happy to follow through as they please and this is no quest for financial gains as my family is more than comfortable.
I also have a cousin who has been trying for a baby but has medical conditions which have hindered this so far and I will do this for her in a heartbeat but I have to convince my husband to allow me. I have been having sleepless nights about it and I'm hoping that since it's family this time,he won't hesitate to give me his blessings considering it's a sacrifice for him as well.This is the only time I can take this break in my career and I want it to be meaningful. God answers prayers in diverse ways,maybe this is it for my cousin.
Husbands in the house,how will you react to such a request from your spouse?
Wives,can you volunteer to be a surrogate?
Parents-to-be,will you allow known persons to be surrogates for you or have you considered any downsides to it?
I come in peace and for the love of babies,may the joy go round.
Why do you desire to match a sleeping tiger's tail?
900warriorz: Why would my Wife carry another person's child?
I'm proudly African fa
Can you believe the what this woman is saying fa? You want to carry another man's child, and you expect a correct/undiluted/unmixed/unwashed African man to treat you like a baby during pregnancy?
Misslilbootay: I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him. Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.
Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.
The question I'm throwing now is 1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married) 2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady? 3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?
Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.
It creates a bond between then, bringing them more intimacy.
CHIMCO: Is it proper for a husband to give a gift to his Ex. through his wife.
An ex called the husband that she has financial problems and that she needed foodstuffs.
The husband is planning to assist her this December through his wife but the wife said no no no and she is raising dust over it.
The ex was kind to the husband before he changed location and married the wife.
Please is there and problem in the above.
It okay for you to help a person in need, and your wife is right too. Help your wife to understand you're only trying to help, but don't go overboard and derail from your noble intention.
okoIYAyin: You be mumu man, no be everything be spiritual! Your type are the only reason why the black race will remain stagnant when you can't think out of box, go and acquire more sense ogbeni!
As much as you want to dismiss it, this actually has spiritual implications which will manifest itself sooner or later.
Made4naijaoeo: BBNaija star, Nengi has flaunted the numerous expensive household items gifted by her fans (Ninjas).
The reality tv star is by far one of the housemates with the biggest support and love from fans in Nigeria and beyond. Barely two weeks ago, the fans gifted her and Ozo a whopping sum of N1 million cash, customized pillows and other presents.
Nengi has received a second wave of the gifts from fans which are home appliances among other things that completes a home.
Sharing the video of the items, she wrote;
"Ninjas, you guys are the best, the gifts never stop coming”
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trutht828: Don't tell me you are not seeing the evidence of curses upon your life already. You seem to not be the only one who doesn't know that you are cursed on this forum
*in davido's voice* Why both you and simplyleo are acting like cursed pussy, y'all bitchin about tribes like pussy
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FanOfMyself: You are letting your emotions get the better of you. He didn't just leave her just like that. The bolded shows that you are not a logical thinking human being. Nonsense!
Well, I don't wNt my kids to go through what I went through so I forgave her.. God was answering my prayers and things started picking gradually.. I went to meet them, took them all out and did shopping for them.. I was planning on how to relocate them to where I was... Now this is the revelation.. My wife has been used,thats the fact... My photography business first collapsed. I did about 5 businesses that just one of it can make me a millionaire, every business collapsed.. The more I sleep with her, the more things become worse for me... All these revelation came after I was told to pray and fast..
When things started picking gradually for me this year, I payed for a shop 300k,it was almost my son's birthday. So I went to see them.. We slept together, I came back after the birthday.. Could you believe, I was chased away from that shop and till now, I was only able to recover just 50k from the money.. Before my mom's birthday again, I was doing some business and it started picking. Went for my mom's, she came for the birthday too, we slept together, and when I came back to my business, the war I fought was unfathomable.. It collapsed too.. I am a very prayerful person and believe me, in the 8yrs we've been together, I never slept with another woman. I sweared with everything they gave me cos they couldn't believe me.. Before my daughter's birthday, God was merciful to me and I started another business.. I was warned severely never to sleep with her again.. Till now, my business is gradually picking and am able to send them money for upkeep and my kids school fees....
Now this my wife have an immediate younger brother who is a travel agent, I remember last year I introduced a friend to him and even vouch and stood for him that nothing will go wrong.. Truly he did this guy's traveling to Dubai and the guy went.. But we didn't know what happened and this guy came back.. Maybe he was deported or not, nobody knows but this my friend came to arrest me and I was told to produce my Inlaw.. He came and we were both locked up for 3days..along the line, the matter got settled, I parted with some money after selling one of my equipment. And he too also raised some money.. So this year, when things were already picking up for me, he got into another problem and this time, they were gonna jail him, so I borrowed him 100k and he promised to pay them 50k monthly till he complete the payment.. It was a travel gone sour though I know some people he has done traveling for and they are doing fine in their respective country of choice.
So this year, someone decided to help me travel out, he gave me UNIVERSITY OF MANITOBA admission processing fees, it was 120cad, but I gave this my Inlaw 150$ believing that atleast, since I am his Inlaw and have done him alot of goods before nothing will go wrong.. That was in August.. Fast forward to 2days ago, I messaged University of Manitoba since I wasn't getting any update, and I was told my application was not submitted neither paid for, I almost collapsed... So what he did was doctored some documents and sent to me and I believed him.. Right now, I am in a fix.. About my wife's promiscuity, I have all evidence of their chat.. After forgiving her over that chat, when I went for my daughter's birthday, I wanted to go through her phone, she gave me a heavy fight that I can't go through her phone, the phone I bought for her with my money.. When she slept, I opened it with her Fingerprint. The chats there are so damaging. Some have slept with her and still wanting to do more, some she is already negotiating with. She works in a beer parlor now and she is already using waist beads, she knows I hate these things..
I can't tell it all but if you have a question to ask, or anything you think I missed, ask me and i will tell you the truth.. My Inlaw hasn't pick my call to tell me why that happened..
If you think this is a fabricated story, I have all evidences. If enough people ask for it, I will release it here..
thesilentman: While at AOCOED,the last couples' life i lived did not end on a romantic note.This sexy and slender beauty that i had banged like over a hundred times just woke up one sunday and started preaching the gospel to me,that what we were doing is called "living in sin" and that we should stop it and all that jazz.I was shocked.Like play like play,this young lady became a heavy church-goer and a big time S.U. She's now married to an RCCG pastor.Imagine!
After reading your post, all my doubts on if I'll marry or not has been removed.
Health › Re: Would You Permit Your Partner To Be A Surrogate? by Twenty8: 3:35pm On Dec 14, 2020
