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"Meenah is a good person.. she doesn’t deserve a man like me. She will make a great and loving partner to a far better person than me.

So who does he want to mary his used product?

Ataadod:
What do men really wants?

Ask your daddy and tell us whatever he says.

Newman001:
I met her through facebook few months ago, we chatted and the rest is history. I wanted something serious with her and i told her severally because I wasn't too comfortable with the numerous calls she receives from guys.

One day a friend of mine told me that someone he knows collected her number and my so call girlfriend slept over at the guys place after just two days of knowing the guy. I confronted her, she denied initially but later owned up and apologized. I forgave her because I know no one is perfect.

Few days ago i put on auto record on her phone and this night she is at my place sleeping so i open the records and there is this particular conversation where she travel to a near by state to see another guy.
Im just confused right now. I have invested so much emotions on this gal and don't know what to do.

Despite that she is working and the little time she has, she spent it at my place she still got time to be meeting and sleeping with random men for money. I'm thinking of confronting and breaking up with her right now or just codedly place her on the level she deserves and let this slide.

Lies by moonlight.

Najdorf:
What will someone not see on this God-forsaken site.

So a 23 year old man can groom an 11 year old, marry her at 13 and it's fine because it's consensual? Pedophiles in hiding *spites*

You probably didn't read it well, he said he's 26 years while she is 21 years.

Cypress042:
She's 21years old, a mother of four and you're proud to say it, you think it's funny right?

Op at what age did you marry your wife, i want to check something

The age doesn't matter if their marriage is consensual.

OboOlora:
Please give credit to the site you copied this article from, don’t take credits for another person research work.

We al know y’all Nigerians ain’t that intelligent and research-oriented

Maybe you're not, don't use your own low intelligence to measure the rest of us.

Today, a close friend of my brother had an accident and died while travelling from camp. Please is it necessary for people to risk their lives travelling there? I honestly don't understand the need for that, despite all the news of accidents occurring everytime they go camp.

More people like him will follow this method. An unnecessary war being started by one man, this is not a war that Russia wants, this is a war that Putin wants.

LeeSantos:
99.9% of the citizens if given the opportunity. Will not even think twice before leaving this country.

Your statistics is wrong brother

Buzzapper:
Before and after photos of entertainment journalist, Habeeb Babatunde, now Noni Salma, a transgender after moving to the US.

Creep

Graduate2015:
Sorry this is going to be lengthy. I dont know how to shorten this.
I'm married for 16yrs but I cannot say that I have enjoyed my marriage. My husband is lovely when in a good mood but worst during his bad mood. His mood goes up and down but he thinks he doesn't have a problem. I think he has a bipolar and I've always mentioned to him that his behaviour seems like that but he never acknowledges it. Two yrs ago it got worse and we ended in couples therapy. During this period he revealed to me that while in the uni that he goes through period of sadness and the thing affected his grades anytime he experiences that mood during exam. I encouraged him to see a doctor and the doctor gave him antidepressant but he only used it for two weeks and stopped, saying he doesnt need that. But what he doesnt realise is that his period of sadness did not only happen in uni but its currently happening in his marriage. Our marriage is Iike a roller coaster. He finds problem but never suggests or initiate or even action solutions when suggested. He believes that every problem we have in our marriage is my fault ..
During his sad moments he eats unhealthy food, orders food everyday and says i make him sad and that i have caused him to gain weight. He suffers from diabetes and hypertension but he orders ice cream, chocolate smoothies during our silent period time. I've asked him for a separation but he refused. He calls me a wicked woman, that I make his life hell, that he will kill me one day. All this outburst just because u said something like can u clean up that plate u left in the sitting room(even though there was never a problem just before u ask). He uses visitors toilet but has never cleaned it. I have asked him several times not to use it. No other person at home uses it. Every morning I check and clean the toilet because he always leaves it unflushed.
He works almost everyday and provides for the family. I also work but since having our last child I only work on his day off which is once a week or twice because my son cannot stay in daycare due to his disability. He only goes to work, comes back, eat and watches tv. He detaches himself in family involvement while i run around with our children. He basically provides everything at home but he asks for my support when the need arises such as investments, I bring money for house or land deposits to support him or school fees. We have many houses. Our last duplex in Nigeria. He did foundation and stopped because he was building a house here. So I took over the building and finished he only continued from interior deco.
He doesn't help around the house, in short he messes it up and when I ask for it to be cleaned he gets really angry and can call me names. Because of my son's disability therapists comes to our house every day but he doesn't care if they meet his socks, belts and used plates in the sitting room because he leaves them there and rushes to work next day. He also doesn't delegate or ask our older kids to do any chores. He also doesn't involve in training them or in homework. He is a chronic porn addict and for the past few months he has stopped having sex with me. The last two we had in April I initiated it so I don't initiate anymore. He said anytime he ask for sex I always turn him down. But the fact is that he works everyday, sometimes nights. We.dont sleep in the same room because he snores and have sleep apnoe yet he is still not seeking any medical help. I end up staying awake the whole night if we sleep together not only does his snoring disturbs me but he also goes secs without breathing which scares me. He stays in the sitting room watching TV and comes to my room to demand sex around 4/5am which I can't do at that time. I suggested we watch TV in my room at night and have sex before sleep but he won't do it.
He also doesn't communicate his mind but end up using passive aggression to communicate. He gives silent treatment and I used to ask what was the problem as I sometimes don't even know what the problem was. Sometimes it's something I said which he could have told me off immediately. I dont ask what the problem is anymore because ive asked him to always communicate but still the same silent treatment. He can just burst into anger even with little issue. Right now I know he has some resentment and animosity towards me because of not being able to express his feelings. I buy everything in our house because he doesn't take charge or in control and always likes to be led. I think after all this yrs he is now feeling like he has lost control and i sense low self esteem even though his career is in the top highest paid job in the world. Our marriage has been like two weeks of good mood, then two weeks of silent treatment. He avoids discussing any problem and keep saying that there is no point discussing it because it will not bear any fruit that I will not change. Anything I dont do doesn't happen in our marriage. He takes responsibility of our car insurance but its not until I got into accident that I found out he hasn't paid our car insurance for a yr or two. Even our house didn't have house insurance since 2020 until i found out in April this year and immediately paid for it. He basically takes no responsibility for anything and its getting worse. It's like having a child but then u cant correct them because they can beat u up. I have a friend that her husband works all the time too but cleans their home on his day off. He also buys gadget like robotic cleaner to ease her suffering. I basically buy everything in my house. He doesn't have initiative except when investing in property, that's only place he takes leads, oh we should buy a house or land but this happens once a yr or more. It's not something you do everytime. He doesn't even know how to use a washing machine. I had to teach him when I was going away and this man damaged all his white designer clothes because he washed different colours together and also used cleaning bleach to wash clothes and my children kept saying how could he not know because they can use the machine.. I also pay for his clothes to be ironed. I don't know how he sees me as an evil person because he calls me that during quarrell.
His behaviour makes me so sad because we live overseas where is no help or family support. I'm always tired and he doesn't care. I stay awake at night with our son and he doesn't come out to help even with his cries he sleeps through it all. I don't think I can continue like this because he doesn't realise the problem. He thinks he helps around but I'm being ungrateful. I don't mind if he can own up and confess that he wants to be a traditional man but he will never confess but his actions tells me otherwise. His good part is that he gives me access to his money may be that's because I can use it to be running the house and remove that responsibility from him. He also buys me expensive things like range rover, gucci but my love language is not material stuff but hands on man because I believe I can afford that myself.

From all you have said, I deduce that your husband is mentally sick and it stems from his background, something from his past that he hasn't come to peace with and you might just remind him of that thing. When people binge eat, it is usually to comfort themselves of their depression(and they still eat to the point of deeper depression), the porn might also still be as a result of depression or just his sexual desires which you are not attending to tho I don't blame u(he needs to take care of himself first), he can't take charge of his home because he's scared to show his weaknesses to you or the children cause he doesn't want to fall your hand or theirs because he knows he's not currently a good role model for his children.

Meditation: First I think he needs to come to peace with the source of his depression, he should try meditation so as to be mindful of his feelings not just emotionally but physically too, he should also try writing down his feelings in a book, the things he's not happy about in his life(and also with a good plan to solve them), he should also write about the things he's happy and grateful for in his life.

Good hygiene practice: Healthy eating and exercise too will go a long way for him and give him the confidence to be the man he wishes he were for you and his children.

Isolation: I think he should isolate himself from fake external stimulations like social media and binge watching TV because in some ways they might be encouraging his depression, instead he should start reading good books that will help his confidence in himself, family and, profession.

Prayers: He needs to pray for himself to his maker who understands him the most in ways not even his wife or mother can't. And prayer from you too.

Forgiveness: He needs to forgive himself( for his weakness and incompetence that his feeling) and others.

Encouragement: He needs all the encouragement he can get not just from himself but you too, because truly you and his children are a source of his troubled mind, the feeling that he is not man enough to lead his family might be killing him and ridding him of every pride, confidence and self-esteem he has in himself as a man and leader.

How is Jang Uk the Kings son if genetically he should be Jang Gangs son?

Idc cause I don't use it b4

Abujaexpress:
I have been facing a lot of criticisms from some of my in-laws and my relatives, particularly my mother in-law who has frowned at why I will build a three bedroom flat, with separate rooms for me and my wife.

I married my wife in 2016 and we have been been living in a rented One Bedroom Flat, i.e. A bedroom and living room. We have got 3 kids and just early this year, we moved to our own house- a three bedrooms flat all ensuite. The master bedroom for me as the husband and my Wife's room and the other room for the kids, all tailored to suit our respective tastes.

But my mother-in-law, on coming to greet us recently was not comfortable with me and my wife's having different rooms, even when we have allayed whatever fears she may be nursing. According to her reasons, husband and wife living in separate rooms will not bond the love or marriage stronger compared to if we are living or sharing the same room. Apart from her, a few of my people too, including my foster mother have also raised a concern about, saying that the best for us was for both of us to share the same room so that there will be more bonding and attachment.

I really want to ask, which is better and is there anything bad about a husband and wife living apart in different rooms or it's better to share and live in one Room?

Try converting your own room to a study room (with a big couch) and packing your things like clothes and shoes to your wife's room, but spend most of your time in the study room when you want your privacy.

adenigga:
Source: https://punchng.com/Presidency-tough-I-am-eager-to-go-Buhari

So you agree that you were never fit for it?

protoncub:
I'm not asking for a friend.

Why is it that every time I masturbate, I fall sick? Please, I need logical explanations.

The interesting thing is, even if I have sex everyday for a whole week, I don't fall sick. In fact I get healthier.

At a point, I was servicing three girls together and doing several rounds daily. I never fell sick. But once I try to masturbate, its a combination of fever, sore-throat, diarrhea, fatigue etc.

I've searched Google for answers but webpage is filled with desperate people (especially the westerners) claiming that masturbation is perfectly healthy and there's no scientific proof that it has any harm.

Did masturbation reduce your sexual capabilities?

Asceleb16:
As a matured guy or lady, do you see anything wrong in a guy dating a taller lady or a lady dating a shorter guy Have you ever done such? How was the relationship?


Share your opinion and experience.

Are you honestly asking for our opinions? Or do you just want us to confirm urs? Ur adding of the word "mature" is just a silent expectation that we should be matured and say yes there is nothing wrong, whereas this is not a matter of right or wrong, this should be just about what each of us prefer.

Plshelpmybrothe:
work hard not smarter
na robotnik talk am
now guess the film

Sonic?

Please people I want to know what crypto currency/investment is all about and, how can I also make money from it?

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was raped around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later dropped a voice note telling me how it happened.

That a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy's junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student, after his junior ones left, he rolled up weed and started smoking, so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claimed to fight him and scream but the guy overpowered him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater.

And she even talked to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and used. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refused and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her.

Some weeks later she discovered she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion.

After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple asked her some questions about the incident which she don’t have an answer to:

*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..

There are too many loopholes in this story of hers. Look bro, don't let blind love guide you but let common sense guide you. IMO she's obviously lying.

sherylbaky:
It would be reversed, maximum of 24 hours. If u don't get it after 24hrs then visit ur bank and explain to them.
And again, u should try confirm from ur friend, it might have dropped in his side, it happens like that too.

Thanks for replying. No she didn't get it. Is it 24 hours working day or does it also include weekends?

So today this evening I tried using ecobank mobile app to make transfer of 45k to my friend, but my money was deducted while the transfer kept saying pending for like 2 hours then failed. So I want to know house what can I do to get my money back please?

So today this evening I tried using ecobank mobile app to make transfer of 45k to my friend, but my money was deducted while the transfer kept saying pending for like 2 hours then failed. So I want to know house what can I do to get my money back please?

The fact that you're even asking means something is wrong

Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have very strong and hard erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, Coca-Cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her about dressing decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.

Wahala

Under-g

No 4

Why do cheaters say "I can explain" or "I didn't mean to hurt you" or "I am sorry" or they just outright start confessing their love for the person they cheated on?

K

gasparpisciotta:
Everyone of us should prepare for that day.

You mean the day of his death

So who is behind big brother South-Africa

Backlaw406:
Did you say he can't make it or the girl can't come back when things turn around for better?. clarify it abeg. There is 80% chances the two things happen for real

Those 80% chance are in nollywood bro