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peacefull:
Hello everyone.

Thanks for open this topic.
And sorry about my English is very poor.
Coz I'm not English speaker.

I really need advice from who is Nigerian(Igbo) and who is marry with Nigerian(Igbo)guy.

I'm married with Igbo guy more than 10years.
We started relationship totally almost 15years.

But I'm still dont know lots of things about Nigerian culture.

Now we are living separate.
Coz he got new work in far place.
That's why he is only pay for house bill where I living.
I also working.
But my wage is very small.
He always demind me to pay for lots of things more than my wage since when we married.

In suddenly he leaved our house w/o any discuss when after he spoke his friend who is introduced him to new work.

Get new work is ok.
But what I dont understand is always he decided by himself about all of things.

My health is no good.
I suppose to be go to hospital what doctor said when I went to there @ last time.
But I still cant go there more than 4month.
Bcoz of money.

I told him that how much so hard life.
But he always ignoring me.

I know that he has money.
Coz every year he go back to Nigeria.

He can buy air ticket and many gifts for his family but he has no money to take me to hospital.

Is it his culture?

Wife must pay for life more than wage?
Husband salary is more than wife.
But still must pay half and half or more than him?
I know that not everybody same.

If wife have sick,still have to go to work and have to make money to go to hospital by herself?

Is that Nigerian common marriage life style?

He started stay in Nigeria more than 1month when he go back to Nigeria.
He told me 3months by this time.
Now he is in Nigeria.

I can understand that everybody who is stay in abroad want go back to own country and missing family.
But why always w/o wife?

People who is married and living in Nigeria,every year take holiday 1to3month?
No work,no pay,w/o partner.
Is it common?

And my husband dont wanna give me any gift and dont wanna spend time with me on any celebrate day.
So I also stopped gift for him.
I have no experience about dating with him as like common couples.
Is it Igbo culture?

I know that I decided marry with him.
But I didn't know kind of hard and lonely life Iwill get.

I still wanna ask many things.
But already too much writing.

Sorry about my poor English once more time.

I hope many people can understand what I'm trying to tell you.
PLS I NEED HELP.

THANKS.

Sprumbabafather:
This is what we call "playing to the gallery"

The Federal government, DPR and NNPC knows that there are another 3000 filling stations selling fuel at more than #250 and they keep quiet and laugh at you all, then they decide to act a movie, they set up camera and lights, then the scream "action" and Maikanti Baru, Buhari and Osinbajo walks in and discover the only filling station selling fuel high, then they keep filming as they turn to Robin Hood and dispense free fuel to their mumus who must applaud for them for the film just acted

"CUT" We are not small children anymore

MrPresident1:
You could not make a head of it?

MrPresident1:
Who has read this thread?

Demmzy15:
Beggar oshi, even the UK voted in favor against the US. And the UK is the greatest ally of US o; you guys are pathetic cowards.

rid21:
How as palestine benefited Nigeria comparing that to the strong presence of USA in Nigeria. My brother if USA turn their back on Nigeria which they promised according to Nikki haley (US rep to UN) i promise you we will be worst than Venezuela. Abegi naija begging begins

We simply really ought to abstain from such Votes that can determine our economical stands and international ties

Bollinger:
You said parents are 85% correct in whatever advice they give which is not true which is why i said what i said. Their advice is even worse when it comes to relationships because what they like will not be what you like. Well, like you said, it's you opinion.

pimper24:
Believers could my dream about rapture be genuine or is it another fever? Christ in his royal robes was just indescribably magnificent. The chariot adorned I there numbers joined with reigns as of great ornament flew to earth with Christ at the front. The place was like a rocky desert, cold and silent and no building or tree in sight. There were people of all colours there hailing the Son of Man.
To my amazement, where I was standing I sighted several Muslims waiting and equally savoring the moment. All were waiting for the next instructions from he Lord.

kingsleyugo41:
I had a dream last night where groups of demons came into the room that i was staying with my elder brother, I started casting them out by saying by the fire of Jesus Christ i command you to catch fire and die, i shouted like three times but not happen they keep on come close to me. i started saying by the fire of Moses i command you to catch fire and die and they started failing one by one as i keep on shouting till they all vanished. Please my fellow Christians why is that they did not fail when i was using by the fire of Christ Jesus?

joedesigns:
I broke up with her when I found out she cheated on me by rekindling old flames with her ex.

Now I feel terrible, took time off school, I know it's going to affect my GP, we are in the same dept.

Not slept in three days, it's obvious I loved her too much, she's my first love.
I Can't get her off my chest, she's advocating for us to stay friends.

Thought I would feel better by dumping her, but I feel utterly miserable.

If this is what breaking up with a girl feels like, and if I can pull through this with my sanity, I'm definitely never going to date a girl, ever again.

And for the first time in my life, suicide seems like a plausible option right now.

Preeck:
Dear Nairalanders, i have a been a registered user on this platform going back as far as 2008. I decided to use this moniker to create this thread because of the sensitivity of this personal issue.
I am a realist as well as a spiritual person, a born Christian to be precise.
I don't want to bore you with so much details, all I have to ask is: what do you do when you are told that your mum is a witch. I have tried to do away with this information or revelation for some years now because I thought it's just some callous scammers trying to get something out of you, but today somewhere in a faraway place I have never been to or known, I was told the same thing about my mum. What do I do. Of course she's my mum and I will ever be grateful she brought me to this world but what do I do to be free from her spiritual grasp over me.
I know this is an open forum but I will really want kids to stay away from commenting on this post.

TheControversy:
The account of Genesis 6:1-4 records one of the numerous odd stories that can be found in the Bible's Old Testament. It details the story of the Sons of God (the Angels) who took notice of the daughters of men and bore unnatural children (the Nephilims) through them. The full account reads:

"And it came to pass, when men began to multiply on the face of the earth, and daughters were born unto them,
That the sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were fair; and they took them wives of all which they chose.
And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.
There were giants in the earth in those days; and also after that, when the sons of God came in unto the daughters of men, and they bare children to them, the same became mighty men which were of old, men of renown."(KJV)

The bizarre nature of this story lies not just in the fact that the angels developed lustful desires for women, but that they also were able to bear children through these women whom they took as wives. This is strange since as is believed, God made the angels as spirits who have no flesh and therefore no fleshly desires which naturally follows. If Genesis 6:1-4 is to be held as fact, the following questions understandably arise:
1. How were the angels able to "have sex and bear children" since God only blessed Humans and all living creatures on earth with the ability to procreate? (Genesis 1:28)
2. Since God made the angels and bestowed on them the powers they possess including the power to take human form (Genesis 18:1-8, 19:1-11, 32:24-30, Hebrews 13:2) do they also possess the ability to reproduce?
3. If your answer to the second question is NO, then who are the sons of God in Genesis 6:1-4 and why did they bear children of unnatural size and strength.
If your answer is YES, then why did God give angels the power of Sexual reproduction?

Theists, please comment.

mukulu56:
This method would have worked assuming he isnt locked out already. This is a usa paypal.

donbrowser:
Good morning nairalanders, this paypal account has been giving me headache.
I have verified the phone number. When i try to send money, it requires a phone number but does not show the number i used for verification, it simply indicates a blank number space but when i try to add my phone number (the one i used for verification). It says number not registered under my name and they cant accept it.

I need help ASAP.

boringnigerian:
My brother each age has it's own set of horrors each conditioned by the technology available at the time. You think if planes and bombs were available 1000 years ago, they would have just set them aside and not used them to blow themselves into oblivion because they were "better people"? Trust me, they would have used them in equally gruesome ways that would have shocked people of the time. Do you realize that there are fewer wars now than before, law enforcement is more efficient, diseases are better managed and life expectancy is generally longer? How do all these mean that the world is getting worse?

Philosophia:
Hey guys. Thanks a lot.

I don't want to seem like a stupid person or what not. But I am in a confusion like I have never been in.

I slept on this issue. And my mind was troubled through out the night. I find it hard to really believe or accept that she would be seeing another guy right now. The reason is that she has been in several situations where guys would try to hit on her and start up something but she'd shut them down and tell me about it and we would laugh over it.

I remember that atimes I would read stories off nairaland about relationship troubles to her and we would discuss it. She would always give sound and very mature advice. And I would thank my stars for having met such a wise and conscientious girl.

I am thinking, is it possible she just wants to wake me from my seeming "slumber" to take life more seriously and make things happen faster generally? Or Does she expect me to get my act together ASAP and step to the plate to fulfill her desire?

She's the type that would think up an idea this minute and 3 mins later, she's doing it while I would take a bit more time to think the idea through. She has gotten me to take decisions faster in past by pulling up some stunt. Some of the decisions were ok while some others, I still regret till date.

I don't want to be in a haste. I want to follow her as smartly as possible so I don't loose out unnecessarily. Sometimes I fear she is smarter than me in "things of the world". She obviously has more experience, as this is her third relationship and my first.

What do you think?

MrHistorian
Wristbangle
PrimadonnaO
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