₦airaland Forum

Mk12:
Their wedding is always quick .
You won't see all the preparation, speculation and scandals you normally see in a Nigerian celebrity wedding

true sha

EMMAACHILE:
The contention here is not about countries but about the individual who is moving.

Many diaspora Nigerians are not making it due to many factors. I don't have an exact data on percentages for this statement.

Some guys are derailing the thread but comparing countries. Even if it's comes to that, many struggling diasporans will prefer to reverse the time to go back to the old life here in Nigeria.

you were the one who opened the window for comparison remember?

emmaodet:
Abi oooooo. Is it possible for everybody to be rich? Laila. As a matter of fact, alot of people will be at the base of the food chain.
What we need are the basic amenities of life as a human being breathing.
Food, house, cloth, good health care and education.
Others that may follow - electricity, pipe borne water and good transpitation system especially railway.
That is why am sad when you see alot of poor and broke ladies running away from struggling guys because if we like it or not, we will have a large poor guys at the base.
And the question is - who will marry them? Since all ladies at the base are running away from them

let's just say that these ladies are victims of their environment and their expectation

in Burkina; broke guys have better prospects to marry on the steady than Nigeria because I'm NIGERIA we have been sold materialism and wanton consumerism

it is the expectations that has pushed many young men into crime, to meet up; especially if you are a "Nwafor" (if you know; you know)

it's too bad

AngelicBeing:
Lol, succinctly put, there's no basis of comparison between the western world and Nigeria, it is like comparing the kingdom of God in all its fullness and glory to that of the Devil, I agree with your post and that of Ugosample, Canada that is been mentioned is a good country, even without a job, ministry of social services via your social worker will ask you to get a place and the government will pay for it, we have food banks that will give you free groceries, we also have hot meals in different locations were you can go and eat for free, millions of people are on welfare / disability assistance monthly from the government and the list goes on, with all your wealth in Nigeria, you are still trapped in the whole nonsense in the country, from Buhari the skeleton in Aso Rock to so many rich folks, ordinary small ailments, they are on their way out of the country to Dubai, India or the western world, Abeg, it is better to live from pay cheque to pay cheques in Canada with several government assistance to fall back to than earn all the millions in Nigeria and you are not free to even drive your car from state to state due to insecurity

exactly

the spate of insecurity is the worst

But what did we expect
the insecurity is the main symptom of a failed country

Coming to Nigeria these days from out of the country now you have to do all manners of fasting and prayer to be safe.

What they are living back in NiggerArea is not life

Dialectics:
The bolded is the biggest misconception of the century. Where are you getting this fallacy from? How do you describe very comfortable? Many professional Nigerian immigrants have two homes, one which they live in and a second vacation/investment home. They have gone beyond public schools which in themselves are very good, and send their children to private schools. They take several vacations a year, but not in Nigeria anymore. You do not see them in Nigeria because they do not feel safe there. They are very comfortable from their employment.

I know from first hand information that your statement is not true. I personally know engineers, accountants, finance professionals, physicians, investment bankers etc who are doing very very well, even by western standards. Nigerians are arguably some of the most financially successful immigrants in the U.S. and Canada. Successful professional Nigerians do not boast or make noise about their wealth. They are quietly enjoying their lives in the western world.

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exactly

Dialectics:
Like Ugosample said above, what is this Nigerian obsession with getting rich? This mentality comes from the fact that only rich people have access to all the basics of life in Nigerian. In developed societies, you do not have to be rich to access good health care, emergency services, security, running water, constant electricity, good education, decent roads, transportation etc. These are all the commonwealth of these nations and accessible to its citizens because they all pay for these services in some form or the other and hold their govt accountable when these things are not provided. In Nigeria, we don't want to pay for anything so we get nothing. Even when we pay, some rouges in govt steal our commonwealth and use the stolen wealth to provide for their families alone while the rest of the citizenry suffer and struggle to provide for themselves in any way possible, including 419, online fraud, money rituals, kidnapping etc

We Nigerians are natural born complainers, we complain about anything and everything. Did you ask the guys that were complaining if they lack any basic amenities? Ask them if their kids are in good schools? Ask them if they fear for their lives when they go out at night. Ask them if they can go to the hospital and get treated for any ailment? Ask them if security services harass them on the streets of Canada? Ask them if they can eat whatever they want whenever they want? Ask them if they have to buy generators and store petrol/diesel at home like some kind of hoarder? Ask them if they are worried about how they will survive in retirement? Ask them if mosquitoes dey disturb them for night? Ask them if they are worried about their vote being counted when they vote in elections? Ask them if they fear Fulani herdsmen attacks? Ask them if they can write to their elected representatives and get an actual response? Ask them why they are always looking good in pictures and posting pictures contradicting their complaining on facebook? Ask them why they haven't come back home if life in Canada is so bad?

Finally, let me tell you for a fact that you are misinformed with your statement about only specialized jobs can prevent you living from paycheck to paycheck. Bus drivers, police officers, and many many more are living good with great salaries in the western world. I know of custodians/janitors who have done very well for them selves and can afford vacations to the Carribean every year. The choices you make determine how you end up!

you have said it all

EMMAACHILE:
Lmao @Ugosample
The simple truth is that the average migrant to these countries are struggling with some doing more than one job.
You can still be buoyant in the west and be very comfortable but not through jobs. The Indians and the Chinese know this better.
Africans may be the most educated but still the poorest because of this kind of your mindset

just so you know

I'm a business owner and not a worker

not that I regret my education
But then, i PREFER running different businesses and running my portfolio of shares.

so that mindset you wrote up there is not mine

EMMAACHILE:
OH, you prefer a life of paycheck to paycheck to been financially ok? I tire for you oh

who is talking about life of pay check to pay check?

As long as you are prudent, you CANNOT live hand to mouth in a western country

the only thing is that you may not be able to amass stupendous wealth with near zero value addition as it is done back home in NiggerArea

But you will have the quality of life that even the so called "Ubee rich" can only dream of In NiggerArea.

That is just my point.
the opportunity to excel is very wide out here

It just depends on the person and his circumstance

I don't have anything against those of you who choose to live in NiggerArea tho

I only pity you guys

Now my aunt despite her so called money cannot even travel from pH to our state without having her heart in her mouth due to the spate of kidnapping and insecurity in HellGeria

the OP should plan properly and leave jare
for the same of her kids

AngelicBeing:
The Dubai they are talking down about is the bride of almost all global brands, I have been there and I enjoyed the city, Abu dabhi's Sovereign wealth fund is 875 billion dollars compared to that of Nigeria which is 2.15 billion dollars and the UAE has a total population of 9.5 million, local citizens are just about 1.5 million, they have been able to set records in almost every indices of good living,

Emirates airlines was voted as the 5th best in the world this week, UAE citizens are having the best of the best in terms of good living, you are safer in the UAE than anywhere in world

l read an article few years ago and it was reported that the crime rate in the UAE was the lowest in the world, mehn, all this information is available online, how many UAE citizens have you met or seen kidnapping, robbing, looting, seeking asylum, and committing all manner of wickedness in the world, they have visionary leaders that cares for all her citizens

you don talk am finish

EMMAACHILE:
A job in a foreign country will never make you rich. I had some discussions with Nigerian guys now in Canada lamenting about the cost of living. Except few specialized jobs, you will be living from paycheck to paycheck.

what is with Nigerians with their obsessions for being rich

excessive obsession for wealth is a sign of a failed country and a failed society

As long as you are doing fine and can pay your bills and still have a 401K
what's with the obsession for being "rich" ?

Nigeria people sef

very nice

123JohnF:
Staged video, little girl parents teach her to cry and say it for to use her maybe for stay all the family in Dubai or to apply for a resident visa. Little kids are naturally happy where their parents and family are, teaching this to a child saying she doesn't like her country and she doesn't want to see her Nigerian family it's raising an ungrateful monster with no roots, no homeland, egotistical person with no feelings, money hungry selfish person. My advice to her parents, if the girl continues crying and refusing to get in, sell her to Dubai man harem and leave her there. Or sell her as a maid to Dubai, make her work for a living, maybe she realizes that her HOME, FAMILY is everything.

What is this one saying now ?

ifyalways:

I learnt how to do this nonsense today from Nairaland. LOL

old woman?
I disagree
as long as one is below 65, that person is not old o

AngelicBeing:
Flesh and blood has not reveal this to you but by my father who owns the entire universe, the truth is bitter but the truth we know, say and do despite those who feels they have to be patriotic citizens to a dead entity is what will set us free, l stand with the truth all the time and I don't support stupidity or kiss the dirty feet of any politician, and anyone that gets offended with my opinion can head to the deepest part of the the Indian Ocean and persih there

exactly

coming back from Istanbul some time back to Nigeria was just for me.

ordinary Istanbul o
much more organised and sensible than our destroyed country, smh

Mizwisdom:
My first flight on emirates, I met some students coming back to Nigeria after spending time in Dubai, to my surprise the kids were very happy to return (I dunno why) they were all like they missed Nigeria. I should have documented their comments and taken pictures of them to upload here. Only one kid crying for whatever reason and adults are cursing out again, are you guys for real?

An ah

Been flying in and out Nigeria for years, and except for Old folks sometimes, i have NEVER seen anyone happy to return to Nigeria and her jaga jaga
especially landing in that chaotic airport called murtala, or looking at how pitch black and hopeless Nigeria looks from the sky (even Lagos) when you are hovering across at night shortly before landing


Naija issa casted, destroyed country

We dey only manage am because it's our country of origin

we all know the truth

AngelicBeing:
Lol, I am not surprised, even the Devil craves to live in paradise than hell, it is better to live in Dubai or any functioning saner clime with peace of mind than to live in the headquarters of poverty in the world, 6th most miserable country on earth, and a country where 21 states has been declared unsafe for western visitors

lmao Angelic

I know say i go see you here

ifyalways:
Why heat no go worry her when dem carry agbaya and turban wear her .

Make them UnCloth her first make better 9ja breeze touch and re-format her brain. How many of her mates don H-enter plane before ?

jokes apart

this is touching

Naija emebigo sam sam

Ifexontop:
interesting just as justwise said before that the we be closing the door soon! So sad Nigerians misused it.

Naija people like to act desperate

That has always been a problem

OneNaija:
To obtain Brazil visa is very difficult now, I mean extremely difficult even in Europe as a Nigerian. They refer Nigerian application to their ministry of Internal affair and they will just refuse you without reason why you are being refuse. Nigeria passport is dead when it come to Brazil visa.

wow

Brazil is also closing the door to Nigerians as well?

tactius:
Hmm

So the South East has the same problem as the North....children getting married!

All those people from the SE that like to shout 'Aboki'...see your people o!

On a more serious note, we have a problem in Nigeria with child pregnancy and children meeting children, as well as kids molesting adults. Time we built the strong institutions needed to end this abuse.

As we can see....it is not a problem with one tribe , religion or region.

Modified..

One amusing thing about this thread...if it was in the North, and the gender was reversed....there would have been comments of 'fear North' and 'a certian religion encourages child wives...therefore it it evil'...but since na Southerner....

Nigerians can be hypocrites na

don't you know

Jjc2000:
My next door neighbour from core north just got FAAN job yesterday.
Someone who can't even write.
Nepotism in Nigeria is the greatest form of corruption.

aboki own Nigeria public service

don't you know?

emmasege:
I'm not sure you understand the meaning of nepotism or what OBJ is really talking about. If you did, you'd not accuse OBJ of nepotism.

Every sensible person knows that OBJ's presidency was well guided by the principle of federal character. He didn't condone nonsense even from his kinsmen (O'odua People's Congress) when their activities threatened the peace and unity of Nigeria. OBJ is the reason why OPC has not snowballed into the equivalent of Niger Delta militants or worse still Boko boys.

EXACTLY

Horus:
The Government in Nigeria is the innocent mirror of the nation. The quality of government and its leaders, is simply a reflection of the collective consciousness of all the people in Nigeria. In some instances, leaders who came to power as the champions of anti-corruption have themselves been charged with being involved with levels of corruption even more serious than those of their predecessors. If the collective consciousness in Nigeria is disintegrated and negative, and people are not behaving in accord with Natural Law, then problems and corruption will be an unavoidable phenomenon of government. If, on the other hand, the collective consciousness in Nigeria is positive, integrated, and coherent, then the government will not be influenced by any negativity. If the people in Nigeria wish to be protected from corruption in government, then they must create an integrated collective consciousness. Positivity and harmony should be so strong and dense in national consciousness that negative influences cannot penetrate it

EXACTLY

dominique:
You're a writer so I expect you to comprehend easily. Just a few lines I wrote and that's all you could deduce? Supporting a person that supports crime does do a number to the brain.

P.S. If you support and defend criminals, that makes you a criminal by association. If you support a person that boldly stands for criminals and sings for them, what does that make you? Yep a criminal by association


#Marlians

You have said it all

BiafranBushBoy:
No insults dawg!

Continue with the discussion.

Where's the confessional statement?

What's the evidence of yahoo?

go hustle bro, Yahoo boys are not the reason you aint making money online!

I get your point...
But what is bad is bad
Yahoo MUST be denounced, disowned and fought to a standstill in Nigeria

it must not be encouraged as the norm, if not our society will be DOOMED
People will still do what they do
But law enforcement should do their job properly

That said EFCC goofed big time in this naira marley case.

they made errors
You need concrete evidence to nail someone

NoSidonLook:
This one too has heard Ned Nwoko is the new moneybag

Dude wants to go and pay homage and collect his own souvenir


Edit: I can see Desmond Elliott (An APC politician) chilling out with Ned Nwoko (A PDP politician)
If you still think the struggle is between political parties or between tribes, then I'm sorry to say you are at the lowest part of the food chain

You have said it all

GeorgeTheCoder:
Crude at $150 dpb will lead to demand destruction

exactky

goslowgoslow:
Yes...my wife just delivered set of twins.

wow
congratulations

deltateam:
Op your attitude to school is as a result of the type of people you surround yourself with. They are nay do well people. They have sold you the idea that education is scam and that with money all things are possible but you will be disappointed as I was years back. Don't make the same mistake I made!

If education is expensive, try ignorance. You will push wheelbarrow sotay you go believe.

this is another thing that is worrisome
That crowd that he follows MAY be influencing him too.

BathingSoap:
This might be a long read guys pls don't be angry with me. I have been a guest on Nland for a while but decided to create this monicker for this purpose.

So this all started when i entered the university in fact i'm now in my finals but as it is now i'm laying on my bed facing the ceiling and we have a test going on in class, i have missed about 3 tests since this semester started but i don't seem to feel alarmed by that, i'll probably have an extra year too the way i'm going but i can't just push myself to get up and read and to wash my uniform being a law student.

Now i feel this is partially because of the fact that i have come to believe school is not for me...i have never been a bright student right from primary school...when i entered the uni as a freshman i had the dreams every fresher had which is to come out with a first class and i worked very hard for it, went for night class every day without sleeping even for a minute, but any time grades came out i always come out at the bottom of the food chain.

I have tried hard to demystify the exact cause of my failure in academics but found no answers, could it be my hand writing, or i don't understand what i read or i'm not good in cramming textbook case laws and sections, or could it be because my brain is just not acclimatized to school and the rigours that come with it.

I have put in effort to handle all these supposed problems but none if them have come to fruition, even to the point that i bought a handwriting book to help improve my handwriting ...yeah i was that desperate



Reality dawned on me tho when my year 2 and 3 results were nothing to write home about...then i started losing interest...hardly go to class even though there is a test...i always say to myself stupidity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results so if i can read and study so much without being able to secure even a C in my courses then i'd rather not try.

Its funny tho that in my year 4 i made more than half a million rendering freelance services to people online...this also fueled my loss of interest in school, I'd rather be committed to something that pays me. I feel bad for mum tho, she put in all this effort to make me learned and give me a good future and she has already started saving for my law school but i know deep down that i am a nut case and can't ever compete with my peers academically.

I have tried my best in fact i'm crying right now, school has always made me feel like a lesser human, i always come out last...i really don't know what to do with life anymore ...i mean why is life so partial and unfair, why can't i be like those bright students...

I brought this here because i believe my Nairaland family will help me get through this terrible faze of my life.

I'll really appreciate if more people get to see this

Thank you

@OP

I'll give you this advice
please please and please
Finish your program

no matter the grade, and no matter if you will use it or not
it's better to have some thing and not need it, then to need ut and not have it
You are in final year, almost at the end of the race.

I was once disillusioned when I was in my year 3 to final year, due to the issues and challenges that I was facing then
but I snuck out with a degree And even with a post graduate too.

tho what I do now is not linked to my background at least I have the degrees and they are with me forever depending on when I may need it


I think you should do same
get the degree and keep it.
that's the best

nwanneni:
very correct bro.
I feel sorry for my mom that keeps threatening to develop bp if I don't continue school ;Dshe go dey alright las las....
Op keep doing what you do that gives you bread.
Build yourself and don't get carried away by money and you will marvel at the person you will become.
Real talk.

huh?
you abandoned your degree program?

AngelicBeing:
Evidence of a failed state after the order of Afghanistan, Yemen, Syria, South Sudan, Libya and Somalia, a country where even the British government warned her citizens not to visit 21states due to insecurity, mehn Nigeria is beyond redemption, anyone who has the means to leave that dead country should do that, no point living in a chaotic and dead country

it's a shame