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I think that convenience is a good reason. Perhaps the sum of all possible reasons we can imagine.

Companionship, a feeling of incompleteness, societal pressure (status and children), legitimate sex to fulfill some religious law--- all boils down to convenience. If we could isolate each reason listed and eliminate others then I imagine a good number of the world's population would find marriage unnecessary.
If one didn't feel the need for a companion and society pressure isn't a factor, then why would marriage even become necessary?


Reminds me of someone who said all our actions are motivated by selfish interest.
(topic for another discussion Babymama? )

Nonso23:
There is no such thing as love

A life without love is empty.

Babymama1:
I think it depends on the age the individuals are at
Younger couples are more likely to marry for love than older couples IMHO
When one is older and "set in their ways " it becomes more for companionship and perhaps a need to please others ( family ,society,clock running out,prove a point etc).when the older couples are in their second marriage,it adds on a whole 'nother dimension,love may not be tops on the list,I think.

This is a good topic for another thread

I believe the emboldened to be true irrespective of age. Otherwise we wouldn't have young, unmarried men and women looking for relationships (even if the aim isn't marriage).

Timbuktou:
I have a different hypothesis. We have been conditioned, by society, to value marriage, and rightly so, I might add. I mean, what, exactly, do men gain from marriage? We toil till our last for the wives and children.

It'll take a married man to answer this question. But I'm willing to bet that having a woman call you her sun and stars (do you watch GOT?) is something. So maybe the popular notion is that one who receives gains more, but what about the one who serves? I know there's greater joy in giving and seeing appreciation from the people you serve than when you're always on the receiving end. I think that the man's authority in the home places him in a position of servitude, but that isn't a bad thing in itself; it's the price of leadership. We aren't equal. We both have different roles, important but distinct roles. It shouldn't be a deterrent to marriage.

In a situation where the man, the wife and the child are in danger with the reality that only two of the three could survive, who dies, and why?

The man. He'll give his life for the people he loves as is the nature of love. Same way a mother will gladly give her life for her child.

Try answering these posers honestly and try to raise corollaries.

Hope you're satisfied.

Sex serves a million purposes, people could turn to it for any of these.[/quote]

Nonso23:
It also made us understand that we are frail and hence imperfect as only God is perfect

And it says we have grace. We are no longer slaves to sin but righteousness.
Adultery has always been a sin. Why excuse it? *appropriate smiley missing*

Timbuktou:
Nobody marries for love, something your aunt neglected to mention. Everybody should know their place and role and act accordingly.

I think we marry out of a deep desire to feel complete.

Probably the same reason some people turn to sex when they're lonely and feeling empty.

Nonso23:
The Bible says: Even the most righteous man sins 7 times a day.
You see

The same bible that says flee from all manner of unrighteousness.

You see

Nonso23:
If you forgive him first there will be no need to apply such dangerous wisdom na

If he loved me enough there will be no need for forgiveness na

Awww how lovely. Wish them all the happiness in the world.

Stories like this make you want to get married tomorrow

Nonso23:
Jesus said you should forgive your neighbour (not even a close husband o) 70*7 times

Jesus said be wise as serpents and gentle as doves
You think anyone would suspect me of murder?

jaybee3:

I've met cheating men and women who are fully aware of his actions but do nothing about it. So maybe it is true that some men cheat and we can't change it, but how we deal with this fact is very subjective.
You can choose to ignore or rant or even lace his food with and OD of Tylenol (real nice )... whatever makes you happy. I know women who don't care what the man does so long he takes care of his family while at it.

Personally I have no idea what I'd do if that happened to me. I'll place my bet on the Tylenol though or maybe I'll leave the nigger. But I sure as hell won't be killing myself for no bastard.

Still I'm keeping my aunt's advice close to heart.
"Men marry because they want legitimate children and not for love."
Could be bad advice depending on your prerogative, but it's bound to give every woman a goodnight's sleep.

Nonso23:
Uj nwa please na lemme just enjoy this trolling

Lol happy trolling then

So broke guys should date broke girls. There's a reason some people try hard to mingle with people in their class. This ain't a classless society please.

Mynd44:
This is either sarcasm or BS. How can a man say and you call him "intelligent"?

I don't understand you people.

And Ujsizzle, biko tell me you shared that by mistake.

Lol I shared it by mistake. Was trying to hit 'quote'

Nonso23:
Odogwu k'ibu!

So many intelligent men in this section!! I'm amazed!

Would you cheat?

Can think of only two now:

Chimamanda and Zoe. Maybe the same child will bear both.

I'm going to ask any living grandma for konk igbo names (no Chisom and Chinenye anything) Then we'll dig out Greek/Roman names to go with them.

Alexandra is a good one too.

My exact reactions to the OP

(huh)

(Seriously wtf is this)

(Okay it is kinda funny when you imagine a carrot man)

Caseless:
it is more than the 'armagedon'. Anything I think of and my 'charger' goes down even when i'm in the mood sure beats the 'armageddon'.

Again. Just blood. Any discomfort you feel couldn't be any worse than the what the body carrying it is passing through.

[quote author=Truckpusher post=34414591][/quote]Menstrual popsicle?

FrancisTony:
Yes, since.

Cool

*rolls eyes*
Men. It's just blood, not the Armageddon

Btw Francistony, howdy Are you back to Christianity now?

Nonso23:
We understand bro!
It's hard being your level of silly.

Is he silly because he disagrees with the majority?

Seun:
Actually, a woman's brain is her best asset.

Eyes and Brain are both assets.
The former is tangible. The latter is intangible

Nonso23:
Hmmm... Porting from pathsonwater.com for the moment then. lemme go-an see what's up on the latest addition.

Like a baby
Trust you did too

The weather is a babe

lazsnaira:
Don't allow frustration take away your sanity. You're not alone on the hardship train but allowing it to affect you mentally will leave you in lonesome corner of a mental institution.

Think of something positive to do with your life. Start with smiles to people & little little shows of love.

Life is really short, don't spend yours in hateful sadness.

Please tell the niqquah.
Nice blog btw.


@Topic. I'll listen to anything Naptu2 has to say

Nonso23:
The slangs flying around these days are a dime a dozen. I can totally relate. Even pidgin sef don get grade

that is more than enough jor at least i can be assured of a good night rest

Two blogs now
care to explain

Second link on my siggy. I was playing around with that one

Hope you slept well.

pickabeau1:
The films are classics

I got the three films as a preparation to watching Fury Road

Im in part 3 now

Fine. You win. I'll watch all four then.

Nonso23:
Trust me if you had that kind of friend, that'll be the last thing on your mind.

I prefer the rain o! Is the heat any better? add fuel and Nepa wahala and hell will have a worthy competitor.

I chose to focus on real life jare. Nairaland was taking too much of my time.

I did stop by at your blog once in a while though. Impeccable articles - flattery is not one of my fortes.

Nope the heat wasn't good either, but no one said I wasn't allowed to be insatiable

Real life. Good. My friend said I may have to leave the real world for a while when I couldn't figure out what "fleek" meant. Apparently it's all the rage now as slangs go.

@emboldened. Hehe you shut me up proper with this. Now I can't say, "awww thanks I'm flattered."
So you'll have to make do with this, "Awww thanks darling."

pickabeau1:
Fury road is part 4

Oh. I am definitely not a fan of Mad Max
I recall watching one in the past and not enjoying the desert run and brutal death Be darned if I know what part that was. 4 is a definite watch though.

Nonso23:
I have been alive o jare!
Haven't checked my NL mail in ages too. I gave a friend my NL password and had him change it and promise not to give it back to me. So yeah i've been stuck out of this account for most part of the past few months
Twist: turns out the Dude did not change it at all and I had been racking my brain trying to think up all possible phrases, words and all he might have used. Talk about hiding in plain sight. Ramble over


How Are You?

All right. Good excuse. I won't have to flay you after all

Strange. If I did what you'd done, my first instinct would be to see if my old password still worked

I am doing well considering The rain isn't making me happy... at least what's left of it on the road since I haven't actually 'seen' it fall.

Mind telling me why you chose to go on exile?