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Loneliness is a biitch.

Get out more. Meet people, talk to them, chat up strangers if you must. But do not go with the mindset that you're searching for something, because you start thinking this is a rat race and all your filters are up.
I've learned you find the things you want the most when you let your guards down and stop searching actively. A desperate person can miss the most subtle details. But someone who's living life sees everything.

In the meantime, writing like this helps, music too. And go take a picture-- you'll learn to appreciate life more.

Best wishes

MizMyColi:
I like it.
Looks kinda fun

Most times, the meals you prepare in the crudest ways turn out sweetest.

Grinding tomato and pepper on a millstone comes to mind

I don't believe this counts here. It's just palm oil extraction, not akara (yeah for the latter pounding the beans instead of grinding at the mill gives it a better flavour).

Feet in food= unhealthy.

jaybee3:
Balanced and better spread of force

Right!
Stomping on anything is always better than using your hands. Ah I remember using my feet to wash my blankets back in boarding school Darn thing was too heavy for my hands.

Nonso23:
These pictures will haunt me forever

I hope it won't make you abandon ofe onugbu

Shollypopzz:
I understand why people stomp on grapes but why would anyone stomp on palm nuts?? I know for a fact that one's feet cannot achieve the result in that picture, palm nuts are hard.

So, what is the purpose of the feet?? Does it make the already pounded palm nuts smoother??

It's cooked before pounding. And the feet is just a substitute for pounding with a mortar and pestle.

Tallesty1:
It really was but things has changed now. Most people use machine now

How did you manage the heat from the palm kernels? I know even using my hands for this stuff (in small quantity) is punishment talk more of feet.

Octaves:
why is she not using mortar and pestle? that's how we used to do it

You'd probably kill yourself using a mortar and pestle to pound palm kernels in commercial quantity. But it's still done sha when there are a number of people who take turns pounding.

Never seen this done before, but it looks like fun

I'm curious though, how do you manage to stomp hot palm fruits

Nonso23:
Op go on with the marriage. The man is a very honest and open man.
How are you even sure another man will ask you to marry him if you leave this golden opportunity
Remember, a bird in hand is worth more than 10 in the bush.

You are from the same autonomous community sef. Any wahala between the two of you can be easily settled. This is a match made in heaven!

Besides, he has proven that he is very fertile and sexually potent. I can guarantee you twins in that marriage

This is just wrong-- doing something because you fear you'll never finds better alternative.

Nonso23:
That is how you win argument with ojoro

Stop crying joorh

Nonso23:
Ojoro!
Stop writing with poetic charm so as to confuse me jor!
I can't even think up a rebuttal

Lol! You don't need to darling

gj22:
I hear it's 7 seasons. As much as I don't want the show to end, 7 seasons is fair. I don't want another vampire diaries that refuses to end and just keeps getting boring.

Don't insult tvd like this na

luxanne:
And some fans reckoned:

► the hooded guy is Benjen Stark, Jon's 'uncle' who was missing since s01. How they came to this conclusion, they didn't say.

► That both tyrion and jon are targs - I also read on here about tyrion being a targ citing amongst others the hair and eye color theory as reasons, but how about jon snow? He's got black hairs, dark eyes to contradict descending from the targ kinsfolk, so what then is his own targ related theory? Just being curious here.

And to those paranoiac about Olly, that's just what it is, paranoia. The lil boy is angry @jon's decision to bring the wildings close to the wall after watching them kill his family and also frightened having the wildings closeby knowing what they are fully capable of, what reason(s) does he then have to murder sam?

If he wanted murdering anyone, it would have been jon snow and it would have happened when he served him - the moment after he (jon) made the pronouncement of bringing in the wildings.

Did you notice how many times he looked at Sam's food? And remember when the 2nd commander told Sam he was losing his friends? What exactly stop then from using young Olly to get rid of Samwell then?
Besides you just don't kill a Lord Commander (except it's mutiny).

Sexytemi:
thanks a lot, I think I'll take your advise and let him go.

Don't think it's going to be easy cuz that's the biggest lie you'll be telling yourself.

Wish you the best.

Which network please.

Kai some people are wicked sha

standd:
Eros. How do you know these things@the bolded

You just do. I can't think of any suitable explanation.

Timbuktou:
Heehehe. Was just testing you for sharpness

Akuko

standd:
The love you speak of is agape, right?

Agape, yes.

And the other romantic one (what's it called again?) because I won't be with someone I didn't love with my soul. That's why it's hard for me to accept that a woman should choose a good man and eventually she'll "grow" to love him. Yeah there are people who testify to that, but that shii ain't my thing.

Babymama1:
If I were in the market today for a husband I know that my definition of love will have money at the top and lots of it too
Even if he has no blokoss I don't care, as long as he has lots of cash that I can lay my hands on
I will love him to pieces.

Lol

But isn't that just attraction? It can be a prelude to love, but it isn't love.
And yup I believe our preferences attracts us to suitable mates (natural selection? ) and when we're satisfied with our choice we can get on with the business of giving our heart.

standd:
The question should be what have I done to Nigeria...lol
See, the people I see around me these days don't act like they know what love is oh, really.
Good to know you believe so much in love though

They'll learn. We all do eventually.

Yeah I believe in love because there's really nothing else to believe in. When I find a cause greater than this, I'll promptly jump ship.

standd:
This is Ujsizzle's forte

"We are all a little weird and life is a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”--- Dr Seuss

I love this quote.
Notice how we tend to like people whose lives mirror ours?
Or how we like people who have shown an indication of liking us first?
It's like even subconsciously we're searching for something familiar in one another. That's probably the beginning of love for us.

Tsk.

standd:
You can feel love for everyone, I know. Humans are capable of love.
My searchlight is on love, in relationships/marriages, in NIGERIA .
I can argue from now till the end of time, Love (The true meaning of Love) in relationships and marriages is practically non-existent. It is giving what you have to get what you want.

What did Nigerians do to you this woman?
I'm sure whatever issues you have with this topic holds true for the rest of the world.

I already said before that we want to get into these relationships for personal reasons first. Then if we're lucky to find someone who shares our reasons too, we marry them.

standd:
What did I just say? Love is all these BIG BIG English abi

Yes o Love is everything. And love is nothing in particular. It's like this big invisible bubble in which we float

That's like asking what/who is God ni. Who has a perfect answer to that huh? But I bet when we figure one out we'll know the other too.

standd:
Our opinions differ and love doesn't sustain anyone. Only deep-rooted convictions and the ability to separate what's necessary from what's not, will suffice. Every human have their limits, as long as they have not reached breaking point, people will try to uphold what brings them comfort and joy.
IMO, it is love that finally erodes with time, especially for those who mistake lust and affections for love.

Of course love isn't food. But love breeds hope and is motivation.
Perhaps our differing opinion stem from what pedestal we place love? Love isn't the leaf that needs sunlight. Love is the root through which everything else is fed.
Your convictions stem from it.
Your mutual respect is all love.
This trust you speak about? Love too.
Eliminate love and see if you feel the same way about a person. Better still think about someone you truly despise and see if your feelings remain the same.

Just because we do not recognise it for what it is doesn't nullify its existence.

Nonso23:
What is love ?

Deal with others as you would with yourself.
Deal with others as Christ with us.

Love is forgiveness and second chances.
Love is rebuke in the face of wrong.
Love is sharing laughter and pain.
Love is vulnerability and strength.
Love is sacrifice.
Love is the most powerful charm there is.

Love is many things and love grows. We haven't fully mastered it as human but we're learning. And when we learn to become less self-conscious and stop placing strict expectations on one another we just might reach perfection.

standd:
Two people can sustain a home on solid finances, mutual respect, trust, loyalty, understanding and mutual interest.

It's high time we stopped deceiving ourselves with love

I don't quite agree with this.
What sustains you when your solid finances is gone. When someone breaks your trust. When a spouse hasn't been loyal. And your interests no longer align?
What pushes you to try fix things when the factors you've highlighted become one-sided?

Nonso23:
You self dey watch spider man!

Before nko

Nonso23:
Another part says 'my grace is sufficient for you'

...For my power is made manifest in your weakness.


So even though you have a natural pull to sin, His grace tells you it can be conquered.

More excuses?

Timbuktou:
Your answers are on point.

As you've rightly pointed out, each player has an important role to play and have, in fact, revelled in these roles. Which makes threads such as this hypocritical.

As Peter Parker says, "with great power comes great responsibilities"

Actually that was his uncle Ben

Nonso23:
St paul said 'the good I desire to do I do not and the evil I detest I find my self doing'
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak'
That is why we need God's grace of forgiveness.

Should we therefore continue in sin so that grace may abound?
I'm sure you know the biblical response to that