76Naira:

@ $tunna
I have read your posts on this topic and I have seen some good level of sense & maturity in them. But as you know, sometimes people just like to stay optimistic and not always necessarily realistic.

uju_1:

that was vile, where are tho mods when u need them?

Smilenw:

[b]
Anyhoo[/b] like i said known the guy a few years from uni in ghana and have a number of mutual friends. He picked me up from our family office and i told my parents who exactly i was going with. I'm not a muppet or a randy 12 year old sneaking out with men.

OP& Violent- Tell me exactly what this silly word means. My cheap school obviously didn't see the need to teach such a word.

OP,
You have given out a lot of personal details voluntarily on this single thread ! All those who read your "pointless post" now knows that a certain uju has a gateman, a cook, a family office, a car, a driver, was educated abroad (wish I could go there too, just to know what anyhoo means), a dog that coughs dollars, a cat that shits gold coins, a this, a that- sighs!
You are obviously trying to paint a glossy picture here to hook someone online. I do not see any other reason why someone would yab so much in one go ! Have you for once thought why the man was on phone, ignoring you, on your first date with him? Obviously you failed to impress him ! I'm sure it had something to do with 'my this, my that" attitude of yours.  

uju_1:

He was arguing on the phone with some cousin about a family event.  my concern was not that he was on the phone to someone my concern was that he was driving like a crazy person.  Anyhoo is american slang for anyway,  picked it up from my wife and kids.

I'm not pompous or arrogant,  most people have drivers, gatemen, cooks, housegirl and they werent exactly the focal point so not sure why certain people are obsessed by them. Its not a big deal.

Anyway whatevs (would you like a definition here too??)

Don't want to hook anyone online oh just using as an avenue to rant and discuss with wise people,  of which you are not one.  So you can either piss off or try in vein to locate me and then fail and piss off.

uju_1:

He was arguing on the phone with some cousin about a family event.  my concern was not that he was on the phone to someone my concern was that he was driving like a crazy person.  Anyhoo is american slang for anyway,  picked it up from my wife and kids.

I'm not pompous or arrogant,  most people have drivers, gatemen, cooks, housegirl and they werent exactly the focal point so not sure why certain people are obsessed by them. Its not a big deal.

Anyway whatevs (would you like a definition here too??)

Don't want to hook anyone online oh just using as an avenue to rant and discuss with wise people,  of which you are not one.  So you can either piss off or try in vein to locate me and then fail and piss off.

uju_1:

Anyhoo is american slang for anyway, picked it up from my wife and kids.

moremi2008:

I don't think it's fair to criticize the guy for taking you to the least expensive Chinese restaurant (you should be grateful because you didn't contribute a kobo to the meal). The guy was wrong to talk on the phone while driving a date back home but then, why are you acting surprised and brand new,  Nigerian men aren't the most cultured specimens in the world and he probably didn't think he was doing anything wrong. The bobo tried to kiss you and I don't blame him. I would also try to get a kiss if I just dropped $100+ on dinner.

The reason why you are getting "bad bele" responses is because you come across as a spoilt, ungrateful lady that can't interpret actions/situations in the right context. You sound young. Hope you learn someday because the real world has no room for silly daddy's girls. Good luck with your Igbo man! Hope he's saving up all his cash for the INSANE bride price he will be paying soon.

texazzpete:

Wait, what?

texazzpete:

To be fair, I wonder if your date considers the encounter a 'date from Hell' too?
While I see valid points in your OP, your complaints about the restaurant he took you to may be a bit unfair. How exactly was he supposed to know that you hated that restaurant? And even if that was the cheapest in town, how sure are you that the low cost was the reason for his choice of that restaurant? Why are you supposed to care so much about how much he spends on you anyway?

Next time you're unhappy with his driving, INTERVENE! Make him end the call and slow down. If your life was as important to you as you claim, you'd have made that effort.

76Naira:

I tried to act like I did not see that.
I just waited for someone else to assure me it's not a dream.
Na wa!!!, It just got complex.

amu ukwu:

Op  Ga no di ala there, you don rant too much here. whether u get gate man or whatever no concern us but your ingratitude after a man spends his hard earn income/time on you. In as much as the date was messed as you claim, im sure its not messed on all front. At least show some gratitude/respect to the man, not every goes on a date.

uju_1:

read my last post.  Hope that responds to all your concerns.  My favorite uncle who is my dad's youngest brother regularly takes me to point and kill when I'm in his town and I drink Gordon sparks and I have more fun there than if I went to brunch at oriental in Lagos.  Its not about what is spent or not spent.  look at the bigger picture biko.

amu ukwu:


Small madam obviously you dont get it and im not sure you will. My stress is not about who takes you out rather the level of disrespect and ingratitude you've shown to the dude (judging from your post). Its not my business anyway, whom you chose to respect or otherwise and i dont even have time too sef, my dinner dey for fire and if it burns because i have spent my time reading your rants, i swear you go take me out on an expensive date to San Fransisco Steak house [s](after you must have spent on me, im sure you will learn to be grateful for what you get, no matter how small)[/s]  

pendo89:

op
I have been reading your thread trying to figure out your gender esp after your first post below
Kindly let us know if you are female or male

'So we went to dinner.  I absolutely love chinese and there are a number of really good chinese restaurants in the townbut he took me to the one i absolutely hate and its also the furthest away,  I am suspecting this is due to the fact it is the cheapest,  [b]but as a working guy I didn't think this [/b]was a good move I would rather have had chicken republic or mister biggs than that rubbish.  And also normally the first date the lady picks or is that just my experience?'

That wife and kids is a comedy yeah your right.But its now becoming comical

orbaxy:



Am beginning to think 190 was right about you 

abeg abeg abeg dont compare me with people who didnt go to school nor people who hardly have food to eat

abeg - we are not mates in this life, nor next nor next pleasee  

I donot think the question is your acting or overeacting,



Next time someone is talking on the phone on a date : He / she is not taht into you.
He could not have been driving so bad  ah for you to have enjoyed the ride home   anyway Next time someone is talking on the phone while driving: tell them to park you want to buy barbecued plantain (Boli   ) as soon as you get down hail a taxi without looking back ( Life is precious)

Lagos's traffic is crazy its always fair to meet up on a first date instead of being picked up so that you can make sure he is there first before you arrive, ( 2) On a first date try not to get into his car except of cos you have bbed his plate number to your sister just in case you guys are taking a trip to okija shrine instead of Chinese.

As for the restaurant, life is flexible he took you to a cheap resturant after you told him you like chinese not Mr biggs and when he tried to kiss you, you ran, My dear we cannot be beggars and choosers, on a 1st date if he does not ask you where you will like to go then follow him to where he wants to take you to; Its actually a fantastic way to find out  bit of his character whether he is a stingy koinkoin

My point is if you make a man think without having a date you cannot eat Chinese then guess what he will think you cheap and will be looking for the fastest route to your P and the fastest route to take off after the P.

Anyway sha the above is if you want a serious relationship with the guy.

but  na confirmed playboy and you want to teach him a lesson as in , if  you just wanna wobia the guy of cos choose those eatery where they allow take away and bring your own bowls with cover along, and pack your friends too,  then begin to point and order, keep an eye on him sha o, make hin no run.

Me and friends were super at this while at University , the next time you see him just flash a smile with a slow hiiiiiii,     he too go get am say nothing for him.