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pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

generationz:
You won't blame him.

When you set your mind to something and can't achieve it despite all the hard work it can be depressing.

He actually has a good attitude towards success. This is the attitude expected of him right now in school.

When he comes out that will take care of itself.

Let us not glorify mediocrity.

There are many bright students looking for jobs yes, but also many more who have achieved things faster than their peers with sheer determination and will power.

Pinkie2018:
lols it's relationship not class room. Get your perspective right

Sukueponmalu:
Even though I don’t agree with that “women don’t have anything to offer apart from sex” thing.
I totally disagree with your assertion about engaging women in a intellectual/an intelligent discourse. These kind of discussions are boring to the average woman.
Trust me, I have tried it so many times.

AdeeT:
Abuse and curse me all you wished, the did is already done, the one I am not proud of, and never wished for to happen. I took all the blame, and only wanted a best idea/advice to safe landing.

My mind is pushing me towards visiting her to relate with her all that has happened. And again, another mind is telling me that all would be lost afterwards. I don't want to loose her, she's already an integral part of my life.

How best can I confront her without loosing her?

Robisky001:
Lemme see if he will dress modestly and stick with one particular brand of dress like Zuckerberg did, then I will know that billionaires have one thing in common.

Puzzidick419:
Mount should have shift the ball once more it will Just remain him and the keeper

pedel:
Why not answer the question and stop the emotional blackmail. How are the words of Jesus relevant to the situation? Do we have to be a victim before we decide to or not to obey Christ?
Growing up in Africa decades ago, when someones livestock is stolen, the owner will wake up very early in the morning and start railing curses on whoever stole the goat or the hen.
How is the Bishop's action different from those unbelievers that go around cursing?

How come Kenneth Copeland is not raising curses on the shooters at El Paso and Dayton where 30 people were killed within 13 hours?

Bishop David Oyedepo is in error and should not be followed on this. period!

pedel:
You are indirectly saying Jesus was spewing rubbish because Freeze only quoted God's word.

Heylius:
Lol with this your English i don't think Nigeria can did it again

Heylius:
Lol with this your English i don't think Nigeria can did it again

Okuda:
History would never forgive yahaya.. tufia!

bigfish3k:
yes oo my brother, this is the same thing that Trump is complaining about them, they are hypocrites
they said our place is not good, our religion is not good, our culture is not good,education is boko haram, u are the peaceful one, yet u are dying to come and live with us and turn us to ur type of culture.
if urs is so good , then what is pursuing u all around to the extent that u want to come and co habit with us

dont come and corrupt us, we need no 72 virgins, you people should just stay in ur lane... we will export our goodies to you if u so desire it

pansophist:
It is about proportionality, Preferring a financially stable man should not prevent you from making your own money, looking down on hustling guys, turning hostile to a once financially capable man if things go sour, and should not be a leech.

And just as you are conscious about the financial stability of a potential partner, you should be consciously aware of your own contribution into the relationship, showing up as a woman only is not a contribution, a mindset many women carry around shamefully.

jworos:
To them, good guys are boring and weak, bad guys are fun, spontaneous, adventurous, confident amongst others, no girl wants a weakling as a guy...

cyprus000:
have you forgotten the saying; success have many friends.

half of the people claiming familiarity now, either subscribed or called us loserpool. I can't explain how depressed I was seeing them trolling and spamming threads(that is not even germane to football) with their hogwash.

Anyway, I like the fact that they are eating their reject. there's no sweeter satisfaction