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BlaqCoffee109:
..you mean the concept of Eros as depicted in classic Greek tradition? ..the intimate affection shared between a man and a woman..now there's a popular saying you only give what you have.. now personally addressing you,do you love yourself? do you have love in you..if the answer is yes..then you have it to give.. if it is true of you and same applies to her and you both have to give..voilà! the next thing is making sure both your emotional need are met afterall love is giving..the question then starts from you,what did you give? was it true?

those are facts on another facet, need I explain my point a bit probably with this you get along the line of my reasoning, what is true is constant and remain, but in case of love there is conscious or subconscious shifts why is that, take for instance its true that there are 30 days in November, its true that there are 12 months in a year, 7 days a week....in seasons it remain that way. Now that what's true',, it is true that every human has love in him/herself no matter how little....Now if one loves someone or gets attracted, at the start it vibrant and glowing, metamorphos into a relationship but at some point the vibrant reduces due to any factor or gets halted..something has happened to that love do u still call that true.....why should we have break up relationships and marriage, divorces here and there if the so called love are true....

I tink love exist with man, sometimes it shape and propel our existence, but isn't. Consistent enough to be true.

BlaqCoffee109:
..whether it is the law of aerodynamics.. law of gravity or love..it always have been there before it was found out or understood by "man"...it is universal and constant..the fact that you as a person understands it less does not mean it is subject to change..by the way, love is what is still holding this earthly plane together..it is the reason you have joy and can smile..+ LOVE in and off itself is Law- it is the law of life..when it rules,there is beauty..peace..the opposite is what breeds hatred,anarchy, chaos ..so in essence love is constant,it never changes or ends..we only as free moral agents have the choice to acknowledge it and have it rule..if the reverse is the choice, it does not change love

All u mention above are attributes, well in the thread I talk about varieties, my bone of contention is d affections humans termed as true love....

Raiders:
Can't believe Obanikoro has a son this old because he look really young

Bros na so e shock me too....early 30s imaging.

BlaqCoffee109:
not metaphysics.. what's not with men? BTW men don't love easily but are drawn to love and fascinated by love but when they eventually love,they love hard

Oh when I mean men I actual mean human, maybe because of the plural form I used....

Now my point is every natural laws are constant, mention it, they are all 'true', love tho appear as one but a closer look we find inconsistency in it. True is constant and maintain a single strength, that's nt d case with love...love is something that comes and go, it doesn't stick, stay and stand the test of time....bt true is. So love cannot be true.

BlaqCoffee109:
..it has no condition attached to it..it sees clearly your ineptitude, warts and all and accepts and love you all the same even if you are undeserving

that's never with men....probably u going metaphysics

BlaqCoffee109:
there is true love..though rare

Am sorry but had to ask this....what are your yardsticks for measuring true love, cos I dnt tink my point is clear to you...

Dear Nairalanders, this piece is my personal opinion, submission and conclusion as regard the topic. It's quite lengthy notwithstanding I want you to take your time and go through everything in order to effectively decode my point and bone of contention base on the subject matter. Knowledge, they say is open ended and not tentative, hence no one is a custodian of it. You can share your views and criticism, but please be concrete and discreet. There are two peculiar words at play here, in uses they are sometimes interchangeable but one is deeper and stronger than the other. Here we go.....

Love is actually a feeling that goes with human existence and emotions, it is sometime referred to as the greatest magic in the world because of it power of proficiency over man. It's good to love and be loved in return, but at times the reverse is the case. Often times we discovered that there are different varieties of love or rather, we see and observe love from different disposition and levels, as some consider it 'casual', some consider it 'genuine', some consider it 'TRUE', some consider it 'Agape', other varieties include; fatherly, motherly, brotherly, and sisterly love, these I call the 'LY' love. Whichever way we see it, it exist and function only where two or more persons co-exist and lived as a people in a specific society.

Despite all the attributes of love and it pertinent, I still struggle to come to term with how people refer to love as 'TRUE' and argue that there is nothing like 'TRUE LOVE'. After observing experiences and experiment carried out, I hereby conclude that there is no true love. The context of the phrase 'true love' is one thing I find yet to be justified in the world of man. Love can be genuine, casual or agape for that matter but there is nothing like true love. Love is a phenomenon that comes and go. It is not static and does not stand the test of time, where is the true in love.

A guy may love a girl genuinely from a sincere heart (and vice versa) and will be eager to do anything whatsoever to profess that love to her. At that point some will regard it as TRUE LOVE, without even considering the gravity of it. It is not true love but love in it genuineness, which of course can be reverse by circumstances or the coming of another love. That guy though loves the girl but after some time into the relationship the degree or percentage of the strength of the love reduces and continues until it becomes very low or non existent anymore, why is that? Such love cannot be term as true.

True is an everlasting phenomenon, no matter how long it is hidden, it will eventually come to manifestation someday and when it does, it indisputably stands and remain for life. Hence love cannot be regarded as true because it does not possess such quality. History will forever remember every scenario for its trueness. Though history or historical event sometimes can be twist or rewritten to suit or concur with the selfish desire of some people, or still in order to create either a negative or positive impressions, all aimed at either painting someone or people good or evil. That notwithstanding does not mean that there is no true story of the said history. Most African countries suffer this degradation from the bigoted whites.

Therefore, there is no true love, it only comes and go. Love does not remain forever, it changes as regard change in behaviours and circumstances around men. When someone loves, he/she cherish with all his/her heart, but at some point in time it becomes odd or rather not as effective as it were at the beginning, (a true love must maintain the degree and percentage base on which it started) this maybe due to the fact that someone else came that manage to stole the love a man has toward a woman and vice versa, or something unfortunate breach the love rendering it less effective or infidelity. Thus, as long as love got to do with emotion it should not be referred as true because anything can affect emotion as it may change.

Provided that, in a situation where someone love another probably from secondary school through tertiary institution and for one reason or the other they were no longer together, yet he/she professes his/her love toward that person as firm, in such cases it is only expedient to examine why they were not together in the first place, as it stand as the reason why such a love could be regard as rather genuine love that couldn't stand the test of time but certainly not true. Else they will rather be together, and breach will be found in the relationship.

That a couple lived and grew old together does not mean the love between them is true, it maybe genuine enough to sustain them all through their lifetime but it not necessarily true as there will be situation where the man or woman wish they had another person as partner or still may at one time or the other love and cherish another person even briefly, (I mean real love and not brotherly and sisterly love) yet they are still together as couple. At that point there is a breach making it less true but genuine to keep them together.

A true love must maintain a single strength from beginning to end. A true love must not change or shift affections toward another person (no matter how little). A true love must be eternal. So tell me where can we find such among men. As such people should put into cognisance the gravity and weight of the phrase "true love", before considering whether to term certain affections as true. Thanks.


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I don't know if others saw or notice this alongside me, except for 2 or so, I noticed the mothers are more beautiful than the daughters....kwa wetin dey happen...

ayindepremier:
[size=1pt]see d igbo attire like egungun or undertakers uniform[/size]
you Guys should pls have a conference on re-tailoring ur attires, u looks like ritualist on Africa Magic we see, lol

if only you and ur kinds can be cure of this contagious disease call tribalism from your system, I bet u will make a better life...

exxell:
So the guy couldnt find another Igbo girl to marry? Is he aware that his children will become hybreeds? And to think he is mixing it with a Yorubasstard is even more annoying. Igbos, stop marrying from other tribes that are not Igbo. They are making you loose your unique identity.... Be full blooded Igbo... Not mixed Igbo!!

look at what hatred has done to you.....

owobokiri:
One of the most compounding hypocritical realities of Nigerias politics is the brazen double standards deployed at every turn by some perennial clannish thinkers to defend their benefactors irrespective of his/her glaring shortcomings while castigating "devils" elsewhere. Totally nonplussing.. How else can you explain a situation where the same bunch of evil minds who yesterday were jumping up and down, celebrating the death of Almasiegha as a good thing for Nigerias fight against corruption end up constituting the group vociferously defending Tinubu while pushing Fashola.com as Obama and Kennedy rolled into one that will save Nigeria? This guy is totally corrupt, was caught with his hands in the cookie jar and held Lagos state down while a Tinubu injected with heroin raped mercilessly. Now you APC vagabonds will make him a minister while bleating "change".. Are you guys naturally this double-faced or you chose to be so

All I see is 'Adjectives'......lol

onibureadi:
They really look like Yoruba actresses. Razz, dirty and loose

How different are u....ur hatred can never extinguish the Yorubas, neither wateva u say make them extincts....

Why don't u leave tribal and ethnic jingoism out of things and let's collectively build a merit driven society of our desire instead of spreading hatred that does not do you good.

midolian:
the moment I saw Femi Aribisala, I stopped reading. He has been against Buhari from the womb

That's why most times is not healthy to jump into judgement or conclusion irrational, you should have take your time to read through, there was nothing anti-buhari in the write up, he only explain the original Buhari that came into government base on his integrity and willingness to govern in favour of the masses unlike those corrupt predecessors and the shaped Buhari who eventually succumb to the will of the APC decadence - as evident in his ministerial nominees' list.

efilefun:
Waiting for some confused Wailer to come tell us how this man aint a true Igbo man ... Impressive CV hope he performs diligently.

Lolz.....must this ethnic sentiment move wif u everywhere u surface?

A school where everything is stressful, to pay school fees na wahala, to collect permit casaba, to change teller conventional code of processes....one office to another.....

Naija tuale....

pinkiberry:
who has time for Yoruba movies anyway?

Lolz.....



Ur type make it strive bigger and greater....

warrior01:
Even with all the money, still very ugly. No wonder their women remain the least sought after. See the girl wide mouth. Even the bridesmaids resemble Benin witches

Why are u this pained? What is your obsession about this people? How many human have u created that made u call them ugly?

You are nothing but another tribal bigot, an ethnic jingoist for that matter....broda free ur heart of the unnecessary hatred that have eaten deep into ur system....it kills!

emusmith:
Stick to your guns. Being a virgin tells of your self restraint and integrity although not all.

How can a "real man" deep his pee pee in a dark well, he doesn't know if its full of scorpions?

Thank you, jst imaging that, I truly think most female folks in Nigeria have this lustful nature and shallow orientation about virgin guys that make em have this berating looks on em...

I meant no insult nor harm, jst a personal observation..

Seriously the Op is right, I'm not too forward to let people kwn my virgin status cos I jst dnt like it,,, but one tin led to d other my pair got to kwn and the most unfortunate tin is my number one crush was present dat day.....since then I became smtin else to her/them....hw d rest of my colleague got to kwn I cnt explain bt the accompanying embarrassment is jst unbearable for me, d entire body language are jst too obvious....

Smtimes I jst wish I'm nt a virgin anymore....I hv every opportunity bt I restrain myself not because I'm impotent bt because I remain a disciplined and discreet person.

My question is should not been a virgin a yardstick for measuring one's integrity, sincerity, personality and a good husband material?

yanabasee:
Crap!! Crap!!!! Crap!!!!!!

Nigerian girls DON'T have best friends... They only have the following:

(1)Gossip Partners.
(2)Fellow Competitor.
(3)Hand-Bags partners.
(4)Stylish Hair-making Friends.
(5)Etc.

And OP, your post isn't for Naija babes....

Lolz....for ur mind,,,,as assume...are gossip partners not best friends alike? Mind you, show some respect to our girls/ladies, every country in the world have quite a number in those categories u mentioned....so I tink ur coment is d crab here...

Great girlfriends really are the best. They are never
the people you don’t want to see because you can
always be yourself with them, in whatever state you
are in. And the really, really great girls are those who will conspire in that fun with you — the ones who are down to get super crazy, wild and weird with you. No judgment, ever.

You know what we’re talking about. So, who’s feeling a little nutty? Here’s the so-called weird things that only gal pals do together.

1. Talk about who has added them on social media

People who are announcement-worthy: your crush,
any C-list celebrity like one of the “Rich Kids of
Beverly Hills” or higher, and anyone you yourself
would love to add but don’t have the balls to do so
(see: ex-boyfriend’s sister and that socialite-y girl
with good style).

Once you divulge the news, your trusty friends
promptly respond with a chorus of, “No way! That’s
awesome!” We just can’t help being soooo popular.

2. Hug when seeing each other

Like Europeans kissing each cheek, girls are big on
hugging. Not every embrace is of equal genuineness,
though. Here’s an overview of the levels of hugging.

1) The Unexpected Hug: You’re on the street, in your
zone and then — BAM! — it’s your bestie from
abroad. “Oh-em-gee, hey!”
… And cue hug.
2) The Friendly Hug: Despite just seeing your
girlfriend at dinner on Tuesday, you greet her with a
hello on Friday night as if it’s been months (because
you guys really do just love each other that much!).
3) The Awkward Hug: One of you goes in for it while
the other one ducks out and so continues until you
both half-ass it and finally walk away.

3. Use the same phrases to start sentences

“Honestly, I’m not gonna lie, I wanna let you know
that these expressions aren’t annoying until I find
myself using them, too, literally and like seriously.”

4. Ask each other if they need nose jobs

…Or boob jobs, or Botox, or to lose weight. We
already know the answer will be no, but that still
won’t stop us from inquiring. “Tell me honestly, I
won’t be offended.”

5. Discuss their dreams

Full disclosure: I actually really hate listening to
people share their dreams with me (unless, of
course, I play a starring role in it).
Nevertheless, we ladies love to dole out our snooze-
worthy stories and then dissect them together to
find deeper meaning. Freud would be proud.

6. Make extravagant exercise and diet plans that
result in getting drunk instead

This one is a real classic that gets about as far as
putting on the spandex. Sunday: Sit on the couch
and resolve to “get healthy.” Beginning of the week:
Get healthy. Weekend: Miley Cyrus’ “Wrecking Ball.”

7. Tell each other sad stories

It begins innocuously with, “Do you guys wanna hear something sad?” and then very quickly turns into a book club of women exchanging tragic tales.

No disrespect intended; we just can’t resist sharing a
hauntingly provocative story with our girlfriends…
not to bring the mood down, or anything.

8. Read horoscopes and apply it to their lives

Mercury in retrograde right now is seriously f*cking
sh*t up in this world. When you apologize for your
momentary flip-out, your friends find it totally
acceptable to blame it on the cosmic universe and
the fact that you’re a natural-born Leo.

9. Name things

You use two-word descriptors for every one of you
and your friend’s hookups (How else have you kept
them straight since freshman year?). Some gems:
“Sexy Loser,” “Ben Law” and “Miami Dan.”
It doesn’t stop there, either. We name things like
friend groups (“The Michigan Girls”), our apartments and even our friends who already have names.

10. Compare vagina hair

Sorry, not sorry and no judgment while we’re at it.
When it’s a close call and you’re tiptoeing the
grooming line, who else are you comfortable
conferring upon? See also: ordering boob sizes from
smallest to biggest by groping each other.

11. Chill in bed together while text messaging

Everyone piles into whoever has the fluffiest
princess bed — cell phones in hand — and
contemplates things like which characters you are
from “Girls” or “Sex and the City.”And even though
everyone in the group chat is currently present, you
guys still communicate via text message because…
emoticons.

12. Disguise talking smack as “venting”

Bitching is us talking about our day, true confessions are really intimate secrets and venting is basically surface level sh*t-talking, which we don’t actually believe but just need someone else to nod her head at. Anything that is of actual importance is reserved for in-depth and in-person conversations, preferably over brunch or cocktails or both.

13. Celebrate each other’s birthdays for three days

A lot goes into celebrating a bestie’s birthday.
There’s the special phone call and requisite drinking
the night before, then the big birthday dinner that
evening.

The next morning, there’s the birthday brunch recap, and by the time the weekend is over, you’re so sick of celebrating that you vow you won’t be a
Birthdayzilla come your turn.

…Yeah, right. You’ll not-so-slyly demand Instagram
collages in about a week.

14. Send 30 frantic text messages in a row

You just ran into your ex, Jennifer Aniston finally got married, you’re drunk wandering around the bar, or that guy at the gym you’ve been flirting with finally got your number.

Either way, you are blowing up the chat with more
caps lock and exclamation points than an angry Elite Daily comment section. The most absurd part:
Before your friend even gets to read them, you’re
calling her to verbally recap the whole thing, anyway.

15. Use movie quotes to explain how they’re feeling

When you told me I was trying to make “fetch”
happen, I thought that was way harsh, Tai.

16. Hold intense debates on which season is the
best, which hair color would be most flattering, and
if Tom Cruise is gay

Seriously, we are like a Women’s Conference on
Miscellaneous Thoughts when it comes to frivolous
dissections of all things girly. Once we’re all done
determining the advantages of buying wedges, it
always comes back to obsessing over how great we
are as a friend group.

17. Hypothesize the lives of people you don’t really
know but stalk on social media

After seeing your long-lost friend from summer
camp’s status update, you compile her life story
based on arbitrary tidbits from social media.
Congratulations, you and your friends are the real-
life equivalent of “Law and Order: SVU.”

One thing is for sure: No matter how many times
you and your girls obsess over it all, you’ll still never
get tired of stalking.

chukwudi44:
Chai!!! Brown roof republic loading!!! Omo oduduwa don vex!!!

And wat u achievement is?

chukwudi44:
Chai!!! Brown roof republic loading!!! Omo oduduwa don vex!!!

And u achievement is?