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Let me indulge u by calling u swt@ cos I knw ure lacking love seriously from wat I can deduce. This is a youngman dat came on NL n backlashed/tonguelashed d mother of his child. If he actually wanted to settle tinx, he wld not av wasted energy on dat thread, rather find means to reach his woman n sort tinx. This dude relaxed and came here to make it seem like d lady is entirely to be blamed he lost his temper and hit her, many women av gone from dis singular act. For wateva reasons, thou shall not hit a woman. She is not ur child u shld correct with d rod. She gripped his shirt and he hit her, obviously cos he knws he is stronger. Am always skeptical abt men who reason along dis line, potential wife beaters they are (in disguise tho) if he wants a genuine reconciliation, he knws how best to go abt it. He shld start with d lady's dad. The bible says any man who doesn't pay a womans dowry bfr.........shld be regarded as a thief. He shld start from her family and not just bring her back to continue in her "babymama" position

kaboninc:
Lol if that's your understanding of this situation!

He actually wants a way for them to sit and talk about their issues. The FORGIVE THEMSELVES.

The guy wants a GENUINE RECONCILLIATION, for the sake of the daughter! And you can either help by being neutral and careful in your advice or destroy it by making careless statement.

Did you see where he talked about the same friends telling her that she'd be better off without him and yet tell him she's loosing so much by being away from him? I trust you're not one of such persons.

I smell jealousy E-miles away. Abeg leave my babyosisi and carve ur own niche biko. Obi ojo adighi nma.

pickabeau1:



Ehya....you are the one who entertains us with your stories

My pity is for those who believe your horse shït and are listening to you advise them when they may even have better lives than yours'

The later part of dat sentence is by d way. He clearly want her to beg shikena

kaboninc:
Maybe you have a problem of reading or to comprehend simple texts.

L0usy fellow et Mr Comprehension. Oya summarise wetin him mean. #supportersclub

kaboninc:
Maybe you have a problem of reading or to comprehend simple texts.

U want her to beg cos of wat ur child wld say? Ure not considering her mortaging her entire life on d altar of abuse, or u seeing reason why u shld go to her parents place with some respectable members of ur family to settle issues. Nna m! U rily need to do some growing up, so ur dota wld be proud of her father when she ever gets to hear abt dis sometime in her adult lifei

mcdokwe:
she may not beg me, but if every other thing fails we will have to explain to the child why daddy and mama didn't work

And it doesn't register on d mans JT? Men sha! Forming invincible since 01BC

yagbaboy1:
All these stories for the gods self. One thing that always amuses me when these chick's say they have moved on is the fact that whether you like it or not the fact that u were bleeped by the person will forever remain in the dictionary of ur pussy

I want some. Those filling looked so hmmmm. Can u get some to Jalingo pls?

cutiereborn:
End product...got burnt a lil bit

Wow! Interesting read. Ddnt knw such happened like seriously. Nairaland has turned to marrage/relationship counsellor......thumbs up seun. Biko if dis story is for real @op and ex, relationships aint meant for d immature. If u guys r evea getting back togeda, then u shld av made up ur mind to be serious. Marriage is not ota akara class whr anytin goes. Biko!

U poeple n ur threat of violence. If u kill urself, what does it profit u. Buhari wld still be alive n his family wld continue existing. Yl urs wld cry cox u killed urself #fishbrained

oluface:
All Thanks To Almighty Allah for making it possible for Our Military to over power the blood sucking terrorist. #Never Again Shall Any Bloody Terrorist terrorize my Dear Country Nigeria.
All the same.
Sai Baba
Sai Buhari
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Am not married dear,but d woman n d case study.

xcitedjay:
Edited my last paragraph out after I found out you're actually married.

I am not being sentimental. You'd agree with me that if you truly are in love with your husband, you wouldn't deny him something as little as airtime. If a lady can deny her own husband airtime then she wouldn't mind denying him sex. After all it's only hos pri.ck that he has to offer.

"Women ain't meant to suffer..." but what happens when the wealth ain't there anymore? The man seizes being the head of the house? It's the decision you as a woman take at points like this, that brings you out as a Virtuous woman or otherwise.

Swt@! Am not against a woman helping out financially in d home. Av never said dat. My kind of person doesn't tink my life ends "in d kitchen". Av got a career and when I can't cont with dat, I wld av a means of supporting my home. In as much as I knw dat certain situations culd make a man unable to cater for d home, I won't sit back and endure any unfair treatment from dat man. How wld I be doing much work and he makes my life unbearable by beating me up, letting me slave to get kids ready for skul etc yl he sits back with his legs on d center table. Nna m! No man shld sit home with d pretext dat he can't provide. There a thousand n one jobs u can do outside to put food on d table for ur family.

Anaskie:
My brother, dont waste your time arguing on this thread.

I really dont understand some of the ladies we have on this forum. A woman spends a few naira on her family and suddenly, the man becomes nothing to her.

Im yet to understand their concept of a family. To them, its the man's absolute duty to provide for all the financial needs of the house.

What is wrong in a woman catering for the home when her man is unable to do so?

These are the type of ladies who'll sue for a divorce immediately the husband gets sacked from work.

Reminds me of what a lady once told me..."His money is OUR money and my money is MY money"

Its really sad.

Its not a male bashing thread dear. As for cheating, the ratio of men who cheat and are voilent is higher compared to women. Get d statistic from any country of ur choice. We shldnt blow d trumpet when u make life miserable while trying to do ur job? Haba! Be sincere n truthful to urself, how many homes complain whr d both couple do a combined effort? Whr d husband hustles and wife does same, while he helps her with some chores. So many NLs enjoying such wld come forth and tell u. My dear! Life should av a balance dere. No one came to suffer s

chibic:
So this is supposed to be a useless male bashing thread?

You women will always blow with a trumpet whenever you spend a kobo on your familly or husband. Look at this 0p telling stories of men living off women and she forgot that, the man must have been spending immensely on the woman at the beginning. Once a woman does a small favour to the hubby, they'll forget everything the man's been doing for them.

Marriage of today are useless because women of today are becoming useless. They disrespect their husbands and they cheat more than men.

U men r just a funny lot. Just a few of u discern tin without being overly sentimental. Haba! U can read whr she wrote d husband was fighting her cox of airtime. Yet u say nofin to dat. Its no crime to help out ur husband, but he shld be fair in dealing with her. U can't provide yet u make life unbearable for her. When ure home u won't help out. She cleans, cooks, finance? Haba! Not fair. In my tribe, women aint made to suffer dats why we are called oriaku (enjoy wealth). If ur mentality tells u dat its fair a woman helps out when d man is financially dwn n won't tell u to help out with chores in d home then dats a weird man. U won't make a gud husband too

xcitedjay:
No, he's not the head of the house just because he has pri.ck. He's the head of the house because he's the one that decided he want to call her his wife, he paid her brideprice, put her under his love, care and protection. Ultimately, he's the head of the house because God says so.

There is nothing wrong with a woman helping out when the man is unable to, that won't and shouldn't make her the head of the house.

You'd be a disaster to your own home should you start a family with the mentality you displayed above.

Yet! They wld cross arms n wait for d lady to come do house chores n bed chores. Mba nu!

Amuga:
Imagine.... Men sitting at home for women to go and hustle. Those kind of men are now full time house husband.

My dear. I knw of an uncle who does not do anytin rather keeps living off his wife's recharge card biz. A shame dear. A couple others I knw of dat dier wives cater for n they sit @home in boxers all day long

Amuga:
Like one that was fighting his wife last week that she didn't get him airtime. The woman pays the rent of the house, buy food and provision, pay the children school fee.
He is still calling himself the head of the house because he has pri.ck

Most u say? So its not all then. The remaining fall into dis class then

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Anaskie:
Your pix is so wrong on many levels.

I don't know where u get to see such men, but its a fact that most Nigerian men are hardworking.

Anyways, you don't know what it takes to be a man, so Im not going to join issues with you.

Wonder o!

jacabi:
Such situation keeps one wondering.

Babes! U no see Iranu ni?

Feyifahm:
my stomach oooooooo,pls don't finish me wt laugh

True again. I see dese men with lovely loyal wifeys, yet, they av itchy JTs. I just wonder y its dat way. Uld also find cool head men with wahala for a wife. #hmmm Opp attracts u knw

jacabi:
The unfortunate thing is that they marry good wives, at least some I have seen.

True! I av always heard dis phrase, love is blind till I saw dis pix on LIB dis mrn and I confirmed. Hian.

Feyifahm:
Amen nd Amen,bt some of our single ladies wld v seen ds trait b4 marriage nd they stil go ahead wt d marriage,I wonder atimes if love is not truly blind sef

If only! God knws dese men exists. He wld keep them far from us

jacabi:
Honestly if I were God, such men would never see a lady to marry.

Ssuch a shame. We just pray d right ones come our way as we prep ourselves to live right with them

jacabi:
the bolded is a picture of a man in my place. His wife is the one catering for the family yet the man is so arrogant that he will be telling his wife that I'm your head, not that the man is not working. If the children ask for money from him, he will tell them he has no money, they should go and meet their mother.

Lolx! Feyilove. Indomie is nutirtous now. They shld av palm kernel nuts

Feyifahm:
daz wen they wil start saying they are the head of the house,men like dat does not deserve more dan indomie without egg..

Traditionalists as in.....living like dier fore fathers. Forgetting dat men in doz days did all d stressful jobs (ie hustling in d farm) while d mothers did house chores. Now a woman works and still comes home to do dese chores with lil or no help from dier men.

jacabi:
Like how?

Some say they r traditionalists?

jacabi:
Very sad that we have such men in our society these days and to make the matter worse, thay are very arrogant.

My dear! Not true. How many women compare? Its always men dat want women to remain in certain ways, but neva seem to want to bend with d mindset dat they r d men in d house, when they r juts big babies

Ab025:
i don't agree with u.....i think its the women that are leaving their roles more and using their career as an excuse.

#bytheway....most women are neva satisfied no matter how their husband tries to provide for them, always comparing themselves with their richer female friends or richer neighbours

Men leaving dier roles and turning into big babies God knws best sha!

Dats also a fair one. Biz is good, but make sure u see it materialize so as not to get stories dat touch. I'm sure u won't want to survive on a security paycheck.

Renaj:
Thanks dear, l 've done that but he is financially limited with no time. He prefers going into business and is working towards raising capital.

Am soryy o! He still looks like them pro Buharists

emusmith:
What a very fine man he was back then. Pictured above is former Vice-President, Atiku Abubakar as a young Nigerian Customs Officer.




http://www.lailasblog.com/2015/03/photo-atiku-abubakar-as-young-nigerian.html

#my2cents
U can marry anyone u want tom the gist is, ure d one going into d marriage and u av seen what u like. Hold on to it if ure convinced he is d onem as for being a skl cert holdern make sure he enrolls in a poly/uni n start up a progrm bfr u commit fully. Biko! Times r changing n u won't want to be stuck with someone who can't climb up d ladder cos of his qualificationsm my dad suffered it and made sure he trained his children in d uni to first degree level. U may not mind so much now, but in d nearest future u would. Give him d promise dat u love him, but want d best for ur futures and dat getting a degree would be wonderful

Renaj:
Hello house, please help a sister....
I got the courage to write because of the selfless service y'all are rendering. May God bless you.

I met this guy on Facebook, fell in love and he proposed without us seeing each other(wierd, isn't it?). This all happened within a span of 3 months. Why? This guy who l have never was different from all the guys l' ve met( in a good way). I was reluctant but when we actually met, he was everything he said he is except his age which he lied about. He told me his true age on our first day of meeting, that is, 35 against 30. He said he was scared l may not be real, and that is why he didnt tell me his real age. I will be 23 in June.
On our first day of meeting, we were happy and he insisted on meeting my father with a bottle of wine, which he later did. The next day, l met his mother and she was happy. He introduced me 2 everyone that mattered. Despite all these, l didnt give him a concrete yes!
I am a graduate and just started Msc programme and he is WASC holder. When we just started communication via phone, l knew because of his little errors in written and spoken English, which he does better than most of my course mates in school, but l didnt comment about it. I do correct him and he adjust easily. When we got serious, he told me that he didnt go to the University because of financial constraint. He is exposed though. l told him that l would like him to start an ND program @least and he reluctantly agreed. He is a driver with an oil company in Lagos and barely has time for himself.
Few weeks before we met, he lost his job. He is recently working but the pay isnt much. He has business plans but no capital
He is humble, honest(except the age thing), trustworthy and has a big sense of humor.
I have never been in a relationship. He is my first boyfriend. He lives in Lagos while l live in the east, though we are both from the south east. I have gone to his place and spent 3 days because of a job interview and he never forced me 4 sex,(am a virgin) though we cuddled.
He always seeks for my advice before embarking on anything, and always aims to make me happy. When we started communicating, l was a frustrated applicant on the verge of suicide (lol) but now, though still an applicant, he made me see the whole issue as one of life's hurdles and not a do or die affair.
My fear is that this is my first r/ship. Am scared because l dont know if am being blinded by emotions or not, and him not being financially buoyant. Also a little worried about the age difference. He sometimes hint that l will leave him if l meet a graduate like me or someone richer.
He is a romantic at heart and is planning a romantic proposal in April( l gathered from hints). I am a difficult person, a melancholy and prone to mood changes, but on every occasion, he always have patience and shows maturity in dealing with every issue.
This is new for me, l have no dating experience and don't know if l should say yes with all the differences or date others first. I love him but l need to use my brain too.
Please help!!!
Sorry for the long story.

As in ehn.

Feyifahm:
u no jst pity them @ all

Oni ranu oshi! U quoted me first. Now who is disturbing who? Anumanu ohia!

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