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Maid below 11yrs... That's all I'm concerned about. Why would a baby be doing chores?

Explain better. What is her income, what is your income, how much do you give as housekeeping money. How much do you give for her own upkeep. How do you give money? Weekly or monthly. Let us know. Besides, I hope you know the price of things have skyrocketted?

Nice one Rihana. This is my prayer every blessed day. That I would be able to be there for my parents everytime and anytime. Oluwa bless your daughter. Na hand falling make person parents suffer because of scarcity of funds

The kind of advise I see these days on nairaland ehn. Two things. It's either the current users of this platform don't have sense like that or they're birds of same kind.


10 percent of anyone's savings is not something you just give out to someone in the name of borrow. It took you the OP a great discipline and sacrifice to lay aside that money. One other thing you should know is that some people thrive on borrowing and never paying. It's in their DNA. At times they even borrow from you to save in their account while others don't make any effort to increase their financial status because they know they can always borrow. Another thing you should know is people hardly pay back money borrowed in the large sum they collected it. They'd pieces the money while giving you back so you will not use it to do anything. All these scenarios I'm giving you is for you to understand what you're about to do. You know your friend very well, if he's really in need and has a clean track record of not being a leech you can decide to give him something you know even if he doesn't pay back the friendship will not be ruined or give him all he asked and hope he behaves responsibly by paying back. You can also decide to not give him at all. The ball is in your court. But no one should come here and say "is it not your friend? Help him na, leave the money for him na" like all these okoto meow I'm reading up there. People be acting like money grow on trees. mtchwwwwwww

merahki:
You gave two great ideas (1 and 2), one fair and maybe dicey one (3) and upvoted your worst one (4)why?
My point is that I love your first two suggestions and hope the poster does any or both of them.
I strongly advise that he disregards your fourth one .
Bad things happen when good people refuse to act.
Cheers

Don't blame me dear, we've seen cases where people with good intentions were tagged poke nosers

jess2019:
At OP.
I just finished reading the whole 5 pages. I have a 9month old baby and I can understand from op's point of view leaving her child out of her sight for so long. It feels like I've left my baby for eternity when I step out for just an hr.
For the issue at hand. I dont get how her inlaws can suggest OP gives her child to her SIL. Dont they know what bonding is? The bond between the mother and child. OP carried this baby for 9months and then cared for her for 7months. Haba. I'm beginning to think that the sister inlaw must have staged her pregnancy and loss just to plan about taking op's 5th child after she saw OP pregnant with her 5th.

Follow this
Sit your sister inlaw down. Explain to her you understand her predicament and that you are willing to give ur child to her but they should allow ur child to reach one yr. Reason that you have bonded with baby during pregnancy and birth, therefore it will not be that easy for u to just handover ur baby like that. While they are waiting for ur baby to be 1yr old. You and ur hubby should use that 5months to look for a place of your own.

Before you pack out, sit ur SIL down again. Explain to her that your baby is passing separation anxiety and that u cannot afford to give ur baby up. That her cries touches you and because of that you are willing to pack out if she can't bear to see ur child not with her. Babies begin to feel separation anxiety from 8months. They cry when their care giver is not around.
This reason will give u time to plan and also to avoid trouble with your in laws at hand. Atleast everyone will give u a breathing space for now. Time takes care of situations.

You're almost the only woke person on this thread. Don't mind those schemers. As soon as I read the story I knew OPs co wife was up to something. Even me still waiting on God for my own child would never ask another woman to give me hers.

Madam OP, please be very prayerful. Don't go about with airs around your shoulders and try to be respectful to your husband, her husband and her. When ever this issue comes up always make sure you disagree to give up your child calmly. No roforofo fight. Okay?

EricSmallz:
You are selfish sha. 5 kids? If you were my wife, I would instruct you to gift that child to that poor woman. 4 kids are more than enough. Do you want to eat some? And from the look of things, your husband is even broke o. He can't even afford to rent a house, but you are just giving birth like bird. What if God gets angry and withdraw the kids?

I don't think you're even married. "gift a child" to someone. You're not serious

You're an adult......
1. You can call them aside especially the boys and advice them one on one.

2. Start chooking the children word small small. Make it public where people are at least shame go catch them.

3. You can talk to their mother, put fear in her body. Tell her the too much work will kill her husband fast and she'll be a widow.

4. Mind your business.

I strongly advise that you go with number 4. Thanks

zed7:
Anywhere from 1m upwards annually.

Thank you so much. You guys have been helpful

leisuretym:
Young man, give people you want to give this coins and shut this thread, you wan spend one month to share 20k? 2,000 × 10 is 20k, abi i no sabi math again ni? you are embarrassing Buhari here.

Ogbenye onu ntu

davillian:
Just get plenty water you won't die
After 2weeks

Don't be mean

EbonyHairNG:
you did a give last week for 200 people and you didn't give me, you skipped me and I didn't say anything , but why attacking me? madam why block my way? please God will not block your way, please don't attack me , I'm fighting for my kids. shame will not feed my kids abeg oo.

I will not answer anybody trying to blackmail me again.

You might really need to calm down.



What do you do for a living and where do you live?

roseb1:
And na only u get problem for nairaland abi? See entitlement mentality. What of others wey nova get shingba? Wouldn't u be considerate enough to allow others get wetin u get? And u get mouth say person hate u because he no fall for ur gimmicks. Na wa for u madam

Rose. Let it go. Please

Carfreak966:
If they are not clean areas, I won’t have wasted my time answering your question or have you helped me before?

Okay. Thank you. Please how much do you think a spacious 3bedroom would cost

Carfreak966:
Okota, Festac, Ajah, and rest of the island

Okay, are these places clean areas?

cyndy1000:
Ma believe me with faith just bless a soul who has a child and struggles to feed. You will surely have your own

Okay, God gives.

Please where's the best place to live in Lagos? I'm thinking of relocating with my family. I'd be getting a shop as well so I want somewhere close to the house that also has traffic. Please it should be in a neat neighbourhood abeg. A neighborhood very clean

Imiracle:
3051106572
First bank

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peacefulhome:
God will do it sister. He never fails.

Amen. Thank you so much.

August would make it 2years. We are still waiting to conceive.

E be things.

You see the reason while growing up I said I'd not marry any "brother". In fact, being a "brother" is an automatic turn off.

You're not serious. Both of you have been having sex after which you disappear and appear when you like. You probably ran away when you discovered she was pregnant and now you're here telling me she's been avoiding you.

In fact, both of you are not serious. So what exactly did you guys learn at Bible school? I want to understand...

iammo:
I have being in Dubai one too several times, and I can say tonto don't have to eat poo to rake in some good dirham, she is a fine lady, good skin, and a popular celeb, Arab, Indians and Russians would pay her good for just escort service or non sex company

Don't mind them. It's only gullible people that will believe this fabricated trash

Stella is just a sad woman. You guys can see Tonto is minding her business with Jesus Joy and happiness. When she decides to give Stella a robust reply the internet will definitely scatter. First to do no dey pain o

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Onyi22:
My Tacha for the money oooooo

Yes o.

No amount of hate from anyone will make me change my mind about her. Even bush baby na baby Las Las...

Onyi22:
Hope Tacha did not snuf him?

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Onyi22:
Hope Tacha did not snuf him?

Oga drink water and sleep.


Leave Tacha out of your mouth make your bile no go burst o

Patoranking my sweet G