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Errrrrr. You go need patience oooo.

One thing you should know is that your brother is now married and is firstly responsible to his wife and kids before any other person so him allowing three extended family to stay in this hard times is an act of kindness and bravery please don't add more stress to his life by bickering with your in-laws. We women are troublesome by nature then when we see someone who has our time we extend the trouble. The truth is
1. There is no way the room would have been left for you while there are women in the house (they need privacy).
2. Why will you say that you will go to the village? Don't you know you give your brother some kind of security in the midst of his wife and her obviously troublesome sisters by staying with him? Has he asked you to leave yet?
3. You where wrong to slap the young woman, no matter what the grieviance is you don't touch a woman.
4. They where wrong to throw your mattress out but please forgive them and move on. Thank God your brother made provisions for a replacement.
5. Take this place as a training ground for your future, if it's anything you should be bothered about now, is to be more determined about gaining independence and making it in life.
6. Leave rofo rofo fight for women, in fact ignore them totally for your national peace.
7. Hustle!!! Hustle!!! Hustle oooooo!!!!

Hugs.

Don't. He hasn't proven himself a trust worthy fellow.

What am I doing on this thread?

I would love this. But water has spoilt my wall even after screeding. So what do I do because as I'm talking to you the wall is swollen and the paint is falling off. This is just one year of screeding and painting. After buying this now, do I screed again before laying it? Is there any special gum I need? Plus, will it swell with the wall again and fall off? I'm looking for a permanent solution for my wall as I can't be painting every year.

johnwell:
Please join us on telegram, 08111713333. Thanks

No. I don't need the services anymore. When I asked was when I didn't see the light, now I take everything to God in prayers. The precious blood of Jesus is just enough. Who needs interpretations when Christ has paid the price anyways?

Chigold101:
in my culture single girls are not encouraged to get pregnant.
I am not having any form of conversation with you because you practically lack morality

And you've resulted to insulting me by saying I lack morality? Anyways I would not get in the mud with you seeing that I already have come in contact with lots of your type both here on nairaland and real life but let me school you. In your culture single girls do not get pregnant? Is the ops woman of same culture as you? She actually is his wife who he is no longer in love with. People fall in and out of love and that's reality. Wake up and smell the coffee please. Don't stay in your glass house and throw pebbles, I bet you're the type that turns their nose up when they see single female parents. Abeg abeg abeg... For the last time, bye.

Chigold101:
I actually had to quote you because I am replying to your advice to the guy.

Talking of murder, who told you that the lady won't murder the guy if he leaves her now after making her a mother, she probably didn't plan for?

What mess is more than a guy getting a woman involuntary pregnant?

As much as I understood in this post, the woman is not the problem, the guy is. He should stop looking at other side thinking it's greener and build his home.

That's the simplest thing for him to do.

I really do not understand you. Wait, Pregnancy is a mess? Wow!!! Guess I don't need to have any sort of conversation with you. Our thinking caps are not facing the same directions. Bye.

Chigold101:
selfishness in the highest order.
Note: the op didn't complain of any wrong doing from the lady, therefore the marriage looks loveless because this guy made it so.
Marriage in reality is not about marrying who you love but about loving who you marry.
This guy should stop chasing shadow and sit his ass down and build his home with his wife
It might be easier for him to move on, but it won't be easy for the lady. When this guy's dic.k was telling him to fuc.k the lady, where was love then?

Let me tell you: people who enjoy their marriage do so because they decided to make it so, it's not because of any kind of special love.

OP, go home and build your marriage, show that lady love and stop crying for nothing. You want to mess the young woman's life.
E no go work for you.

You didn't need to quote me in order to give your own advice. Rage comes actually from an accumulation of past and present resentments unattended to. You'd be surprised to know that 85% of spousal murder-suicide started softly like this. I'm all for everyone having peace and sleeping well at night. Wait, do you think a woman would thrive well in a house she's not loved and wanted?
I don't understand what you mean by mess the young woman's life... Kindly explain this.

pretydiva:
Please is the offer still open?

Call the numbers

Phew!!!
I'm a bit sleepy. But I'd give a proper response in the morning okay?

Edited...

Okay, here is the thing.
It is never too late to start something. In fact, now is the right time to begin your life's journey all you need to do is take a decision and stick to the plan.
If you want to go to school I'd advise you to pick a noun form that way you can work to sustain yourself. If you do not want to go to school anymore you can learn a professional trade(handiwork) since you are into building already I'd advise you learn POP, Plumbing, Furniture, Iron bending or Mason and be good at it. I know people who make a good living out of this trade. All these you can learn and perfect under a year if you are serious.
Please while at it do not think that your mates are better than you in any way, that's not true s everyone has his or her own journey.
Me sef talking to you just restarted my life again after getting a second degree as I realise in order to excel I'd need some re-alignments. It is good that you have woken up early and now is the right time.

I wish you God's directions and favor. Cheers!!!

You mustn't stay married to anyone you're not in love with. It is still early to set her free, set yourself free as well for your sound mind. If you stay there, both of you will live in frustration and I bet you don't want to build a home in disarray.
Initially she would cry and lament but trust me she'd get someone else to love her properly and so would you.
No one is coming to this world twice, this one you're sure of, yank off any and everything that would cause you discomfort. You don't want to wake up one day in your 50s or 70s full of regrets and what ifs.

Please make sure to maintain civility while at it.
Thanks.

Jesus. Is this real?

This room doesn't look like a room where someone would keep his or her loved one but rather more like an abandoned store house. A sick person doesn't need a crowded room filled up with junks on the floor. How come they weren't checking up on their father through neighbors?

May all our labor and that of our parents not be in vain. May we not fall sick and die when it is time to enjoy the good harvest of our hands...
Amen.

WILLuKPquiet:
Oh! so a woman who is not a girlfriend but a fiancée can just come visiting, use the plates she met washed, litter the floor with popcon and leave without washing the plates she used or sweep the floor she messed up and still claim she is a marriage material.
If the guy goes ahead and marry her despite her habit for reasons best known to him, and she now starts expecting him to join her in the kitchen or help out with other chores in the house after marriage. Does she merit it?

What you narrated up here is not helping with chores. It's called taking responsibility and cleaning up after one's self. Don't confuse yourself please.

Please educate me. Help how? As per maid or slave? Who helps her with hers?

lekki1444:
its the Daniel anointing

DANIEL 5 VS 11 There is a man in your kingdom who has the spirit of the holy gods in him. In the time of your father he was found to have insight and intelligence and wisdom like that of the gods. Your father, King Nebuchadnezzar, appointed him chief of the magicians, enchanters, astrologers and diviners.

DANIEL 2 VS 16 16 At this, Daniel went in to the king and asked for time, so that he might interpret the dream for him.

Kindly meditate on 2Tim 4:3-4


Peace be...

You started by claiming to interpret dreams, now you're claiming to create rituals for problem solving. Keep moving, gradually we will know exactly where you're going to.


Isaiah 10 vs 19-20 NIV
When someone tells you to consult mediums and spiritists, who whisper and mutter, should not a people inquire of their God? Why consult the dead on behalf of the living? 20 Consult God’s instruction and the testimony of warning. If anyone does not speak according to this word, they have no light of dawn.

This one you have 10k I don't know how to advice you o. But I will try.


What you need is a grill. Sharwarma grill. This one is very expensive. And that's the essential thing.

Next
Sharwama bread
Cabbages
Ketchup
Mayonnaise
Pepper
Chicken
Condiments
Cheese
Hot dog

The last two are optional. Then you can start at home and do delivery. From there you get a space. Maybe you can use your 10k to look for a welder that would do the manual grill that uses gas for you. Or you can look for second new in pantaker shop.

The first thing I will ask you is, are you a traditionalist?
What I mean is, do you patronise juju?
If yes, you will be equal to the task.
If no, then run for your life. I mean, when you're running your legs should be touching your neck. You think you're the only one they have told the diety picked? It seems they perceive you as someone who has small change. In fact if you ask me i will say whether you are a babalawo customer or not just run away. The day you agree to take up the position is the day you will see serious fight from oppositions you're not aware of. You will loose your resources, peace, safety and you may also loose your life. I rest my case.

My husband fills the gas regularly and I do that particular chore when he's not around. Back at the family hou it was chore for my brothers before we all dispersed and now it's just my parents my dad fills it. My elder brother who is married also fills the gas in his home. I'm sure when he travels and the gas finishes his wife wouldn't wait for him to come back first before she cooks. Na wah o. A troublemaker must find a way to show himself. Imagine

zed7:
Who chooses a stranger over family? You've never been stabbed before. I'll rather be stabbed by a family member than a stranger. How will I feel when I see a stranger progressing whilst my own family suffers because she is 'spoilt?
My dear, this is deeper than her being spoilt, you have a personal grudge against your sister which you ain't saying here. Maybe she is prettier, got more complements, better grades etc.

Omo see angle. Phew!!!

Mama4dworld:
I have done the accessment....it will take up more than a year's rent.

Toh, start looking for another house then. Biko park out. Just count it as loss. Because once you repair the leaking roof, if you tell them landlord you want to remove it from your rent he will ask you who sent you to repair the house, he will even eject you after all you Don repair house for am. Weigh the two options and choose the lesser loss.

Naira235:
No, I only met her all through my 3years training in her mom's shop like 8 years ago. The mother and her daughter still called or chat me up often to say hello to me, always asking about me during this pandemic, without asking or demanding for money or anything. My sister only call me whenever they are broke at home or my parents are sick.

Don't assume you know people like that. Especially when it comes to going abroad, working and schooling. At least you already know your younger sister. Have a conference call with her and your parents only. Tell her this is the only condition of her coming and you'd be sending people to watch her. If she doesn't change you'd pick someone else. On the mean time, why not send her to learn something like catering or fashion designing. Why leave her at home to be a liability to her old parents? If you are picking your madams child get a lawyer to draw up an agreement here. I hope she doesnt collect your husband from you. All these young girls are customers to Miwa, Omashola and Jaruma. Good luck.

Please call a carpenter to access the leakage. If it's something you can afford just do the patch and move on. Our people say it is where you live that you take care of. I'm all for treating a house you are renting like the house you built yourself. May God keep providing for you.

You can never know the truth between these two because everything you see on the reunion has been edited and trimmed to suit their narrative.

Ehen?

Ebonyigist:
You go mention all your boyfriend no worry

Whatsapp me joor

Politicians can owe their staff for the whole of Africa and Europe combined. Don't say I didn't warn you. What ever decision you take just have that in mind. Also know you can't stay on that 40k job forever. Cheers

Ebonyigist:
This name is unique to one person.. Did you go boyfriend hunting in DBI?

This can only be my run away boyfriend chubenny

You're not under a spell so why don't you want to leave that place? Do you think your current employer cares about you? Imagine not agreeing to give you your annual leave and paying you 35k after working for 365days. Uncle move. And even if that one doesn't work out (due to your pessimism) don't ever go back. In fact, if you work with same or half the capacity of your old place they no born the business not to blow.