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It's good to retain the essence of youthfulness.

I hope I keep this in mind when my dreams become reality.

It shouldn't be a barrier but it's hard to maintain a healthy relationship when you begin to have kids.

Both of you believe your religion is the ideal one and since you want the best for your kids, you'd prefer they serve your God.

If you're mature enough to settle issues like this at the pre wedding stage, you should be okay.

But I don't think I can marry someone who doesn't share my belief. It's my core and I should be able to share it with my spouse.

I think I'll just become a vegetarian if the worse happens.

DanielPop:
Sad. She should have seen it coming!

What are you even saying? A girl of seven should have seen it coming? I'm appalled.

The rate with which our society is spiralling downwards is pretty scary. Now, we've got to teach our kids to look over their shoulders cause some beast may be out to get them.

I'm sick and tired, I just want to go back to days when life was simple. It wasn't perfect but it was really good.

MasterEmmanu3l:
Well,I think dating is a process where the two people involve gets to know each other, become familiar with their flaws and in a way, help to fix it. It's more of a building step. A preparation for Marriage. Your view is based mostly on the negativity, it whispers "She recently had a bad relationship. Hence, one sided her thoughts"

I can't really say for sure why you think of dating like this but I can tell to focus on the positivity. ..embrace it. Cuz it does have more of a positive impact.

No, my thoughts aren't one sided because of a bad relationship.

Read my response here...

vickyO:
I understand you.
Dating is not the term to use for people who are ready to get married, courtship is more appropriate.
Youths of today have associated dating with hooking up and breaking up with numerous partners and that is what I'm referring to.

izonlucky01:
Now I understand. But when you are dating a guy try to study him and know if he is ready to settle down.
If he is bringing you close to his family, just know he wants to settle down and try to use the opportunity by bringing yourself closer to his family by visiting them but if he is not just run for your life.

Thanks for the heads up.

VoteDemiladgold:
It all depends on effective communication

Effective communication? What do you mean?

MasterEmmanu3l:
I respectfully refuse to believe that.

Let's not derail.

What do think about the post?

MasterEmmanu3l:
An exhilarating piece. Unfortunately, I can not contribute in anyway. I'm too young too privy to have a say in something like this.

You're never too young to make contributions. I may be younger than you.

izonlucky01:
Op this is 21st century. Dating is now neccesary before marriage. When a guy engage you he has not married you yet, so engagement can also means dating.

izonlucky01:
Dating before marriage is very crucial. Marriage is a lifetime relationship, so you need to study your partner through dating before embacking into marriage.

I don't believe in love at the first sight, so there is need for the both partners to grow their love through dating before embacking into marriage.

Let me drop my pen for now.

I understand you.

Dating is not the term to use for people who are ready to get married, courtship is more appropriate.

Youths of today have associated dating with hooking up and breaking up with numerous partners and that is what I'm referring to.

Growing up, I got interested in God and books and this has helped shape my value and belief system.

I believe that to enjoy a good marriage, you do not need to date. My reasons are:

1) No two relationships are the same. The dynamics of one would always be different from the other. Boyfriend A's interest may lie in other things and his bad habits may be totally different from Boyfriend B's habit.

Thus, the need to have an experience so as to have a good marriage is unfounded.

2) Emotional baggage is worse than some health issues. Most women carry emotional baggage into their marriages with the mind that their husbands would help alleviate their troubled state. Some may have been battered by men, treated like trash, etc and this goes a long way in affecting a woman's esteem no matter how she raises her head high after such ordeals.

Thus, emotional baggage arising from relationships may be avoided if dating is not encouraged.

3) The years before you clock 25 exist to help you strengthen your core as an individual. So if you go around dating without taking time to be alone so you can work on yourself, you might have to settle for less at some point. Take your time to build yourself up and real men would love to make you theirs.

Thus, dating most times prevents you from developing yourself as a youth as it could get distracting. How do you plan to raise your kids and keep your home? You need to teach them values and principles (ones you stand for).

4) It results in pressure from both spouses. For example, if a guy had a girl who could go all the way sexually and his wife is a bit more reserved, issues arise. However, if both parties are newbies, they'd grow together, explore together and this would deepen their union.

Thus, putting off dating helps you when you get married because your spouse becomes your only ideal and this would help reaffirm your marriage.

5) Dating robs you of life processes. Note that kids who engage in romance early lose their childhood. They become interested in doing what adults do and have little interest in things they should be indulging in. Youths who date cut into the time they should spend on self development thereby becoming half baked parents.

Thus, life comes in stages and each stage must be lived out. Don't let dating rob you of any stage.


There is a saying in Law that to every general rule there are exceptions. Some people may have had it differently and to them I say good luck.

You might say how then do you find a spouse. Well, if you are a well rounded person with a reasonable network of good friends and a relationship with God, you'd find your spouse.

Edited:
After you have become independent and well rounded, you can then decide you want to get married. You then start the courtship process with the person you wish to get married to.

Lastly, these are my views, if you agree, comment, explaining it the way you understand and if you don't, do the same.

Life is a learning process, never disrupt it.

Oliviaarims:
This issue has been over flogged!

Issues that border on morality and good judgement cannot be over flogged.

It's just like saying, we should all keep quiet about child and women abuse because it has been repeatedly rebuked by many.

My dear, the issue of sex before marriage, to some individuals, stands on the same pedestal as child abuse and other vices.

Sex before marriage is a seemingly harmless vice that is indulged in by many. It has become the norm but that doesn't make it correct.

The truth should be over flogged till it becomes the norm.

That's why abstinence is the best for singles.
Remember the 'I Zip up' Gold Circle advert?
Zip up!

When you're married stick to your wife's juice.

They say, ' the grass looks greener on the other side so we have to explore'. If only they take time (used in exploring) to water their own grass; it'd be twice as nice.

sage50:
Std are overrated sha

Really? Maybe you've been lucky for too long.

Ishilove:
You said vegetarians

So nkwobi and isiewu eaters would have their vaginas taste of Goat meat?

Ishilove:
Imagine one's puzzay tasting of carrots, lettuce and ugu

You had me cracking up. God!!!

bluskyee:
I was never tagged inferior, you just did.

What I said:

vickyO:
It seems to me that you felt inferior all along.

What you said:

bluskyee:
For the record; "Matured" guys back then we're often tagged inferior....no p...I guess now I am superior?

So I didn't deem you inferior, I only thought you felt inferior to other uncool guys.

bluskyee:
merci.

Je vous en prie.

bluskyee:
Goodbye

Goodbye.

Siena:
[color=Blue]And where does a woman keep a handkerchief that's been used to wipe her bits? Handbag, or a pocket?

Fragrance-free baby wipes for newborns don't contain chemicals, and are recommended by gynecologists for feminine hygiene. [/color]

@emboldened - really funny.

How many vegetarians are in here? How sumptuous do your vaginas taste?

Thanks for sharing Op.

bluskyee:
Inferior? I have never dated an average chick... they were all classy. For the record; "Matured" guys back then we're often tagged inferior....no p...I guess now I am superior? lools...ladies very funny creatures

That's not the bone of contention; you dating classy or classless girls.

You were tagged inferior, yeah? But did you feel inferior?

You can be anything you want to be but your disposition can either be altered by other people's opinion or be strengthened by your own resolution.

Yeah, ladies could be really funny, men likewise.

It seems to me that you felt inferior all along. Why not use that energy for a good cause instead of trying to break a home?

tushd:
. You've got a good soul... Dunno I just feel it

Thank you.

VickyRotex:
Namesake, how many times can I hug you for this?

gypsey:
now you are talking YES! an epic REVOLUTION will Resolve it. this is what every nigerian is afraid to say or mention REVOLUTION! or maybe the are all cowards

I don't mind a revolution but I think it will not turn out well because Nigeria isn't ripe yet.

Till we have all had it with the government, we can't stage a revolution.

gypsey:
look it's no brainer honey!, people need to honest to themselves and quit hoping and praying if you want some thing aleast Go and get, perharps then God or pray will help instead nigerians believes sitting on their sanctimoniously religious bottom praying and hoping calling on God every day and night to help as if God have'nt got more important thing to attend to.

Yeah, we should pray and act on what we've prayed about.

But what are we supposed to do? Stage a revolution?

Wherever people dig these informations from baffles me.

dukie25:
This was why they hid his result.
He left college in 1961, that's 55yrs of dullardry.
Failed woefully in Maths, the result of his failure is evident looking at the shambolic budget of corruption.

Too blunt to be swallowed by me.

kenny987:
Even the so-called letter shows he was still in school and hadn't acquired his WAEC yet. The supposed certificate calls him 'Mohamed Buhari' while the contrived application has him addressing himself as 'Muhammadu Buhari'.
Why that discrepancy on something as fundamental as his name? A very common name borne by almost half of the male islamic adherents...does that result belong to the president as we know him or someone is trying to cover up a glaring breach of the constitution.
Time will expose any and every underhanded tactic employed by anyone to ascend into an undeserved office he's not even qualified for.

Also too blunt for me to take in.

vislabraye:
Delay gratification. That's, refusing not to release on time

I'm sure you understand my point.

gypsey:
prayer? eh? with all the pastors in nigeria and oh! you forgot the deputy president is also a so called pastor, well nigerians will have to pray till thy kingdom come and i gurantee you nothing will change.

Don't be pessimistic instead be persistent.

You're beautiful. Don't listen to the naysayers.

You're contradicting yourself.


You either stand for something wholeheartedly or not.

Still too high.

The government should adjust their economic policies so we can forge ahead.

MORNDEW:
what is d good thing? Sex?

Of course not. A stable and enjoyable marriage.

It's a general saying and there are exceptions to it.

tete7000:
Why do you bother to pay attention to everything people write? You ll just have a blood pressure.
And why also does every flimsy things about the president make headlines? What's special about the president hugging a chinese girl? What development does that brings to you and me?

I'm on a posting spree.
Exactly my point.

I just feel like trolling threads today.

Congratulations