Romance / Re: Why Guys Hardly Forgive Cheating? by victons(m): 10:23pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
oluseyiforjesus: Cheating is sin....... But to answer op's question; I ve seen a man marrying more than one wife legally (dou not good ooo if u want to live long) But I ve never seen a woman married to two men legally. Legally Why the lie naah |
Romance / Re: Why Guys Hardly Forgive Cheating? by victons(m): 10:19pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
The major reason here is ego. Fucking a guy's babe may trample his ego. |
Romance / Re: Could She Be Carrying My Child? by victons(m): 12:51pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
omamush: Maybe you should get on touch with her to be sure its your child she's carrying go for a DNA when its born.. your concern is the child now, there is no need to feel pity for her it was her decision from the onset. Child support laws doesn't care. |
Romance / Re: Could She Be Carrying My Child? by victons(m): 12:50pm On Sep 13, 2021 |
Princecanada: Hi Nairalanders,
This issue has been bothering for a while now. I am not the promiscuous type. I was a virgin all through my university until I started working in one of the states. She was my first and has been the only one. I have been having relationship problems in the sense that I it's just so difficult for me to get emotionally attached to a lady. I am straight so don't think the other way round. I tried to see if I could work this out with her, but along the line, I lost interest again. So just before my relocation, she said she wants to see me one last time before I travel, I tried to lie to her that I am unavailable,but then she made it seemed like I didn't want to see her, I felt sorry and said no problem that she can come around. I have only had sex with her once but with protection, on this her second visit, she said she wouldn't want protection anymore as she doesn't enjoy sex with condom, and that she wants to enjoy sex before I leave. I told her I am not comfortable with the idea as I don't want her to get pregnant as she is still a student in one of the universities. She said she can only get pregnant if she wants to, and that as a student, she doesn't want that yet. When she came over, the did happened but even then I still used a condom, condom broke on 3 occasions, then I decided to raw, and when I felt I was about to release, I pulled out. Even though I pulled out, I was uncomfortable because I have heard that precum can also get a lady pregnant. I was scared about any possibility of infection too. Took her to the hospital the next day, did HIV and other STD tests which came out negative. We went together to see the doctor for post pills, but she declined taking any that since I didn't release in her, she will be fine. And that she has pills she can take too. I was furious at her, but had to respect her decision as it is her body.
Three weeks after, she called that she thinks she's pregnant, that she missed her period which is very unusual. I was so mad at her and told her, I didn't want to hear any of that as I made it clear to her from the beginning. She started crying and got emotional, that got to me and I told her not to worry, that I will pay her bride price and marry her. I earn about half a million monthly, so I believe I can take care of her and the kid. She paused and said she needs to think about it. Regarding abortion, I already told her, my tradition forbids me from giving any form of material and financial assistance to her to do that, if at all she wants to do it, it has to be her sole decision. I made it clear to her that I won't be involved in the decision to abort the pregnancy. She called back after a couple of minutes that she is not comfortable with my decision to marry her, that I want to do that because of the pregnancy. She asked if there was no pregnancy,would I have chosen to marry her, I told her, I don't know. She said then that she is going to abort it, I pleaded with her not to abort seeing the possibility of me becoming a dad soon, she said she will go ahead to abort, that her friend have gotten her some meds already. She called few days later that she just got the drugs, and have taken them, and that she is experiencing blood flow and stomach ache, that I shouldn't abandon her in this difficult time. I said no problem, so I kept calling to check on her very often. After a week, I stopped calling as usual, and that became a problem. I wanted her to move on with her life.
I kept in touch with her and supported her financially when the need arose. When I told her, I am back to the same city with her, she said she wanted to see me that it's very important, I said what's so important that we can't discuss over the phone, she said when I see her I will know. Well, when the day came for her to see me, I told her I was unavailable, then she coded I was avoiding her. We chatted, and she told me the pregnancy is still there. I told her to stop messing with me as I am currently trying to move on and build a new relationship. She insisted, then I said well, if you are, deliver the child, I will take responsibility. She said is that all I have to say, that I want to make her my Baby Mama? I then asked her, what more does she want? I offered marriage before, but now, that's no longer on the table. When the baby is borne I will take responsibility. Well, long story short, at the end of our chat, she said, she was never pregnant, and that she will only get pregnant if she wants to. I then told her, I am not going to forgive her in a hurry.
Since then, we stopped communicating. Recently,I saw her WhatsApp status with her visibly pregnant in the picture. I have been seeing most of her status update on Facebook and WhatsApp, I feel so sorry for her most of the time. She has done nothing wrong but love me. The problem is me, I can't seem to be able to really love back the way I ought to. Feelings die after few weeks and months. This happened to all the 6 ladies I have dated.
My worry right now is, could she be carrying my child? I didn't release in her, but there could be a possibility of precum. One of her friends once called me that she noticed she is pregnant, and I am the only one she has known to be dating her. She claimed to have called me without her knowledge and consent and ask if she told me she was pregnant.
I was a good boy and should have remained a virgin till marriage if I had known. Now look how complicated my life just got. I never wanted to have kids with different women. I haven't really been myself since. If you are a young single guy, please learn from my experience.
For the mature minds in the house, what do you advise I do about my present predicament? From my judgement, I don't think she's pregnant. It's very very unlikely. The babe sef is quite exposed too, from this story. However, with this your soft heart, women go use you play tennis for this world shaa. |
Family / Re: What Is That Special Thing That Makes You Happy? by victons(m): 9:44am On Sep 11, 2021 |
Foo |
Family / Re: Is There Such A Thing As Forgive And Forget? by victons(m): 9:40am On Sep 11, 2021 |
Lmao |
Romance / Re: Man Shares His Experience With A Hotel Receptionist (photo) by victons(m): 9:36am On Sep 11, 2021 |
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Health / Re: General Hospital Ifako Ijaiye Commences Use Of Electronic Medical Records by victons(m): 9:31am On Sep 11, 2021 |
We should clap right?? Clap clap. |
Politics / Re: 2023: Igbos Need Tinubu To Produce Nigeria’s Next President – Ohanaeze by victons(m): 3:02am On Sep 11, 2021 |
Echile: Anyways,
Since it's already obvious that he won't be eligible to contest comes 2023.
Igbos might need to work with him in other to get enough needed votes in the S,west.
My brothers from the East needs to work together with him and with other peoples like him in other regions, and stop believing that PDP or APC would give them an automatic ticket comes 2023 .....
Why wont he be eligible? |
Politics / Re: What Is The Government House In Your State Called And Why? by victons(m): 2:41am On Sep 11, 2021 |
Agu Awka for Anambra |
Politics / Re: Marilyn Ngige Gets Inducted As A Medical Doctor by victons(m): 7:22pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Anazp: Shows how accommodating the Yorubas are. So many igbos schooling in Lagos and the south west but you will hardly see any Yoruba in the east schooling or living there It was the Igbos that pursued them? |
Celebrities / Re: Nedu Wazobia(comedian):i Dint Give Him Child From Another Man On Purpose Ex-wife by victons(m): 3:55pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Nawa ooo, women sef. |
Crime / Re: Police Indict Lanre Suraju After Probing Adoke’s Petition On ‘Forged’ Email by victons(m): 3:54pm On Sep 10, 2021 |
Melaninprincess: They said someone sent email, the perosn that was accused said it was forged, police investigation also confirmed the forgery. Now the person that accused the person is in trouble Like this now, Wahala no dey finish oo |
Politics / Re: Gumi Replies Adesina: "War Has Not Been A Solution Anywhere, You Bootlicker" by victons(m): 9:48am On Sep 10, 2021 |
After thorough research on him, I can't see the medical school he attended to make him a medical doctor. Can someone educate me on this |
Family / Re: I Hurt My Mom Badly, How Do I Pacify Her? by victons(m): 9:42am On Sep 10, 2021 |
First, how did she get to know Second, did the 5k really make this huge difference? Was it actually the only reason why you didn't resume? Thirdly, I don't believe in booodmoney whatsoever. 1 Like |
Business / Re: What Business Can I Do In Lagos by victons(m): 9:23pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
kenoyad:
Motor spare is a good idea, can you help with learning the art of the trade. Thank you. I can't really. Still a student. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Ahmadu Fintiri: APC Built Around Only Buhari, They Will Lose To PDP In 2023 by victons(m): 8:34pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Buhari is like the herdsman, while APC politicians are the cows. 2 Likes |
Sports / Re: Tobiloba Amusan Makes History, Wins Diamond League In Women's 100m Hurdles by victons(m): 8:27pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
How did she come second at Olympics when they both crossed the line at 12.69? 7 Likes |
Crime / Re: Police Indict Lanre Suraju After Probing Adoke’s Petition On ‘Forged’ Email by victons(m): 8:25pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Well, having ignored the whole message without reading a word, I have nothing to say.
Maybe my other real niggurs would spill my unspoken words. 2 Likes |
Phones / Re: Cost Of Data In Nigeria Is Very High. Not Cheap by victons(m): 2:11pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
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Business / Re: What Business Can I Do In Lagos by victons(m): 2:09pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Motor spare parts is not a bad idea. Does your uncle know people too 3 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Tonto Dikeh Remembers Her Dead Mother Following Breakup Brawl by victons(m): 2:06pm On Sep 09, 2021 |
Drama She will soon remember her father and uncles this period. 17 Likes |
TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija: Tega Finally Meet Her Husband, Shares Kisses And Hugs (Video) by victons(m): 5:31pm On Sep 08, 2021 |
HitRun: I am tempted to call him a pussy-ass niggaa. But I won't.
I think he is better than me because in his shoes, I am certain I won't forgive. But what is life without forgiveness?
I applaud his mental strength. I have learnt a thing or two from him.
Gracias!
. . . . . . . . In his shoes, I still won't forgive! If it's a man, they call it mental strength. |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: 6 Things To Do Before Leaving Your Job by victons(m): 5:08pm On Sep 08, 2021 |
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TV/Movies / Re: BBNaija: Tega Cries, Apologises To Her Husband & To Nigerians (Video) by victons(m): 9:35pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
She only apologized because she went home with almost nothing.
Wasn't she the same woman that bragged she doesn't care what happens to her marriage because once she leaves the house she's got the money and the fame, and she'd be the chase for her husband. 1 Like 1 Share |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Npower: I Have Been Deployed. Thank You Nairaland. by victons(m): 9:29pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
Jisie Ike, congrats. I just wish we'd rather have more of this kind of news, where people celebrate nairaland for directing them to opportunities. But here, we only talk about Boma, Tega, and Tonto Dike.
No forget to host us for party. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Politics / Re: Gov Akeredolu Signs Judicial, Legislature Autonomy Bills Into Law by victons(m): 9:18pm On Sep 07, 2021 |
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Politics / Re: VAT Verdict: States Begin Consultation As Court Quashes FIRS Application by victons(m): 11:09am On Sep 07, 2021 |
Another high court in Sokoto will rule the opposite soon. |
Politics / Re: Which States Will Oppose The New VAT Ruling? by victons(m): 11:06am On Sep 07, 2021 |
christejames: Well, I can't speak for the whole state but I am sure Yeye Bello will want to prove stubborn and subversive (to his hegemonists) in Kogi State.
Forget that last data compiled as allusion that some Eastern states will go against the VAT. For one, I know it's because they are not collecting their VAT directly that's why they are at the bottom of the wrung, watchout for the next charts when they start collecting and see major reorganization and realignments that will even shake the position of Kano and Kaduna. The VAT from South East is even a culmination of VAT from just five states, as compared to the other regions. 3 Likes |
Politics / Re: Buhari Sets Up Health Reform Committee, Appoints Osinbajo As Chairman (See List) by victons(m): 9:02pm On Sep 06, 2021 |
Mikecold: more like figurehead in a committee But he has the final say. 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Nigeria Mounts Air, Land Offensive Against Bandits In Zamfara by victons(m): 8:59pm On Sep 06, 2021 |
Mason Mount |
Politics / Re: Buhari Sets Up Health Reform Committee, Appoints Osinbajo As Chairman (See List) by victons(m): 8:53pm On Sep 06, 2021 |
Lawyer to head a health organization??
But with a handful of doctors, and health care professionals in the team, I hope they come up with fantastic ideas.
Let it not cause further clashes because the Nigerian health sector is sinking recently, the strike, the brain drain, the dilapidation.
They should also ensure government functionaries don't see health care outside the country, emphasis on Buhari. 2 Likes 1 Share |