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adekolaelect:
Free usage of Social Media allow many of you to displaying too much stupidity which can never be the solution to the many problem but to add more. Try to travel to northern state and tell them this and see what becomes the result of your stupidities.

Botwriter:
Good morning Nairalanders. I have an issue that has been disturbing for long.
So I met a lady two years back and we got talking. However, our communication was mostly restricted to online greetings.

December, 2021, we decided to take things to the next level by meeting physically. We study in the same school, so we met at a designated place. After our first meeting, things started moving fast and we became more connected.

Early this year, I decided to ask the girl out one faithful Saturday morning and her response was that she was in a relationship.

So I left her alone. The issue is this girl bonds with me so well and will often send me messages that she misses me anytime I decide to forget her for some days.

Last month, we all left school and were back home and our bonding became very strong again - we stay in the same city.

She invited me to her church twice and I honored her invitations. On her birthday, I asked her what her plans are and whether her bf is taking her out (jokingly) and her response was, 'which bf?'.

We went ahead to plan a meet up in a restaurant on her birthday but unfortunately something came up and I could not make it, so I sent her some cash to compensate.

*My issues with the lady.*

1. When I send her text on WhatsApp, sometimes it would take her 24 hrs to reply even when she's online. And she will find some flimsy excuses to make. She will even post on her status while my message is delivered but not read or replied.

2. She earlier told me she had a boyfriend, so I don't want to bring any relationship stuff again between us. But it seems she want me to ask her out again.

3. This girl bills me like no tomorrow. Whenever she has any minor issue she will pick phone and call me.

So honestly I'm fed up with her character and I have made up my mind not to talk to her again.

*My problem:

As usual when I decide ghost her again, she will chat me up and sometimes video call and that's what I don't want. I honestly need solutions. It seems this girl is playing mind games with me or she wants me to talk to her about relationship again?

Funkybabee:
Yes I know, it's not temptation

Funkybabee:
You are not a God

I'm not running after money, our goals and race are different.

I place my academic career over everything except kingdom service

Funkybabee:
If we make the findings very well

You must be olodo during the days of your school

I hope that lady see this post because this kind of mentality can kill her dream if she mistakenly marry you


I don't have a better job but I aim to do my master if possible as God willeth, starting at the end of this year.

No fund at hand, planning accommodation and relocation in this same year but I believe my God is all sufficient God, my all in all will do it

DrDunamis:
Amazing, but why can't you kill two birds with one stone? There's truly no cause for a misunderstanding between you too. And if you breakup or even consider breaking up with her then you might somewhat be limited in vision. While there is credence to your concerns about your already gotten degrees the fact remains that having a masters degree opens up more opportunities and who knows where it will take her to.
The truth is you should change your mind and not feel intimidated at all by her ambitions and academic desires instead support her fully

babtoundey:
You don't deserve her. You are dating someone more intelligent and focused than you are. Please, let her go. Look for your mate.

Firefox01:
Let the girl upgrade herself and go for a masters in peace. Eventually, she'll meet a man whose goals aligns with hers. You too will find another girl who agrees with you as well.

Munzy14:
That money you are saving to use and marry her, use am go purchase Your Masters form and proceed immediately..

While doing your business.

You are about to be outsmarted...

i don break the Nsugbe coconut for you.

Self development is the biggest investment..It will pay you and make you rich either now or later.

lordlugards:
you wey over sense wan kill, you carry person pikin keep for house, dey knack her ontop empty stomach without her people concepts.

Now that her sense don finally come back, you come dey ask us foolish questions as if you been dey do normal thing b/4.

Ogbeni focus on your future first, b/4 you start looking for woman.
When you make money, na them go dey rush u.

Firefox01:
Alaye, rest. The type of business is the issue here. Who would love to be a POS operator for life? Certainly not me.

ABANGWABOI:
Let me predict the future for you .
She would go for the masters ..and you Would SIMPly support her..
She would finish successfully in few years.. get a good job and Dump you to marry her new senior colleague at the office..

Cheers to your pain in advance..

frankmoney:
bro you still don't have sense ....better change your mindset

frankmoney:
story

frankmoney:
and I repeat you don't have sense . She's neither your wife or sister , she owes you nothing .take your low self esteem somewhere else and leave her alone


It's better she has the degree and wait for when the opportunity comes , than not have it at all when the opportunity shows up

And who says you can't go to school and do the business as well .

frankmoney:
lol you just lack sense , she wants to better herself by adding a degree , she's not asking you for money or anything yet you are so small minded with low self-esteem trying to stop her

Viltron:
It's a tough place you've found yourself man.

If you choose not to support her, you've lost her, fact.

If you choose to, it's a tricky game you're playing because you've not married her.

I myself don't invest in women because it could be disastrous.

Make your next move wisely.

This is how my girl who was living with me moved out against my will and we've not been the same ever since.

lordlugards:
my Advice, leave her to chase her dream.

God no go let you be a dream killer.
If she's your sis will you advise her wasting her time with POS guy

Nonexisting:
Leave the poor vaginarian alone. She has her life and you have your POS life. Please I beg you in the name of whatever you believe in to break up with her so she can go better her life. She is too smart to be dating someone like you before you lock her in a particular level in life.

Firefox01:
Your girlfriend has more foresight than you. Leave that girl alone. She's obviously meant for a man with a higher thought process than you.

frankmoney:
You are a witch

SoapQueen:
Oga, not every woman is after marriage. Marriage wey you no fit predict the outcome these days.

No be every woman dey pressure herself to be a housewife especially when they've not fulfilled some of their dreams. You have a woman who wants to expand her horizon and you're trying to block her blessings with your insecurity.

Let her go!!

stonecoldcafe:
You are not moving in the right direction, peacefully go your separate ways. She probably does not envisage selling cards in the long term.

Some years ago, Canadian immigration for Express Entry began in full swing. Amongst other points which I would not bore you with, those with Masters earned higher points than those with degree. PHD had higher points than those with masters. Degree scored had a high score compared to who only had OND and so on. These points amongst others helped people move up in the pool.

We cannot tell the doors that will open for her tomorrow and this same masters will give her leverage. Who knows she may get fully sponsored masters or PhD program abroad tomorrow. You are not her maker and you don't know why God has put the masters degree longing in her heart.

When a man/woman has an inner longing to achieve a goal, please don't stand in their way. Move away and you too find the woman who aligns with you and will equally give you peace.

dazzlingd:
Because some weren't successful with their certificates doesn't mean it is general.

I have a whole lot of people doing very well with their degrees and the degrees earning them international jobs and immigration to canada, uk and us.
Stop degrading education like it is a waste.
U need to think outside of nigeria mentality

Albertone:
But why is it paining you when it's not even your money she wants to use?

Xilsbridalhouse:
But do you truly love this lady? Or what exactly is your fear? Because I honestly see no reason why you can’t allow her further her education. Are you even married to her? How sure are we, that you will even marry her because no one knows tomorrow.


Best is to support the dream of your partner else she could blame you in the future for not making her fulfill her dreams and ambitions.

dazzlingd:
You making 5k daily thinking u have seen money

Barely a decade ago, phone call business was thriving.
You think POS business will sustain u for life?
Please let her follow her dreams and as for u, u need to wake up. What u think is doing well for u may become irrelevant in less than 5 years. Additionally, 5k per day is still small money

youngreezy:
then why you come here dey cry if you know say na pure fallacy and assumption?who lose?hahaha!!! E fit be una post business money she take dey feed the man sef,the small money wey you dey hustle give her fit be wetin the man use dey feed and vice versa,my point be say no dey carry woman matter for head

youngreezy:
you dey drink alcohol?if yes wetin be your brand make I order two cold(mortuary standard) bottles.....your sense too much abeg.person family never chop em dey carry woman matter for em head,woman wey fit don do introduction with another man behind em back.....

shege45:
just because u dnt like her decision doesn’t make it wrong. If she chooses to go for msc, all you can do is support her. This isn’t a solid reason for a break up. Unless I don tire for her ooo, but if it is this reason alone, bro no be am

Xilsbridalhouse:
Kindly support her dreams and ambitions, that is what is expected of a good partner. She can upgrade herself while doing the POS business and I’d advise you do same too.
Nothing in this life is permanent, so don’t relax doing just one thing, things can change and government policies can affect one source of income, so you need to keep developing yourself for rainy days.