₦airaland Forum

bluefilm:
Is there ever a right time to do anything in your country?

You guys are always resisting every policy the government wants to put in place.

You guys keep on giving excuses why so, so and so cannot happen in your country meanwhile you keep comparing your country to those other countries where such policies are working out fine.

See, lemme tell you something, the best time to do something is NOW.

is this the priority? why are some of you spewing trash like illiterate? did other countries start developing their country by implementing cashless policy? what is wrong with some of u self? electricity here is epileptic, network itself is below average,no good roads,, nothing of any significant improvement and you jump in by implementing cashless policy? the bvn and NIN you people introduce what use has it been to Nigerians,, u want to render 1.4 million Nigerians jobless because u are interested in living in a digital world in a dipilidated country?

Hier:
Artisans would receive wages within the minimum withdrawal per day. Traders all of those small small cashes, should not be above 5k or the 20k minimum withdrawal. Anyone who would receive 10k should be doing sth big, and they should be able to afford an android phone and at least have a little bit of education which would enable them understand how mobile banking operate

see as you dey talk like one useless fool,, they should have an Android phone and have a bit education? you think Nigeria starts and end in ur locality,,? all this local champion that haven't leave the environment of Abuja or lagos,, who will give them that education?? ur father or who?

femisplash:
In Nigeria, being famous and popular could only open doors to you but being powerful would make people bow to you. Dbanj is famous but ain't powerful, so could easily be arrested that he is found wanting diverting 600 million monthly into his pocket, a recurring phenomenon that's most common among the powerful while they get away with it at a snap of the fingers. Unfortunately, there's no level playing field of justice, if there was, a Dbanj would not be in detention while s certain Peter Obi would be freed for diverting 250million monthly in state's funds to his Lagos office when his official car that ferried the money was grounded by the police... Obi got away with the crime.
Peter Obi also approached the court to stop the EndSars tribunal from summoning him to appear before it and give an account of his role in the killings of Anambra youths that were killed under his Administration. Unfortunately, same culprit is being championed by some gullible youths who are being deceived on social media. Obi got away with the crime.
In essence, the crime of Dbanj is that while he's popular and famous, he isn't powerful, otherwise he would have been kissing his wife every other nights as Peter Obi.

peter Obi matter will soon kill u before ur time

dazzlingd:
Pls what exactly do u need plenty cash for

what do u call plenty cash? a money above 20k?

Mckandre:
I agree with CBN, 20k per day is good for groceries, if u must purchase something above that amount ;traceable means like bank transfer should be used in such purchases incase of anything that arises afterwards. I stand with CBN gidigba,this will only affects criminals and money launderers.

how do u guys even think upside down like this? u think Nigeria starts and end in Abuja or lagos? l served in a village called mutbumbo in jos plateau state,, this village is occupy by thousands of agrarians farmers who cultivate the very food u put in ur mouth, the distance between that village to panshi were bank is located can take up a transport fare of 4k-5k Network to even make call is a big problem there and 95 percent of the occupants in that village are stark illiterate,, business men travel to those villages with cash and purchase food in large quantity,,how on Earth will those people corp with this transfer bullshit?

eebraa:
They have plan to buy votes in 2023 that's why they are against this policy. This policy doesn't stop you from doing your business transactions. It just has to be online!! We must adopt the cashless policy by fire by force

you are a stupid fool l swear,, you think Nigeria start and ends in ur locality? a very poor and useless policy that will cripple a lot of Businesses and send a lot of people into abject poverty is what u are supporting because u are against tinubu presidency,,, l am a stunt Obi supporter but l dont see anyway this policy will affect the elite,, we are not ripe for this cashless policy,, stop comparing us with uk and other developed countries,,, tinubu will even pay more than 10 percent charge if he want to buy votes,, some of u are too local and occupy with ur environment that u dont even understand the level of illiteracy and poor Network provider in this country,, Nigerians are suffering,, most people controlling this small businesses u want to eradicate are poor hopeless graduates ur country fail in all spheres,,think about them when coming online to spit trash.

Marvieduke:
one should be careful with all this POS operators because there are some of them that are criminally mind. Glad they were caught.

they said POS operators was scammed and you are saying one should be careful of the said operators again? POS operators should be more careful of customers rather,, it is more easier to scam a pos operator than for them to scam you.

mirinder:
have you met a virgin old cargo b4?

we are saying the same thing oga, both are hoes,, the old cargo and the so called teenage girls,, in fact this generation of teenage girls are even worse,, and most of them are still broke and full time liabilities,,

Were those dumb ass nigas who thinks girls in their early twenties are saint and fresh while girls in their 30s are hoes,, at 16yrs she can't differentiate how many guys out of 6 that fvck the hell out of her? most you niggas will marry hoes, liabilities and immaturity at the same time,, better leave us with our evening newspapers in peace

paradigmshift:
cos na d way he portray himself

get out u fool,, the way he potray himself or the way u choose to see him? if it is Ronaldo now the whole media would have gone rampant and that is true,, mumu haters

omolasho:
I think you are actually right and mom is right too. She just overly wants the best for you. So in your wisdom, do not disappoint her and your father's name.

Finishing school and ageing 29 doesn't makes you ready for relationship or marriage but being successful. At age 45 and successful, you will have countless good, beautiful and bad girls literally begging you for marriage.

My below averagely educated and married colleague recently introduced me to her lawyer girlfriend. We once visited their chambers. Here I am befriending one of the successful female lawyers who craving for my consent.
There are many successful, respectful and rich single ladies out there who don't need to depend on your 10%. It will take conscious effort to chase poverty from your lineage and never that old fiery tale of love manufactured from the industry of poverty itself.

thank you but never in my life am l contemplating staying at 45yrs,, God forbid,, l am already trying for my self,, with or without marriage if God want use me to wipe poverty out of the linege he will use me,, she just want to turn me to a player unkowningly, if l dump my serious girlfriend and focus on all this 2k and 3k girls my mom herself wont even been getting the little she is getting now.

DaddyCK:
How can yor mother be 29yer old....bro r u OK?(no oofencse)

stop reading something upside down bro

Mcslize:
Follow your heart. If the lady is good, don't let your mother be an issue. Except if the girl is not good for you, only then you can listen to your mum.

It's always good to at least have someone on time, so that you won't get caught up. At 29, you ain't a baby any more. You should be thinking of starting a family.

The only thorn on the back issue is finding a good girl these days. Most have taken into runs and hookup in this era, so it's quite hard to find a really good lady.

But, if you find any homely and cool headed girl who isn't into hookup and the rest and independent, go ahead with your plan to seal it if you have the means.

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thank you bro, my mom is my hero and my everything,, she have sacrifice a lot and l love and respect her for that,, l will try to convince her and pray God augment my income more , because na lack of money dey cause all this things

BigYash:
I am not even talking about the financial aspect. Money alone can't make marriage work.. I'm thinking maybe mama is seeing something else,but using this aspect to discourage you. So that,you will let go of what might be problem to you later. Which ever way sha,just ensure you are making the right decision. Don't rush it..

l understand you,, my mother haven't met her bro,, maybe l am in love with her ,, but nobody who meet my girl will not commend her,, right from the time of Nysc,, that girl is my backbone here in Abuja.

BigYash:
Your mom is seeing what love has blinded your eyes from seeing in the said girl. That's how love works. Once the love clear your eyes now,you will receive sense.. You will see what mama saw that you never saw,while in love.. And you will forever be grateful to mom.. Help me tell your mom,that I said God will bless her. She will live long in good health and happiness. Na better mama you get op..

love blinded nothing brother,, if not for the economy hardship of this country a man of 29yrs should have a wife and children, l am paying all my bills and will definitely take care of a woman,, just that l haven't make the cash , to carter for a whole family,, l will always support no matter what but l dont have to make all the money in the world before having a girlfriend.

Ballzproblem2:
is not that she doesn't want you to have a girlfriend ,is just she wants you to get your priorities right, being financially stable, however, you can keep the relationship on a low ,win win situation on both sides

Thanks bro,, but l am a man , l feed my self and take care of my responsibilities, l dont know why l should be hiding my relationship like a teenager,, making 120k a month is the salary prayer of most married men,, is just that l felt my mother just have this unrealistic Nollywood expectations that l must build rome and make everyone rich before settling down,, l honestly dont want to lose this my girlfriend , l am more focus and saves money a lot with her,, if my girl goes and l start giving attention to many of this random girls chasing me around l will even spend more.

JOACHINpedro:
Oga nobody is telling you to ditch a good girl.

then what exactly is ur comment insunating

Raalsalghul:
Op, what's the financial status of your family? A humble one?

While I understand the need for men to sometimes put women aside and get their lives on track, the reason your mom is giving for it sounds selfish.

Sounds like you're the first born and she wants you to settle your junior siblings first.




Thought as much.

Op, don't let them guilt trip you with that first born crap.

Do what you can for your family, at your convenience and pace cos peradventure heavens forbid you're no longer there they would still survive one way or the other.

Don't sacrifice your progress on the altar of "I want to settle my family".

May I also ask how old are your junior siblings? Early/Mid 20s? They should be able to handle stuffs by now without looking up to brother.

When people are told to cap the number of children they give birth to, they'll give all sorts of religious and sentimental excuses.

I also hope you learn from this Op and procreate responsibly so you won't put more pressure on your first born like your ma is doing to you now.

thanks bro my younger brother is almost 20yrs,, l can only support in my own way and not do everything on my own,, even if l ditch marriage,, l wont be able to solve all family problems,,my father understand this things but my mom just doesn't understand

zed7:
Your mum is not scolding you because you're too young but because she knows her son is immature.

You finished service last year and your priority is a woman? The money you think you're making now is nothing when a family comes. Consolidate and build yourself up properly.

Women love marriage and grandkids but your mum knows her son is far from mature enough to marry. Be wise son, listen to mum.

As for rescuing the family from poverty, don't let that bother you. Family problems nor dey finish. Increase your income before thinking of a woman. Your family will be fine with or without you.

so is it when l ignore all relationship that is when l will make money? ,,guy l am 29yrs,, l feed myself pay my bills and dont depends on anyone for a dime,, l should put my life on hold because l want to solve family problems,, the girl in question is even doing well for herself an intelligent and a hard working woman that will push me to my best,, l don't know why my mum is misunderstanding this things,, even at 50yrs guy family problems wont finish

advanceDNA:
The picture made her rush in conclusion that she's a wasteful geh just ur spending hard earned money anyhow....... . u know say some mothers na old school....those restaurant parole is waste of money to them...

Na u go chnage her mindset about ur girl... let her know how hardworking she is and that she's not a parasite....

No mother wants her son to marry and extravagant wife....she's just looking out for you..

bro l know my mother very well,, even at 35yrs she still dont think l am ready for marriage untill l as the first son make money rescue the whole family out of poverty,, the other day l told her l will like to marry in my early thirties and she was telling me l have to build a house first and raise structures,, i understand her love and expectations but honestly she need to understand that as the first son, l can only support them and not neglect my own life carrying the whole family problems,,

JOACHINpedro:
What she said is for you not to make a kpekus your priority

Bro if kpekus is my problem l wont focus on one girlfriend, she is a graduate and l am a graduate,, nobody is a liability to anybody,, if l ditch relationship at 29yrs and focus on family problems walahi l wont even progress myself,,this is just the major disadvantages of coming from a poor family.

so l finish my Nysc service last year,,met the girl of my dream during the service year, we both live in Abuja although separately because she stays with her sister, we both have a business separately we are managing that gives us a minimum of 4-5k on daily basis,, l have told my mother about my girlfriend and try to make her understand how much l love this girl ,
on Sunday we went to chicken republic eat something of 5k which my girlfriend even contributed 2k to it, she posted the picture on Facebook and tag me, my younger brother saw it and show my mother ,, yesterday my mother called me and was talking to me like toddler,,
she claim that any young man who want to succeed should not put a woman first,that l should make money and attend to family problem first before focusing on a woman,,l ask her: is a man of 29yrs too small to have a girlfriend? l told her :" l barely finish Nysc service last year,, instead of sitting down doing nothing ,l have started a business and l am sending small small money to u and my siblings, if l ditch having any girlfriend at 29yrs and focus on family problems that means l wont get married, and l also inform her that am not living with my girlfriend as she is insunating that girl takes care of 90 percent of her problems,, those were the answers l gave when she cut off the call,, please nairalanders how can l handle my mother and still maintain my relationship.

neonly:
Yes oooo
Around July did one transaction with POS I punch in a wrong pin only for the machine to debit me
Reported to zenith they saw d wroung transaction gave me a form to fill
Waited two months money never come I went to a different branch make complain again only to be told dat the transcastion was successful d day I did d POS
Till today I still reason who actually scam me
Was it POS
Or
Zenith bank

how can you punch in wrong pin and u were debited? this ur story no clear abeg

he wont listen to any of you people advice,, he have seen a vulumptous curve and is eager to devour it,, you want to settle for a woman that you are 15yrs older? a girl in her early twenties? 21yrs for that matter? dont worry go ahead,, experience will teach u better...

l just noticed that since l started dating my present girlfriend l literally have no desire for any other woman ,, even an ordained priest doesn't have this kind of restraint,, this is almost 2yrs we are together ,, green light from different beautiful girls here and there,, after collecting their number the desire to continue will just die down,, l can bet about 3 girls in my compound are ready for me to hit them,but no interest from me at all, according to me "l have a girlfriend" please help me nairalanders

Zonefree:
Small nyash wan dey shake

how naa ,, abeg make we shake small ,, make Federal government no include us for this thing bro,, small small fear just dey enter me

l am a P.OS agent and l want to know how redesigning of this naira notes will affect our business,, some said it will cost cash scarcity,, others stipulated most transactions will be cashless,, please l need a person with an in-depth knowledge to assist us,,will this bring an end to the little means we are managing to survive?

Konjiboii:
Don't feel bad, it's natural. You are a man, it's this women that live in delusion that a man shouldn't have multiple partners, an understanding girlfriend or wife will let you have your way as long as your duties around the home and attention to her is intact. My advice is that you shouldn't get another girl pregnant because not all women can handle that pressure and if you still love your girlfriend you should respect her that much .

ironically when l was younger l use to be a strong advocate of one man one woman,, l dont see reason why a man will have a beautiful woman at home and still start going outside,, but na now the thing clear for my eyes is like men are just polygamous in nature...

advanceDNA:
Ask married men....na so e dey be....na see finish syndrome....have u not heard the saying: "show me the most beutiful woman in the world and i will show you the man that is tired of fvcking her and thousands more that would do anything to get btwn her legs"

..take a break from everyday/everyweek sex...let her dress sexy...take her out...have nonsexual fun with each other...build nonsexual connection

U will feel like again......

thank you very much boss for this advice,, we do it almost 2 times a week,, l think l will take a break small, but don't u think the masturbation l am engaging in is also contributing?

jeromestarks:
The girl is irritating. She has always been very irritating but you asked her out due to konji pressure. Now you have seen how irritating she is and the spark is no more there.

Let her, settle down and approach a woman you truly love.
Try white women and have peace.

Wait first, was she a virgin when you met her?

you misunderstood the post ,, l dont find her irritating and never complained of not loving her,,