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1) most of them are not psychologically and emotionally stable for marriage,

2) financial liabilities: most of them are broke , and hasn't build anything for themselves, the most valuable property they have at that stage is their phone.

3) Unnecessary drama: they are not emotionally stable so they Will intensify little things and frustrate your life,
4) High body counts!! yes you read it well, most of them are not virgins, and their body counts is on the high, this new generation of girls are even worse than their counter part,,
Guys!! girls in their late twenties and thirties are not evening newspapers , a woman body count does not in anyway correspond with her age o,, marry for sanity and peace of mind..

Firefyta:
Very dumb decision
They have his kind in Fred and McTominay
They should go for a more ball holding and play making midfielder
They should have tried wooing bernardo silver tho

you dare put fred and mctominay in ye same statement with casemiro? bro

jeromestarks:
She Started fvcking at 18, you married her at 30. Imagine the number of years she has been fvcking.

Nop those born in 90s are far reserve and wiser than this ones born in 20s,, like it or not most women who are not married in their 30s are single because a lot of men are not economically sound for marriage,,if l ask you now why are u not married u will tell me u want to be financially stable" so is other guys out there,, so who will marry them? in early 2000, social media and oloshoism is not that rampant and some of this girls are not that easy to fvck,, but present girls are just Hot kity moving around, l guess if not for the video that leak, u would have choose that chrisland girl at 21 over a mature 28yrs old girl that might have been with one or two boyfriend for long who got disappointed?

jeromestarks:
Hahaha. 23. If you sand with me in public, you won't be noticed.
Science proved that younger girls are more fertile and have the strength to give birth and train their children unlike their 30 year old counterpart.
If you want to start your life with an old hag, that's your business. My only concern is that by the time you marry a semi- prostitute, you will raise children who will walk naked on the street.
Most of these girls who fvcked men they are not married too are a replica of their mothers. Ask around and confirm.

guy calm down, dont judge a woman body count by her age u will easily be deceive ,, there is nothing a woman in her twenties can do that a woman in her thirties wont do it is all about maintaining good health posture ,, most girls presently in their early twenties, are broke, shallow and fvcking liabilities,, they are the easy pry to fvck,, an average ss3 girl of today has lost body count talk more of those ones of 22- 23 who are in the universities,, l have fvck 18 of the so called young girls this year and the hole in-between their legs will swallow ur head,, last week a 21 years old girl l met on Facebook came to my house to fvck me just because of a pair of shoe of 6k,, l can imagine a simp like you rejecting a well mature lady for this particular girl all in the name of ur useless ideology,, guy wise up and put this at the back of ur head,, unless u will marry her at 10yrs a woman body count presently has nothing l mean absolutely nothing to do her age,,

jeromestarks:
Simply put, a girl over the age of 25 is a nightmare. Spoilt pvssy, bad character, damaged womb, destiny used by yahoo boys etc.
Go for virgin girls who are still under their parents and have peace

l can bet my life you are not more than 23yrs,, effect of having teenage boys on a forum,, so you really think girls above 25 have more body counts than the present girls in their early twenties you are mad bro,,

QueenVaji:
This man sef are u a mugu or what..from the start of this ur thread to now..uve just been quarreling everyone..everything uve written so far is just trash upon trash...why did u now put it up here since you know everything, instead of u to be diplomatic and wise with your responses ur just there showing how useless and annoying you are..
Thats one thing with enugu and ebonyi people...always behaving like half 1mbeci1e all the time..tueh

God punish your mother,, Enugu behave like slowpoke and you behave like who? that l open a thread doesn't give some of you an audacity to say trash,, some advice are plain stupid and l am allergic to nonsense,, l took this same issue to quora and the responses were smart and eloquent,,how l wish there is a delete button l would have deleted this thread since,, some of you reason with your anus,, just look at the accusations and constant assumptions simply because l ask a woman to wait for me,,,,morons,!!, all of of you are financially stable in nairaland and yet will que and open different thread begging for money,, even those who never smells 50k a month are here telling me trash,, please if you are going to come here and tell me l am wasting her time ,,you will receive the insult of your life,, that statement is stupid and was not even the reason why l open the thread,,

val4sure:
This is exactly my condition 3 years ago, pressure from everywhere on her, and my business never stand that period, we discussed about it and she stood by me for 3 years not withstanding the pressure, currently we are planning for our wedding, everything has been set, she is 31 now am almost 32.

I also created a thread for it that period to seek advice like you did.. we had issues those period even didnt spoke for some times. But later everything worked out.

My story and yours sound the same but might not work out the same, but you just have to try your best and leave the rest for God like I did, focus on your business for now that's very important, don't let pressure make you take drastic decisions.

If you are 100% sure in your heart she is the one without no doubt in your mind, so as not to waste her time, If she is yours she will wait for you no matter the odds and don't disappoint her if she decide to wait..

I wish you well..

God bless you bro,, thanks

fluffybaby:
Marry but hold on with child bearing. All this excuse you are making is because you are not too sure of your relationship it's like deep down you have the feeling that there are other good fishes in the sea your only problem is the time it will take you to start hunting again till you find the next one. If not you would have asked her to find her level. If you two were on the same page you will plan how you will run your home and lives based on your economic position. If she is a woman that has the habit of spending above your means and verbally or emotionally abusive towards you then not wanting to marry her until you have enough is understandable but not wise.
You can marry and focus on career for two years. Save enough and maybe start making a family. If you no want marry let her go jejely.
If no money for wedding I understand that one too.

Thanks for the advice,, honestly, l have no desire for any woman ,,and at this stage have no doubt about her or our relationship,, we are both igbos and marriage rite in our place is not usually easy,, l stay in a room apartment for now, an our business is still at an infant stage, the truth is that the business is great and the 3-4yrs l stipulated above is a projection,, l am not God but honestly l know within that period the business will be stable as l want it to be, l am already planning on another branch before December this year,so l am very positive about my business and God,,l appreciate all the advice l wasn't expecting everyone to agree with my point of view,,but the idea that l will be wasting her time in those years and l wont find her attractive in her 30s is just bullshit,, why marry a woman l wont find attractive in her 30s? why asking her to go when most of this men blabbing their mouth here are not ready for marriage even those who are financially stable,, ?

iwatchandlisten:
"He that findeth a wife...obtains favour from the Lord" - If you are convinced both of you genuinely love each other, go ahead and plan towards marrying her in a year's time. When you are married, both of you will continue building your lives together while enjoying the favour of God.
To replace quality is not always easy even though "there are many fishes in the ocean", eg Chelsea are still looking for quality striker since Don Conte carelessly threw away Costa�

true bro , thanks,,

OChimex:
You seem prideful, immature and naive. You seek advice, you were given advice, then you got annoyed by the advice because they didnt favour you.
Do whatever you want you young man and stop asking people for advice since you cant take it.

The truth is always bitter and not what we want to hear.

Mind you, you are the one unreasonable for thinking, you probably know how the future will be. You are not ready to settle down and you cant for sure say when it will be because you arent God.
You are inconsiderate to ask her to wait for the future you are not sure when it will be.

Mark my words, when you get money, older, you will have a different choice of women.

Peace

you are a blinking fool,, please next time when you see my thread avoid it,, that l ask for advice doesn't mean l am a daft who doesn't have an iota of what is right or wrong, millions will read this thread in years to come , so if we can't learn together and must take ur advice please hold it to ur self,, l dont know the future by asking her to wait for me, but you know the future by asking her to try another person,, oga l beg you in the name of God, take note of my name,, avoid my thread next time,, immaturity kill u there.

xseed:
Guy you are selfish. Allow her go get married and later when you're ready marry someone younger.

l am not attracted to younger women,most especially on the issue of marriage,, even if she go any woman l will be with, will still fall within the range of 28 and above,,

OChimex:
You sound selfish and only thinks about yourself. She is a woman and you know that in 3 - 4 years time she will be 30 or 31, then now you might prefer 22 years old girl.

See mr, if you arent getting ready within a year of meeting a girl, dont delay someone else daughter.

Leave her to find love, marriage and have her own family, thats the dream of most girls same way men dream of making money.

Focus on your dream which is money, make she go find hers which might be marriage. When you don get money, there will be more beautiful women then, younger.

some of you need to be more reasonable and considerate,, haba! she was single until 26yrs l met her just last year and we officially started dating 5 months after,, why are u guys making it look like l am wasting her time? if marriage is easy why are all the single women not married? l am a man the majority of the responsibility of that marriage will be on my shoulder,, dont l have the right to make proper plan? u people keep shouting let her go,, let her go,, what if the other man she will meet fail to do the right thing,,is that how she will keep jumping from one man to the other?

TrumpDonald2:
First of all, I want to know where you both come from. This is to enable me understand the culture.

Secondly, if you really want to marry her and your mind is made up on marrying her, I'll advice you go see her people. Just take the first step of introduction, and any little thing you can do now.

Then you can pause and continue with your business. That way the marriage is established though not completed. You have now properly engaged her and the pressure from the mum will stop.

Also, I'll advice you go see her mum, that way she knows that her daughter is actually in a good relationship and that her getting married anytime soon is sure.

we are igbos , she is from anambra and l am from enugu state

Pimine:
Dey there dey do calculations until you born pikin with Down's syndrome (God forbid).

My advise: read this book "One minute millionaire." You will learn that you can make it as soon as you want provided you're determined to. 3 - 4 years is too much and suggests to me that you're not even confident in that business of yours.

please give me the link to the book bro

osazsky:
I tire o..she will be 31 then..thereafter op will go for a younger woman as wife after 5 years when he is stable..let her go..allow someone who has a stable biz marry her..I dont know y girls date thier age mate at 27 your boyfriend should be 34 years

age doesn't equal financial stability,, a lot of men in their late thirties and forties are still not ready for marriage..

Zeekaycn:
You are a poor and a mumu man! First, for even showing how much you end on a daily. Secondly for showing how idle you are by replying every comment.

Na so Una de deceive people daughters that you gonn marry them but they end up waiting 10yrs no marriage 90% of unmarried women are victims of this kind promise.

What that woman is doing to her daughter is what I did to my 3sisters na serious follow up I did to any guy that date them. And they are married now living happily. Some men are ready to marry but are nervous about the future just little push they fulfill their obligations.

But you are a player who is trying to look good online.
I'm a guy and I know dating na scam.

God punish your generation,, l am a poor man but not as poor as your generation,, dont compare my girl with the hoes u call sisters,, idiot,,,,l am a play boy,, l played your mother or u forgotten? your sisters are married because that is the only goal and aspirations they have in life,, so go round and continue to announce it,, use the mic ,, stupid idiot,, quote me again with insult and u will regret the day u started using internet.useless fool..

zed7:
The nonentity is pained. You make $11 dollar a day. I'm sorry, you're not poor, you're wretched.

I have nothing against struggling people but it becomes a problem when you're struggling and also have a loud mouth. I'll not hesitate to put you in your place.

wait and you that makes a million dollar a year already spent almost 3 months of ur life on nairaland? is it seun that is paying you those money?,, jobless mofo

zed7:
7k a day? Through betting? The girl deserves better. You are a low life. Marriage should be the last thing on your mind till you have a stable income.

My fear is that even when an income comes, you may still not have common sense. Imagine reporting your foolishness on a public space. Pathetic, spineless simp.

Your girl is looking for a way to dump you, she's just using marriage as an excuse. Who would want to marry a slowpoke anyway? Imagine this simp wants to keep a girl in poverty for years and be enjoying wifey benefits and when she has saggy breasts, you'll end up dumping her. She get sense pass you.

God punish you,, if 7k a day means a man is poor,, bring ur networth let us see? people like you that have nothing are the one eager to label others poor,,, please avoid my thread,, you are right so jump to another thread,, you have spend 2 months of your life on nairaland,,how jobless one can be.

zed7:
You're a small boy because your reasoning is below par. You don't understand women.

If you had any sense, you'll let her go in peace instead of bringing your foolishness to the public.

Alow the girl go and marry, you are unripe for marriage. Focus on making something out of your life. You want a girl to live with you in poverty and then when she turns old, you'll abandon her. You nor wise. The girl wise pass you.

you are the bigger fool for thinking starting marriage with wealth automatically means it will remain like that ,, you call a person that makes 6- 7k on daily basis a poor person? are u daft? maybe you are in one mushroom job earning 50k and u dare say trash to me,, l don't have money for marriage now is another way of saying l am not settling for mediocrity,, l want something big and large for my self and family,, it doesn't mean l am as poor as an e warrior hungry Nairalander like you.

LieDetector:
you're being selfish with your reasoning. You only want to have her around because you think if you lose her it'd be difficult to replace her. Be a man. Leave her and focus on your business. Fate has a way of balancing things the way they're meant to be.

guy been a man is sticking around and working things out instead of running away as long as she didn't tell me she want to go as God will have it u will see our wedding card on Nairaland

gerizzim:
Youngman , calm down. You drop a.post asking for advice but your reply to what some.pple are saying is too aggressive and confrontational.

even if one or two persons opinion sounds harsh or unpopular to you, stil calm down. Despite some response sounds blunt bt if you look deeper, there is some truth in wat they are telling you.
You sound too authoritative Nd strong headed. Hope say your leadership style if you nd dis woman begin live for huz no go dey too authocratic.

You appear too narrow minded . We all as human are unique and understand things in from our various experiences nd see things differently.
Relax Nd learn

person when come out for mkt square to ask for help no dey run mouth.

l am sorry about that,, but l dont see any truth in people making it look as if l am wasting her time,, people do this all the time they build themselves and at the end marry,, l was sincere with her and didn't lie to her,, people accusing me of what l dont know about are the once annoying me,, l accept some of my outburst were too harsh,, l will try to hold my self,, Thank you.

nijaomegacode:
Release that girl from the bondage you kept her in. Let her go and marry he who is ready.
27 is already late; she may never marry again if she passes that age. Many young girls are graduating from secondary school every year and the county is hard. They are looking for men so the competition is High.

will u marry her? you that you are serious? because husband is scares? so can l connect both of you for marriage or u just want to be stupid?

Olagoods1:
You are still struggling Don't let her manipulate you...... you are simple! Or maybe u want to keep fucking the pussy for the next 3 years ..Why would you say you don't want lose the girls Omoh. You are making her feel she's is helping you by staying with you. Keep making money many girls will toast you by themselves without forcing things... Even good woman that has money..

see bro in all honesty l dont fancy that kind of life, l just want to meet a single woman l understand and she understands me too and we build a life together,, l feel it is the university l attended that wasted most of my time,if l have join the business world,, on time all this would not have been an issue,, l want to keep her because she is good, most guys on a lady's dm are their just fvck them,, l want us to build this thing together, If God sees out effort and commitment he will help us,,

tibatobi:
you don't want to loose her,you don't want to rush anything=meaning you want to waste her time..who gave u assurance that ur biz will grow?..70- 80 percent of New biz startup in Nigeria die within 5 years....if the girl get work make u na join hands together and start life... Now.

what do u mean waste her time,, if by chance we were not meant to be together don't you think my own time is wasted? do you know how many girls l turn down because l am committed to her? my own business will grow my brother,, so stop the permutations,, she was single from her 20- 26 before l met her was l the one that wasted her time,, ? why didn't marriage come if it was that easy? now me that decides to commit my soul and everything is the one wasting her time? why are u people like this? so all the girls in their late twenties and thirties who are not yet married all have men wasting their time right?

Countersam:
Don't move faster than your shadow. Because when the chips are down even your shadow will leave you.
Go and see her parents and have a candid talk with them if you are sure of your intentions towards her. If possible have a formal introduction,

this is a good advice,,

Dshocker:
If you know you can't marry her now, its best you let her go, rather than put her hopes up for 4yrs.

The chances of you getting married to her is under probability, meaning you might change your mind later and by then she will be 31yrs.

The issue of being financially stable before you get married is just an excuse that holds no water, what if God has destined you to be great in 10yrs times, so it means you will keep waiting till when money comes?

Guy there is nothing special about marriage, provided you can feed yourself, then feeding her is also no problem.

And if truly you want that business to grow, i will advise you marry her, so you can be able to spend money with accountability.

why now now now,, this is how u people push this girls into problems ,what assurance do u have if she leave me now she will get a husband immediately? why this so much hurry,, is marriage not about getting it right? is it now about beating a certain age mark,, she told me her self, of all the guys she have met l am the one that have shown her real commitment and love,,she told me how most people disturbing her are married men, should she now let me go simply because l dont have money now and she must do as others are doing before she is 30? you know what is irritating me is that some of you are making assumptions l am holding her back,maybe when she comes this night l will tell her to go since l am the hindrance,,

formerUKSF:
The pressure will still rise,you are projecting 3-4 yrs for financial stability.
You think she will wait for you.

Its obvious you will lose the girl

it is well bro,, l will rather lose her than go into a marriage without any form of financial stability,,let me ask u people what exactly is wrong with a woman marrying in her 30s?

zed7:
This is the talk of a small boy. Truth be told, you are not ready for marriage. You want her to wait till she's 32 years and marry you, because you're who?

Better let the girl go in peace. That isn't your wife, your wife will come.

small boy,, look at an idiot calling me a small boy? pls come and collect her number and marry her since you are the adult here,, so because l dont have the finance for marriage now l am a small boy,, the one that will pay her bride price at a go are the mature ones? did u even go through the post or u just want to blab?

peedeeasobie:
Listen, your timing and her own are quite different. Allow that girl to go and marry if someone is ready for her

see talk abeg,, are u ready for her so l can give u her number?

zuby4real10:
U can't eat your cake and have it back. You have to choose between marrying her or focuse on growing ur business to survive. U can't join the 2 for now. But I will advice you to let her be and build your future first. Marriage is an eye opener. Love alone is not enough. Believe me that girl is disturbing you because she didn't have someone better than you.

people have done that severally , some people build for a lot of years untill they settle down, so if l dont find a wife now l am financially unstable l will have to handle a lot of leeches when the money comes,, the business l am doing gives me an average profit of 6-7k a day with expansion and proper management why wont marriage take place in 3yrs time,, all l am asking her is to be patient,, because if she walk out l wont take her back again,,, many men are not financially and economically stable for marriage why can't the society understand this and let this girls rest... some are even saying l am wasting her time,,

Louisfrank:
Guy, you've made your points clear to her, if she's truly meant for you, she'll wait and convince her mom, if you decide to get married and then start working on your financial stability it doesn't always work out, make it first oo

Exactly my point bro,is not like l want to gather millions before marriage,but to set a good and stable source of income for all of us,, so why should the traditional mindset of the society be a major limitations,, women in their 30s give birth and do all things women in their 20s do,,so why the so much pressure..

Nyascobar1414:
No need of presenting certificate.. All I'm saying is that she had exes, those niggas fvked and dumped her.. That means you the cr@zy guy that will fvk and keep her...


Why buy the cow when the milk is(was) free

l am not obsessed with virgins bro, l also fvcked other people present girlfriend,, so how am l better than her?