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You came to the internet to bash your children's father.

You have no plan to get out of your situation, and your husband has devised a strategy for you.

If you try his plan and it doesn't work. You can always visit the city and make your own plans.

Stop looking for approval from strangers.

Consult your father or uncles for guidance.

You are full of shit.

Listen to yourself, "I stood up to my father".

You know what you did was wrong that is why you are here to seek for validation.

Bullshit.

Don't chase.

Tell her what you want from her.

If she wants the same thing, she will come to you.

Chase your purpose instead.

The higher your value, the easier a woman will come to you.

Kaybaba5:
I disagreed with this because if anything happens she will say u didn’t allow her to do her mind that u are just doing things based on your opinion . This is the fact

If you allow her to do her wishes, she will blame you for not protecting her.

Women are like children.

Your children will blame you for not guiding them in the right path.

Learn to lead a woman, she will follow your lead.

If you make mistakes as a leader, you pick up the lessons, and fix the mess you made.

NB: I made those statements based on my experience, not opinion.

You are a dick driven idiot.

Don't lower your standards for anyone.

The purpose of a woman is to take care your children while you provide, protect, and lead her.

If want her to have something doing, then;

Start up a small business in your name based on what you know she can handle, teach her how to run the business, and employ her as the manager. She must always report to you.

Stop asking her what she wants to do, tell her what to do.

Be a leader, she will follow.

If she doesn't follow, dump her because she doesn't respect to you.

Dump that bitch.

She has aborted in her past, you are not the first.

A lady who respects you will go to any length to ensure that you father her children.

royalfly:
Good but doing all that guarantees nothing. Only if she is willing

If she respect him, she will learn.

A woman will never listen to a man she doesn't respect.

Don't be with a woman that doesn't respect you.

It is better to avoid her.

If you must marry her, then you must be a strong leader.

You must take the role of her father.

Correct her like a child whenever she is wrong, and reward her when she behaves well.

You should not get emotionally attached to her, so that you will be able to father her well.

In this relationship be ready to become a teacher.

Show and teach her the benefits of having a family stay together.

It is better to dump her, if you can't go through the stress.

Good luck.

The disagreement between your Dad and your Mom is non of your business.

When your Dad was toasting your Mom you were not there.

Your Dad knows what he is doing, leave him alone.

Focus on your own problems.

I will rather have a baby mama, than have a wife I have no control over.

I love feminine women from patriarchal families with a strong father.

I can spend my last card on them.

Your father is weak.

vision2050:
what if the second wife do same as first wife.

Women can't stand competition.

Check out Muslims men who married more than one wife. You will never hear them complain about their wives not giving them sex.

You got married thinking there will be unlimited sex.

She want to use sex to control you to do her bidding because she knows you love sex.

That's her weapon.

Don't ever ask her for sex anymore.

Marry another wife if you can finance it. A younger one to be precise.

Yes

Light skinned women are scarce.

For an item that is attractive to begin with, its attractiveness will intensify when it is scarce.

brain54:
So if she finds a man to satisfy her sexual needs nko…

Is that the end of the world?

You clearly saw were the OP said he isn’t ready for sex yet.

Is it by force?

What matters is what the OP wants and not anyone to cajole or manipulate him into doing something he clearly is not ready for.

That’s the real Alpha male.

You guys talk like sex is a do or die affair.

Or like it’s the only thing in the world.

Learn to control your sex drive.

Alpha male my as.s!

If he not ready for sex or can't satisfy his woman, then he has no business being in a relationship with a woman.

OP is just one emotional man that's just clueless about relationship dynamics.

I never said I am an alpha male.

You called me an alpha because you know I am an alpha.

OP should perish in his cluelessness.

ChinemeremFidel:
Alpha Male I sight you...
That's not my way

You are clueless about female nature.

You are useless to her if you can't Bleep her hard, and make her go crazy.

You are still wondering why is broke up with you.

She will find a man that can satisfy her sexual needs, and dump you or use you for her financial needs.

Be smart.

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

Correct 💯

Your wife is or will be the mother of your children.

Your duty is to Provide, Protect, and Lead her. Not doing business with each other.

Her duty is to take care of your children and household.

If it is a must you do business with them, stick to your price. No reduction. No pity. Don't mix family with your business.

If you are not bold enough to stick to your price, just avoid doing business with your family.

Also, stop involving your wife in family business if they can't pay her price.

Business is business.

Don't mix business with pleasure.

Your wife is smarter than you.

Be smart, and strict.

Don't marry a woman older than you.

You will either kill her or she kills you.

Find a purpose.

Make yourself useful by producing something valuable.

You'll be the one pleading with them to leave you alone.

Women are creatures of patterns, what she did to another man will also be done to you.

Your husband is full of shit.

He can't lead, provide, and protect his family.

He is not ready.

Go for divorce, if you can survive without him.

Don't let his dirty spirit get to you.

Lessons for men:

Your In-laws are not your relatives.

Your wife is not your relative too. She is the mother of your children.

Stay away from your mother in-law. Leave your familiarity to greetings. The moment she encroaches your boundary, she will terrorise you and scatter your marriage.

For OP:
Leave your wife alone.

There is nothing you can do to bring her back.

Her mother is poisoning her mind.

Her mother should never have allowed her to stay.

Her mother has not business in her daughter's martial issue. She is probably divorced or not staying with her husband.

Open a bank account for your children where you save for them.

Only call them to communicate with your children and pay your children's bills (school fees and the likes). Don't ever call to your bring wife back again.

When your children are old enough, your children will look for their father.

Right now, you need to focus on yourself only.

Ignore your wife.

Stay away from alcohol and smoking.

Don't move to Lagos, if it is not part of your plan.

Be a man.

*Don't worry about your children grow up in a broke home, Just focus only on building your business.*

Foolish men try to appeal to women by being soft, foolish women try to appeal to men by acting tough.

This is what both "the nice guy" and the "career woman" don't grasp - embodying the traits you find attractive in the opposite sex is not attractive to the opposite sex.

Fatherlessness.

Learn this today.

Anything you do for a woman is a giveaway.

Don't ever give a woman what you can't afford to lose.

You are weak.

Don't ever apologize to any woman again.

Learn to avoid being abusive when a woman gets you angry. She was shit testing to see how you would react when you are angry.

Next time if a woman make you angry, tell her you don't like what she did, and withdraw your attention until she apologizes. If doesn't, dead her from your life forever.

Learn this today, attention is your golden currency when dealing with a woman.

Stop buying gifts to please women. Only reward her with a gift if she does something good for you.

Your only solution right now is to end that relationship, delete her contact, and forget her forever. You didn't pass her shitty test.

Learn your lessons, find another woman, and start again.

Stop asking for sex.

The less you care, the more they want it with you.

Stop being desperate for sex.

GeneraVieve:
You call this love? Do you know they are people that would have been pushed to go into crime because of this pressure she is mounting on me. I have something doing that is giving me small money. I have savings, I plan on starting small business soon that will increase my earnings,I am learning some skills. Why is she giving me pressure,she wants me to be a millionaire overnight. If it was that easy let her make the millions.
I would understand her if there is work out there that once you apply they employ you immediately and start paying you 200k. If I should go back to my work of 25k she will not let me rest.

Don't go into fraud.

You are allowing disrespect from her because you are in her house.

She is a female, and that is their nature. Learn more about female nature.

If you get married today, your wife will also disrespect you if you are not providing.

A female is a female, no matter who she is to you or how old she is.

Ignore her, and focus on your life.