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kunleweb:
Best of luck.

Thanks. Amen

kunleweb:
Surprised as how. Don't fall for lies o. I can't permit my woman to go thru schooling and then retire to the house. It amounts to suffering because its difficult for some to be skilled and overnight be told not to practice. I've never believed in it. I have exemptions sha. Like hoteliers. Bank. Personal relations department of organizations etc. But asides some women should be allowed to work if the man can't meet up their couple financial needs alone. Your delta guy should be serious o. I be wan link you with one Edo good brother.

He's serious.

Thanks for the offer.

ityP:
Hey God, you see why i say na you God send for me. See eh, i hate house wife sef. You will not be house wife if you gree for me. Any business you wan do, it's fine by me. forget all these selfish men. Even if its dada you want, you will not cut it at all. My mom even like ladies with dada

Lol you are very funny.

I'm not dada o

kunleweb:
Did all your suitors run away because they didn't want you to work?. Not all men are like that o. For example I don't mind my babe working. Infact I prefer she works

Yes all, except the Delta guy, I started dating during December last year.

He understands what I want out of life. He's not insecure that one man will take me away from him. Weird but he trusts me

I'm surprised

wristbangle:
You have a point. It's good to have holistic view about an issue before judging. I think I will agree to an extent because her career went oblivion when she married. Omotola is married and that never stopped her acting career, though she selects the unromantic acting scenes which shows respect for her spouse.

That's it! That's why omotola is still married til today

Trust and Free a wife for God sake!

Don't take what she holds dear because one is married to her.

Just give her a benefit of doubt. She will behave and be eternally happy and grateful with the husband.

kunleweb:
You're conflicting issues and confusing yourself. Answer me if you had a guy as rich as Dakores husband would you operate on the same level even after marriage?


Whatever what a lady won't accept in marriage she should turn it down before marriage. Dakore if she drops this guy for the reasons quoted then fits the description of a gold digger. Forget about white washing it. It is what it is. She's a classy gold digger who took advantage of a guys goodness and messed him up after taking all the benefits she could get

You asked a question, the same question my late dad asked me when late Princess Diana of England had an accident with her lover in the same car, they were driving in. And at that moment she was about leaving everything behind, her marriage, her sons and her husband the Prince Charles. But because the family of Charles could not bear the shame, people knew the accident who took Princess Diana life with her lover was masterminded. So I told my dad but why did she want a divorce from Prince Charles, they are very powerful family in England and so rich with lots of rules.

My dad said if u were in her shoes and brought up in a low class family, I will behave like her too.

He said but because I Was brought up differently with certain rules and regulations. I know I have to behave at all times. I know I can't go partying anyhow, I know I can't dress anyhow, I know I have to watch my every move publicly because I know the family I come from. I know i have to understand my husband cannot be at home everytime playing love, because he has so many commitments out there to keep the family running. I know I can't just walk away from my marriage just like that. I know I have to consider the kids and what people will say. I know I have to support my husband through thick and thin. Etc. The list is endless


So if were married to Akande. I will stay.

I don't have dreadlocks

I don't party

I don't club.

I like social club, I can attend once in a while.

I don't want to be an actress

I don't like the limelight.

I'm a very private and shy person even though I appear different online.

I believe in family and I believe in increasing the wealth and stability of the family.

I'm not a lady who will get worked up if u don't call me everyday. It's not a must you do.

Im more into expansion of the family's wealth, character and strength, than calling me to say love words everyday. I don't have time for frivolities.

So for someone like me, I will be working by the side in my fashion biz and yes still stay married to him.

omlueh:
Very well said and Analysed

God bless you jare



They don't see what we are seeing between Dakore and the Akandes.



They all think it's all about money

It's far deeper than just money!

kunleweb:
Don't mistake unruly for being free-spirited. Being free-spirited is seeing no big deal if one has to trim hair to make the marriage more conducive.

Being unruly is seeing little sacrifices that can be made to make a. Marriage work as being treated badly. You have it wrong. Stop misleading the young girls. On the thread.


Many ladies are praying for what she's throwing away rather in bad fate. Your sons will need wife and if we mislead or allow young ladies get mislead how would our sons get good wives.


Tell me is it right for a woman to leave her marriage for baseless reasons. Whatever happened to for better for worse. Babe stop supporting wetin no get head




Am I not right? LilMissFavvy

The reasons are not baseless o.

Yes alot of ladies will pray to be in her shoes but not every lady would want to be in her shoes.
For example : all through last year, suitors were coming but they all. Wanted me to close down my company and be a full time house wife.

Why? They were scared men will keep wooing me even after marriage and it's best to lock me up and not work. Just eat, fucvk, drink and breed babies.

Sighs
I was virtually crying to one old man who's my friend at my office building. I told him why are men like this?

Why should I close up what makes me happy, give me joy and keeps my brain working. And Just stay at home and be watching telemundo day in day out! But why are men this selfish!
Why must I shut down this part of my life, just because I want to marry!

It's not fair! I rather remain single ,keep running my company, meet people everyday than marry and just seat at home and keep getting fatter everyday with kids running around. Why cant I have both!

Guess what the old man said?

kunleweb:
Don't mistake unruly for being free-spirited. Being free-spirited is seeing no big deal if one has to trim hair to make the marriage more conducive.

Cutting off dada, is not trimming of hair.

Do u know how it feels to cut off that thing? Especially when the person is not ready for it? But has to do it, all to look reserved and corporate in the eyes of the public. She's more like a gypsy kind of lady before her wedding to Akande .

Immediately after wedding , she assumed a different personality .

But Just let her be herself with the hair thing, it won't harm anyone in the marriage. Don't stop her from working. It won't kill anyone in the marriage.

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philip0906:
You don't know sh1t Victorian.

No one gives a fvck!!

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Go fvck yourself!

[quote author=kunleweb post=85684220][/quote]I don't think she was dating the other guy, whom they said she went away with.

He could be a friend she met in one of their social parties or she might have met him during her trips abroad. They became friends.
She likes his personality. He likes her person too. They got on well. Exchanged numbers, got talking and Chatting afterwards, she realise he understands what she's going through in her boring rich life programmed by her in-laws.

I guess he must have talked her into taking a walk from everyone and just travel to get some fresh air away from everyone.

I'm assuming, because that's what always happens.

I don't think she's dating the new guy
They could be best of friends. He simply gave her the energy she needs to stand up for herself and make herself happy, and damn the consequences

Mehn that's life sometimes.

philip0906:
The writeup says she left him because "the money is not flowing any longer". You ignored that and decided to come up with your own cooked up tale to make it sound sweet in your ears

See how you're talking with so much authority like you're an insider in their marriage

Na you sabi with write up.


Anyways I know what happens in marriages from the very rich to the poor. Especially when a very rich guy from a high class family marries from a free spirited girl from a low class family.

Trust me I know the end result.

I'm from a royal home and I have mixed with both the high and low. It's just too clear to see and understand if uv mixed with both class of families

luminouz:
But the report said she left him cuz of MONEY!!

What do u expect from a billionaire family, who wants to look good in the eyes of the public!
And it's not like she comes from a wealthy aristocratic home anyways.
They will always say, what will make them look good in the eyes of people.
This Akande family live in the eyes of the public. Everything they do, must align with what's acceptable in their circle of clicks and in the eyes of the public.
They are like the royal family of England. Too many rules and regulationsto abide to, as a wife.

If a wife coming in, is not used to such rules and regulations in her own quaters, she will eventually Run and leave the husband, not even divorce sef! Because they won't grant her one

Money is not the issue here.

The Akande are not broke!

Her lifestyle was simply over controlled and that's where cracks will form and start growing until everything collapse.

I'm not surprised.
I was expecting it anyways

I'm surprised they lasted this long!

.when a carefree woman is overly controlled in an aristocrat marriage, just to please everyone in the marriage especially the parents of the man. Just give her some few years, all hell will let loose if the parents of the guy, do not wear off their hold in the son's marriage.

Red flag I saw : She cut off her dada, that one alone ehn? It's finished in that marriage. Even though she agreed to cut it off. One huge part of her died already on that spot but the husband will not know the damage he has done to her inner being, just to please family and make her look the ideal wife in the eyes of the public.

Then making her a full time housewife? When she's a busy bee? So someonelse will not snatch her from him? I laugh in Chinese!

So tell me, Was she not snatched in the end? She couldn't even wait to be divorced properly before dating another guy, whom I believe will be a free spirited guy.

Guys what you fear most in marriage and try everything possible to make sure it doesnt happen, will eventually happen. It's life. Don't allow your fears over take the running of your once loving and smooth relationship before u guys get married.

All I see here is a free spirited woman who has set herself free from bondage called marriage. She thought she will be free like when she was single. She didn't know she will tied to all sorts of rules and regulations by the family. What a shock for her!

She's not going back to that family again she's gone for good.

Everything is not all about money.

Very beautiful wife.

He try, wella!

He waka well!

Happy married life to them amen.

Jessewhyte:
You're welcome dear, you write really good, I like it..

Thanks once again and you too.

Kennedyiheme:
lol its very easy....

Ok o.

Well I know my man makes more money than me but I can't guess his net worth.

Kennedyiheme:
well people actually know who is doing better in a relationship.. that's not even a hard thing to figure out

It's not hard to figure out , ones partner is doing well but it's hard to figure who makes more money than the other. One can only guess.

Jessewhyte:
I'm so sorry my sis, almost got carried away by your quote, it just differs sha, if I were a lady and I was suppose to date a guy that's hustling, I think I'll probably know what his hustle is like, does he read at all, I'm not talking about religion now, the way he communicates and more, we have 2 types of poor people, it's the mindset that differenciates them and that is what you have to be aware of Okay and the rich too, the differences is in the mind and since one can't read the mind of anyone, knowing how they take actions and make decision is a clear way of know what they think about from there you know the kind of person you're dealing with, 1 advice it's really good to read and learn more OK, I'm sorry about your past, that is who you were just keep up a good mindset and watch what the future holds for you, it's beautiful.

My dear, I thought I knew all their hustles. They pretended to be good and intelligent. But unfortunately they were playing a script.
I thought being a graduate for them, means they are not suppose to think of exploiting their loved ones but they are meant to look inward and see how they can be useful to the society, provide services and get paid. That's honestly what I thought.
I was even looking out for one of my exes like that, I was ready to even link my contacts and lawyer, and use his cv to clinch good jobs for him.

But he was thinking how to snuff out life from body and use my enemy's blood for money. In fact two different guys on different times and periods in my life.

It's seems the good mind I have ,the prayers I say every day saved me from those demons in human clothing .
Some people will smile but they are evil within. I have learnt my lessons. And I ain't going back to my past mistakes.

I'm always doing good, I don't care what anyone feels or think about me. I satisfy my conscience and God. No man will succeed and make me bad. God forbid. And God has been kind and marvellous towards me. He alone sees my struggles and sees my heart. So God and Christ forever.

Smiles Thanks for the kind words , I appreciate

Kennedyiheme:
you're missing the point.. i didnt say marry a broke man... I said women dont like to date down meaning... for example a woman who is worth $300million.. wouldn't want to dat a man making just 1million naira a month.. is he broke? no, he is comfortable but not her standard, rather shed want someone richer, thats where the problem comes in

Oh ok

But will a successful lady really ask a guy how much he's worth?
As in how much he rakes in yearly?

Do people really ask each other these questions, to know who rakes in more money and who is worth 50 million dollars higher than the other?

If they do? Then thats too bad.

I will run from any guy whose snooping around my bank accounts and trying to know how much I'm worth. If I'm higher than him or not?

Mehn that's a red flag in relationships to me.

Are we competing, on who's richer ?

Jessewhyte:
everyone deals with their own insecurities mam.
at least i don't want to be on the side of this stereotypes though
it's good for a woman to be successful
but if the man wants to be comfortable with the relationship, then he also needs to be successful, or at least successful as his woman, and that would seize the insecurities, well everything is time, if a woman wants to love a less successful man then she owns it to herself to make the man successful too, else he'll face so much insecurities to be honest.
most men would feel insecure on the long run.

Well, thank God u agree on the fact it's good for a woman to be successful.

I can never marry or date a man who is not successful, I tried it in the past on several occasions with broke struggling guys but they saw me as maga or a fool to fall in love with their broke asszs and the ones who played me, played ,but failed at the end. The ones who tried using me for rituals did their best as well. But they also failed at the last minute.
My God who created me, says no man can kill me until God himself is ready to take me home. I'm a jewel in God's hands, no man can destroy me no matter how much they try to.

It was that bad with broke and hustling guys . And I vowed never ever to date and raise a broke guy to my level nor marry a guy who is not successful yet.

You remember how a lady posted online Last year saying poor people are evil, and no matter how nice you are to poor people they will always find a way to bite the hands that care for them.
Same thing goes with broke guys.
Although some ladies, their destinies work well with broke guys and they end up growing up big and large but with my destiny, I noticed. It doesn't work well with me
They start scheming how to use me for their own selfish end, to destroy and kill me for quick wealth. And at the other hand, I was planing something great for their career or biz. But the urge for quick wealth will not make them see what's good in front of them.

Not knowing my blood cannot be useful to them when I'm dead but except I'm alive kicking well and my soul is happy with them, that's when what they desire most can come to reality. Not by shedding my blood. Shed my blood? You get nothing but misery and continuous miseries.

I rather remain single for life, than work with a broke guy and bring him to my level. Have had enough bad experiences that will haunt me to my grave about them.

Women dating broke guys and helping them to be somebody in life, I wish you all well. But they are not for me, at all!

truthsayer009:
Currently scanning through Nairaland Monikers looking for names that are from "DELTA" State.
Today na Today, we must find this Guy!

Na so. Awon Profile watchers!

You won't get to see or know him on nairaland.

He's the quiet type. Even though we met on nairaland

Even my bestie, I refuse to show her, his pic and I refuse to introduce him to her.
I have lost out on good relationships in the past due to showing off my bfs. Out of nowhere we will just breakup with no concrete reason.

I ain't doing that anymore!
Everyone including my family will get to see who he is on Introduction and wedding day.

Lemme see, who will come and spoil my joy this time around.

mahakexchange:
Why will I want to buy a car like that!

Because Tupac the legend was killed in it.

That's why

zexy2030:
Yea, u r a fashion consultant but try look natural, u will see rich suitors..u look too artificial in my eyes..and fades so soon with excessives chemicals on your organic skin.

Thanks but I have a rich suitor already from delta state , who loves and pamper me die!

What u don't like, another wealthy man loves it.



Life is beautiful.

Our new look!

philip0906:
But you want to be equal with a man?

I'm not struggling any roles with my man.

He can be the man and the leader in our relationship, no problem.

I don't have issues with him taking the leading role. He respects me, he adores me , he listens to me and he's faithful, he loves picking up bills with all smiles. He goes for the best in whatever he buys and eats.
so why would I want to compete or struggles roles with him? I don't need to.
He's free to be the boss
Mehn! With all pleasure! Make I relax, follow his enjoyment lead and enjoy my life jare! I didn't vow I'm meant to be a man for life!
I no come this life as a man. I'm a woman, and My dear I have been a man for many years, since I lost my parents to death, it's tiring , even though the experience made me tough when I need to be

But I love being pampered like a woman. damn! It's sweet!

And he's not bossy, hes not arrogant, he's sweet, soft, gentle , and respectful too

Even though I'm blue blood, and he's not? That fact doesn't get to my head. Im submissive and I see him and give him his respect as the man in our relationship.
I don't even compete with anyone sef,. Lol.
I don't struggle roles with anyone.
I don't envy anybody.
I don't struggle to be anyone.
My friends know me for that. I don't have time for such. I simply focus on my strength and weakness in life and live life to the fullest.

So don't bring that equality card to me. It's no use.

Daryldaro:
yeah some truth though...cant rememba spending more than 10k on my girl all thru our 2yrs of being 2geda although i earn a decent income...she's the one who does the spending on me (she earns well 2)...

She try.

I wish both of you best of luck.

I can't be in such type of relationship. My man has to spend more, even though I assist by the side. Thats how our relationship flows.

Amumaigwe:
You sound like a well brought up lady. May God grant you all your heart desires.

Awww thanks.

Amen!

Kennedyiheme:
good for you, i never said you shouldn't marry a rich man.. but what you want is different from reality if it goes against reality

The life I'm living today is my Reality.

Kennedyiheme:
a marriage where the wife and husband are financially rich and equal won't last... let us drop all this fairytales, it only happen in story books

That's your mentality.

For me? My own with Boo with last for many many years to come till old age. You know why? Our wealth and personality is rooted in Christ Jesus .

Christ is our rock! Our wealth is just jara, to make life easy and rosy for us.
That's why I believe and know deep in my being and soul, ours will last forever in Jesus name Amen.

Kennedyiheme:
don't deceive yourself... rich women are good side chicks.. how many rich men marry rich women

Well that's their problem

For me, I'm marrying a rich man.

That's for me o

I don't know of any other person or woman.

Na my lane I dey jeje paving my way for it to happen and it will happen

I can't shout biko