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fulfillbill:
Ok i get the premise inwhich your belief is built Religion abi?

Nobody said you should have sex...your heart was meant to love, treat someone special, accomodate someone.

Trust me when you go out you'll find out that the era of our parents and now are quite different, and since you are not going to marry someone from your parents era, why not get acquianted with the present era?

you dont know vikky. am nt bragging bt am dt type of girl evrybody wants as a friend both male and female bc of one reason or the other. so tell me when i isolate myself by hanging out with one guy in the name of relationship which might not lead to marriage wont i be scaring other good male friends away just to b faithfulafter which we might break up and i strt a new one. the cycle continues till i hv like 12 ex bf is it nt better to be just nice to any gender by so doing one builds his or her social strata

anyway i prefer a male friend to a boyfriend and yes i will marry one of my numerous male friends

my parents era kemy mum and dad are quite young so they know whats up

finally i threat anybody as a special person both small kids thanks

fulfillbill:
What i implied in my last was post was that you can't be sure you are ready for the maths test, unless you have a done a lot of exercises.

You running from heartbreak will make you even more heartbroken because you probably won't be able to handle it when it happens.

Its like learning to ride a bike without falling.

Relationship helps you discover somethings about yourself that you didn't know, and nobody will tell you...you only will discover it.

more like tasting child birth before getting married right i shld get pregnant first to see how child birth will look like bfore i finally marry bros i no gree ooo. i love my life like this


wht is even so special about this girlfriend boyfriend thing self if not two people experimenting what married people do or am i missing something

Toks2008:
You are definitely going to make an excellent wife.

The only condition i subscribe to when it comes to divorcing your hubby is physical assault and not even emotional cos no baga can make you unhappy except you.

Thanks


yes u r right about happiness. @physical assault. i pray i dont meet such man cos i will just call police or army for him to give him the beating of his life any day he tries it.bfore thinking of the next action...LOL . God4bid though., i dnt think my future hubby will b a wife beater not when i cant hurt a fly

fulfillbill:
You see marriage as a hook, so you end up suffering and smiling abi?
Or you will divorce him?

i see marriage as a hook as a lady if am married am hooked


so hrt break means suffering and smilingif yes why r u advising me to strt a relationship then since hrt break means suffering and smiling

fulfillbill:
Let me play the devils advocate and ask 'so your hubby can't break your heart'?

of course he can. bt then he is my hubby i will hv to heal since am already hooked with him. u cant compare marriage with boyfriend girlfriend relationship

tommychow:
Babes keep scaring me off with that line...CRINGEWORTHY!

The idea of love is relative. The common conception is someone that makes your heart pound, gives you butterflies blah blah blah. I differ. For me loving someone are the actions you take to be with the person till the end NOT the temporary excitement you feel in the early periods of the relationship. So saying "I love you" is reassuring your partner you'll NEVER LEAVE. If everyone sees love this way, some will realise the really don't love their partner.

Mostly women are a victim of this ignorance and they jump from one guy to the other believing the initial lust or aching desire (aka "falling in love" is the TRUE LOVE. It's usually like this:

- Babe meets guy
- They have serious chemistry
- They spend time together
- Babe "falls in love" and they become serious
- A year later, babe realises there's no more spark like before
- Babe takes the frustration on the poor guy
- Babe is introduced to new guy at a friend's party
- They have serious chemistry
- Babe breaks up with the old guy
- Babe spends time with new guy
- Babe "falls in love" again...

The pattern continues till she has had 10 bf. This is VERY come with extroverted females. That's why I find them appealing for flings than serious relationship. The chill babes are usually the keepers.

excellent post. Thumbs up

fulfillbill:
Sorry babes just because ur afraid of hrtbreak shouldn't stop you from being in a relationship...it happens to everyone..the earlier you get used to it, the better. You dont conquer by fear or avoiding.

i can only relate with my hubby thanks. i dont like the idea of one guy isolating me in the name of boyfriend girlfriend i see it as a waste of time and energy...i conquer by avoiding biko
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i hv male friends though we r nt lovers

Toks2008:
You get sense..I know even know whether lalasticlala wil find this worthy of front page cos the guy dey form levels these days

LOL. Thanks let him read it and decide

LALASTICLALA Come and see this Topic oo i want to learn from others

Ezenwammadu:
Congratulations Dickson

wow. congrats to him

As an emotionally weak girl i just decided on my own with the help of my sweet mum not indulge in this Love thingy in my teens to avoid hrt attack and it really helped me a lot to understand now that love btw a girl and a boy is jst for the moment using my female friends as a case study.
.LOL am always the one to console them whn the hrtbreak thing happens atleast one of them learnt her lessons.....

It is always good to be friends on platonic level with the opposite sex whn u r nt yet ready to tie the knot. if u r nt too emotional like me u can go ahead and be in the romantic relationship bt whn the chips are down just pick ur pieces and move on

in summary i dnt believe in Today's I LOVE YOU FROM MOST GUYS. most of them want something from we ladies...just maintain ur lane let me maintain mine after all we can be friends not LOVERS... but in marriage i think couples grow in LOVE. MY MUM AND DAD Confirms it...

stupidity:
lol, the chicken will smell my pot of soup some day.


Lemme expose the OP

*OP is a female
*She's single
*She was expecting the neighbor to woo her
*She's jealous the niigga is looking for a butiful housemaid
*OP isn't a good samaritan at all
*she needs ur advice on how to stop her crush from getting a. "Beautiful"house maid.

ROTFLMAO...CHAI U R VERY VERY WICK**

GoodSamaritan:
My neighbour is still a bachelor @ 44 & lives comfortably alone in a flat. He claims to be lazy in cooking this days & very very lonely too. He just told me now that he is looking for a very beautiful housemaid who is tall, slim, busty, very neat, hardworking & a very good cook between 18 & 22yrs old who may be coming from home or living with him.

I am suspecting a fowl play. I strongly think it is a wrong idea. Or am I getting it wrong? Please Nairalanders, kindly send in your advice. Should I stop him or keep calm & look the other way as if I don't send. Candid & mature advice please

He simply need a 100% wife material. the maid he used is jst an irony

emmijes3:
I used to be like u..buh decided to give it a try again..imagine he dosent even feel same way..takes everything as a joke..that shiit hurts.

heiyah. sorry about that jst make urslf happy dnt allow any1 to steal ur joy

professore:
After reading a thread that seeks to dissuade or even ridicule guys who are seeking to marry a virgin woman,I decided to open the eyes of guys who hold a different view

Here is the thread in case u missed it;
https://www.nairaland.com/2849535/nigerian-men-craving-virgin-wives

Most people think guys want to marry virgins MERELY to be the first man to touch her,this is rather not insightful as there is more to this issue than meets the eyes.

I will use this thread to open your eyes (guys who don't want virgins because they want steamy sex ASAP) on the reasons why some futuristic guys want virgins

Let's go to the points while I try to be concise and brief

We want a virgin as a wife because;

1 THEY ARE PRONE TO FAITHFULNESS: unlike non-virgins who are so consumed with sex and cannot hold their body,believe me it is like food to most of them and even a horse cannot satisfy some of them this is so terrible,virgins are not used to such lifestyle as they are decent rather than wayward,so this makes them more of a wife material,or who doesn't want a LOYAL wife? See,a cheating spouse is a source of death,talk about STD/STI,don't let me say more to this.

2 THEY HAVE HIGH MORAL STANDARD: while some girls trade their pride just for a guy who bought them suya,or who sends them recharge cards,or more painfully,just for nothing all in the name of having fun,these set of girls know what they are doing and they are keeping themselves for someone who will take them home to mummy.

3 THEY HAVE THE FEAR OF GOD: I know u will say some are virgins because their parents are strict duh,nobody and I mean nobody can monitor you,if u want to do it u will do it,so what happens to a girl with strict parents but she is now in school,most of the wayward girls will be party riders in school and S.U at home,but here are these girls who believe the eye of God is watching them and they don't misbehave.

4 WE WANT A COMPLETE WOMAN: don't be surprised some women are incomplete,they are physically women but are biologically men,this is what I mean,a woman with no womb is not a complete woman,and this is a result of pre-marital sex which leads to pregnancy then abortion,talk about STDs (the curable and the incurable ones make I no start to list abegi) hello we want people to celebrate with us after nine months and we don't want to have problem due to some else's carelessness or ignorance.BETTER LIVE ACCORDING TO THE BIBLE AND THE PERFECT WILL OF GOD BECAUSE IT IS ALWAYS FOR YOUR OWN GOOD.

5 NO ISSUE OF THE EXES: this looks like point number one,but yes loyalty in marriage cannot be over emphasized especially in this age of whatsapp,facebook and all,we don't want someone who will jam their exes and rekindle old feelings nonsense,for this reason virgin girls are safer.

6 WE WANT PEACE OF MIND: this is rather an important point,trust me once u slept with your wife before marriage,u know u don't have two heads and she can be cheap for other men too,u cannot fully trust her because she is not the type that keeps herself clean,she is the type that makes things happen lol,can u trust her in her place of work?what if u travel abroad? With virginity comes trust and confidence in ur woman.

7 WE DON'T WANT SOMEONE WHO LIVES WITH GUILT OR LACKS CONSCIENCE: sex no doubt leads to pregnancy and if it is outside of marriage some women resort to abortion and live with the guilt,while some women are so used to abortion that they have even suppressed their own conscience,I believe the latter can make for a wicked house wife.

8 WE DON'T WANT LIARS AND POOR FOUNDATION: another interesting point,most girls who engage in pre-marital sex do it with multiple guys,when they meet a suitor,they will tell him they had only one guy in the past,this is dangerous for the foundation of marriage because that is how they will continue to lie to you

9 WE WANT TO BE THE FIRST PERSON TO TOUCH HER: yes you heard me right,as u already know we want to be the first to touch her,it is what we will not forget in our life time,talk about history here.This point comes last because it is the least important to me as one of the reasons why I want a virgin girl contrary to the opinions of all the MR I want a pro,who think we want virgins because we just want to be the first toucher

Just like point number 4,pre-marital sex comes with consequences,if u have made some mistakes just ask God for His forgiveness and start living right,BUT if u are still pure but thinking to lose your virginity don't try it for the fun is not worth the stress,don't allow pressure to make u to lose something u cannot regain,something that will earn you respect from your future husband,something that will guarantee absence of suspicion in ur marriage due to the fact that ur husband will not be suspecting u of cheating UNNECESSARILY like the non-virgins.Some even dropped out of school or could not go to school due to having children that were not planned for at all.

Use the comment section to drop some points u wish to state which I may not have stated,thanks.

Written by professore.

They will soon come and attack ur opinion. nice points

Am just so weak emotionally dt is y am nt interested in this Love thingy i jst keep u as a friend. platonic one and i hv many male friends

i wonder why people indulge in pre-marital sex when they r not ready to face the result ...i will totally blame only d girl because u cant rape her if she refused

FlirtyKaren:
Who else also feels this guy's pain?

http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/01/hilarious-conversation-between-dstv-unhappy-customer.html

HAHAHAHAHAHA. FAINTS

StepTwo:
please which country has Zamfara bin relocated to?

not heard of it here in Nigeria for over 3yrs

Same here.LOL

LOVELY

dominique:
It's very obvious a lot of lazy folks here did not read the story.

As in eh. LOL

hotdi:
I only answer someone's question. It must not be how he switched course. It apply to the question "If that is possible".

lol. ur explanation is not possible in any Nigerian University

hotdi:
It is possible because anytime he resits a carry over, he score more marks than he would have scored in the first attempt due to more experience.
He wrote the carry overs when he is in higher level and might have advance in his level of understanding. In that case he score very high marks in the resits. So it is very possible.

lol. this one did not even read the story as well

hahahahaha

Vision4God:
17 unit carryover & graduated wt 1st class?
I kinda doubt ds story.
How many years did he spend in d uni? And are der no pre-requisite courses??

Anyway congrats to him

did u read the story at all LOL abegi read the story and edit ur post

LOL. this thread reminds me of one girl like that...she can abuse for Africa. i do avoid her moniker like plague even when she type a good thing i will only like but cant quote her LOL...she so much hate any female moniker that writes something that portrays her as a V.....i wont mention her name bc she knows herself she dey this thread self
....Toks2008's Condom thread comes to mind lol

MyGeneration:
what should I hv done with it?

u shld hv left it in the car

frenchboy:
Pls i saw somethn about myself on google...how can i remove it...tnx

ask google

MyGeneration:
it has happened to me b4, I found someone's Samsung s4 in a car, d person called nd I picked so we agreed to meet smwere for me to give him his phone, one time out of boredom since d guy was on sub I decided to just enter nairaland on his phone afterall I can clear his history, d guy was a nairalander already logged in I saw likes and mentions, I didnt want him to know dat I went tru his phone so I just went straight to his post history to see what they are liking, I discovered he was that tyoe that what he does everyday is move around politics section and curse igbos.
I just went to his gallery looked at d pics of d innocent looking f00l, carried d phone as I was passing tru one bridge I threw it inside.

u did wrong Mr. y did u throw it away

naijainfogalery:
I once read a story of a guy on nairaland, who went to visit his fiance and the dad needed to send an email unfortunately he left his laptop at the office, so he decided to leave his laptop with the dad while he went out shopping/on a date with his girl.
The dad happens to be a nairaland addict, so immediately he opened the browser, he logged into his gmail account, so he decided to check nairaland to check whats happening, Only to see that username a****** i mean the username that abused him, the one that called him all sorts of names just because of their different views on politics.
low and behold, immediately they came back from their date, all of a sudden the sweet loving father got all mad, ask him if he was a****** he said yes, he just told him to get out of his compound. All pleas fell on deaf ear. It was later he told his daughter that he wont open his eyes for his daughter to marry such a person.

The problem here is we think we can get away from being a retard online, but it always come back at us.
So let me narrate my own experience

I went to a very remote area of Lagos to do something. I needed to access the internet and i couldnt, so i asked people around for a cafe, after moving a long distance we finally found one, the cafe had just 5 systems and it was fully booked by yahoo boys and there are about 5 of them waiting to take turn. Damn!! i needed to do this thing asap.

i begged the dude at cafe attendance to just allow me do what i needed to do as it wont take more than 20 minutes and i said i would give him 500 naira. After he heard that it was as if i promised him 1 million , see as the guy dey yes sir , yes sir me.

So he took me to their Server. where i did all that needs to be done, i decided to download the file i needed, while it was downloading, i decided to open nairaland to while away time,If you are nairaland addict lol you will understand that at any slight internet chance you will always come home (nairaland) so i quickly opened nairaland.com , All of a sudden i saw 40 mentions, fear gripped me , i was like what did i post for people to mention me like this, i clicked on mention and i saw abuses and topics i never commented on. I checked the username then i occured to me that i haven't logged in and it was the dude at the cafes nairaland account.

What i saw was heartbreaking, this dude abuses people for no reason. he calls people all sorts of names. he is one of those guys that forms team foreign girls on nairaland, i read one of his posts where abused one graduate that posted that he needed job badly, he called him a broke ass and all sorts of name , i am not trying to mock or abuse him but meanwhile this is someone that earns N8,000 monthly and he is being owed 2 months salary (wanna know i knew?) after the downloading my file. I decided to have a chit chat with him, he told me how much is earns and how he is being owed 2 months salary.
I needed to be sure it was him. But then the picture he has on his nairaland account was the picture he has as his phones screensaver . Thought it wasnt his personal picture but an image.


So ever since that day, if anyone abuses me online, I just remember that guy and smile. because most of these folks that abuses or curse you here wouldnt look into your eyes and say nonsense when they see you.

your online personality is the real you bc no one can pretend online

crazyculture:
I am a regular user of nairaland, so I had to create a new account for this topic, so as not to have any problem here regarding this issue later.
I was just posted down to a rural community in edo state for my NYSC program, and in my PPA I was paired with a guy as roomates. We haven't even spent up to a week together now and I have been having issues with him.

The problem is that this guy is a chronic homosexualist, I got to know the second day after staying together when he confessed to me after I asked him about his girlfriend because I just finished speaking with mine.

But to my amazement he started this confession about how he started the crazy act in is first year in school, he finished from one of the top private university in this country which I wouldn't want to mention. He said it was the school that caused it, that they must not see them alone with girls in school and they must not go to girls hostels. That there was no freedom for them at all.
So he decided to be satisfying his sexual urge by having sex with his fellow guys in hostel. I can't even imagine I would come across someone like that in my life, cos I know how I use to abuse them when I see them in movies.

I wonder if that's what all those private uni students do. After his confession I decided to approach the issue in a matured way and also told him his secret is safe with me, but adviced him that he should try and desist from the act. That I will also help him arrange one of the female corpers in the next lodge for him, He said okay. I couldn't even sleep well that night because I had so many things going on my mind because we share same bed, that he shouldn't go and mount on me in the midnight.

The next morning he said he couldn't sleep well all through the night that he was cold, I felt like punching him. Ever since then he has been disturbing me, that we should try it once that I will like it.

I don't want to be a murderer, cos anytime he says it, I always feel like stabbing him with a knife, cos I even hate to hear it. I have been thinking of moving out, but there are no better houses here, just mud houses in which
I don't think i can stay except I wanna go to the next lodge in which I will have a lot of explanations to do to them and I don't wanna leak his secret.

We are only the two corpers in this house we are staying here, If not I would have moved to the next room with the available corper. Please what do i do, because if it goes beyond my power I might be forced to harm him. Any advice please?

ROTFLMAO


still cant stop laughing....*clears throat abegi run for ur dear life HIV is rampant among homosexuals bfore he infects u by sharing a sharp object like knife with him. stop sleeping with him in dt room. make a friend outside whom u can sleep with since he no dey shame..pls dnt harm or leak his secret among ur fellow corpers

Sehindemi:
Osheyy..

LOL

This is jst wht i hate about politics