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emeraldknytt:
From my point of view, I foresee no deal breaker in your stale epistle. So far her lie hasn't affected you negatively or potentially, there is no reason to quit your marriage. Truth is, if you cant handle well something as trivial as this, I wonder what you would do if she told you those kids ain't yours.... .... Be patient and tolerable

You call this trivial I hope you are joking. Even if it's a joke, it's not funny.
I'm appalled by the kind of advice people are giving. This guy feels defrauded. He has every right to be.

So sad. The bastard doctor had the guts to make such request . I for don bliw sm.

Abeg make una free the body guard. He can't be everywhere at the same time.

This is beautiful. We gave Nigerian intellectuals doing us proud. Don't mind the fact that our president could call Nigerians in the diaspora criminals.

janellemonae:
@op truth is from everything u explained: I believe ur wife is very depressed. Impulsively moving to osogbo shows this. U just weren't paying enough attention to her state of mind. Maybe she thought ur cost of living d Lagos life would reduce in osogbo. The money situation is a major part of it. Money is d no1 cause of divorce in d world. I know some men think women are gold diggers but truth is every woman wants security. The sad part of ur situation is dt ur also trying ur best but maybe there's a reason she's not seeing dt. One of d reasons is this ur family jnterference. It's too much. Please I know u sugar coated parts of this story, yet it still seems like ur a mummy's boy.

The fact is she can't see a way out, she's not working - and clearly wishes she had a business to help u instead of begging for everything, she has 2 babies to think about, & ur marriage also seems to be delving into anger & violence. No comfort or joy at all apart from d hardship. She might even have had a bout of postnatal depression after her last baby considering d way u said she was treating her children (one of d signs of postnatal depression). I might be wrong but But these are all stressors. I understand ur also stressed but marriages go thru hard times. Both of u seem to be in d dark, seeing only ur own individual difficulties & not seeing what d other is going through. Someone needs to step forward into d light & bring ur marriage from d brink. It's still very salvageable.

PS - Please leave ur families out of all this & talk to each other alone. Take d advise of a neutral therapist or pastor. Leave emotionàl, biased parents/siblings out of it. Dts if u want ur family back.

I quite agree with some of the things you said but not all. If what the Op said is true, I think he's a victim rather than her. I believe poor people get married and are happy together. Marriage calls for sacrifice and understanding. She sees the effort her husband is putting and yet she's still nagging. I agree she might be depressed too. Maybe she had such a high expectation but it was not met.
At least after having her children, she should be okay. She's not just interested in the marriage.

taiiremide:
My wife absconded with our kids (2 boys). We’ve been married for 4years plus. I did everything a good husband would do to please his wife, but she never satisfied. Before we got married, I’ve a good job and she knew my worth, after marriage things isn’t as rosy and it used to be, I lost my job and I was able to get one after 2 months but the salary is 120k excluding other freelance jobs I do online.

We’re unable to save. We spent most of the money on food stuffs, I hate seeing her hungry. She called me one faithful night and reminds me of the premises I made before we got married about the car and supermarket I promised her (I can’t remembered making such promises), but I still encourage her to be patient with me, that things gonna be fine. She never supported me as she’s not working. I remember I gave her 450k to start a business; she was pregnant at the time so she rejected the money because of her condition. I added some money and I bought a car, I needed the car to hustle for contracts, I cant be jumping from okada to marwa, nobody gonna take you serious. A month later, I got a printing contract from one of the best companies in Lagos, the condition is to use your money for the contract so I sold the car to print the job, I bought a machine unfortunately the machine packedup, i lost the gain and money for the car but I was able to delivered the job more that expectation but I lost huge amount of money. She always complaining ever since, when I tried to encourage her that things will be fine she will ask me ‘when’.

She treats my kids as if she wasn’t the one that brought them to this world, she always using negative words for those kids, I later realized she doesn’t love me, if she love me, she’ll equally love my kids.

4 months ago, she went to visit my younger sister in osogbo, she saw the way my sister’s business was moving fine, she fall inlove with osogbo, she sent a message thus ‘dear, guess I am in love with Oshogbo is peaceful and cool’. When she came back to Lagos, she said she wanted us to move to osogbo, after much persuasion and consideration I succumbed. We moved to osogbo, I spent more than 300k. 2 weeks later, she started complaining that osogbo is boring. I was so mad. I had to risk my life travelling from osogbo to Lagos almost every week.
On the 16th of September (a day after I celebrated our last born birthday) she left for Lagos for her sister’s wedding, I gave her 12k for tfair and other expenses. I called her a week later to remind her that our first son gonna resume school the following Monday, that’s when she said she’s no longer interested in the marriage, that I should move on, I called her mother, she said I should come see her but my family stopped me, since we never had a fight and I was not the one that sent her packing that she should be the one to come.

I’m missing my kids, they’re my life, I don’t know what to do.

You gave everything but she never gave back in return. The relationship has been onesided right from time. You should have said no to many of her demands. When a woman is no longer interested in a relationship, she starts acting funny.
As it is now, she's no longer interested. You just have to move on without her. Get a good lawyer to fight for the custody of your children. My advice to you is never allow her back.

What I'm more concerned about is the quality of Nollywood production and story. You can write witchy story and it can still be good. Another problem with Nollywood is that they can be too monotonous.
I'm not going to say African deities are good because I'm African. And it's also foolish to think that Christianity is a white man's religion.

dainformant:
A Nigerian digital marketer, who deemed it fit to pose unclad in Nigerian color to mark the 56th Independence Day anniversary, got more than she bargained for after posting the picture on her social media page. Online users who lambasted and blasted her for her "art work", tried to understand the reason for the unclad pose. See their reactions below;

Source; http://www.nationalhelm.net/2016/10/nigerian-lady-comes-under-fire-for.html

The person wey design her body don touch touch well well.

Jesusloveyou:
even with too much money in his disposer disposal, the ineffectual buffoon could not pay salaries and contractors, so which work or project did he do in 6yrs, with too much oil money, he stil waste wasted our foreign reserve, so what did he use the money, only abuja-kaduna railway he could not commission

You call someone an ineffectual buffoon but you can't even construct a simple sentence without grammatical bullets. I just had to take cover.
Before you begin attacking people better than you, look inward. With this bad expression, I wonder the schools that produced you.

shaddoww:
I go with Aregbesola though. We have some idle assets dat we should sell but hw we will make sure money isn't looted is d big task. At least every state has Nitel buildings just there, d federal secretariat in some states are idle too.

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That one now belings to Tinubu. In fact, it will be cornered by him not sold.

Where's Amaechi and Fashola ?

ikemesit4477:
Hospitality industry (e.g) hotels

Lolz. I dey tell you.

djyoungmoney:
Banker/Accountants
These set of people know almost everything about your financial status ranging from your account balance(s) to your investments and the rest.No matter how you keep your financial status a secret these set of people will always have the real facts at hand.

Doctors
Am sure we all have heard of cases of people who keep the identity of the real fathers of their children from the world , Well no matter how hard you try to keep it a secret, the doctors will always know the real father of that child . Lot of people are out there living with very dangerous diseases but this issues are only known to the doctors who have tested them and confirmed the presence of such diseases.

House maids
As low as their level might be in the society, they know a lot of secret of their bosses because they live under the same roof as their bosses and there is hardly nothing that goes on within the house hold that is hidden to them, that is why you hear of people using the maids to perpetrate evil these days.

Journalists
These ones feed on secrets for a living. Through their various means, they always have various secrets at their disposals from time to time. Take for example the case of the paparazzi that’s follow celebrities about abroad, at one time or the other, they have a certain secret of a certain celebrity they want to publish taking the case of tiger woods as an example.

Hackers
Am sure we have all heard about the Russian hackers who have threatened celebrities about publishing their nudes and at certain times threaten to expose athletes involved in doping and even going to the extent of threatening to expose the secrets of the United States Government.

Counselor
We are advised to always seek the help of a counselor at one point or the other whenever there is a problem. In the process of pouring out our minds, secrets are revealed.

Religious clerics
There are churches where people go for confessions from time to time and these confessions are made directly to the priests who in turn will ask God for forgiveness on your behalf. Religious clerics are also seen to be closer to God than any other person and as a result of people will prefer to talk about their problems with their spirituals leaders who they think can help them in prayers or seek further spiritual assistance.


http://www.gistquaters.com/2016/10/professions-that-harbor-secrets-most.html

On point. Maybe you should have also mentioned driver and gateman. And of course confidential secretary. I didn't even mention clerics. Those guys hear a lot.
A pastor for instance once said a young man came to him and confessed how he sleeps with his mothet . The pastor didn't tell us the man in question but I don't even think it's good to tell us the story in the first place.

Neerah18:
So, women rape men too. This is unbelievable.

It happens oh. Some uniLag babes tried to rape in my estate. I had to run and tell the police.

TPAND:
When God gives children to careless, undeserving and lackadaisical parents, this is what happens to their wards.

Why don't we have child services in this country, they should prosecute cases as this in our country. This is 3rd degree Murder.

Nda Chioma is an ugly soul. I object to the description of recklessness on the part of a parent as fine soul

You can't blame the parents. I just wonder how the fell into the lagoon cos I know that there are death traps everywhere.

shuggah:
hw many people line up to welcome u or ur Popsi weneva u guys go to ur village?? at least he got 15 from ur myopic count.

No mind the bloody zombie. Some people just full of hatred.

HungerBAD:
There is something strange about these pictures .

I mean,it is strange seeing Patience Ebele Jonathan walking behind her husband. Usually she takes the lead,including meeting World dignitaries by shaking their hands,before the husband MEEKLY follows behind.

Sad how the mighty has fallen. In the 6th Picture,I counted only 15 people lined up to Welcome the former President. Back in the days when he was in charge of looting Nigeria,there would have been thousands there lined up to welcome him.

No more money to steal,no more friends.

Lastly,who even dresses Patience Ebele Jonathan?this woman lacks any sense of dressing,even with the Billions she has stolen.

Still waiting to read somewhere,even from her supporters that she looks good one day. She always dresses like an Atilogwu Dancer.

I sensed hatred in your speech but when I checked the name I was not surprised. If IBB, Obj or Gowon were the ones, would they have gathered such a large crowd ? The fact is that no one remains in power forever. Where Gej has been many people in their life time will never smell thst arena. Give him credit.

gemale:
Abegi!!!! Where 4 Bible Jesus tlk say make person bring im entire money gv am? D closest was d man dt wanted 2 b his disciple & He told him 2 gv it 2 D poor. No be Oju kokoro b dt? U tell person 2 bring his/her hard-earned money 4 1 month. Wt do u want d person 2 live on? Hw do u expect d person 2 meet his/her financial commitment 2 his/her family? D greedy man doesn't care. All he wants is her money. Na akpili ogologo do am.

The guy was being sarcastic.

I never know MFM to demand for money like this. Is this a new development ?

Balkan:
There must be trace of Igbo blood in those intelligent ladies. Quote me anywhere

What is that supposed to mean ? Stop being tribalistic.

mondob2k:
Good Morning Nlanders. I am really bothered that is I am writing this as soon as I woke up even before saying my prayers... make I pause first abeg... Yes I am back. Recently my boss approved d employment of a new Secretary/Cleaner and attached her to my office. I supervise works in d organization and most times I make payments to external contractors like drivers, operators n mechanics.

Since she came in my imprest didnt add up on two occasions. Though I had my suspicion, I decided to gave her d benefit of the doubt. The last straw that broke d carmel's (actually my) back was d N28k I left in my locker (it doesnt have a lock) coming to work yday and I counted and it was 26k. Immediately I picked a brown envelope containing 5k earmarked for something else and lo and behold it was 4k. She simply said 'that one no complete too?'

Nobody has access to d office apart frm d both of us. and when I am out she is always in. She resumes before me daily. I told a colleague, he doesnt av any solution at hand.

I need your advice pls.

Edakun epp me... b4 100k go lost

Use close circuit TV. It's not difficult to install

This man is speaking from both sides of the mouth. He cant criticise Buhari publicly because they are good friends but he could call Gej all sorts of names because they are not friends. Bakare, you are part of the problem. You can't justify your double standard.

adbokus:
But of course there are exceptions. By the way, I am a Yoruba person and I am proud of that. But Yorubas are some of the few people capable of ruining a happy place with disloyality and self-centeredness...

Are you sure you are Yoruba ? People will start calling you Biafra.

drss:
by d time buari send efcc to tinubu n lock him up una eye go clear. dem do am for abiola, dem go do am again. remember n buari's family members they run d con3 now. dem no like tinubu.

People never know. You can't fight a man that has all the powers. Not everyone is like Gej. What if Gej was like Obj that sends assassins to close the mouths of his opponents ?
Buhari has the police, ICPC, EFCC and finance.

DIKEnaWAR:
They don't learn from history bro...

Awolowo was used by the north to put down the only people that could challenge the north. Awo thought they would reward him handsomely; they dealt with him.

MKO Abiola was used by the north to deal Awo his last political blow that sent him on his journey to after life. MKO was promised heaven and earth by the north; they stripped him, smelt his rump and killed him.

Tinubu was used by the north to put down an emerging power block that was already changing the political equation that has been in favour of the north. They promised him to be figure heads, while he will be 'National Leader'. They are dealing with him now.

Enter Fashola the new poster boy of the north. They will use him to deal with Tinubu and promise him power and influence. When he begins to grow, they will deal with him too...

Ndi ofe will never learn.

The North are not foolish, after all. They know how to get their way. And who says election can't be rigged ? Is this not Nigeria.

moufan:
if buhari is not careful of those trying to limit tinubu's influence in the apc,by the time tinubu is through with him,he should start packing out of aso rock come 2019.I wonder how buhari would believe politicians that cannot even win their polling unit will limit tinubu's influence in the southwest. smh.

Tinubu is influential. I can say that his effort made up at least 55% of the victory in the last election. But don't expect Buhari to be like Gej who left without a fight. The best Tinubu revenge Tinubu could take is to betray Buhari at the polls the way he betrayed Ribadu in other to support Gej.

. I can't believe the number of guys that were molested. I've never experienced it although we once had a housemaid that dresses suggestively. My thing used to stand anytime she comes my way but I was never forced to do any funny thing.

HitlerGaddafi:
I sometimes dey always wonder wetin those big aunties dey always like for small small boys príck.

Shout out to aunty dorcas. I bin dey like 8 yrs that time when she call me for sitting room . She put my hand inside her Toto say make I dey rub am. Oboy as I commot the thing I take style smell my hand. She talk say make I commot trouser put my "kokoro" inside her Toto. I no even know wetin to do. She still dey even beat me self on top say I no dey fvck am well. As I bin wan cry she pet me say she go buy "ekana Gowon" for me na hin I shut up. Oboy I just dey rub príck for toto o. The thing sweet die I no go lie. Aunty dorcas for don marry with pikin now. She fit even don turn grandma sef. Na only God sabi where she dey.

Na pedophilia be dat. She don abuse you and dat na crime.

dimieprincess:
So pathetic than some of you think ......
I guess you don't even like this man, it is your hatred for Buhari that is making you defend this man. I am Jonathan personified and I have every right to be at cross with him for being a coward.

I can kill for Jonathan but you can't so allow me to insult him for his stupidity which has brought us Buhari with his clueless and super visionless government. Jonathan was sent to take us to the promised land but he left us on the road for fear of the unknown powers.

Ok, I see where u are coming from. You are quite right.

dimieprincess:
Look out for the haters from North and West poles desecrate this thread because of the cowardice attitude of Jonathan.

Buhari please jail this coward call Jonathan for me, e jo.

Why do u call him a coward ? He did it to maintain peace, if so we can try some1 else. If dollar goes for 300 naira, by now Apc will incite war. But now naira is worse of.