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I think the only way out for you is to do what you have been avoiding, that is to tell her point blank that you are not interested in a loving relationship. Hopefully she will then get the message. I suspect she hasn't gotten the message previously because you may well have been giving her small, perhaps unintentional, signals suggesting you are perhaps interested in her. E.G do you reply her e-mails and messages? What about your visits to her? Though you may feel you are just being friendly perhaps she interprets them to mean more.

I have taken on board the fact you have not shagged her. I believe this leaves you and your conscience clear. You cannot be said to have used this girl for your own sexual gratification. There is no easy way of doing it but if you truly want her off your case be a man, grab the bull by the horns and tell her point blank. I would even go as far as to suggest you imply or hint that you have met someone else . Remember, sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

Good luck.

venice:
caught him in action with my so called bestfriend!

What you mean red-handed with his pants down and her knickers round her ankles?
Don't be shy give us the details.

Shock, horror this is terrible of you IAH.

Oya how I go learn this phishing from you?

Maybe she is still a virgin. I once had a girlfriend who refused to do the do(I am almost certain she was in fact a virgin) but when it came to BJs she was ace.

shagging each others brains out.

In order to tailor my advice to you to your specific needs can you tell me if you have actually shagged her yet?

Zahymaka:
No -- I respect her right to privacy. Just know that it's really, really kinky.

Privacy? On an annonymous website.

Zahymaka:
I once picked some papers a colleague had left on her desk. I saw an e-mail from her lover or boyfriend. It was very explicit, talking about kinky stuff they had done together. - and she looks as innocent as an angel. I never saw her in the same light again.

Zahymaka

Can you provide us with the detail of the kinky stuff your colleague got up to with her boyfriend? It would make for far more interesting reading. Know what I mean?

vichel:
How do u say help in chinese? that's what u definitely need.

And he who is without sin let him cast the first stone. Vichel my guy you want to tell us you have never ever snooped?

What is the funniest, most shocking discovery you have made whilst snooping? Come on we all do it or would do it given half a chance. (especially ladies )

Have you ever read your partner's diary and discovered a secret about that person? Or have you heard strange noises coming from a room had a look through the keyhole and seen your best friend shagging your woman/man? I remember when I was about 14 my aunt was in the bathroom, I swear to god the devil was at work, but I looked through the door and saw her in all her glory, man me I wanted to explode there and then.

I once went to help out my female cousin with some repairs in her flat. I always used to think of her as so sweet and innocent, she was only 17 at the time. That was until that day, while moving her wardrobe to get access to a window out fell several packets of condoms and several intimacy gadgets. She was with me at the time and we both didn't know where to look.

Quite frankly the scenario you have described is just too far fetched and ridiculous.
And what kind of responses did you expect from such a ridiculous story?

I can only assume that Rhodlyn is being sarcastic in her response. Either that or she has a screw loose.

I understand your dilemma completely. I have been married to a Christian for 10 years now. I am a muslim myself.
The reason why our marriage has survived thus far is because neither of us is deeply commited to either religion and we do not have family pressure from either side. Both my parents(dad is now deceased) are very liberal, and as long as I was happy so were they.
If either my wife or I were actively practising our religion I think there would have been problems.Having said that however, I did make it quite clear to her before we got married that in the matter of children I would not agree to any kids being baptized in church, nor would they have christian names. She understood this and my child has a muslim name and was named according to Islamic tradition. It is fair to say therefore that my MRS has made more of a sacrifice than me on this issue.
My advice to you is to think very deeply about things. Not just for the moment but for the future. What religion will your kids be brought up in, what names will they have, are you happy to attend Islamic events to support your partner?
My personal opinion is that mixed religious marriages are very unlikely to succeed unless there is a lot of personal sacrifice.