May Allah forgive your shortcomings Uncle Pasali..
One of the nicest persons i know.

MommaD:


Yes, I know this, but this is no different from my current situation. At this point, two options are open to me:

[s]- Walk away in search of a man who will shoulder the financial responsibilities 100%[/s]

- Hang in there and pray things change.

I choose the latter, not because I'm one pious woman, because trust me, I have my own bad sides, but because I don't want to have my kids for different men.

Marriage is a lot of hard work and if this is my lot to face, then I'll bear it prayerfully.

My husband is a good man who has never raised his hands on me in over eight years. He's also very gentle. So I'll just hang in there while praying (seriously) that things improve.

You are wilding with this thought o, nothing has warrant this thought so far. Leave him and find man that would shoulder bills 100%, it doesn’t come that easy.

What is his reason for not moving out for the past 6years?
Since you want to live as a family, you cannot take any decision by yourself, it has to be between you two no matter who is paying the rent.
Try and persuade him , beg him if possible so he will agree to move with you, massage his ego and make him understand you won’t use it to insult him later. In the event that you cannot massage his ego to achieve that, you should remain With your in-laws or just move out and be ready for any trouble he brings up later..

GerogeI:


Look, leave all these stupid comments here.
Obviously your husband was alone in Canada and formed a dirty habit to relieve his sexual urges. At least appreciate he is not using a side chick. Prostitutes are not really a threat to you compared to a side chick. That's 1.

2. His habit is not a judgement on you or your beauty or how desirable it is. Men are built to be polygamous, do having different prostitutes will become kind of addictive.

3. You can shoot the roof or cry your eyes out, but this is an addictive habit, and your husband cannot stop so easily just cause he is sorry and regrets. Be realistic, its an addiction and requires long term work.

4. Yes, you are right. The guy has no Chemistry for you any more. Might not be your looks or anything. Might just be you sexual behaviour. Maybe he likes freaky. Maybe you have become boring in bed.


Your way forward.
Have an honest conversation about what turns him off sex with you. What he looks forward to in sex, and what you look forward to in sex. And where you too can meet in a middle ground.

Maybe those prostitutes can teach you a few things about his sexual behaviour and preferences that he would not open up about. You can take their contact and pay them to tell you more about him.

Your husband can overcome the addiction if you work with him. If you too can get comfortable enough for him to let you know when you are a turn off. A sex therapist might be good too, even though they cost First is for you guys to be on same page about the goal of overcoming the addiction and be open to each other.

Omo, I've been following all advice here but damn, this is the sickest.

Madam should get contacts of prostitutes her husband bangs and pay them to teach her about him?
EB things oo

OP, since this woman is giving you issues, why not drive her out of the house and marry another woman? I don’t understand why she can’t manage 40k naira for feeding 6mouths in a whole month, i mean, she must be diverting that money into something else like building a house.
Don’t be a simp, chase her out of your life

Great penalty save by the Sieraleone goalkeeper, Okoye should jot things down.

luminouz:

See this one....

Are you even married to advise anyone?

My marital status is non of your business, register your advice if you have any and move on.

StPete:
It's just sex and it's his own addiction. Either help him to fight it or just let him be. As long as he does his bit in his family. You see, to men like that, it's just sex. No feelings attached.

I know many people would reverse the case if it was the woman but women don't just have random sex, it comes with emotions. Even prostitutes catch feelings with their clients. So just let him be. Insist he use a condom with them and just free your mind about how he bleeps around. In his own time, he will stop

You must have same supplier as Portable.

You forgive him easily and cover up his dirty acts all in the name of religion, reason he sees you as a walk over. He may be religious but he doesn’t have the fear of God, reason i don’t care about anyone claiming spiricoco, i only care about what your heart looks like.

Personally, i may never have sex with such person again as my health is more important to me, i will lock him out or move out for my own sanity, then i will file for divorce after i have gathered all evidence, it is better everyone part way.
If you are not financially independent, allow your people know back home, let them rally round and bring you home, everything will seem rough in the beginning but you will be fine in the end with your child.

Do not think you can change the man or his ways, until he gets into trouble, thats how he will continue living his own life.
Take responsibility for your own life.

Football is an unfair game really, i feel for Balde, the guinea goal scorer.

These Guinea guys are no push over, their strength and agility is fire.
Nigeria should not underrate them.

The useless Sancho that refused to pass ball to Ronaldo in his last outing, the players feel threatened by Ronaldo while deluded fans thinks Ronaldo is the problem.
The most annoying is the twitter trend, noronaldo, no problem.
Nanchench.

See the way Ronaldo is making ManU concede goals anyhow…

seunny4lif:
At last without Ronaldo our attackers are playing shots on target

Matic or Bruno are missing in this match

Dea to the save again

You also believe Ronaldo is a problem, lol.
He sure isn’t.

See possession, AVL 72%

Honestly, Dea Gea has been our saving Grace recently.

Moving forward, i hope they exclude this Umar Sadiq from other games, Awoniyi left and everywhere almost cast.

These guys didn’t know they would increase the game tempo until the Sudanese scored, they better be careful.

Oldest 25 year old Nigerian footballer, Alhaji Ahmed Musa in , Iheanacho out with a smile.

Okoye though, fine boy with better skills.

Super eagles making me smile, i no wan chop breakfast from ManU soon

An early goal to Nigeria, nice one Chukuweze.

I am excited this Saturday, after watching my Club play, i would switch over to watch My country play too or watch concurrently, what a way to enjoy the weekend.
Up Super eagles
Glory glory Manchester United( make we no chop beating sha )

Wande Coal that year

This is no longer the ManU team i fell in love with years ago.
Whats going?

They signed him, will they use him?
Good for the boy though, he has the opportunity, unlike his grandfathers mate in Nigeria who go to europe to claim under 17.

I can imagine of a lady opened this kinda thread
Brostitute like OP.

I don’t understand this question, you mean your wife will be on a bike with a stranger or the man is someone she knows?
What will make a man and a woman sit on the same bike in the first place? Is bike not meant for one passenger?

Rodriguez of Cape Verde cutting warning for his coach, hes not happy he was substituted.

Ethiopians are playing defense this early when the Cape boys are busy looking for more goals, smh.

Sportilitica:
That red card is proving costly

Quite unnecessary.

How can we win Egypt ??
Cant wait to see it..

CapeVerde persistence paid off, 1 goal up.