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hammer567:
LOOK AT HIS FACE AND ONE OF THE GIRLS, THEY ALMOST LOOK IDENTICAL.



DNA TESTING IS FOR WEAK MEN.



THE NEED TO STOP DAT SHIT.

LexngtonSteele:
These " well trained" ones?

Your god Nnamdi Kanu described them well

1000s of Nigerian guys pump and dump them for una to pay 40 page bride pricelists

Force your mum to swear by Amadioha and not the Bible, if her body count is less than 10,000, I owe you $100k

Wizardslayer:
Joblessness of the youths.

saveman91:
I know some of you still remember this phone beside am using it till now, am not married but i was the first person that use the phone in our community during those days

seunayantokun:
A dog considers what it eats food for everyone.

seunayantokun:
Simply shows they have no conscience.

Appletek:
When Ebonyi built theirs, Abians were talking with kerosene in their mouths, calling it a white elephant project because Enugu has an airport and it isn't far to Ebonyi.

Now that Abia wants to build an airport and Imo has an airport, let them come and tell us if Abia is far to Imo or if Abia airport is not a white elephant project.

helinues:
Na supermarket price you dey display here. How many Nigerians buy from supermarkets?

Modified: ebukajay184, unfortunately the notorious trollers on the forum derail this thread for you.

Hope mods would take care of them sha

banjicom:
It is not as if i am supporting the girl ooo, but the guy too is also childish. The curses/abuse at the end of the chat is not necessary. He should have just ignore the girl. Most of this online ladies na poverty and inferiority complex dey worry them. I dey sure say na man buy that iphone 12 for her.

Rita33:
What's your definition of a correct lady Bro?

MrSundry:
Lol

Rich man pikin drop post, e enter nairaland frontpage.

Life no balance. My brother hustle oooo

idealogical:
Just so you know, this is the context, the reference point, and what this story is about, it has nothing to do with any igbo word or meaning.

CapitalBank:
I was going through my account and found a piece that I shared in 2022...

You can read it here: https://www.nairaland.com/6956617/what-killed-feelings-someone-madly/3#109702078

And here: https://www.nairaland.com/6956617/what-killed-feelings-someone-madly/7#109712641

Well, it is 2024 and I have dislodged myself of any emotional attachment to her but I did notice that she has been making some compliments on my pictures but I didn't move.

Previously I didn't share my pictures much but I started doing that more often started in 2023. And the compliments kept coming whenever she saw my pictures... Of course, it was a sign, I knew what it was but I didn't move.

On the other hand, when upload hers, I just view them and never say a word of compliment, unlike what I used to do 2 years ago.

Then I decided to probe and find out what was happening because all these compliments can't just be for no reason.

I teased her that I had wanted to marry her and she chose her job for better or worse. She then responded with a meme and said she was just trying to get back on her feet and things were hard (excuses she used to give). I told her she would have communicated with me and not that I would have hindered her in any way but would have supported her.

Now, I have opened the window for her to come out openly (with that thing that has been making her compliment my pictures) and she took it....

Guess what? She said well I am expecting your wedding invitation soon.

Now, a novice would think she meant wedding invitation, but I knew it meant something else and had to reply by playing along. I told asked her if she does not want to get married that it is her I want to marry (just pulling her legs lol).

She then asked "But you are in a relationship". She is trying to see if the window is still open for her to come in.

This further confirmed what I was suspecting. I revealed that I had one before but pulled out because she did not want to cook.

So I asked her, do you want to tell me that you haven't been in a relationship all this while? She said she tried talking to SOMEONE NEW AFTER ME BUT THE GUY LEFT TO THE UNITED KINGDOM

Hmmm..... Now the picture is clear. Her plan A failed, so she wanted to fall back on me as a backup plan, hence the reason for all those compliment for which she didn't do more than compliment because she thought it was enough to get me running back to her.

Anyway, I told her she messed up and that at a point, I had wanted to even relocate to her base because of her...

She then asked "Do you still like me that much?" hmmm So she knew all along that I liked her but was intentionally sabotaging the whole thing.

I later told her that it is too late now because I already had someone I wanted to marry. Her tone of message changed and you could feel the regret coming from her end.

I told her she messed up big time and I only did what she wanted me to do, which was leave her alone. I reminded her of how she sabotaged two attempts I made to see her and let's talk, even last year 2023, I tried again. I said a lot and told her and told her that I am only revealing all these to her cos I wanted her to do better.

She promised to do better and change. She expressed she has learned her lessons and will do better.

At one point, I was forced to ask her and said I thought it was not important to her like she was not interested in a relationship(cos that was the impression she was always giving as per busy busy, work)... She queried why wouldn't it be important. She admitted that is important to her but she was just trying to clear up before throwing up her emotions again (excused from backfired plans). I say excuse cos I was patient enough... At a point she said God will bring her own... Oh really? Bring your own? I thought you weren't ready for a relationship?

There were other things she said... but I was satisfied that I had gotten the information I needed at last. Unfortunately for her, I do not give such ladies a second chance, ladies who consider me as backup... I never take that backup option. If you read the two links I dropped above, you see where I told her to delete my number

Summary is: A girl telling you she is not ready for a relationship or she is busy is lying to you. She is saying all that because she has her eyes somewhere else. She will only consider you IF the one she is aiming for is no longer available and you as a man MUST make sure you do not take her back. A woman who never wanted you in the past cannot want you in the present.

She will only pretend and mask it because she needs to procreate and you seem like the only available choice to help her achieve that, it does not mean she suddenly loves, like or want you. Women are expect at sacrificing their desires at the expense of getting married and having kids. This means they can furk a guy the don't love and bear his child.

Another thing they do not consider is that as much as they are aiming for that richer, more comfortable dude, over 50 girls are aiming for the same... the competition is high and does not favour their usual "shakara"

I just felt like sharing the ending story... I am glad it happened, I am glad to find out that I was actually a great dude (according her lol).

I do hope the smart ladies who will read this piece will pick a feather of wisdom from this... Sorry for the typo.. I am just trying to type as fast as I can because I have some other task to handle.

HopeNeverDies:
Damnnn!!!!

Big Smoke Pelu Tobacco.... 💔

Make pesin epp me complete am...



True true, The Police has Lost its credibility. Police Department has never been a Debt Recovery Department!



Where bobrisky?? 😂😂... She/he for don talk 😹

ZIAZI:
They said Wike is politically done and I laugh!

These men are resigning because they believe in Wike. He is not a saint, but he has the capacity to deliver and he has done so over and over again. It was this same capacity that made Atiku, Tinubu, Kwankwaso, and Obi visit him to leverage his structure in Rivers State. The facts are there!

Wike is a big fish in Nigerian politics and today in Rivers state, he controls 90% of those at the grassroots.

Lukmanraji:
My gf of seven years has been giving me attitude recently which I noticed sometimes last year. I observed that she always check my phone to look for something to hold against me. Yes, she suspected that I'm having something with someone. So, every time she's around me, she always find one or two thing that will lead to argument and all that. Aside that, the respect, love and intimacy between us reduced drastically.

Fast forward to this year, She successfully read a chat on my phone where I was talking dirty with someone. That's the genesis of the whole mess I'm in right now. She just walked out quietly and decided to end it all. Since then, I've not been myself because this is the person I have planned to live the rest of my life with. So, I started begging her but she's not giving me any green light. I called, messaged her but no response. I asked my Junior brother to beg on my behalf but she didn't succumb to that not until my dad intervened to apologize on my behalf.

So, she call me that we need to see. I rushed to visit her and apologize again and again. She agreed to continue with the relationship but she hasn't forgiven me. After few weeks of the whole issue. I suspected that she's hiding something from me. Then one fateful night, I spy on her phone when she was unlocking her phone. That night, I was able to access her phone while she was asleep.

I checked her WhatsApp, I discovered that she has been clearing her chat with one particular guy who happens to be her friend from NYSC since 2021. They became close as they both work in the same financial institution but in a different branch. Then I went further to her Instagram page to see what's going there.

To my greatest surprise, I discovered that they have been having an affair since 2023. My gf has been throwing herself to this guy, they have been going to the cinema together and other places. On her birthday, my babe and this guy went out together without my knowledge, they both book uber to somewhere without my knowledge, they were both sharing their feelings online, talking about marriage, how to raise their kids irrespective of their religion differences and my babe even throwing herself to the guy for sex. Everything thing I found in their chat especially how my babe has been treating this guy with love and respect is the opposite of how my babe has been treating me lately.

So, I screenshoted all the evidence and save on my phone. I then challenged her that she's cheating on me with that guy but she blatantly denied it. Not until I showed her all the evidences with me before she began to cry fowl and started debunking all I saw. She claimed that they are not true, they were just playing and not into any thing serious. They are friends and that's how they banter each other online. All her excuses were not genuine but I still forgive her on one condition that I don't want to see her with the guy again and she should cut off any form of friendship or relationship between them because I had done something more than that to her just recently and she forgive me.

Meanwhile, during the cause of this issue, I proposed to my gf that we should take this relationship to the next level by seeing her parents this year and maybe by the end of the year, we do the whole thing. The shock response I got from her was that she's not in a rush to settle down with me. Not even this year as she's just healing from the heartbreak I caused her and I can't use marriage to tie her down then I continue breaking her heart. There's no how I tried convincing her that I am a changed man now as I am ready to take responsibility and be a responsible person.

After few weeks, I logged into her whatsapp on my system and then again I found out that she's still talking to this guy and they were even planning on going out again. I got angry and send proof to her but guess what, my babe para for me for cloning her whatsapp on my system. Hell almost let lose that evening. This time around, she felt unapologetic about the primary issue that I warned her to desist from. Funny enough, after close observation, I learnt that they move their chats from whatsapp to Snapchat where their chat is just "view once". Then I knew that this lady is not ready to stop talking to this guy. I have shouted over and over this matter but this time around, my babe is now feeling lackadaisical about this issue.

Right now, my babe is now comfortable with the guy and she's now sitting on defense about this matter. In our last conversation, my GF literarily told me that she doesn't love me anymore. And then she started rewinding all my past during the cause of the relation and using it as an excuse for not been able to love me like she used to. In our conversation, the only thing she didn't mention is that we should go on our separate ways (break up) but everything she said to me indirectly simply means that she is done with me.

I felt unloved as this is the woman I never placed anyone above, this is the woman I've nurtured when we were in school and outside school. I respected her and love her so much that she has become part of me. My parents, family and friends are expecting us to tie the knot soon but here is my babe telling me she's not in love with me anymore. I felt unloved about this whole thing and I'm heartbroken.

I am lost and crying inside silently as I never expected someone I have sacrificed something huge for before to be acting like this to me. I'm depressed. I need mature advise from you guys. Thank you.

highchief1:
bros stop to reply that guy.na only crase person Dey compare SA to Nigeria.where is the comparison coming from,na light,infrastructure,economy,education or how?is he not aware that Togo is doing better than Nigeria?SA when Dey in the league of Europe

nifemi25:
Honestly I thought of wiping my phone off this morning...... Imagine having almost 150 contacts on phone and no one among them can send you just 2k when in need of it... What's the advantages of having many contact on phone whereby none can assist you when in need.....