Klass99:


Lol 😂. Sorry ehn, it's like this thing really pained you. That's what happens when you are dealing with shallow minded individuals who don't understand life or lack depth and substance. If I were you, I must collect my money sha.

How would you go about collecting it?

pocohantas:
I don’t call any of my friends spouses by their names, male or female. I accord them that respect.

So you cannot call any of your friends by their first name once they are married to someone else?

So you can call them by their first name up until the point they do their traditional wedding,

Then your friend Amarachi now becomes Amadi's wife and you can never call her by Amarachi again?

Just asking for clarification..

Richy4:

Please my brother, let him be.. you are not eating from his table... He is not eating from yours... Let him be..

I will suggest that you ignore him and the money that he is owing you for now until all the euphoria of marriage dies down and he now comes back from cloud 9 to the normal earth where he inhabits... Give him 3months ok.. he will be back to the planet.

I underestimated you man.. what u did by making yourself comfortable at a hotel have renewed my respect for you.. u got some levels🤓.. carry go buddy ✔️📯💯🏅

Lool.

It understandable that you underestimated me.

I left a lot of details out.

I also contributed money for the best man suit that he casually gave to someone else.

He's owing me tens of thousands. I did not eat from his table but he has eaten from mine without recompense and yet he's disrespected me on top.

But I've let him go.

Let's see what happens when as you say the Euphoria comes down.

Klass99:


Have you at least recovered the money he owes you or are you forfeiting it as bad debt?

I honestly don't think you did anything wrong by calling his wife her given name. I think as a people we are unnecessarily stuck up on titles and recognition in this part of the world.

I don't mind if a 4 year old calls me Klass without aunty sef. Klass is my name and titles only reinforce authority, seniority and barriers to easy relations with others.

I am forfeiting it as bad debt.

I'm not borrowing anyone money again in this life.

It's another story if the wife had a title but she doesn't.

I've known about the relationship since they started.

I am the friend that would always lend him money when others didn't without pestering him for it.

I escorted them to Onitsha for 6 hours twice when they were purchasing products so he could start a business for her.

But he did traditional marriage and suddenly I am disrespecting her by calling her her first name.

It is well.

Richy4:

So have you mapped out what she and your friend will be calling you?👿

We don't talk anymore.

The guy was angry with me for renting my own hotel room in the hotel on that Friday night before the wedding. (He promised me a room to myself, I came and he put me in a room with himself and one other guy).

He didn't call me from that night until the wedding. I simply took my load and travelled back. Later I saw pictures of someone wearing the suit I was supposed to wear.

This is someone who is owning me thousands of Naira and was even still asking me to borrow him morning that Friday Afternoon.

Ishilove:
So much ado about nothing.

Op, it's a cultural thing. You either get with it or get out ... from the friendship

Which cultures in particular?

I was allowed to call her by her first name until he did traditional wedding for her.

This is someone who has called me her padi.

DonroxyII:
Bro Cultures is Cultures.... Cultures and Civilisations is an Emotional Phenomenon!

Where I come from We prostrate to greet our parents and elders to some people that's balderdash ....

I once joined an Islamic sect Ahlusuunah that states you shouldn't prostrate for nobody but God while I think about my Grandmother I simply drop them ....

Respect other people's emotions and wishes and you would be good or gtfo them if you can't can !

People's individual emotions and wishes is not culture.

I am ready to stand before any elder of any tribe in this country to ask them whether referring to a man's wife by her name is wrong.

I have asked everyone around me including my parents and they have said there is nothing wrong.

I am ready to travel to your village to talk to your elders if need be.

DonroxyII:
Western World has their Culture and We have our Culture..... Our Culture is Respect Based Culture ....

If We have Respect for Ourselves as a Nation, Continents and Globe, The world would have been a Better place !

The Corrections seems Harsh .... Personally, I use Respect for Wife of a Friend while I can Disrespect My Friend as I Like !

The problem is that Nigeria is focused on "Respect" without actually solving problems.

"Respect" for the sake of respect is not what moves nations forward. It is not "Respect" for the sake of respect that give you respect on the Global stage.

It is your achievements, the solutions you bring and how you've elevated the standard of living of your citizens that brings respect.

Now, you said that you use Respect for the wife of a friend, please, how does referring to your Wife's friend by the name she has borne since she came to this earth, a sign of disrespect.

faithfull18:
Lol, give unto your friend what he wants, it's not that hard.

Some people don't like to be addressed by their names without prefix.

This one said I cannot address the woman by her name at all.

So because a man marries you, no one can address you by your first name again?

The man paying money to marry you erases your identity?

The woman changes her surname, yes, but the first name does not change.

I was addressing her by her surname before he did traditional marriage for her.

Now I cannot address her by her name again?

Lance008:
The gal big pass who dem Dey call her name
Yeye person
U are not wrong ur friend is jus been stupid
If na me everybody go Dey on he own
Were u paid to be his best man ?

I was not paid.

The guy is even owing me money.

More than ₦50,000 and I never bothered to ask for it.

It was ₦3,000 bill that his wife put on my Babe's head that made him warn me like that.

I even collected more insult yesterday.

I left this morning.

sisisioge:
E .

Meanwhile, na wa for you too o, you sabi do useless friendship sha. Typing person gf project for 6hrs🤭🤭🤭

😭😭

Richy4:
Abeg no vex, I no understand... Wetin he say make you dey call her again please? I didn't get that part

He say make I dey call am "My Wife"

rickpat:
bro,I don tell you..give those people chance o..before see finish go enter... especially if you are still single...even my brother's wife way older than me...I call her madamB or ladyB( thats what I call her before they got married and start what I still call her till tomorrow,saved her number with it sef).even to the extent that my bro na calls her that...B is her initial..though people might argue it's different from calling her her name but remember na my elder bro wife and not my friend's wife...

just use your head...this matter don dey vex me already...if you called her her name on before the trad wedding,the Mumu for no complain o..well na him.luck Sha..if na me..I don free am

Bros.

Look at the chat.

I called his wife's name and my babe's name in the same quoted message.


I used both their first names.

.

rickpat:
africans and their foolishness...western world that everybody goes by their first name have they died...if I were you,that friendship ends tonight...calling people their name is not disrespectful,it's their name ain't it?

be careful though,cus one day he will tell you to call the wife "aunty"(you know say Aunty get two meanings for naija)

USE YOUR TONGUE COUNT YOUR TEETH,THE WORST TIME WHEN FIT HAPPEN TO A MAN "NA SEE FINISH"...bounce before him and him wife see you finish bro

goodluck

Bros.

The insult I don see this night.

I just decided to limit it to this question.

Mille:
Yes, you're wrong. It's totally out of place. He has corrected you so see to it that you make adjustments.

And I think you also have an ego problem. Because if not, what the Bleep is I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020 .

it is disrespectful

I see.

You're one of those.

Like I asked him.

Is it "My Wife" that will appear on the Marriage certificate, the school certificate, the court documents?

I did not call the girl's name in a disrespectful way.

Is it a crime to call the Wife of your friend by her first name?

I've known this guy since 2018. He met his wife in 2020.

They've done traditional wedding.

I once followed this guy to law faculty of our school during our Masters program and spent 6 hours typing the project of his then ex.

The same ex ended up blaming him for her misfortune.

I'm the best man for his white wedding tomorrow.

Yet, he's warning me for calling his wife her first name in the same sentence where I also referred to my girlfriend by her own first name.

He claims I was wrong and he has refused to apologise.

I need this one the front page.

Was I wrong?

MORE DETAILS
https://www.nairaland.com/7563621/it-wrong-call-friends-wife/2#120932806

No source of information from this thread. Is it that Delsu students don't know how to operate Nairaland?

chiboy1116:
bro what’s up . I saw your post about the tws 1 pro . Couldn’t quote u there cause I was banned .
Is it really better than the free pods 3 ? Have u used both of em ? Cause the freepods has ENC but the edifier doesn’t have a ENC OR ANC , a friend of mine says the free pods is really good and he’s really considering selling his AirPods Pro for it (cause it’s cheaper)

I don’t know which to go for . You could recommend any though .

Well, the TWS 1 pro is the most recommended under $50 earbud.

But you could watch reviews of the Freepods to confirm.

TWS 1 Pro has superb battery life & sound

Just Watched Izzi Boye's review and read the comments and I am not impressed with the freepods.

The blatant corruption at the Immigration Office in Delta State.

I went to the immigration office yesterday to apply for a new passport.

At the gate, the officer at the outside entrance asked me who I was there to see. I mentioned the name of the woman who I'd come to see. I got inside, and the two officers at the front desk repeated the same question. I gave those officers the same answer and was directed to the woman's office.

I got to the office of the woman I was there to see and presented my documents to her. She took them and gave them to a cafe attendant in a caravan outside the building.

I was asked to bring ₦1,000 to verify my NIN. I paid and waited. The lady, Esther, printed out a document with my details on it and asked me to verify that they were correct. I confirmed that they were.

After spending 10 mins arranging my document alongside those of another applicant, she told me to make payment.

Esther called the woman who had given her my documents and confirmed the price of the 32 pages, 5 years passport as ₦60,000. I paid via POS and paid an extra ₦700 in charges.

I did my interview that day and was given another day to come for capturing. Only for me to get home and discover that the price of the passport online was ₦35,000. Those people collected an extra ₦25,000 on my head.

I am pissed at the corruption in Nigeria. This incident has made me give up on Nigeria.

Is there any way I can report to a senior official of the Immigration department?

Channah1:
I need a quality earbud that will last long.
Please help me recommend a good product.

Thanks.

My QCY T13 earbuds will be one year old this month or next.

The entire thing is durable, both the earbuds themselves and the pack.

At around midnight today, I started receiving SMS debit alerts on my phone for SMS charges.

When I looked at the description, I noticed that some of these charges were for months in 2021 and some even in 2020.

I was confused.

I calculated the total sum debited from my account today, which was ₦1084. It was very annoying.

I went on Twitter, and I saw that I was not the only one affected.

I have attached screenshots of those it happened to on Twitter. There are many, many more.

If this happened to you today, also post yours.

atheistandproud:


Yes and yes.

Thanks for your response.

Do you by chance have the same opinion about the Redmi Note 9 Pro?

atheistandproud:


Open your Telegram app and search for

@thephotographyacademy

Hello atheistandproud

I need your expert opinion.

Is the note 10 Pro a good buy?

Does the screen really withstand small falls? @

anonymousey:


I think you need to be realistic with your expectations, especially with that budget.

By the way, any watch with that budget or less than 75k said to come with blood pressure monitor is likely not true. Even watches costing $200 and above from industry giants like Samsung, Huawei and Withings still struggle with that feature and accuracy. Just saying...

For that budget maybe look at Mi Band 4 or 5, Haylou Smartwatch 2 LS02.

Thanks

anonymousey:


What's your budget?
And what features are you looking for?

I want something between 8 to 13k

I want it to have small bezels if possible.

Overall, I just want it to be fine.

If it has Blood pressure checker than that would be cool too

anonymousey:


Ok. Will be expecting

You know anything about smartwatches?
Which can you recommend?

Bukswag:
Oraimo freepods 3 or the Qcy T13
Please which of these two would you consider a better buy?

Still using my QCy T13,

A great experience all round.

If you want to save your money get the QCY

If you want to spend the same amount of money for the absolute best, get the edifier TWS 1 pro

SagirmohH:
So i've been using a crappy phone for almost a year now (Gionee S10L) and even though it had a sizable amount of ram (6gb) and a fair amount of storage space(64gb), I had been experiencing lags and sometimes the phone freezes completely.

When I finally decided to buy get a phone, I wanted an upper tier midranger, but had so many options, including the samsung galaxy a52, a72, Oppo a93, realme and redmi. I compared the hell outta the phones and when i was ready, the redmi note 10 was the only one that had all of what i wanted (at least out of the ones I selected).

Anyways I got the phone yesterday and so far it has been superb.

To think that someone was advising me to get an infinix note 8 and enjoy 'peace'�.

As far as specs go, it came with 6gb ram, 128gb rom, with a 60hz refresh rate (some say it's 90 though, but you're sure not to notice if you're not a tech-head). Will update the thread as the days go by.
If you already have the RN10, kindly share hour experience here as well as tips so we can all learn.

Oh...and i got it for 102,000 naira in Abuja.

How is the performance now?

Have you noticed any problems with the phone?

Pussy-erected structure

dauddy97:
Eeya sorry about it. I had it and everything is story now. Just follow my post on the first page. After I used what was recommended to me by Nairalanders, I came back years after to summarise what I used for the cure. Don't worry, it will definitely go.

Thanks for your post.

I bought the Anusol and the Chinese cream based on your recommendation.

I saw that you posted about freezing the Anusol. How do you do that? Do you put the Anusol tube into the freezer?