She just wanted to sound smart. I've noticed unintelligent people usually throw big words around,words they have no understanding of,just go feel/look smart. She was also in another comment,saying men have children outside too but women are the ones we always Blame. Like how does a Seemingly sane person not see the difference between that and Paternity fraud?
A Man came online recently to reveal that his 2 children of 20 years ago are both not his,he posted the DNA results to confirm.
A Female Albert Einstein came on Twitter and said maybe the case is a "chimera case", that's their new excuse now. Another one on Facebook said maybe the DNA results are incorrect. Like how can a DNA TEST done 2 times on two different laboratories be incorrect
... Or they say, "maybe the babies were swapped or mixed up in the hospital after delivery"... (That's the ultimate hat-trick). Lol.
Why feign ignorance of the details of the issue? Wike's help was open and more intense than those of all these others you mentioned. In addition, Wike is not playing any godfather over Obaseki. This godfatherism narrative of Obaseki is already stale as the world can now see that he only uses it to excuse his non-performance, greed and desire to dominate. Now that there is supposedly no godfather figure over him in Edo State, go take a tour around the state and see for yourself the stagnation, spate of abandoned projects, spate of deterioration of the few roads he did in his first term, insecurity on account of his refusal to, despite receiving security vote regularly, pay salaries to members of the Edo Vigilante Force which he himself set up, and numerous other failures. Even Wike's current remarks that he is an MOU governor is an attestation to his non performance. It took him six years to complete a motor park. Gelegele Seaport promise is a closed chapter, no single harvest so far from the Usugbenu and Sobe Settlement Farms he sank over N3bn into since 2017. These were the things he was questioned about by his former party and he capitalized on the gullibility and simple mindedness of some ignorants to allege an attempt at controlling him. But God so kind, most of those who fell for that cheap lie are now in regret as kidnapping, bad roads, armed robbery, have become their lots in addition to them being levied by their home communities towards recruitment of teachers and security guards for the primary and secondary schools in their localities. Then what Wike is particularly miffed at is the fact that despite conceding both governor and vice to the new PDP at the point of their entry, after election, Obaseki gave all political appointments to his new PDP caucus in defiance of the earlier agreement which Wike was witness to. As if that is not enough, he proceeded to start asking to have party executive positions shared between the new and old PDP after he himself refused to share appointments with old PDP. Where on earth does that happen? Put yourself in Wike's shoes and see if you would tolerate half of that. It was exactly the same thing he did in APC and got sent out.
Insightful.
NOTE: Gelegele River Port is on the Benin River, so it is a River Port NOT a Seaport.
Aside from the Lekki Deep Seaport which is the first and ONLY Nigerian Seaport, all other ports from Lagos to Calabar are River Ports because they are located on Rivers.
ModestGal: So today,I heard of the death of veteran actor, babasuwe, may his soul rest in peace. Thiss saame today, I read about people donating for davido to clear his car
So since,I'm a lil bit not busy today, I decided to dig deeper into the actors death. I found out that few years back he was asking for funds to be treated, and unfortunately,he wasn't able. All this man wanted was an opportunity to be healthy again to be able to work and reach more of his goals. Meanwhile,the other person wanted to clear car and he was able to get all the funds within hours, hmmm.
What vexed me most is the broke people sending 1k,2k for someone to clear car, hmmm. And some in the comments, trying to defend the stupidity, are saying, you can't tell people what they use their money for, and that davido help them go through something,lol. And someone even said it's the work of government to help people, not the work of rich men, etc
Now, going back to the story of how this man got sick, it was in the hand of Nigerian NDLEA for arresting someone without evidence and touturing him, just because he was suspected of carrying cocaine, and the machine making a sound,lol. Even animals won't be treated like this in a white manss land
You know, sometimes,I want to attack white people for seeing black people as animals, but the more I try to proof them wrong, the more black people act that they are right.
Why won't Africa SUNK, when the only thing RICH men do is donate to the RICH, and use their money to buy made in AMERICA. Dollar to naira is about #400, it means you have to work 400times more to be able to purchase these designer items and cars. Now tell me,why won't thiss people have several jobs? Why won't they have more money?
Now to the dumb people, saying you can't dictate what people use their money for or who they have decided to give their money to in order to defend the donations given to DAVIDO and that it's the job off the government to help people with enabling environment BLA BLA BLA. Do you think it's the government that ownss all this organizations abroad giving people items? I have more than 5organizationss calling me so they can deliver food for me,I had to say no and Cancel several, because I don't know most of those foods. People donate ALL the time to these organizations, I want to repeat again, PEOPLE DONATE ALL the time, some people GIVE everything, and rich people and business owners DONATES all the time, as well as churches,mosques, etc. All these companies DONATES all the time, and this is no joke. Having worked in some companies, they already have section for the foods they are giving out,if they are food companies, clothing companies, etc. DONATION is a normal thing, and companies brag about this. Individuals donate all the time Community SERVICE is a normal thing,and companies even use that to attract workers for employment You can't be in CANADA hungry, even if you are ILLEGAL. You can't walk into organizations and not get food,clothing's, etc. What I mean is that,it is not possible for you not to get foods. These are not government owned, some are individually owned,some are own by CHURCHES, MOSQUES, Group of people, Companies, communities etc. They are like MTN, everywhere you GO, you will meet food banks everywhere.
It doesn't mean if you are a Muslim and you walk in into church food bank, you won't get food, or if you are a Christian and you walk into Muslim food bank, you won't get food. You will get and be RESPECTED, even if you wear RAGS, And you look like mad person. They will treat you with utmost respect. And they do free HOME DELIVERIES.
If there's a place religious centers shouldn't exist, it is in Nigeria, because they are completely USELESS to the community. And it's same Nigeria where Religious centers has no benefits than to make noise in our ears, people go church pass. I don't think members of these religious center even understand it's possible they get something back in return. They just want to worship their pastors and Alfa and they are blessed,,lol. Incase you don't keep, thee life expectancy in Nigeria is so low, this means that more old people, healthy ones full Canada pass Nigeria. You see very old people walking in the streets, old couples holding hands, inside bus, everywhere. I didn't even know old people even exist this much, all of them don die finish for Nigeria. People wey go Church pass
Then there's THRIFT STORES, where you can buy CHEAP, you see people taking things to thrift stores to donate. But in Nigeria, you will see those items floating in rivers, instead of them to give people,it had rather waste and flow on rivers. See how Lagos is dirty, likewise all the CITIES in Nigeria. I know na government you go blame. Nigerians are dirty people, take it or leave it
White people buying designers, and big cars, are buying it cheap. If they buy Royce rolls at $330,000, it's just like buying something at #330,000 in naira to them. Their celebrities buying those things are buying it cheap, because they earn directly in dollars,so it's not a big deal
But Nigerians want to match buying what people buy cheaply. You want to wear Gucci, Aldo, do big parties etc. Go to designer stores here, it's just like you are buying coke and fanta, not expensive at all to people earning in Dollars, but because you want to impress your friends and you had the chance to get money through corruption, you want to match with people earning in dollars. Continue providing job for them, okay. They will use it to better thier streets and life, and continue to see blacks as slaves.
Come to Naira land,and you still see people who calls others Ogbanje, wife spirit, etc. Time they are supposed to be thinking of how to solve problems. People still write, "since I meet my girl, I have been unsuccessful, money has been running away from me, is my wife a witch? I think I am possessed, is my wife possessed? My pastor said this and that, I see future. Na Africa Dem dey see future past them never see good technology to develop. Ridiculous, backward thinking people. When others are progressing, black people, just want to heeld on to superstitious, unreasonable dumb beliefs and thinking. Time they are supposed to be working hard, na night vigil. Here people work overnight all the time, companies don't sleep, people are busy working, researching,etc
You go vigil 7days a week, and you are complaining of poverty. which time to take use work. When majority of the population are like this, because I was never like that,and I know people who are forward thinking, and not religiously stupid as well, but they are just 5% of the population, and the 5% of us no fit do anything, because the 95% carry the votes and how the country look like trust me in 50 years time, Africans will still be behind. And by that time, 1 dollar will be equal to 1million naira. I won't marry a Nigerian because of this reason, so I can wash away stupidity ands dumbility from my lineage
@Modestgal, You made some valid points here, but I disagree with your nightmare scenario projections... Whaaat?! $1 to N1 million... Kilode gan? Lol.
Note: Most humans are followers who prefer to be led by capable leaders. So the 5% of folks who you rightly admited are few but forward thinking have to strategically position themselves in the society to lead the majority who prefer to be led with innovative thinking!
Get innovative leaders like Obafemi Awolowo, GCFR, SAN of the 1950s to the 1980s Nigeria, or Lee Kuan Yew of the 1960s to 2000s in Singapore, or Paul Kagame of Rwanda of 2022. Period.
Are you also implying here that you have "dumbility" (sic) in your family lineage? For real?
Niflheim: The black race has successfully been diagnosed by the white man during slavery. They are uncivilized and hardly use their brain!!!
While I agree that some people have an unambitious attitude towards goal-setting and innovation, You're speaking in absolute terms here.
There are still many Africans who are self-aware and have leadership and creative abilities otherwise there would have been a total collapse of Continental Africa's values.
Race (just like weddings) is a social construct. Based on DNA analyses, all humans are 99.99% genetically similar. So in modern human genomic studies, there's nothing like black, white or yellow races.
Draslo: I'm a single guy with many recently/long-time married friends. Don't get me wrong I also have loads of single/dating guys as buds.
Now to the main matter, Yoruba people say 'afarawe ma n payan'. To explain, it simply translates into comparing oneself with someone else will most likely land you in trouble. Married guys should never expect to continue living like their single buds!
Many of my friends are in the age range of 28-32. Now, for us the single guys, we're free birds. The married guys, na we sef dey ginger dem to go home if we're out flexing. Not being homophobic but all my guys are straight as arrows. I currently have more than one woman in my life that my guys refer to as my babe, same for almost all of us, married and unmarried.
I have been studying my married friends with side chics for a long time and to be honest, I've learned way too much. From splitting finances to constant lying to the wife (sometimes we gats lie for them too to make it look legit ).
Why I'm writing this is because my recently married (and recent daddy) guy's sidechic told someone I'm acquainted with (jokingly) that she'd poison mother and child to have baba all to herself.
Guys if you're recently married in your late 20s or early 30s, just stick to your wife cause that your sidechic who is likely to be in the same age range of your wife will see her not as your wife but serious competition. Men in their late 40s to 60s who are sugar daddies (big gods) to small sidechics are not exactly exempted but their wives are a lot safer.
A word is enough for the wise.
Lol... You made sense. However, sidechics who are drunk in love can blackmail and/or eliminate the wives of men who are in their 40s to 60s as well.
raphretle: We had some technical faults which affected the flow of water to the second floor of the house we live in.. One has to go down to get water to use... So my neighbour told me his girlfriend Used the toilet but refused to flush it, claiming she can't subject herself to that kinda stress to get water.. This guy only comes to my room to complain but he can't tell it to her face... He seems to be afraid of her.
For three days now, she does the shitting while he does the flushing...
Another Thing is, this guy is a type of Person that if you tell him something about that his girlfriend, he will end Up telling her.....
Prayfortheworld: My sister is 24 she have thesame mentality with your sister and honestly is eating me up.
My sister has never worked before in her life, she ask my mom or me for money.. she can't buy anything for herself if you didn't buy it for her, everything she's wearing are mostly clothes i bought for her and she's still using the phone my mom bought for her 2018
I've adviced her but nothing dy enter her head. She's in higher institution I go through her phone always she's a decent girl but she don't have that hustling spirit in her. I'm just scared for her because i don't want her to suffer in her marriage. though she don't ask men for Money instead she ask me or my mom I'm tired the burden is too much. Someone that should be helping the family by now. Sometimes i just wish my mom gave birth to just me and our last born
You've done well so far. No man wants a woman who is a liability as well.
Now... She should get trained in entrepreneurial skills such as cake baking, make-up, events decor or Social Media marketing, etc.
There are training programs you can find online and offline.
Brighton1: My post might be lengthy, but Pls read because I need advice.
I've been living in Lagos for 5yrs now, even before the death of my father (R.I.P). I lost my dad 4yrs ago. I'm the eldest and I have two younger ones. I'm a contractor.
My mom and my siblings are based in ekpoma edo state. I call them regularly, I advice them, I send them money for up-keep, I visit home once in a while. I play both role of a father and elder bro to my siblings. I don't want them feel the absence of my father.
My construction team got a contract at Auchi, it was an opportunity for me to visit home often.
My younger sister is a 300L student in AAU. She is 22yrs old, she don't read, she's always on social media (tik tok & Co.) Nobody can touch her phone, if my lil bro wants to browse something important or play game with her phone, she will just be screaming at him as if Ogun is about to strike her... Don't touch my phone o, drop it down.
Even the phone (iPhone 7) I was the one who gave it to her when I bought my current phone (Samsung). I promised my lil bro he shouldn't worry, as soon as I get paid for the job I'm currently working on, I will get him a phone before I travel back to Lagos.
Okay, Yesterday I only said, now that ASUU is on strike, find something to do, get busy, learn a skill, even if it's fashion designing, make-up or catering.
She was just giving me flamzy excuses, and the annoying part is she will be raising her voice while talking to me. I almost used a belt to flog her if not for my mom that held me.
My father's house is a bungalow, and we have a tanent, Anytime I receive the house rent (200k yearly) I send everything to my mother. My mom would be like I should hold some for myself but I said NO, they need it more.
AAU school fees is now x4 compared to what I paid back then when I was there. Yet I'm the one providing 80% of her school fees while my mom 20%.
My Lil bro who's just 18 yrs old is more hardworking than her, he goes to my mom's shop to help her out, he's learning how to cut hair and he plays instruments very good (piano & bass guitar). He plays for a church that pays him 5k per week (he plays weds & sun for the church). I pray uniben grant him admission this year.
My father was a nice man, he disciplined us and his death won't change that. I want him to be proud of me wherever he is now.
Nairaland family, I need your advice. My sister depend so much on the money I give her. I don't want her to be a leech.
The brains of young people are still developing till the age of 25. The part of the brain that is responsible for social skills are still developing.
Do not beat her, just talk to her by letting her choose one of two options, and let her know the negative implications of not being self-aware or taking responsibility.
However, let her get trained in entrepreneurial skills online and offline.
Great vid insights, the problem actually started not from the Bill Clinton Presidency, but when the US dollars was removed from the gold standard in the early 1970s. Some people also do not realise that in 1974, New York went bankrupt... But later recovered!
So we live in a world of business and economic cycles... Cycles of boom and bust. America will rise economically again if things go south in 2022 because of gasoline price increases and inflation.
Built2last: The Emir of Kano has a good case against Air Peace but his palace official me$$ed up everything with his misplaced entitlement mentality.
His complaint was a rightous one but the remedy he sought from Air-Peace was undeniably wrong.
If Air Peace delayed their Banjul (Gambia) to Lagos flight by over an hour which made them arrive behind schedule for the Lagos-Kano flight, as alleged in the petition to the NCAA which Air Peace statement did not refute, then the Emir and his people were justified in expressing anger. And Air-Peace ought to be held accountable because the Emir and his entourage DID NOT deliberately arrive late for their 6:15am Lagos-Kano flight. The Air-line caused their lateness by delaying their Banjul-Lagos flight for whatever reason.
I hold the view that it is high time Airlines (I mean, all of them) were held responsible for cases of delayed flight or cancellation except in unavoidable cases such as bad whether or other safety reasons.
The problem in this case is, what the Emir reportedly asked Air-Peace to do as a remedy for delaying their Banjul-Lagos flight was to delay a Lagos-Kano first flight (which was already about taking off) for almost an hour to enable them join.
If Air-Peace had given in to that demand, it would have been akin to punishing innocent Kano-bound passengers just to assuage the good Emir and his entourage. I'm constrained to agree with Air-Peace that doing that would have exposed the revered traditional ruler to ridicule because the passengers would have surely revolted on seeing that a mere mortal was the reason they were kept waiting for an extra hour with its attendant losses in terms of missed appointments, meetings etc.
Solution to delayed flight cannot be to delay another flight. How can you keep people going about their businesses in an early morning first flight for a whole one hour just because you are waiting for one human being??
The claim that Air-Peace disrespected the Emir and by extension, the people of Kano is devoid of merit, in my opinion. That's unnecessary incitement and dog-whistling. And to think this claim was made even after the Airline had offered to put them in the 7am Lagos-Abuja flight from where they would be taken to Kano AT NO EXTRA COST makes it even more disappointingly appalling.
Had the Emir's complaint focused only on calling on the NCAA to make Air-Peace account for delaying their Banjul-Lagos flight for over one hour, it would have served the public more.
Interesting insights.
NOTE: Give due credit to the Facebook "Source" of the original article.
cutecommend: Looking for a decent girl today is not as so easy. We have decent and God-fearing ladies, and we have many ladies who have sex. Before you meet your wife, she might have had several sexual partners, probably met bad guys, probably done lots of bad stuff.... You will just have to close your eyes, ignore the past and move to marry her like that...
ceejayluv: With high exchange rate and high import bills, imported goods prices skyrocket. The higher costs of machinery, raw materials, etc. Are passed down to the consumers who in turn raise prices of their goods/services to meet up with higher cost of living. That's just one angle of the crisis though
There's a lot of "artificial inflation" due to hoarding of commodities by the greedy traders who want to make wild profits from price differentials.
Commodity arbitrage is not a bad thing in entirety, but the greed from hoarders mixed with insecurity in key agribusiness spots, Covid-19 lockdown effects, and international geopolitical events have led to a vortex of rapid price movements. Period.
1. I just support her the little way I can. I never paid her school fees while she was in school I just gave her pocket money not more than 10k and it happens only once every 1-2 months
2. They dread their dad so much cos he is a retired soldier, the fear also rubbed on me on the long run. he just knows me as his daughter's friend. We haven't got that opportunity to discuss intimately yet. Her mum na my padi, I speak to her freely. Unlike her dad
3. I'm not sure. I think they should be responsible for all their own finances. More reason why I'm asking questions, make I no go marry person wey go dey carry money dash their people while I expenses go dey choke me.
4. No sir, she isn't. I am also a graduate, and was fortunate to venture into a booming business after graduation in 2014. I'm also not ugly or handicapped in anyway (I'm sorry if you are a handicap reading this, this is not to spite you in anyway) she's certainly not doing me a favour being in the relationship.
Reading your opening piece, I think the way you presented your perspective may be the problem for her.
You come across as someone who's well to do and as a result, she thinks you should be responsible financially every step of the home front cause it's easy for you.
You said you asked her what her responsibilities would be, not where or how she can help. Responsibility means duty in this scenario for her and not filling-in when there's a need
Hence, she's highly unlikely to contribute to major recurring expenses like rent, school fees, feeding, cable, water, electricity, and medical procedures.
As a man, I personally would like to be able to handle all that myself no matter what. (circumstances permitting). I'm sure you intend to yourself.
I'll tell you an open secret, your mom, her mom, my own mom, and the majority of the women out there purchase almost everything needed to run the kitchen themselves. Except the budget for food, the women who earn something would contribute most of the things that prepares a meal. Maybe not at the very beginning of the marriage, but with time they'll shoulder the majority because everybody wants to be responsible for something. And they'll buy all the little things that the kids need without the husband knowing.
If you sense she won't do any of the above then I'm afraid she's immature about what constitutes marriage. Like the one that'll ask you to buy toothpaste and body cream for the family while she earns.
Because I don't expect that you'll spill water on the floor and wait for her to come home before it'd be taken care of.
Modified: just to emphasize, you don't have to invest in her business before you can expect her to help any way she can financially. That's why common SENSE is the most important thing to look for in any human being. People who are too set in their ways and beliefs don't see the bigger picture.
Let me ask you, is she the type that buys you stuffs...expensive gifts or things according to her pocket....if yes then go ahead but if no then it's a huge red flag she will deal with your sorry ass when the land isn't green or when she is financially secured, better use that money for yourself.... A man shouldering responsibilities alone is what has sent many men yo their early grave due to HBP, stress and nagging from the woman.... Evaluate your options well, most ladies change for the worse when they get married except of course if she truly loves you.....again I feel you flaunted a lot of cash before her....check well man
Anoymus: I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal. Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks
Woah! Lol.
What part of Nigeria or Africa are you and your folks from?
So women don't make even small financial household contributions in your ethnic culture?
Your gut instinct is right though, so invest in yourself first. She has to do something however small even if you are a Billionaire IMHO.
Lol. Here we go again. Even an Igbo who has lived in Lagos for 200 years will never tell the truth about Lagos if doing such gives credit to her Yoruba administrators.
You will always lie and dispute verified facts, as you do crediting China for the LFTZ, to deprive credit to those who deserve it because of hate and envy of Yorubas and their leaders like Awolowo, Abiola, Tinubu, Fashola, Sanwo-Olu etal.
We know you lot. Imagine some bull crap about friends in Fashola's government. Save that garbage for your upper Iweka beer parlour where it belongs.
Whether you like it or not, LFTZ, of which the deep sea Port is an integral part, was an idea conceived by Lagos during the administration of Tinubu who was and remains obsessed with Lagos becoming a nation-State free of dependence on Federal Government allocation.
Tinubu that you Igbos love to hate is the brain behind the LFTZ. Perhaps it will become clearer to naive and ignorant Yorubas soon, i.e those helping you to target Tinubu, why you people hate BAT so much. Imagine trying to discredit universally accepted fact because of hatred.
Lol @Dsalvo, thumbs up for schooling that dweeb and taking him to the cleaners after he told a blatant LIE (laced with hate speech) that Tinubu's administration did not initiate the Lekki Port project. He even lied that he knows a person in the then Fashola Lagos administration.
When you provided evidence here that Tinubu indeed initiated the project (in partnership with Tolaram Group of Singapore) just like myself and other pure-minded people know full well from back in the day, he tried to divert attention from his lies that you EXPOSED. If he had apologised and admited his blatant lie, he would have earned my respect. But this is a further eye-opener to the extent some Ibo people can go towards wishing failure and undermining others. Imagine that level of blind hate on an open forum!
Even before Nairaland was formed in 2005 by Seun, I've been seeing lots of targeted blind hate and falsehoods towards other Nigerian ethnicities on many Ibo-owned secessionist websites.
That ethnic bigot is one of the Ibos who go around like headless chickens giving his folks East of the River Niger a BAD image on NL and other platforms. Onne river port and Onitsha river port are available for the Ibos to use yet this creep and 2 others like him only came here to display their stupidity and hate towards the developments in another part of Nigeria!
He forgot while trolling and talking trash about the economy of Lagos State that pre-1900, Lagos has always been a hub of international sea trade before British colonialism, and lies on the West Coast of Africa with natural deep ocean depths in Ibeju-Lekki and Badagry. This is the comparative advantage that Lagos has from back in the day!
Ogun State has the highest number of industries in Nigeria ahead of Lagos - so they depend on the Lagos ports for the containerised cargo imports and exports!
Lagos is the ICT hub of Nigeria, so with more STEM investments, Lagos and the rest of Nigeria will weather the post-oil era. But real diversification must take place too in all sectors of Lagos and Nigeria.
So for that dweeb and liar who openly wished a worse-case-scenario on Lagos and Yorubas on this NL thread, he will fail, and in FACT he has failed!
Cyntie55: https://www.nairaland.com/6906383/younger-brother-bone-throat-pls Good evening Nairalanders. Last year, I created the above thread, how my younger brother set 70k on fire, some people did not believe me. But Thank God that 3 nairalanders saw the video evidence when they PM me and I hope they come across this thread so they could testify. I also want to thank everyone for the great and helpful advice.
Although, ever since then, he has been maintaining his lane, he barely talks to me, he greets my dad like he's being forced to greet. And am not happy with his lifestyle, he's my only brother and I need advice pls.
My brother is into yahoo yahoo, he comes home late at night (12 or 1am), sometimes he won't return home till the next day, he keeps wayward friends, he drinks alcohol, he smokes and do drugs {I haven't caught him red-handed smoking, but I'm not a child, his eyes are always red and dim}
My brother is a 2'1 graduate in Economics dept. From uniben. He's refused to get a job... Okay let assume there is no job in Nigeria, my dad's friend offered him a job in Lagos he refuse to go, learn a skill or trade he refused... Okay further your education {probably masters or professional courses} he refused.
We're neither rich nor poor, just an average family. My dad make sure we don't lack basic amenities. There is a roof over our head, he sent us to school, there's always food at home, he advice us despite he's not educated but as a traditional man he's full of wisdom.
Am concerned about my brother because of the high rate of ritual killings and yahoo plus whatever.... Am scared and worried, I don't want my brother to be involved in such crime.
Right now as am typing, my brother is not at home, I don't even know my brother's whereabouts. If one ask me where is your brother? I can't vague of his whereabouts but he returns home very late, sometimes till the next day.
Sometimes our parents are not to be blame for the evil and atrocities done by their children in our society, Honestly some children are from the pit of hell.
My dad has done his best but no changes, he has washed his hands away from his life but deep down I know he's not happy. Nairalanders please, how do I advice my brother.
Pavore9: The so called pastor is not even Nigerian! To mimick how Nigerians talk is a past time for Kenyans! A popular Kenyan comedian known as Dr. Ofweneke communicates his jokes in Nigerian accents many Kenyans even find it difficult to believe he is Kenyan!
peterincredible: Bros what happened to you as called astral projection I have also experienced it now am teaching myself how to have it at will it doesn't have anything to do with religion go and read this book called "journey out of the body" by Robert Monroe and even in the US their is a school called "Monroe institute" where they teach people how to astral project and I tell you if you can learn to astral project at will you will understand that human are multi dimensional beings and you will learn first hand from other beings and entities about the power of we human have and also that the concept of hell and heaven is a big joke of the century
Yup! Nicely put.
From centuries back till now, many folks of all backgroundshave had Near-Death Experiencies and this has led many of them away from the dogmas of the orthodox religions that use the fear-factor for mass control.
Faithymatt: 1. Why A students work for C students and why B students work for the government by Robert Kiyosaki- this book opened my eyes to the true meaning of financial independence and how to achieve it no matter what your career choice is. If you're someone who isn't open to changing their beliefs about money, don't bother reading this book. It'll be a waste of time.
2. Think and Grow Rich! by Napoleon Hill- this.book.is.gold!! I don't want to overhype it or anything, but this book shows you that you can actually think your way to riches. We were created with the most powerful tool in the world, but less than half of us actually know about it's power, and less than half of the half who know actually use it. Want to think your way to riches? Grab a copy of this book today.
3. Sell like crazy by Sabri Suby: this book is good for people who actually have something to sell but are struggling with finding their ideal customers who need their products and can afford them. Read this if you want to boost your profit and sell like crazy.
4. The art of closing a sale by Brian Tracy: this book teaches how to sell to people, and not just sell, but close them. Because really how can you say you've sold something if the deal isn't closed? closing is the final stage of selling. Want to take your prospects from "hey I'm interested in your product." to "shut up and take my money", then you should read this book ASAP
5. How to sell to Nigerians: this one is specific to the Nigerian community. As a business owner whose target audience are Nigerians, you should definitely grab a copy of this book by Akin Alabi. Here, he breaks down the sales process of selling to Nigerians and how to ensure you make profit on every naira you invest in your business.
There a lot more books you can read on money, sales, and marketing, but my point is that you need to pick up the habit of reading. It'll save you time, money, and effort. Like I always say, reading is like getting all the information it took someone 10 years to gather in a few days, who wouldn't want that?
Start reading a book everyday from today, it's what successful people do.
PS: you can download these books from zlibrary or pdfdrive
Awesome list.
I've read 2 of the 5 books on the list from back in the day.
I first read the hard copy of the timeless classic "Think and Grow Rich" in the late 1990s.
I like your boldness in asking the questions that were bugging your mind in your first or original post. Some young ones here on the thread tried to distract you with negative posts, but I saw how you responded to some of them without letting them put you down.
When you "ask," the Universe will send positive answers to you if you are willing to "receive" them!
In addition, if you can't easily buy or lay your hands on the hard copy of the book by Norman Pearle that I recommended to you in my last post in your city of residence, just copy the full book title into the search box of => Pdfdrive.com and see if you can download a free PDF copy of the book on your laptop or mobile device.
Keep in touch, let me know how things go with the book and I can share more solid tips with you later.
tinz: First u need understand every business is a long term venture. U need understand the risk involved in business before going into it. You can either lose your money, make profit this are the two possible way a business can turn out.
From my experience, in 2011 at 24 yrs was my first keke I bought which cost about 350k then. Gave it to a guy who ended up having a serious accident with it making me to loose my cash . Fast forward 2017 I bought a bus about 700k gave it to someone who ended up not remitting as we agreed I ended up selling the bus.
Fast forward 2018 started a business a restaurant precisely, at first I got disappointed but with consistency, sacrifice, hard work, starvation and prayer. It finally started making sense, Raking in about 250k profit after expenses.
Fast forward 2018 December, bought a car for taxify everything working fine .
My advice for u is you should try having a side hustle before venturing into any business as business is really a risky journey. Also I would advice you go for a car Toyota precisely due to it resale value or Hyundai elantra 2010 version or a Honda civic 2005 version. But for a keke except you are very convinced that the rider won't fall ur hand oh but I doubt because Nigerians are mostly not worth helping
Facts. No one on this topic posted that all Arochukwu lineages came from Abiriba (or Edda).
It is well documented that Aro lineages came from different areas. For example, I am a direct descendant of the indigenous Ibibio/Efik people of Arochukwu. Some Aro families are said to have came from Amasiri, Ibom Isii lineage originally came from the East of the Cross River, etc.
Obong Okon Ita isn't a clan but the Chief of the Ibibio tribe in Ibom present day Arrochukwu and environs. Was betrayed by his half brother, slaves and settlers. Obong means Chief Obot can be said to a hill, rock mountain
BiafraBushBoy: When it comes to planning, strategy, and tactics, only one board has all these in one – and that is Chess!
Chess players are considered intelligent and strategic, which has made the game one of the most difficult board games ever. It has been used as a stimulant for great warriors who went to war when it comes to planning war strategies.
We all know that life is warfare, and there is so much we can learn when it comes to playing chess.
At the end of this post, two things will happen;
- You will want to learn chess
- You will learn to apply some chess rules to your everyday life.
I started playing chess a few years ago, and it has really affected the way I lived my life – most likely positively.
Still thinking about what could be the life lessons to learn from playing chess?
5 Secret Life Lesson to Learn from Playing Chess
Playing chess is fun, but there are one or two lessons you can learn from it. What are they?
1.You learn the basics before playing
You can’t win a chess game without learning the basic moves. To be able to even win a chess game, you must understand how chess is played and other simple moves.
What this means
Skill acquisition is very necessary for life. Especially as a Nigerian, without skill, you are as good as finished – unless you have the connections.
In this last post, I listed out some simple skills that can make you so much money. Thanks, goodness that lots of people responded, and they are getting trained already. It isn’t too late to acquire any of those skills and start your journey towards financial freedom.
2. You develop yourself before Advancing
In chess, you have to develop your minor pieces before you advance. Development means taking control of the center of the board. In most cases, whoever takes control of the board center has a higher chance of winning the game;
What this means
Personal development is important in helping you succeed in life. You must develop yourself in your key areas before you are able to move forward in life.
Skill acquisition is also one of the ways to develop your life. The more skills you have like;
Soft skills (Analytical thinking, ability to work under pressure, Oratory, etc)
Hard Skills (Graphics Design, Web App Dev, Mobile App Dev, etc)
All of these will position you to advance far in life without obstacles.
3. Learn to Exchange sometimes
In the game of chess, at some point, you have to exchange pieces just to move the game forward. This is usually set up by those who feel they are in a stronger position.
What this means
You can’t have everything in life. Sometimes you need to use what you have to get what you don’t have. It musn’t be in a bad way only, there are other ways to make exchanges that isn’t immoral. As long as it favors you, go ahead with the exchange.
Think of when buying someone’s idea or investing in an already existing business. Always use what you have to get what you don’t have!
4. Always protect your assets
Your most valuable piece on the board is your king. For safety, the king is hidden in a move called “Castling”. This will help protect the king from danger.
What this means
Identify your valuable assets and never lose them. They might be the skills you’ve acquired, your money, or knowledge.
No matter what happens, always protect those assets that are valuable to you. Never lose them for anything.
5. Think before you leap
Aside from the opening stages, it takes an average of 1 minute or more for a chess player to figure out the next step to take. This helps to curb failure and improve chances of winning.
What this means
How many times have you sat down to think about the possible outcome of any move you decide to make in life. Critical reasoning breeds success, and that is one of the foundations of success in life.
Bonus
Keep fighting till the end
As long as the king isn’t checkmated yet, you haven’t lost. Keep looking for escape routes to force a draw.
What it means
It simply means don’t give up till you can no longer breath. As long as there is life, there is HOPE.
Thank you so many guys; If you are interested in learning a skill that can help you achieve so much in life in terms of finances, I have a recommendation for you.
GRAPHICS DESIGN
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BiafraBushBoy: If you need to know the mindsets every graduate should have, then you need to see the movie “Wolf of Wall Street?”
If you haven’t, then you need to take a look at it as fast as you can. 2017 has almost ended, and it is time to take a look at career reviews.
Did you miss something? Did everything go as planned? Was there something you could have done better? Did you give up easily on something that would have been a life changer?
Now is the perfect time to review exactly how everything went and draw up plans that would project you in the coming year.
Is there a better mirror to use in the assessment? Yea! “The Wolf of Wall Street”
The movie pictured the life of Jordan Belfort, played by Leonardo DiCaprio, who rose to riches by selling crappy penny stocks as a Wall Street broker. He eventually lost all the money, riches, power that he had, and was sent to jail for over 3 years. Nowadays he is a Sales teacher, and the movie ended up making him a superstar.
Was the movie morally grounded? No!!! But was there something to learn from the life of this crook turned hero?
Let’s have a look at the mindsets every graduate should have and learn from the life of Jordan Belfort and his Wall Street Life.
Sometimes you should stoop to conquer
This should be one of the mindsets every graduate should have. Nobody wants to regress at any point in life. Just like every graduate out there, Jordan wanted to become a millionaire as fast as possible, and then he decided to work in a place (Wall Street) that would help him achieve that dream faster. His first day as a professional was when the stock market crashed.
Selling Blue-chip stocks at Wall Street was far easier as a professional as compared to selling penny stocks. Moving out of Wall Street to meet junkies who sell Penny stocks would be considered demotion to some other peeps, but In the case of Jordan, it wasn’t. He stooped down to zero and jumped to a very high altitude (Success)
You should have like-minded Friends
If you are success hungry and your friends are loafers, then things might not work out for you. This is an example of showing me your friend and I tell you who you are. It is either you bring them up to your level like Jordan Belfort did, or you discard them as fast as possible.
Learn the art of communication
Communication skill is highly imperative. From pitching your ideas to friends and investors, selling yourself to potential employers, to convincing people to buy your point of view, learning the art of communication is a must. To succeed in life generally, the art of effective communication is one of the mindsets every graduate should have.
Always learn to mind your own business
It wasn’t hard for Jordan to leave the Penny stock store and set up his own after a while. This was because he learnt that he needed to mind his own business. You will never become a millionaire minding someone else’s business. I am not asking you to leave your job immediately, but you should prepare the foundations as fast as possible.
There should always be a plan B
Jordan was indicted by the US government for stock fraud and was sent to jail for over 3 years. He had lost everything he had; Family, Power, and Money. He came out of jail a nobody. But was he going to wind down just like that?
How he quickly switched from being a stockbroker to becoming one of the best sales tutors in the world isn’t magic. It is all about having a Plan B. That is one of the mindsets every graduate should have and follow up on. There should always be a plan B!
Teaching sales might not make him rich as he was before, but it has gotten him enough to pay up most of his debts.
Till we meet again, do you think you can “Sell me this pen” and make me buy it?
Bye for now.
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