dasparrow:

@Bolded

I won't really worry about it because I am not addicted to sex nor do I have the demonic spirit of lust dwelling in me neither do I have a libido like yours that rivals the libido of a horse on Viagra or a dog on heat that you have to self service severally a day like typical sex addicts do. Besides, any man who is a perfect gentleman will know the right things to do to get wifey in the mood and how to pamper his wife and get her in the mood for love making.

However, when many of you Nigerian-bred men act like aggressive chimpanzees in the jungle with no iota of affection which is necessary to get ladies in the mood for love making, then why won't you be denied sex? You make a woman terribly angry during the day yet you want her to open her punany for you at night. It does not work that way. You don't assist in the home and allow your woman work herself to stupor and exhaustion and then you think you can come with your crappy looking, probably disease infested p*r*i*c*k and expect her to suddenly feel all mushy inside and wet down below that will facilitate easy entrance into her hole. It does not work that way because if a woman is not in the mood for sex, her punany will not be wet and penetration will be painful.

Educate yourself on the psychology of women and you will be fine.

PrettySpicey: You believe that 90% of women cheat. Before I continue, thank u for that 'myopic' observation.
Now this is my contribution, since u believe dat 90% of women cheat, I say u stick with her. Cos how possible will it be for u to find a woman from the remaining 10% non-cheating women?
Its gonna be a tough call.
N since she possesses IN FULL your 7 must have ladies qualities, I do believe she's just ur perfect match.
I'd like to finish by saying ... U don't know 90% of women, so ur 'little belief' is actually blind n baseless.

True NaijaBwoy:

The apology alone is simply not the easy recourse,,,, theres a lot of patching up to be done....2 of us have to dance the dance... the remorse is a start without it you dont have a team player!

I have always hated the idea of a divorce and shuddered when i made it known it was to be my recourse... but my actions have always offered the oppurtunity for her to realise i will forgive but i need to be recognised as the man of the house.... The Lord also confirmed a woman should recognise the man and he will show her respect!

Lifes lil mysteries

otokx: pls wait till after 2015, you can visit from time to time to feel the pulse.

50calibre: Returning home should depend on what is waiting for you at home. Weigh up the pros and cons before taking any decision.

Since you said you have a stable and comfortable life in South Africa and with a South African wife, then consider yourself lucky or accomplished as that is something many black people in south africa cant boast of, you are at least in the middle - upper echelon of the South African society, do you wanna throw that away and come battle unemployment, insecurity, lack of power supply, dangerous roads, corruption, erratic/unskilled/lazy/incompetent/foolish police?

Please returning home without a rock- solid long term plan is tantamount to suicide.

bornosheikh: You need to know that Pakistan and Nigerians are DNA twins separated by Okija Juju when they began squabbling over a bowl of garri. I once met one guy running a Forex in Athens, who said he was was half Pakistani-half Nigerian - at that point, I dropped my money and scampered from that place. Dat mixture be the handiwork of a banished angel.

victorian: At Op, try to remove your mind from the fact that your hubby bought a car for u , in his name.. The bottom line is , he bought a car for u to conveniently move around, take the kids to crèche or school without hassles. It's natural for one to buy his or her spouse such gifts, and not placing the receiver's name on the receipt..it's his money..that shouldn't bring up doubts abt his trust or love for you. Haven't u seen some homes, the husband will have fleet of cars but the dares not drive any, and they still live peacefully . Secondly, stop exchanging hot words or replying with snide remarks, when talking or laying yur ideas across. For your husband to say , all these... He is getting tired but that does not mean he wants to quit or that u shud quit.. He simply wants u to realize that he gradually turning his back and that u shud change some certain attitudes u cud av displayed at home.. All he wants, is for u to change your attitude at home and stop doing irritable things.
Think back, how u were behaving, while courting..and the things he use to mention that he admires abt you... Think back and retrace your steps..
Then about getting a job? Leave job out of it, due to sexual harrassments.,I will say buisness is better, like learning a skill alongside , the degree u av . A skill that will be compatible with your home, like dressmaking, interior decor, making of hairstyles etc. I know lots of housewives that are into these skills, packaged it in such a way that will make your hubby, friends and society at large proud of u .. Sell the idea of any of these skill to your husband and let him how serious u r and how u can be able to manage your home , kids with him.. Without anyone suffering.. Then with prayers , his heart will soften...
Best of luck, I hope it works.

cigar icon: Actually I wanted to keep this to myself but I just felt I should let it out. Sometimes I just wonder how some pple could pay back good for evil.
I remembered back then in lafia what I experienced that made me promise myself that I will never associate myself with a girl(although I have broken dat promise) I I was 16 tjen and dat was when nokia xpress music was reigning and I recently got one from my cousine (he has been lyk a blood broda to me). There was this girl whose house was close to ours so we were lyk neighbours. She saw the phone as I was flaunting it and begged me for an exchange with her 'I love' chinese phone, I reluctently agreed after much pleading from her so we agreed to use each others phone for a week. Our agreed day came for us to return our phone but she said mine droped from her hand and the screen cracked and its at the repaires place. I was very sad cos I bought dat phone for 17k as at dat time. I was never used to making ppl damage my property so I just told her to collect it from the repairer's place and give it to me like dat but she said how could she collect it when the repairer has already started working on it. I became worried and regreted why I fell for this poo in the first place.
Three weeks past and I was missing my phone so much so out of anger I went to her house hoping to report to her parents but unfortunately they were not in. We were in their palour and her brother was outside and this was the conversation that followed
Rita: I've told u when ur phone is done I will return it to you
Sam: but its over two weeks now
Rita: do u expect it to be repaired over night
Sam: but when I gave it to u it was in good shape (by this time I was furious)
Rita: so u want to fight me ba, (she started screaming, pulls up her skirt and also her blouse). Realising what was tgoing to come out of this I started begging, telling her not to do this and trying to pull down blouse (big mistake) instead she screamed even louder and before I could say joxer her younger broda who was outside rushed in and were shocked, one hausa elderly man just came towards me saying 'lahila a ilalahu' and b4 I could say tom I was landed a big blow on my mouth, the blow was so hard that I fell hitting my jaw on the arm of a cushion. They took me out, beat me untill I bleed all over, it was at this time that her parents came back and where shocked to see me mobbed in the front of their house, her father attempted to rescue me but when told what had happened was furious and joined in the beating, after it seemed as if he was done he told every body not to touch me and went into the house, I was just on the floor my cloth badlu stained with blood, I was just just thinking if this ppl will kill me there or I was going to end up in jail, regreting why I fell for this, wondering what had happened to my phone dat made rita treat me like this. All this I was thinking before he dashed out of the house with the big sized needle, he asked for me to be striped naked and for pple to hold me on both legs and hands. Me still not sure of what he was going to do to me kept screaming and struggling with my waist. He held my joystick and inserted the blunt side of the needle in its hole. I wailed to the extent that I lost my voice cos the pain was terrible he removed it and inserted it again saying "this is what ppl like u deserve". Hmmm frnds to cut the long story short I was taken back home and after my father heared what had happened all he could say was that he was so disapointed in me. I remember suffering severe pains. For days after I went to the hospital,whenever I wanted to urinate I had to go through pains and blood came with my urine. I just thank God that I was well again after about a month or so.though I was innocent but after then whenever I heared about someone being raped or child molestation I just remember this experience and tears drop from my eye. the worst is that uptil today nobody believed that I never intended to molest rita, not even my dad exept my cousine who gave me the phone. I learnt that she is now in the UK but I knw karma is waiting for her somewhere.

Fkforyou: Mine was wen i was in ss3(dat is 2009),it was one mornin I was teased in class by a fellow student b'cos of d material dat was attached to d pocket of my trouser,d material was called Mamar(it also had a song) I became very emotional in class,they teased me with it,i almost cried,wat pained me d most was my best friend was d one dat encouraged it instead of standing up 4 me,although we were 2geda yesterday i stil can't 4give him,it was 1 guy dat told dem to stop..It has affected my psychologicaly dat i can't think back at my days in sec.skul and all d fun i had with my friends without thinking abt dat moment,jst last month 1 of my course mate was rude to me,odas were laughing,i jst kept quite,i didn't pay attention to him,all i was thinking was dat scenario dat happened in ss3.I began to see myself as som1 who is weak and emotional,in order to prove to my self dat am not,i'm now losing my compasion.Up till dis day i still remember dat scenario wishing i could rewind time and give dat guy a beatin of his life,funny enough most people still look at me as som1 who had a perfect life in sec skul,i was brilliant,d girls in my class liked me,i was d headboy and so on. But they have no idea d pain am going through upstairs..Hmm if only they had a clue.

repogirl:
Its nt easy to trim jst d tummy? If u loose weight, u loose it all ova.
As for me am lepa and proud, people luuuuuv my stature even after 2 kids I still get toasted. LoL.
Anyhow u are, own it jare! There r men who like d skinny and there are the ones who go for fleshy, diff strokes for diff folks!

Glorified_Tunde:

NOTED!




THE BIBLE MENTIONS PUNISHMENT FOR A MEMBER WHO HAS DONE WRONG, BUT NOT CASTING THEM OUT! HAVEN'T YOU HEARD OF CHURCH DISCIPLINARY COMMITTEE? THESE DAYS ITS NOT EVERYONE COMING INTO A CHURCH THAT IS A BONAFIDE MEMBER...SOME ARE JUST PASSING.

OUR SALVATION IS LEFT TO EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US, LET THEM DO AS THEY LIKE AND KEEP PRAYING FOR THEM... BUT BE MINDFUL NOT TO FALL FOR THEM

Glorified_Tunde:

OK. SO WHY DID JESUS SAY I HAVE COME FOR THE LOST. EVEN THE BIBLE MADE MENTION OF SOME IN THE CHURCH THOSE DAYS WHO WERE DOING WRONG THINGS. LEAVE THEIR JUDGEMENT TO GOD. IF YOU FALL BECAUSE OF THIS ONES, THEN YOU WERE NEVER GROUNDED IN FAITH. DO NOT LOOK THEM TWICE OR START MAKING IMAGINATIONS IN YOUR HEART. BESIDES THE BIBLE SAYS "YOUR EYES" NOT "THE GIRLS".

Glorified_Tunde:
SAYS WHO? The last time my Pastor picked up this issue, u need to see the faces of 'em girls; they were all adjusting on their respective seats. Sweating and couldn't stand up. One of them told me it was like the pastor was directly attacking her.

The thing is you cannot send them away from the Church, even Jesus wouldn't do that. He said He came for the sinners, not the saints.

wetgate2010:

Thanks Weasle.

Brisingr: simple solution
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