ccollins:
add some Bible verses to .support. this assertion pls

Ephesians 5:22-33New International Version (NIV)

22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

IceDude:
OP well done, their own don too much sef

u better change. God forgive you

AdexOmoby:


I have to first if all be sure that the men they have at homes are men who are worthy to be respected. I am not in support of those who adore their pastors at the expense of their own sense, but then men should first of all be worthy of respect before the demand it from their wives.

ThenIf a man is worthy of respect, kneeling down to greet him isn't one of such signs. Asking for his opinion in matters arising us a good sign of respect. Regrading his opinion and giving reference to him as of the home is another. Treating him with courtesy and not talking down in him are signs of respect men see and appreciate not necessarily kneeling down to greet him even if he were 59 years older.

Men correct me if I am wrong.

Whether is worthy of respect or not you must give him that respect as your husband that what's d bible says. Read Ephesians 5 vs 22-33

siraj1402:
Some Striking Fact You Won't Believe Until You Do Research!!!
1. There is a town in Jamaica called ABEOKUTA. It was founded by former slaves from present-day Ogun State who were brought to a plantation in that part of Jamaica.
2· In Turkish, the bird we call a Turkey is called "Hindi" ("from India". In India, it's called "Peru." In Arabic, the bird is called "Greek chicken"; in Greek it's called "French chicken"; and in French it's called "Indian chicken." The bird is indigenous to none of these places.
3· The letter 'i' that Apple uses (in their products iPhone, iPad, iMac, iPod) stands for "Interactive".
4· Edward James Roye, the fifth president of Liberia, was of Igbo descent.
5· President Robert Mugabe is Africa’s oldest Head of State and the world’s second oldest Head of State. He was born in 1924.
6· The name"Nigeria" was coined by Flora Shaw, the wife of Lord Lugard, Nigeria's Governor-General from 1914 to 1919.
7· There is a high school in Kingston, Jamaica named CALABAR High School, the capital of Cross River State.
8· Queen Elizabeth II is the only person who travels to any country without International Passport.
9· Ebun House, located at 85 Odunfa Street, was the first three-story building built in Lagos. It was constructed in 1914.
10· The city of Port Harcourt (capital ofRivers State) was named after Lewis Vernon Harcourt in 1913 by Frederick Lugard. It was originally known as Iguocha.
11· There are 3 things the Human Brain cannot resist noticing –Food, Attractive People and Danger.
12· The CMS Grammar School in Lagos, Nigeria is the oldest secondary school in Nigeria. It was founded on June 6, 1859.
13· The first book written in the Igbo language (Isoama-Ibo :A Primer) was by Samuel Ajayi Crowther, the renowned Yoruba/Creole bishop.
14· Gatwick Airport in London, which is not that far from Heathrow Airport also in London, England is owned by Nigerian businessman Adebayo Ogunlesi.
15· The Naira, Nigeria’s currency, was named by Obafemi Awolowo.
16· Nigerian staple food cassava was brought to West Africa from Brazil by the Portuguese.
17. The Official Residence of the President of Barbados, a Caribbean country, very close to Jamaica and Bahamas, is called Oronna Court. The name Oronna was used by two Barbadorian Citizens close to a decade in tracing their origin to Ilaro in Ogun state. One was named Odewale and the other was named Aramide Oronna( the German Shephard man) was one of the hero/founders of Ilaro town alongside Iya Ala. Oronnais just like the likes of Lisabi and Shodeke in Egbaland.
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Debeloved87:
My pastor's marriage crashed last year, thou the marriage produced children and the parting seems unreconcilable even thou i think it fell on domestic issues and also the fact that the wife doesn't really flow with the pastoral call of the husband as her pastor husband wish her to.

Recently the man of God was talking about it and he said that he will take a new wife very soon anytime he is ready, and he ask us whether its scriptural but we just giggled and he told us that it is scriptural that we should open the book of 1 corinthians 7:14-15 "for the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband, else where your children unclean but now are they holy; but if the unbelieving depart,let him depart, a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases:but God has called us to peace...

This actually was a little bit confusing to me, since the wife in question wasn't an unbeliever... Is my pastor right with his assertions?

That scripture ur pastor quotes, he doesn't understand the meaning. The unbelieving there is when you have not paid the bride price, may b you are leaving like boyfriend, committing fornication or the woman in question has given birth but u haven't done anything marital on his head. She is free to leave but once you have paid the bride price, my people there is nothing like divorce and marrying another woman/man. God says he hates divorce.
Mal. 2:16 - God says "I hate divorce." These are strong words from our Lord. Divorce and remarriage violates the sacred marital covenant between a husband and a wife that has been ordained by God.
Matt. 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18 - Jesus says that whoever divorces and remarries another commits adultery. This is an offense against the natural law.

Bjergtrolde:


Are you jealous?
One advice I got when I was younger is not to spy as you may not be able to deal with what you find. That is obviously what is happening here.

No be Naija where sexual harassment plenty? Why are you shocked?
May be if the baby had said no, it would have been good bye to her job.

So you prefer her to be committing adultery. When d punishment will come u wlll stand by hr to share in it.

ElDeeVee:

I disagree with you on this. Calling a man immature because he wants his food dished in HIS own house is such a bad comment IMO.

Don't mind girls of nowadays, During parents time, e.g our mother there is nothing like dishing out food after the food is prepared they put it in the bowl or plate and kneel down before the husband to serve him his meals. But women of this age copy western world, that's y we have so many troubles in marriages.

adonbilivit:
if I forgive her my family will never forgive me for forgiving her. its only Jesus that can forgive in this case. God forgives, I don't.

But God commanded us to forgive.

kennyman2000:
May God help everyone to have his or her own house..

AMEN.

starlingslimnet:
"What I say to you all I say to all." These Scripture clears the arguments of Christ words being applicable only to the people of his time or His immediate disciples. That being that,as we all know, Prayer they say, 'is the master key'; an expression of the soul in harmony with the spirit and heart of the believer. Important as it is, prayers have principles (Prerequisite of receiving answers) just as nature have it's own principles guiding it, but this is not the focused of this article and as such we will endure to go into what brings up this article "Prayers every christains should pray".And listed below are prayers that fells in the list:

1. Praying For Ones Persecutors: As much as this sounds practically impossible it is a command from the Almighty that comes in this way "But I say unto you....'pray for those who persecute you.'" Wish I can take you all into the immeasurable beauty and richness of praying for ones persecutors but like I said we have a focus here.Notwithstanding, If God wills and as His grace endures I shall write on it. So in praying never pray against thy persecutors and enemy.

2. Praying For More Labourers: "The harvest is plentiful ,but the labourers are few" Pray then said Christ, "that the Lord of the harvest send out labourers into his harvest".This is the prayer God wants you to pray whenever you come into His presence.

3. That Yee May Not Enter Into Temptation: The power of this prayer cannot be under emphasized.It is in itself self explanatory; a prayer of trust,of need resulting in exponential growth in Faith. I adjure you to pray this prayer for yourself, children and families.

4. Strength To Escape The Hour Of Tribulation: "But watch at all time,praying that you may have strength to escape all these things that will take place." Perhaps you are yet to know brother the tribulation is taking place soon before Christ will come( When I say soon I mean soon) and you need strength to escape these things because it is an event that has never occurred before.When Christ says "Praying" you can see the looming destruction ahead. Pray my friend for yourself, your family and children.

5. To Stand Before Christ When He Comes: "Praying that you may.......and to stand before the Son of man" When Christ comes many will have denied Christ because of families and children, because of right to buy and sell. Your prayer should be Let me stand before thee blameless O Christ; Pray this prayer for your husband, yourself and your children.

"Ask and Yee shall receive" No surer promise than this.

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Jenny1010:
The story below is not my story, it's a story of a married woman living with her husband and 4 children (4 girls ) in a store room attach to my premises, where she also sales foodstuffs. Her husband works for a private security company and is attached in one the bank outside the state, he often comes around on weekends to spent time with his family. I don't know this woman well, all I know about her is that her children often comes to greet me whenever I come home and I often give them money and sometimes foodstuffs.

Yesterday, I was at home when the woman knocked on my door, when I opened the door and saw her , I was surprised what could have brought her to my house. She told me that she is sorry for bothering me but there is a problem eating her up that she wants to share with me of which maybe I could be of help. I thought it was the usual financial problem not until she started telling her story.

Below is her story:

"my father is not a poor man, my father is a rich man, he is a landlord. I have an elder stepbrother who is living big in Abuja and an elder stepsister who is married to a banker living comfortably in another state. My father married my mother (an orphan) at an old age after his first wife (who gave birth to my stepbrother and sister) died. My mother passed away while given birth to me; 9years after my birth, my father died. I was left solely under the care of my step brother . When I was in senior secondary school 2 , then I was 17years old, my stepbrother brought an old hausa man and demanded I should marry him; he said the man is very rich , and that if I marry him that the man will help him grow his business and that I will never regret it. I rejected his offer, i told him that I want to finish my education first. After numerous pressures from my brother to marry the man had fail, he angrily withdrew his financial aid on me, and warned me ever to call him on phone again. I want to stepsister to complain to her, but she told me the worst thing, she told me that am not her sister, that the only connection between us is our father, and that since our father is dead, their was nothing else connecting us. She advised me to marry who ever my brother wants me to marry."

"After so many trial to survive, I had to drop out from school. I had a boyfriend then(whom later became my husband) , he was young and still managing his life, he was doing business then, but the business wasn't flourishing as expected. Rather than die alone of starvation, he demanded I come live with him, which I accepted. This was how we started living together, and started bearing children."

"After many years of no communication with my step brother and sister, one afternoon , my step sister surprised me with a visit, she said she was able to trace me through some friends. She apologies to me for everything and promised to help sponsor my kids in school up to university level, and to help my husband financially with a sum of 3million. Although, I was glad to see her again after so many years, but her new attitude was strange. I asked her what is behind her sudden generosity to me. She want down on her knees in tear and starting begging me to help her bear children. She said all that was needed is few eggs from my ovary. I told her that even if I accept her offer, that my husband wouldn't allow that. She told me that the process will be a secret only between me, herself and her husband, and nobody else ought to know about it. After considering the tremendous offer she made to me, I accepted to help her without my husband knowledge. Later, during the weekend when my husband was home, she visited us again, brought a lot of foodstuffs and gave my husband the sum of 20,000naira, after which he demanded that my first daughter follow her to live with them, she even promised to do more. My husband unknowing the deal behind the generosity was astonished and wholeheartedly welcomed her. He sees everything as a miracle from God."

"After my husband had gone back to his work place, my stepsister and her husband came that morning to took me to a hospital , were an injection was given to me which made me lose consciousness, before I could regain myself, eggs had been collected from my ovaries and placed in a tube. The eggs were later on fertilized with the sperm of my stepsister's husband. After which the developing egg was implant into my stepsister's uterus. Everything was successful. My stepsister's husband gave me 30,000naira that day before I left the hospital. The baby started growing in my stepsister's womb, everyone was thanking God for finally given her a baby after 11years of marriage. She went for thanks given in the church. Nobody knew what happened, I kept my mouth shout as I had promised."

"Few months after the implant, I called her on phone to remind her of her own part of the deal, she told me she hasn't forgotten . That I should hold on until after she had delivered. I accepted.
It's three and half years now after her successful delivery of a bouncing baby boy, yet nothing had been done for me. She had brought back my first daughter staying with her , claiming she is possessed by an evil spirit and making her son fall sick all the time. I have gone to her house several times demanding she fulfills her promise to me, but she kept telling me that she and her husband had no money, that they will help me whenever they got the money. The last time I called her on phone i pleaded on her to forget about the 3million she promised to give my husband, she should just sponsor my girls to university level as she promised, she threaten to arrest me and lock me up in prison if I continue to pester her life.."

"Right now , am scared, I don't know what to do. I can't go public because I don't want my husband to know, he will be devastated if he finds out I did such thing. My stepsister's son is growing up, he is fair like me (whereas my stepsister and her husband are dark in complexion). Anytime I see the boy, my heart jumps, I feel like am seeing my own son which I never had. I feel like I have been used and dump."

"Should I tell my husband what happened without minding how devastated he will be? Should I tell the whole world the truth of how my stepsister got pregnant without minding how it will affect the son? How can I make her pay for her wickedness toward me ? "

What do you think this woman should do?

Let her confess to the husband and and ask for forgiveness from the Husband and also from God and also seek for prayer

folyboy2013:
Everyone is curious to know who visited their Facebook profile.Be it a girl or a boy, they tend to have an etching desire to find out who visited their Facebook profile as they are filled with these common questions- “Whether my crush checks my profile?” ,

“Who views my pics?”, “Which girl/Boy always views my profile?” and so on…Its natural, but i have seen many people getting tricked by 3rd party software that doesn’t provide appropriate results but just spams on their Facebook Wall’s, so here’s a wonderful trick that’ll help you find who views your profile the most!





How to track who visited my facebook profile?

Its easy to do. Just follow these steps and you’ll succeed in finding out who visited your Facebook Profile!
Go To Your Facebook timeline- facebook.com/xyz
Right click on your timeline and hit “View page Source”.
Now, you’ll be redirected to a new page with lots codes.
Hold CTRL+F on your keyboard, a text box appears at the right corner, in that box, type- “InitialChatFriendsList” (Don’t include Quotes)
Next to that word, you’ll see a list of numbers, these are the profile ID’s of people who visit your timeline.
Just go to “facebook.com” and paste the ID number beside it with a “\” . For example, if the ID is abcd, you have to put it as- facebook.com/abcd.
The first ID shows the one who visits profile more often while the last ID never visits your profile!

So, how was it? Hope you found out who visits your profile regularly! Please leave your opinions, Thanks for reading!

source:

http://www.legeeks.org/find-visited-facebook-profile/

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stjudas:
Good day people. I am a Corps member of 2015 batch A. I have a girlfriend in her third year in school. Sincerely, I love her but she's hell bent on getting married. I am far from ready and there is this guy she dated few years back for few months before he traveled to India. This guy is really disturbing my girl, promising to marry her as soon as he returns to Nigeria next month. In fact, Dec. 30 has been scheduled for Introduction. Now my problem isn't her leaving me, but for the wrong person. I suspect he's a very bad guy and would make her cry. I tried convincing her to wait for better man even if it wasn't going to be me that all I cared about was her happiness. So, fellow Nairalanders how do I convince her and what way is best to go about this? Below is a message I sent her on Facebook and all she replied was "thank you," and soon she called me and started crying. I inquired why she was crying but she said she doesn't know and hung up. Pls, no insults. Don't tell me I should be thinking of how to get a job or start a small business 'cause it's all in my plans. Your contributions will be appreciated. Thanks.
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JUST BEFORE DECEMBER 30.

Bury this little piece in your heart, I took my time to write it for you. It's no cynicism so don't get it twisted. Marriage is a lifetime commitment; once you're in, you're in. Don't ignore the warning signals, it could be very fatal.

1. COURT HIM AGAIN: Don't assume he's the cool guy you use to know. Try courting him for 8 to 12 months before you tie the knot. Remember, he's been outside the country, gathered a handful of experiences and the resultant of this experiences will greatly determine his new personality, either for better or for worse. Ignoring or failing to take this one step is worst of all things you would ever do.

2. BE SURE OF WHAT HE DOES:
Go beyond your emotions and look with your mind's eyes. Can you trust what he tells you he does for a living? Have you sought an answer to these questions: How does he send his goods to Nigeria? Who receives the bales of clothes he sends in and who sells them and how does he get his money back? Through PayPal, Western Money Union Transfer or what? Investigate to be sure it's true.
When he's not sending clothes to Nigeria what does he do? Does he have a part-time job or own a business in India? If a part-time time job, what's the name of the company he works for and what position does he occupy. What are his job functions? If he owns a business, what kind.
Ask him how much he makes and see if it's in coherence with how much you think he's worth. Ask him these question and many more you can think of in quick succession, with that aura of intelligence of one who works with the FBI. Don't give him a chance to think! Just quickly throw the questions at him.
Observe if he's nervous or cool when giving answers. Compare all the information he provides with your previous knowledge of him and make your judgement. Trust your intuition!

3. PROMISES MAY NEVER BE FULFILLED:
Yes, he promised to make you Manager of his current business so he could move into importation of automobile spare parts. Be sure he will do this. Never you assume or just believe, it's not the Gospel after all. Compel him (though you do not have the right to) to start, maybe, a smaller business for you. If he cheerfully does, it could be an indicator that he will do bigger things. Do you still remember what the Bible says: He that is faithful in little is faithful in much.

4. DISCUSS THE MARGINS:
You are a woman, I believe, with dreams and goals. A savvy young girl poised for greatness, whose primary function as a wife is not to mop the floor, wash dishes, cook good foods and make babies. You've got a career life and a margin should be drawn between it and your marital life. I also believe you got goals to accomplish before you turn 30. Ask him how he intends to help you achieve those goals.

5. NEVER GIVE IN TO PRESSURE:
I understand the pressure by the African society on her girl child in getting married. It isn't your last chance, Baby. You are beautiful, intelligent and people tend to like you. You know this. I remember you once told me, "I no be bad market." Appreciate yourself and never take that step except you are sure you want to. The future holds a lot.

6. YOUR DAD, YOUR COUNSELOR:
I have not had the opportunity to meet with any of your parents, but somehow from what I have learned, dad is shrewder than mum (I'm not a diviner. It's just an opinion. I could be wrong). Discuss your man with him expressing the fears and confidence you have in him (your man), I'm sure he (dad) will have something very useful to tell you. Never ignore his advice.

7. AFTER THE WEDDING:
Don't get married to a ghost who will leave you for another woman in an unknown country for years in the guise of searching for endless business opportunities. I know of a victim, my mum’s best friend, then. She got married to a man, a US Naval Officer, in Owerri, in December 2001. The wedding was the talk of town as cash was lavished. The young man traveled back to the States early February 2002 promising her to come see her once in a while. The lady pleaded to go with him but he insisted that it won't be necessary as he plans to return home and start up a new life with her soon. He traveled back and that's all the lady and my mum saw of him. You think he could be dead? NO! He was seen shopping in Las Vegas in early 2013 by one of the friends of the lady who attended the wedding and had traveled to the city.

8. THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT:
I don't have anything much to say here. It is your life, your decision. Always be true to yourself and your findings about him. Remember to trust your judgement. Your decision is ultimate.

Consider the eight points critically before December 30. I wish you the best marriage can offer. I love you. Have a nice day.

Let her pray very well and go for deliverance if the man is her true husband to be.

Wisdomkosi:
My fellow nairalanders, my cousin and I just survived a ghastly motorcycle accident while coming back from a visit to my cousin..

Thank God for your life

segello:
1) Travel

Travel a lot as it has exposes you to new cultures,

You have very little responsibility so go and travel. When you get to 30, you’re going to want to travel slightly differently, spend a little more, do slightly more expensive things, eat at slightly better restaurants. So work for a year and save enough money to experience the world on the cheap.

How do you know what you want to do if you don’t know what’s out there to do?

Don’t just travel to the obvious places.


Travel to the tough places.

Travel to learn.

Travel to discover.

Travel to the places that will challenge who you think you want to be.

2. Start a business

Start a business, no matter how small. Survey your neighborhood and think of what can be beneficial for the people and what they will need. Examples of small businesses include dry-cleaning services, Car washing, Home tutorship. This helps raise small money to offset some expenses while learning and gaining exposure in the process.

3. Focus on your Education

Try reading every day, even for an hour. Read everything in sight, from newspapers, books, articles, journals, etc. Don’t just read about things you know about. Read about people. Read people. Reading opens up the mind, increases vocabulary, improves analytical thinking, improves memory and to some reduce stress.

4. Reduce TV Time and Video Games

Reduce TV and video games time. Except for News and informative programmes watching TV is generally a waste of time.

5. Career Path

Follow your passion, do what you love doing even if it pays little at first. What matters is to be exceptional at whatever you do, be unique, be yourself.

6. Trust issues

At this stage of your life, you are bound to trust and receive lots of advice from people, some good some bad. Even if it destroys your ideas or you lose your friends. Trust people until they give you a reason not to. But don’t dull yourself. Some people are out to mess you up.

7. People

The calibre of People you surround yourself with matter a lot. People have ways of influencing your decisions, thoughts and sometimes actions. Like the saying goes, “Birds of a feather fly together”. A few people will change your life forever. Find them. Be around great people, so you too can have great aspirations.

8. Perseverance

Learn to persevere in all you do and never give up. You would face a lot of challenges in life, put keep pushing on.

9. Fail

Fail a lot. Fail often. Fail at love. Fail at sex. Fail at socialising. Fail at making friends. Fail at work. Fail at business. Fail with family. Fail with existing friends.

If you don’t learn something every time you fail then all you’ve done is failed. If you learn something, then you’ve grown. Every time you grow and learn and fail, you get better at figuring out how to succeed.
more on...http://nairametrics.com/9-things-to-do-before-you-turn-30-in-nigeria/

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otunsman:
Frankly,there are some degrading jobs that are not worth going into at all.Recharge card is a no-go area.How much gain dey there sef?If you sell the #500 mtn or airtel card, your profit is #5 to #10.That one na money.mtchewwww.

If you sell in quantity you will make more gain. be a supplier.

coolluk:
dis guy get sense? there s a busstop in a area called akara junction, the woman don use akara take send her pikin go university sote the husband join am. dey there dey dull

Please do u stay in coker village, there is a woman selling akara, and they use the junction as akara junction. his husband too is selling with her.

Swagt101:

Make I bend if naija babes do dis.... I got this 4 y'all

Hahaha, permit me to copy DJ EXCLUSIVE POST

Eco2580:
Ladies & Gentlemen its my pleasure to share with you the images of my wedding & turbanning ceremony as SARKIN YAKIN JABO which was held on saturday 15-08-2015 @ 12pm & 4pm respectively.
Happy viewing.

Congratulation.

lampardizik:
Hello Nairalanders
so yesterday i learnt that the correct response to "how do you do?" is "how do you do".
it made no sense to me because i thought the logical response would be "fine" or "good" or stuffs like that,that is why i have brought this to NL to clarify. So professors in the house,let us know which is the correct response to "How Do You Do?".
"fine" or "how do you do"

How do you do too.

sanmibukunmi:
although A a christain, i always feel Yorubas are better with traditional religion.....its the main thing that does not divide us and its the reason christian and muslim marriage is common.... somewhere in our subconscious we all know our true religion is not the ones brought to us, we know it is our traditional religion that is best for us but we don just want to admit it

No one brought or impose any religion. Jesus Christ said before Abraham I was. Jesus is the beginning and the end. So The Lord brought Salvation and said thou shall not worship any other god except The through God, King of kings and Lord of lords. Thou shall not bow down to mere gods or idol made by man.

Aminat508:
How do you react when you have a young child that steals? You've talked to him/her several times, told him/her everything that has to be said about the consequences of pilfering. You do ALL you can to provide his needs and wants. But he keeps 'doing it'. How do you help or stop such a child? A reader sent this in yesterday:

Hello,

My son steals from me, my husband, my mother, his grandparents, his friends, everybody!! Please, let's discuss this here because I'm sure I'm not the only mother having this problem. If it's not money, it's things as small as tiny toys and games from neighbors. Sincerely, it's gotten so bad I don't know what to do with him anymore. My husband and I now have locks on our bedroom door to keep him out.

Problem started when he was 11 and got into boarding school. He is 13 now. I've threatened him that next time he steals, I would have the police involved. Of course I don't want to or plan to do that but I don't know what else to do.


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He needs prayer. Let Pastors pray for her.

yourboss:
Pls I need your help!

I have been searching for apartment for some weeks and then finally my uncle helped me get one so I relocated to this 2 bedroom flat apartment, there are 2 buildings in the compound, one at the front which is 4 bedroom flat and I occupy the one at the back which is 2 bedroom flat, after 2 days of occupying the room my uncle came to visit me and fortunately he knew the man living in the other flat and then told him I'm his brother and all those introduction but his wife and daughter weren't around that time because they traveled for an occasion and spent like 1 week.

During my first week in the apartment it was toward the ending of the month which was environmental sanitation day, I was out cleaning the environment with the man living the other flat, and starting from that day we keep talking and whenever he's back home he will call on me to keep his company before since he's the only one at home.

The issue now is that his wife and his daughter are back home and both the wife and the daughter won't stop disturbing me, the daughter will come to my room when I'm at home at noon bringing their playstation so I can fix that to my TV and teach her which she always seduces me to the extent that the girl will always call and text me even when it's not up to 5 minutes after leaving my apartment, when the daughter is not around and her mom come home to do some chores, she would come to my apartment saying she wanna check on me and doing some seductive stuffs, she even calls me on phone.

Please, should I tell her mom I don't like all those stuffs or I tell her husband or what do you think I should do??

Try to avoid the make your self scarce. Anytime you are at home lock the room even if they knock don't open. or better still tell them one after d other if they seduce u that u don't like it.

chiboy11:
I always tell guys now,we ve gone pass d stage of our mother / father era which marryin a woman den ure asured dat she s a woman, wat we marry now re semi conductors in science fiction, or let me say tokumbo in a general man lang.
N average girl now ve more dan 2 Boyfriends n we she don spoil her life finish for club n drink she s lookng for whom she wil carry al her wahala n drop in his head.
D worst mistake a guy wil do now is not to nack his fiance n make sure she s pregnant wit so many test to show b4 he marrys her,if not ure on a long ting my friend

Wat if the fault is from the man sometimes.

martyns303:
Let me start by giving you guys a brief description of where I stay as it is a vital cue to this story. 


I live in a compound with other flats, where the shortest conversation between neighbours is "good morning" and the longest is "please come and move your car, I want to go out". It is the kind of compound where you go to bed with your generator on, only for you to wake up in the morning to find out that there had been light all through the night, and your neighbours had turned off their Gen without telling you. Don't tell me about the pains of child birth, there is nothing more painful than looking at your fuel gauge like "my precious". By now you guys get the message, in pidgin "nobody send you". 


Now back to me, I had just concluded a professional course and was just sitting at home waiting for something to come up, that is just a fancy way of saying am jobless. But I am not searching for one, so all you NL scammers gats stay off. Without anything to do, I sit at home watching movies, and just lazing around. "My grandma just died and I am the man of the house", actually my grandma died a long time ago, I only just got my own place now. With me staying at home while everyone else in the compound goes to work or a few people that don't, I see everything that goes on, making me the all seeing eye (nope I am not affiliated to the illuminati).


A couple of months ago a young couple moved into the compound, the girl looks 25 max while the guy looks 28, they seem happy and in love, but at least once every month I will hear the girl crying profusely, I would hear her crying and lamenting, saying things like Jesus ooo, God oooo, ehhhhhhh, God please help me, I can't take this anymore, ewoo, etc then I would hear her snapping her fingers. I am probably the most soft hearted male, cos I would be feeling really sad, I don't know what a soul is, but I feel really depressed and saddened in my soul each time. If you have watched titanic, the part where Jack placed Rose on the floating stuff, you can't control the tears rolling down ur cheeks or standing in your eyes, and that's how I feel hearing this girl cry like that. Sometimes her sister would come and this has been going on for months. 


Two days ago, I heard the wife crying again, and since my compound is where no one cares, nobody has ever bothered to go in and ask what's happening, but I have had enough and was ready to confront the guy, i am going to give him a piece of my mind and Damn the consequences, so on this day I walked into their flat, the parlour door was open so I just walked in, on getting in, I found the girl in pants and bra, with wrapper half way her stomach, the guy is sitting by her side with a side stool, on the floor are packs of medication, bottled water, what looks like custard and other stuffs. When I walked in that wasn't the sight I was expecting, I had hoped to see the guy beating the living day light out of his fiancee, and me yelling at him to stop. I may have been frozen for like 15 secs while I absorb what's going on. I managed to say a weak sorry, turned around and walked out. The guy followed me immediately and asked what I wanted, I explained to him how I had heard his fiancee crying and wanted to make sure she is ok. "She is fine, thanks for your concern" then walked away, I know he is pissed at me walking into their apartment like that, and even the worst, seeing his woman like that. Damn what was I thinking sef! 


When I got back to my flat, the movie felt sour, couldn't concentrate on anything, all I could think of is how I am going to compose my words and apologize to the guy and his fiancee. This morning I saw him washing his car, so I walked up to him and started reciting my memorized apology. Planning is the key people, cos with the way I said what I said it hit him cold. The guy started explaining what's going on to me without me even asking. Apparently that's how the fiancee gets into pains whenever it's that time of the month for her, he said the pains could be excruciating for her. He said it's a part of her he's only getting to know as they only moved in together a few months ago, he has advice her going to see a doctor but she rebuffed the idea saying it is a normal thing. He explains how he goes through sleepless nights, boiling water and putting it in a plastic bowl with cover so she can place it on the stomach, buying pain relieves, he mentioned quite a bit of pain relieves, but that they seem to do little. He felt bad cos he is now of the idea that the rest of the neighbors may also have the perception of him being an abusive guy without knowing what's going on, told me he had to take days off from work sometimes to stay with her and when he can't, her sister comes around. 


In my attempt to be nice, I had promised to find a solution to his problem. Don't blame me, at that moment I just want to be nice and get myself out of the mess I got in and appear a good friend. 


So please, if there is anyone out here who knows why this guy's fiancee is going through so much pains, and if it's normal, are there home remedies, herbs or medical prescriptions that could help her situation, please help a brother out. Dankie!!!


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Prayer and let her see the doctor.

PhockPhockMan:
Without hands and legs, this lady still finds God worthy to be praised and worshipped.




WHAT OF YOU?

TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY IN JESUS WONDERFUL NAME AMEN.

ConfessionsNgr:
Had I known all my labour on her would be in futility, I wouldn’t have spent my hard earned money on her. I looked forward to a bright future with her but my dreams have been shattered by the very one I gave true love. I’m an OND holder but into a lucrative business which is doing very well. I met my girl online four years ago, though that notwithstanding, people can meet anywhere. I was already done with my OND while she was in 200L in the university. She told me of how her mother died during the delivery of their lastborn and her dad had to remarry leaving her to cater for herself most times. I felt the urge to render the little assistance I could and I started giving her money for her upkeep that was like six months after we met. I can even remember paying her tuition fees one session. Now four years down the memory lane, after her graduation and NYSC, and getting a job in an ICT firm with a good pay, it suddenly dawned on her that she can't marry an OND holder because of the gap in education. I told her it is the love between us that matters most but she said she loves me but we are not compatible education wise as she still want to further her education. All these years she was “gulping” my money, calling me sweet names, she didn’t see the incompatibility. When her future was in disarray I was her messiah (am not boasting here) but now that she can look forward to a bright future I’m no more in the picture.


Posted anonymously on www.confessionsnigeria.com
http://confessionsnigeria.com/post/222/i-saw-her-through-school-now-im-no-more-qualified-to-marry-her

Leave everything to God.

Akuneshiobike:
I had similar experience with my Ex. Her name is Vivian, whom i loved so much. Things were rosy for me when i met him. A time came when I had some challenging issues in my work place, hence prompting my resignation. Not even up to month of the incident, when Vivian started acting funny, next thing she told me is never to disturb her life again. Oh, it was like my whole world had crashed. After some months, came back to life and moved on.
Six months later, i got a call for interview in one of the prestigious banks, and fortunately for me, i made it, a good position and a mouth watery salary. She got the info about me from my Cousin, lo and behold Vivian traced me to my office and was pleading and crying for forgiveness.
I pretended to have accepted her back. I used that opportunity to nack her abuna like crazy. After some weeks when i think i'm satisfied with her abuna. I gave her the shock of her life never to visit nor call my line EVER AGAIN in her whole life.
It was my Cousin who told me that Vivian has been crying since the day i told her off. Definitely i don't bloody care because she did same to me without minding my emotional feelings and i returned same to her. That serves them (women) right.

That is bad. To err is human to forgive is divine.

BE HEALED IN JESUS MIGHTY NAME AMEN.

thecreativeguy:
There are two dates in every year which i don't use to forget. The first is April 23 (my birthday); while the second is December 23 (Christmas day). But this year, another date has being joined with these two dates which I can't forget every year. The new date is June 10. It was the day i lost my mother. Though i don't like remembering what happened on that day, i will try telling you bits about it.

It was a wednesday. She woke up early before many others, like many other days, and after preparing herself, went to her shop for the day's business (her shop is beside our house). That morning, she talked to people, washed her clothes, and attending to customers. In fact, when she finished washing her clothes, she was happy because the sun shone that day (the previous days were rainy).

Well, I was just recovering from malaria. I was inside and she called me. I answered her by coming to the balcony, while she was downstairs. She ask me to come and help her call those that will supply water for her tank, and I told her am coming. Before going to meet her, I decided to relax a bit.

Few minutes later, when I went downstairs to her shop, I saw her siting on the chair in her shop, in a posture that made me feel instantly that something is wrong somewhere. I was relutant going in at first, because I was feeling 'What if it's what i'm thinking? But soon, a young girl want to buy something and i use that medium to go in to where she is, telling her 'Mummy, they want to buy something.' But she's gone (though not totally gone then). But when we get her to the hospital, she's gone.

It's a painful incident. But there are lessons we all can learn from her death.

1. The Distance Between Life And Death Is Just A Step Away: You wouldn't know the real meaning of this if you haven't experienced it. Someone you talked to just few minutes ago, and in the next minute, the person is gone.

2. People Will Talk About You When You're Gone: My mum's death was a big loss to not only we her immediate family, but everyone that knows her. Why? Because of her good deeds. She's known by some as 'Iya Alaanu' (a mother who pity and help). She's a good woman. There are many people she had helped and still planned to help. When she died, everyone (ibos, yorubas) keep lamenting how good a woman she was.

What would be said about you after you are no more is determined by how you live your life today. If you want people to talk good about you when you're gone (in a way that will make life easier for your children you're leaving behind), do good always.

3. When Making Plans, Think Death: My mum's old mother died this year (during the elections) and the final burial ceremony is being scheduled to hold in early Septemeber. She's already making preparations for it (buying shoes and other things). But lo, she didn't even live to withness the final burial ceremony of her mother!! What a world!

Thus, in every plan you make, always think about death. And if you make plans and you live to execute it, thank God for it please.

4. Don't Hide Things From Your Family, You Don't Know When You'll Die: My mother rarely hid things from we her children. Infact, few days before she died, she do tell us about the types of dreams she do have (i wished i've taken them much serious) When my mother died, before many consolers and outsiders came, myself and my sister had cleared her money with some important documents of she have from where she keeps them.

In anything you do, let your family know about it- you don't know when you will die.

5. You Will Die, But Your Legacy Lives On: My mother trained me and my siblings using what i will call a 'classic approach'. There are certain things i see others do to their parents, and i wonder if i can dare try that with my mum. My mum trained us in a 'no-nonsence' way, making me and my siblings to be outstanding (though not perfect).

Now that she's gone, her legacy lives on. You know, even now, when doing something, i do think about her opinion (like, 'Will she like this if she's around?)

Thus, everyone of us should strive to live lifestyles of good legacies so that when we are gone, our good legacies will live on. Parents should teach their children well; in a way that, when you are gone, your legacies will leave on.

6. Life Is Vanity: My mum is working on her own house project- she couldn't complete it. Many sees her as a 'big woman'; but she take none of her money with her. She had lots of clothes, shoes, bags (you trust women), but they were distributed. In fact, the one she put on the day she died was burnt with fire- she takes none along!

Life is vanity. There is nothing we bring to this world that we will take along while leaving. Don't make wealth and success a do-or-die affair. Don't look for money in wrong ways. Women, don't sell your body for money. Guys, don't do wrong fradulent things to get money. They are all vanities!!!!

Ha. Mummy, so you've left your boy alone. You really suffered for your children, but didn't wait to eat your labours. I want to make you proud. I have lots of plans for you. But if you are seeing me wherever you are now, by God's Help, i promise to make you proud. Ha. Life is not just fair. Ha. Good night ma.

www.creativeguyhub.com/2015/08/6-things-you-can-learn-from-my-mums.html?m=1

Take heart and be strong.

Dannyabu:
For a young girl who just graduated last year and had to raise money from family members, plus savings to open this shop in February this year at Sapele, Delta state, it is very painful to see what the wicked and callous robbers did to her "little beginning" as only her shop was robbed.

I pray that the thieves nor go see dis December if dem nor confess.
God must expose them before the beginning of the 'ember months. Amin

God shall always see you true. You will bounce back thousand folds in Jesus Mighty Name Amen. Make sure you pay your Tithe.

Busuyib:
God is so good to me I met my lovely husband 2011on facebook he was in Abuja and i was in Lagos and luckily for me we got married year 2013 January just like a dream....God so good we have a beautiful bouncing baby girl her names are Victoria, oluwajomiloju(God surprise me) oluwagbemisola (God put me in wealth)morenikeji(I have seen a companion) moyosoreoluwa(I rejoice to God gift) abidemi(Born before her father arrival) folashade(use wealth as a crown) oluwafeyikemi (God use this to bless me)oyinade. We named her Abidemi because her father was on a journey when I gave birth to her.....I always thank God for this beautiful gift every blessed day and to you all reading and praying to God for the fruit of the womb.God will surprise you before this year ends.

AMEN.
TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY IN JESUS WONDERFUL NAME AMEN.