ArabMopol:
it will take half century to fix this kind of road in Nigeria... buhari is a fool

dimexy247:
5. Having tattoos
If you have a tattoo, you’re definitely going to be classified as a bad girl.

tolexy007:
mushin, A hell on earth

GodIsFoolish:




How can God bless him when He didn't protect his legs from whatever happened?
leave that thing, who God don help



the man is tRYING

Funfair001:
Hello Nlanders, I need mature advice please. I'm a 29years old man....I dropped out of University for business and I'm making stable income but now, I want to go back to school (abroad) which I have started my admission processing. Next year, I will be 30years old and some guys are advising me to get married since I have the money to take care of my family and my studies.

I'm confused even though I wish to get married too but still, I don't know what to do. Please I need mature advise if I should just go ahead or shun marriage for now.

Thank you all

Inshalord:
Good day all,

Please, I need your advice cos I believe before me people exist who have experienced this.
Doctors in the house abeg what could be d cause of this bumps,though we ve appointment with dermatologist next month 11th but also i will appreciate ur opinions before the appointed date.
Thanks

shamsuRana:



1. ON EARNING:
Never depend on single income. Make investment to create a second chance.

2. ON SPENDING:
If you buy things you do not need, soon you will have to sell things you need.

3. ON SAVINGS:
Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving.

4. ON TAKING RISK:
Never test the depth of a river with both feet.

5. ON INVESTMENT:
Do not put all eggs in one basket.

6. ON EXPECTATIONS:
Honesty is a very expensive gift. Do not expect it from cheap people.

7. IF YOU are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. Past is a waste paper. Present is a newspaper and future is a question paper.

8. WHEN bad things happen in your life you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you or you can let it strengthen you.

9. EMPTY pockets teach you a million things in life but full pockets spoil you in a million ways.

10. OUR EYES are in the front because it is more important to look ahead than to look back.

11. WE USED a pencil when we were small but now we use pens... do you know why? Because mistakes in childhood can be erased but not now.

So read and write carefully otherwise life will be a tissue paper.

tosyne2much:
When you demand sex in relationship they say you don't love them, if you practise celibacy they will label you an impotent. If your joystick is too small you're subject to mockery and ridicule, if your joystick is too big, na wahala again

If you be one minute man they will complain that you can't please them. When you're a one hour man they will still complain that you want to kill them.

Women are the most confused creature in the world and I doubt if God Himself understands them, unlike men

Greatzeus:
If its just BF/GF relationship YES,B it if its marital relation NO.Nothing in life must come before a man' s family,not money,not work,not church activities nothing.

adajiboyy:
We are blacks...we are warriors...we are the greatest...we can do all things.

afroLAD:
Jesus is coming soon - 2000 years and counting we are still waiting.

kokosari2:

Lol, but we all have some crazy fantasies at one time or the other. Self control and discipline is the key thing. I've discussed it with him on several occasion and he doesn't have any cogent reason for going into the act, probably when I start mine, he will see how disgusting it looks and this will make him stop.

dainformant:
see more >>> http://www.nationalhelm.net/2016/10/am-i-dreaming-woman-who-gave-birth-to.html

Elthugnificent:
That's one among many of the testimonies I used to find extremely weird and ridiculous.

Even when I was a believer, it weird me out when people give testimonies on even trivial stuff like success in exams or even getting a job they are not qualify for. I normally thought to myself that if god is actually responsible for my consistent success in every examination that I sit for, than maybe he should spare his miracles on me on that regard and allow me to fail the exams and channel the miracles to million of children dying from malaria and hunger.

When you try to question stuff like that, focks will result to saying that god works in mysterious way. How sad.

Genesis2000:
I have been imagining this for some times now.

I knows that testimonies are good, and i have also given my testimonies on several occasions.

But what in a situation whereby you re traveling or going else where and you borded a 14 seaters bus and may God forbid the bus have accident and only you survived. Will you go to church and testify and give thanksgiving?

I have raised this question somewhere before...

Do you think it is proper to do so?

Someone is wondering now, what kind of question is this? And why wouldn't i testify of his goodness upon my life? Hmmm

to this person, ok what if your wife or your only son is involved in that accident, would you still go ahead and testify?

Don't you think that some of these testimonies we hear these days are not really necessary?

Don't you think that such testimony are really selfish and selfcenterdness?

Do you think if Jesus is in a boat and and by accident he lost all his disciples, do you think he will testify for his safety?

We were all leaning anyway. And i stand to be corrected.
Do you think these kinds of testimonies really worth it.

Does any body here has any contrary opinion to these?
Pls let here from you. Thank you.

mroop:
Idowu Oyedeji, a graduate of the Obafemi Awolowo University, had the accident some months back, and she was rendered unconscious for a period of time, before making a miraculous recovery.

Sharing the journey, so far, on her Facebook page, she wrote:

“ Though words fail me, I just have to say something. I want to show my appreciation and
thanks to everyone; friends, family and even those who don’t know me personally, for
your tremendous support during my lowest point and darkest hour.
It was truly overwhelming and I know that there is indeed nothing in the world that I can repay everyone with but from the deepest part of my heart, the unexplainable emotions known to man and the space of eternity, I want to say THANK YOU.
Eventhough I was mostly unconscious at the hospital, I felt the wave of prayers, support and love in everyway and I’m eternally grateful. And
to the King Eternal, Immortal, Invisible, only Wise God, be all my thanks and adoration forever and ever, The one without whom I would not be
here today. .
The life we have is very precious and we should always be thankful for it because I have come to know firsthand the thin line between life and
death. I love you all so much. This would never be enough but thank you once again. Pls kindly share #MyJourneyToRecovery.”

See pics below


Source ::: http://www.praizeblog.com/2016/10/nigerian-lady-shares-her-journey-to.html?m=0

We thank God for healing you. I want to use this opportunity to draw u to Christ. God gave you second chance, don't misuse it. Repent now and accept Jesus Christ as you Lord and Personal Saviour. Thanks

napa:
We've been married for five years and he has cheated all through these years. He keeps late nights without any tangible reason. He travels in and out of Nigeria for the purpose of meeting different women, he chats dirty with different women. He calls random women at home e.t.c. He is also very quick to apologise and promise to turn a new leaf anytime I confront him with evidences.
The issue here is I'm getting really fed up of his kind of life style, I feel he is taking me for granted and just playing on my emotions because he knows there is nothing I can do after his apologies. He too relaxed with me and feels he can do anything and get away with it. I work and he does too but he knows I live a triangular kind of life. From work back home then to church, I'm more of a homely person. I'm beginning to think it's my fault for him not getting on his toes. I don't intend reporting him to any of his family members because he won't be chastised.

I need candid and matured advice please.

mama777:
Since you said you love him stick with him because love is all about taking care of each other both in hard times.low sperm count is the cause of infertility in most homes.you have 3 option
1.believe in God.
2.go to fertility center for ivf which is not for the poor because you might end up trying more than ones before it can be successful
3.you cheat on your husband to get pregnant.if your conscience will allow you.
I wish you well

O0ni:
Mynd44 is correct.

A cult has to have a religious or spiritual foundation. E.g Christianity, Islam, Olumba, Ogboni, Satanism, Eiye, Aiye, Vikings.

A gang has to have only an ideology, colour, signs, lingos, insignia binding them together. E.g Alayabiagba mentioned in the news, Bloods, Crips, MS13, Vice Lord, Latin Kings - Pyrates & Buccaneers fall into gang list for being violent.

Eiye, Aiye & Vikings are cults for having a spiritual underpinning - Janku Janku, Korofo & Odin respectively.

O0ni:


A cult has a deity, rites & rituals.

Christianity has all of these.

SpitsOnYoruba:
Why do people even get married

Go find a caring and loving girl, get her pregnant, she gives you kids and you live with her for the rest of your life

Who even started what is called marriage because i know for sure that my ancestors didn't do this engagement and marriage rubbish

nickxtra:
My marriage to my wife is facing a serious challenge, after I discovered from my wife's WAEC certificate, that the date of her birth on the result is 6 years more than what she told me and what has been in all her non academic documents, including her C.V. Actually, i have seen all her academic certificates, including her NYSC discharge certificate, but never saw her S.S.C.E and FSLC results that normally bear dates of birth. Each time i ask her for them in order to compile all the credentials for job application purposes, she would tell me that her WAEC, NECO and primary school results are in a box, with her mum in thier home town; that she would ask her mum to bring them. I gnomo her mum lager came with them for her.

Eventually, a serious sure job came for which i would need these credentials to forward to the organization. She gave me the WAEC result with the excuse that age forgot the NECO and FSLC in her current office, which she promised to bring. Lol and behold! What i saw on the WAEC result is a date of birth 6 years higher than what she told me and what is in her C.Vs.

I called her attention and she started giving me excuses that hold no water. She is saying that the same DOB were erroneously registerd for her when, perhaps they were registering her for both WAEC and NECO. That when the results came out and she noticed the errors, she complained and applied to correct same, but since then, the exam authorities have not corrected them. I have not come to terms with the this discovery. I think this may cause us peace, thrust and love in put marriage.

My brothers and sisters, i think am contemplating of what action to take against her and am contemplating a divorce, but our two children are still very small for this. I want to report this issue to her family and mine. Am gradually withdrawing my trust for her.

I need matured advice and suggestions that will see me through this.

forlahkhe:
Anytime i have disagreement with my husband, he would always tell me that "I WL GO OUTSIDE, PLENTY BABES DEY OUTSIDE DAT NEED MEN AND I WONT EVEN SPEND MUCH B4 THEY OPEN THEIR LEGS". I always feel hurt by this statement because I believe that we should BOTH be committed to make our home work. If i wont go out there to look for men why should he?

My marriage is just 2yyears but i have never enjoyed 1month happiness. My hubby would prefer to stay late @work because he doesn't want our baby to disturb him with cry cry. I'm a sit @home mum, I resigned my marketing job because I want to have time for my baby but now my husband would not give me money anytime we have misunderstanding, not even for my baby too.

I have called his parents' attention to this but his people call me "ABOKOKU". That because he is married to me doesnt mean he should not enjoy himself, afterall, there are times someone is tired of eating rice and you would want to taste beans and other varieties. His father (57yrs) still has concubines which his mum can't do anything about. But the truth is that this thing is wearing me out emotionally.

I AM MARRIED BT LONELY

fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

fullofregrets:
well I have done everything necessary , my
womb is okay and intact

McBrooklyn:
Tonto Dikeh was a badass because she drinks and she is wayward, and yet she married a good guy who bought her an iPhone 7 and some ladies out there kept their virginity for a guy that can't even afford to buy them a Tecno Phantom or even an Infinix Hot Note . . . God Dey OoOoOo!!!

pennytration:
No. 1 is on point. Some gullible women actually get married believing their husbands can never cheat on them. These types suffer d most in marriages.

deathcomestoall:
Now, while what I am about to say might be shameful for many because it is shrouded in secrecy, I am not ashamed because, you can never know the extent to what you will do when pushed or pulled to the brink. 99% of the reason why many young Nigerian women donate their egg is for the meagre(yes I said meagre) monetary compensation attached to it. And most of these fertility clinics know that if they do not attach any form of benefit, almost no one would willingly donate.

In the U.S., egg donation can cost as much as 5000 to 10000 dollars. So if you are going to donate, at least you know it's worth the pay. Unlike nigeria who don't pay the donors, they only COMPENSATE and this ranges from 120000 to 150000.

The egg donation process itself starts with an interview by an organization or clinic sourcing for donors for the clinic and then a series of blood tests for genotype, blood group and STDs are carried out after which if you are cleared of any of these, you proceed to the next stage which is to check for lumps in your breast, throat, pain in your lower abdominal region and then a vaginal scan. If you pass all these tests, then you will be given 21 injections which you will inject by yourself for 21 days and during these days, you will visit the clinic for series of vaginal scanning to check if you are producing enough eggs. After the 21 days, you will be given another 6 injections for 6 days after which you are due for the egg collection.
Now I cannot go into details of how the whole process is done because I do not want to make my post too lengthy as the essence of my post is to merely educate and share my story.

Born a synthetic orphan( I have parents who I don’t live with and don't care for me), freshly graduated from the University with a reasonable amount saved during my university days, I had wanted to go into food business but I was unfortunately robbed by my own blood. I have always held the notion that to make money, you must spend money. So with the little money I had left, I started looking for options on what to do, every single one failed. I had applied for more than 619 jobs and still counting, no success. After exhausting all my ideas, I was googling ways to make money and then came a list of six of which one took my interest which was egg donation. I called a couple of fertility clinics and booked an appointment with two. I went to only one of them which is located somewhere in Lagos.

Before making this decision, I thought to myself, why am I doing this, my answer was the money. I had just gotten an American visa and am trying to raise the money for a ticket as everyone reading this knows the situation of the country.

On getting to the clinic, I met a young lady who asked my age, race, education, job and some other things. She explained the process to me and asked if I lived with my parents, I answered yes. And then she proceeded to bullying me that what if my parents saw me injecting myself daily that they would seize the injections. I was displeased with her statement because I had earlier told her I went to a private university. She probably thought I was a spoilt kid who needed quick money. I immediately shut her up and told her I pay the rent and then proceeded to bullying her(I am a very opinionated person). As we were talking, I noticed some other females come into the office. One of them had come for a vaginal scan and wasn’t producing any eggs so the process had to be stopped for her and hence no compensation of any sort not even her transport fare. Just a thank you. Then I started asking questions( my transport there cost nothing less than a thousand a day). I asked her what information of mine would be given to the receiver, she said it would be an anonymous donation. I asked if any complication arises, who will be responsible for my treatment, she said the clinic. I then asked about the procedure itself. I asked what kind of sedative would be used for the egg retrieval process, then she became defensive and said I was a reporter and she won't be continuing the process. I stood up to leave, then she called me back and said she would take a risk with me. I then told her I wasn't a reporter just because I am confident and would ask questions. I proceeded to the clinic lab and did a blood test for my genotype and blood group. Before I left for the lab, she started whining me that 120000 is a lot of money, you can start a business with it. I just looked at her and nodded. I never even asked her how much it was.

Few days later, I was called for a second blood test for STDs, I went for it and also was cleared. Then I was called for a vaginal scan. Before getting there, I thought why am I really doing this. I have had more than 120000, is it really worth risking my own fertility. I would have to sell my eggs for up to 5 times to raise money for my flight. With the current economic situation, this money is almost nothing for the emotional trauma. Another reason why I wanted to do this wasn't for the money alone. I have remained a virgin for a long time and had gotten tired. Being a virgin has impeded me in many ways. I am constantly judged because of it. Every guy I date sees it as a prize. And even if I wanted to lose my virginity and become a prostitute, I didn't want to lose it to the first man that pays me and I don't have a boyfriend who will do it. Aged 18, I tried to lose my virginity but the shock and pain was too much for me to handle. He hadn't even entered, I had already began screaming. I must admit I bled due to the stress placed on the outer walls of my v****a but he never entered.
That was my first and last experience at experimenting with sex. I was happy tho I could claim I was a virgin and not a virgin, no one would know. Another reason is I am an introvert, I don't have any friends neither do I go out to where I can meet people besides I don’t even have the money and I know I am not getting married anytime soon and this is the most fertile years of my life(I am 22) and genuinely if I could help someone become a mother, I would.

On the day of the vaginal scanning, I went to the clinic, was asked a lot of questions after which I waited for a very long time before proceeding to the scanning room. The nurse then told me to get undressed and asked if I was a virgin. I couldn't lie, I said yes and she said they don't take virgins then I said I was a secondary virgin, I tried it years ago even though I knew I was lieing. Then I told her it wasn't an issue, she should call the doctor. The doctor came in brought out a long instrument about 8 inches put a condom on it with lube. I mean this was me here never had sex before, I freaked out. When she tried to put it in, I screamed. I said I couldn't do it. The pain was excruciating. She then put more lube, I still couldn't. It wouldn't enter. The doctor even had to ask if I was raped because of my shock. I thought I lost my hymen years back. In the moment of the pain, I thought all these for a meagre 120000 minus the stress of giving myself 27 needle scars and the emotional trauma I would suffer from it. The doctor then said we could try again. I said no. I could barely walk, I apologized for wasting their time. And dressed up and left. The lady who interviewed me lamented on what would be done about the money they spent on tests for me. Oh please, it's an organization, I'm sure they suffer loses. They should deal with it. I wasn't the first and I wouldn’t be the last.

While in pain in a public transit on my way home, I thought of all the losses I have experienced both financially and emotionally. I mean I started questioning my self if it was really worth it. Yes I want to travel out of the country and give my most fertile years to whoever I can but asides this I had no other genuine reason. The most important tho was the money. I lost my dog because I couldn't pay his veterinary bills. This would have been a better reason for me to have sex with an electronic gadget. I mean I would save my dog by going through this painful process if I could take back the hands of time. I am happy I went through with it to this stage but losing my virginity to a stick or bearing the pain to put a smile on another's face while my own morality is being questioned to me isn't worth it. Now I am not judging anyone who does it. They obviously aren't virgins and are in dire monetary needs so GOOD LUCK.

MY OBSERVATIONS
I stated earlier that when I was being interviewed for the first time, I noticed some other females come into the office. Honestly, only if people knew the kind of people that come to donate their eggs, many people would rather remain childless. Most of these women are stark illiterates. Some have bleached their skin so much. Most of which I noticed are your typical fish and pepper sellers with ridiculous eyebrows. Not to sound condescending, but it is the truth.

Another observation is that these acclaimed CHARITY organizations that source for donors, aren't doing any charity. They are only buying your eggs at a very reduced rate. Many of them don't care how you look or what you are even if you are mentally challenged or unstable. They neither carry out proper tests or interviews for viable donors. As long as you produce eggs for them to sell, you qualify. And I also noticed how the interviewers intimidate the women who are not properly educated. There was a point I even questioned the so called foundation on the kind of women they accept as egg donors. They know most of us are in for the money so they won't even bother asking you too much questions, I mean sarcastically, most people are there to help(for the money obviously).

I failed to mention this, on the day of my vaginal scanning while waiting in the office, a girl my age was being questioned. I was moved by her story. May be she saw how confident I was and was probably trying to speak English but she obviously couldn't hide her naivety. No one asks about your family, they don't even care. You can even lie about your identity. They do not ask for any form of identification. The girl talked about how she lost her parent at 7 and how her uncle gave up on her. She was still in school and needed money. I wonder if she's a virgin like me I mean not to be silly but if I wasn't a virgin, I wouldn't be selling my eggs(it's still a sin to me). I commend her tho for not sleeping about for the money or who knows whether market is not paying well. Ok I'm sorry for that statement but I was moved to tears. Even tho I am a synthetic orphan, I haven't experienced the loss of any family member.

Giving up your eggs is not a quick money making scheme. It is traumatic. Everytime you go for a scan during your injection period, you will be inserted with that 8 inches thing(dunno what to call it) and the retrieval process is even worse, a needle would be inserted into you and can pierce your womb or infect you. You are given antibiotics tho but who e epp. You are just another tool.

MY SUGGESTION

In other to prevent losses on both sides, I would suggest, fertility clinics in Nigeria start paying donors for real and stop exploiting young women so you know the risk is equal the cost. Then no one would have to pull out of the programme as most donors do pull out of the process and huge losses are suffered on both sides because no one gives you transport fare and the injections are very expensive. You are only paid I repeat only paid when they collect your eggs.

MY ADVICE

I wish I could go through with the process but I cannot. I am not judging anyone who does it for whatever reason. Just make sure you read those forms well before appending your signature on it as most are not in your interest incase complications arise.

Do not risk your own fertility for another woman's infertility(no one knows what she did or why she's that way)

Do not think you are selling your eggs. The money is not worth a single egg. If you want to donate, donate with the mind that you are doing it for free because you actually are. May people go with the mindset that they are selling their eggs for 120000. And if you choose to do this process as a source of income, always go to the highest bidder. There are people that pay more than 120000.

I still am looking for a way to get out of this country. I am damn scarred but I won't have sex for money or get money with issues concerning my … To get money by any means is not easy truly. I don't care about being a virgin tho. Infact it means nothing to me but I won't take so much pain for any one. The pain has left and now I'm thinking if I should go back lol.

MicroBox:
Nigerian Christians are the most foolish in the world..
Read , research and know the agenda of the so called super powers..
Not just Google alone, watch YouTube to get first hand information from the horse's mouth..
If you think Donald trump, John Kerry, Obama and the rest are fighting for Christianity, then you are wrong..
Tell FFK that their is now division in Republican over Donald trump aggressive campaign threatening everybody..
Go listen to his campaign speech in recent time then you will know that republican don cut brain give the business man turn politician..

Sllime:
Hello nairalanders, i need your suggestions. I work with one of the leading paytelevison companies in Nigeria. I might not be able to mention name for image sake. I got the job few months after my graduation and i can say i put in more than a 100% in the job. I worked with a team of young graduates and our branch recorded the highest decoder sales ever made by the company.


Fast forward to 2016, i reminded my boss that my promotion is due and he pulled the trigger.I arrived work on this faithful day and saw a letter, with joy i opened the letter expecting the obvious. I was shocked to the bone marrow. I have been transferred to the company's worst branch. Infact, the company had considered closing the branch down last year. With anger and frustration, i stormed into my boss office to know why i got a transfer intead of a promotion letter, he told me the comapny has charged me with a responsibility of reviving the branch after a year. If i do this successfully, i will be made the branch manager. Upon enquiry, i realised that the branch manager was sacked due to fund and mismanagement issues. I have accepted the offer but on arrival i realised that the condition was far worse than i anticipated. Therefore i seek advise on the following pressing challenges because i believe when we share ideas, we help each other:

1. How do i improve sales: The sales is so bad that days will pass by and no single decoder sold infact, you can count the number of people who entered the office.

2. Coperation from staff: Unlike the young talented team i worked with, what i have here are unmotivated staffs who believe you cannot tell them anything because they are older than you both inn age and in the business.

Any suggestion will be highly appreciated. Thanks

Vanillaskin:

OK I got it
The MOG doesn't have a message for sinners like myself.
That's fine