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Go to his house and force him to do the needful. Ewu

saphiere:
It will never be well with Davido if he does not do the needful.l.

Anaerobi:
20years?

How old would the late wife be?


this people the marry too early o.


na so them take religion the cover their sex life

His wife could be older

simhosting:
Givers never lack

Dont say sanwo olu is the giver oo
He's not giving from his own pocket

haier thermocool is very good. i have been the 12kg one for more than 7 years.

Juliusmalema:
Who are the Nigerians?

Are we now in a generation of reverse psychology?


Someone who is under the manipulation of evil forces....Praise for what exactly?

May we never marry a woman that we will have to defend to the point of leaving our inheritance, brothers and sisters and the whole family at Large.....

A united family breeds Inner Peace....

Primordial ideology

harmargedon:
read your Bible always

Does that mean all bearer of spirit including humans are equal to HIM?

Are you now saying God has created is equal?

Seek knowledge!

The lady has failed the test

harmargedon:
No, because God is spirit and the true worshippers must worship in spirit and in Truth.

Dont blasphem! God is not a spirit. He's far more than any spirit. He's divine.

BluntTheApostle:
Are you a good person?

How certain are you that you would be just good enough never to step on the toes of your grownup children for which you would be disowned?

I still maintain that disowning the mother is wrong.

And her misguided utterance is bad.

yes i have come to realize that disowning her is a little bit misguided, but keeping a good distance is better.

it all boils down to forgiving and moving on.

lesson learnt!

BluntTheApostle:
First of all, if a loved one (not a stranger) wishes me dead, I will not DISOWN them.

I will demand answers.

If disowning is something that can be done freely, many people on this thread would have been disowned by their parents for every misguided utterances.

Thumbs up. Very cogent reasoning!

Such rubbish coming from a mother makes it more annoying.
Anyways, life deals with all of us in different ways.

BluntTheApostle:
I agree the woman is not a good person.

But who really is a good person in this world?

Are you?

There are traces of anger, sentiment, selfishness, and every other vice in everyone of us.

If you have not shown any of this vice, it is because there has not been any need to.

BabaIbo:
Swear that you have never wished any of your leaders death.

When Abba Kyari died, some people said they wished it was the president... that died.
Because they felt he's the cause of the happenings in the country.

That is similar thing to what the OP posted, the mom out of her sentimental love wished the wife died instead of the kid who probably my be her first grandchild, maybe because OP is her son and she knows the kid will forever be hers irrespective of a divorce or not, and again the case will be different if OP is her daughter and not a son.

The OP need to apply wisdom in this kind of issue. Decision on such delicate matters shouldn't be taken in a hurry because it may come back to hunt him.

Find out why she has such feeling towards her.


On the other hand, OP don't even know if both of them are in two separate cults and they are using him to practise their power fight.

I like your angle of reasoning.
Yes i agree OP should not take decision in a hurrry. OP already gave the reasons he thinks his mum hates his wife.

The fact still remains that the mother is not a good woman. No matter the grievances she should not have wished death for his DIL.

What goes around comes back around

BluntTheApostle:
You can't blame him for being sentimental.

Issues like this make people sentimental.

Supposing your brother disowns your mother for preferring that his wife's life be sacrificed for their baby's, would you just support his decision?

Matters like this are better solved using diplomacy, not anger.

Yes, if it's a fact our mother said those sad words, i will support his decision. With her words, she has suceeded in dissolving the tiny fabric that held the family together. She lacks empathy.

The mother from all indications has always been a troublesome woman, even advising OP not to marry from his Father's tribe. Is that not the same tribe she herself married from? I wonder how she's been treating OP's father.

Now let's twist it a little: if your mother prefered you to die instead of your own 2day old baby, would you still be sentimental in reasoning?

bptc10:
though am not in support of your mother utterances,

your mother prefer to live with her grandchild and that is her wish, you can't take it away from her,

she have already let you understand that she doesn't like your wife

How old r u big baby
Why r u ppl sentimental in reasoning
What if somebody wants ur daughter dead

mutter:
From the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. You may not have the same opinion as another person but that does not mean you can't have an appropriate manner of expressing your opinion.
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Anyway Poster....
You can send this video to your mother. ..
She will realise her mistakes.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QkQ2a_3mB4g

oh! u r saddened by my opinion, sorry don't take it to heart, it's still a fuc*ing TGIF. again what you wrote doesn't make sense
If you MIL said that to you, how would you feel?

ezugegere:
Sorry for your loss bro. I hope you didn't allow your wife to hear what your mom said about her? Please don't! As for your mom, give her a distance but don't disown her. Allow time to heal everything. It will be well with you guys!

so the wife should continue to play all nice & dumb for a mother inlaw that wants her dead!

well, it depends on how matured and calm natured the wife is.

If it were me, i will let her know.

1. So that incase of my early demise, God forbid, she will not play easily into their hands, and she will be able to see easily through the false facade/lies/deceit.

descarado:
You don't know mutter

mbok! who is mutter

mutter:
First of all.. I am really sorry about you loss and the whole pain.

But do you actually realize that the real harm came from your brother!.
You ought to disown him if at all you want to disown anyone.
Your mother on receiving the news has two blows... One loosing her grandchild and two knowing the pain her son was in.
People can say allot of things in pain and shock!
I habe actually heard people say thebwishbitbwas their father that died when their mother died.
That was really very wrong of your brother.
I wonder how sorry he felt for you and how pained he was at your loss that he had the mind to tape that conversation and then go back to you to play it to you.
Was it right to confront you with that added pain?
It's obvious that your brother has no love lost for your mother!
It was very wrong of him.
When you confronted your mother on the phone what did you expect?
An apology? You know that parents aren't used to apologising and secondly her apology at that stage wouldn't have meant anything to you.
It was the will of God to take your child back home. The ways of God are not known to man.
In your pain it seems better to feel anger than hurt. I guess anger makes us feel the pain less.
But if your wife is aware of what happened she will only be hurting the more.
Please give yourself and your wife the time to heal and don't project your anger on a mother who lives you but said something stupid.
That your mother does not like your wife could have reasons..
Now you knew this all along but you omitted to correct that issue.
It is often the case that mothers are extremely jealous of loosing their sons to another woman.
May God give you the strength and wisdom to solve this issue

u wrote rubbish!
ur post disappoints aisha buhari

if the mother loves her son, then she would not have spoken ill of the wife.
how would the mother feel if same is spoken to her daughter by her inlaws?
what goes round comes back around, really fast

Omihanifa:
You need a lot of patience and wisdom to deal with this kind issue o

you mean he should continue to tolerate such mother?

cchub:
he loves you and wants more for the 2 both of you.
60k in this economy is nothing. when you guys marry and responsibilities starts to pile up, it might not be funny.

Y'all can start doubling up now....start trying some new business ventures and all.

Like business is rice and beans

2special:
You're the real definition of shame

How

Solomyn:
What did candle do una!!! Sef.. is it wrong to pray with candle? Is a symbol of light!!! Relevation spoke of candles, and more... What you don't know don't speak I'll of it

Bro, i didn't speak ill of candles.

My advice to OP:

Had it been u seeked my advice b4 going there, i would have dettered you. So now, do whatever you are asked to do, flee from sin, condition your mind to always think +ve thoughts(not easy), You would most likely see +ve improvement in whatever problems you have.

DO IT THIS ONCE, AND DONT MAKE IT AN HABIT, DONT RUN TO THEM.AGAIN!
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tiredoflife:
I don't care if u believe
I have family members who are into white garment
We don see we don hear things
So don't think I am speaking from the outside

It might be true for the parish they beleong to.
I know a parish where they even discourage candles coconuts etc. They kind of elevate prayers more over coconut and candle fetishes

Gemc3:
All I want to say is God makes all things right in his own time and in his own way.

As you pray and fast, do it with faith. Your answer may not come immediately. But the work God is doing for you in the background, you don't know.

Don't relent. Keep praying and fasting and out on the work as well. You will be alright. Devil is a joker.

May you find the answers you're looking for.

simple as ABC

tiredoflife:
White garment is not a church but a cult
Notice they don't pray for u
They focus on doing spiritual work for you
You just wan enter one chance...I can give u a pastor u can call
He does his church in his house in iyana ipaja
He won't collect money from you
He will even just pray for u over the phone
And the problem will go

false

InvertedHammer:
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Life has challenges. Sometimes the only solution is to sit back and relax, find out what you didn't do right and then move on. Fasting and praying are just to calm your nerves. It is never and will never be a solution. If in doubt, don't study for your next exam...just fast and pray. You will fail.
Or better, when next you eat, bring your food. Then fast and pray that it jumps from the plate to your stomach. After all, with faith you can move mountains.
Prayer is that ritual you do to boost your moral. You still need to do the work. Everything else is tied to luck. Nothing more, nothing less.

Take that N4k and go to the nearest eatery and enjoy yourself. Last last everything will be ok.

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MOG, God bless you

sunshineV:
u are facing a challenge in ur life, do nothing and watch how it will pass. its a phase and ur life will return to normal

hmm

Tolexander:
Please don’t disturb us.

When you where knacking, enjoying yourselves and the orgasm, you didn’t call on anyone here to come and partake

why r u hating cuz of the orgasm he had on 24th dec

Natana:
90% of those who you see around do not wish you well. Pretend with them like you like them as well but keep your distance, they do not mean well.

sad truth

yes he can! yes we can!

its only a very very close friend that i will reveal such secret to, and with evidence.